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11-20-2011, 10:48 AM | #1 |
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| Anyone have a problem husband? My husband doesn't want a dog in the house but the rest of the family(myself and 10yo son and 16yo daughter)want one very badly. I sneaked and got Chloe and he had a fit...after 2 months he demanded that I get rid of her,he thinks inside pets are nasty. Now after about 8 months since we had to give up Chloe we are wanting another one soooooo bad(we cried when Chloe left). He is not saying NO but he is still hesitant to say "yes". Has anyone else had this problem and if so,what do I do to help him to accept one? |
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11-20-2011, 05:46 PM | #2 |
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| Well I think you really did the wrong thing by sneaking the last dog, it's bad in terms of trust and i'm sure seeing the dog everyday left resentment for your husband. When I was younger and lived with my parents I tried to sneak pets all the time, and my mom would get angry that I couldn't just be patient and get a pet on her terms. I think you need to talk to your husband, listen to how he feels about it. Tell him how you feel about it, perhaps bring in a 3rd party (counsler) and get down to the root of why he doesn't want a dog. The worst thing you could do is sneak another one. It's bad for the household as well as for the dog (since it had to be rehomed) Communication is key, getting a dog needs to be a family decision which includes the husband. I do hope you get your dog though.
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11-20-2011, 05:50 PM | #3 |
Katie Scarlett's Mommy Donating Member | So sorry your hubby does not like pets! I can't believe Chloe didn't steal his heart! My husband has completely fell head over heels in love with Katie Scarlett. She has him wrapped around her little finger. I hope you can talk your husband into it. My husband is pretty laid back and usually whatever I want, he does his best to see I have it. I am a bit spoiled. LOL. But maybe you could explain to your husband how sweet and loving Yorkies are. They do not shed much, if at all, from everything I've read. We have noticed a bit of hair in our brushes with KS, but none around the house. I know she is a puppy and has the occaisonal accident, but all puppies do. She is doing very good at her potty training. Could you explain some of this to your husband? Maybe bat your eyelashes at him? Tee hee! Good luck hon! I know how that feeling is. I 'wanted' KS for almost 8 years before we got her!!!
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11-20-2011, 05:54 PM | #4 |
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| I would have to agree with TeddyGrahams. Taking on a dog is a huge responsibility and having an indoor dog even more responsibility. It does seem like there is something in your hubby's past that makes him think indoor pets are dirty and I think that issue needs to be addressed as well. I know some of the old timers used to think that way (my grandparents and their parents, etc.) It may be that your hubby was raised that way and may be his belief. Not sure if that can be changed as indoor pets can be dirty from the standpoint of hair shedding, potty accidents, getting sick and vomiting, etc. but they are also some of the best friends anyone could ask for. My hubby did not want another dog when I brought Jack home. Our other dog of 12 years had been put to sleep just a couple of months prior to me getting Jack. Actually I told hubby that I was going to "look" at puppies but wouldn't get one. He even sent me a text while my daughter and I were at the store. But it didn't take long for Jack to win his heart. Good luck. I hope you two come up with a solution that works for everyone.
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11-20-2011, 05:55 PM | #5 |
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| All I can say is that poor dog. Dogs are not disposable!
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11-20-2011, 05:57 PM | #6 |
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| I would absolutely not have a dog in that type of situation. You already had to get rid of one. It will just happen again. And then when it comes time for major veterinary bills which will come up, it will be an uphill battle when he doesn't like the dog and doesn't want to spend money on it. I think because your husband does not like indoor dogs, it is best not to have one. IMO, it's the husband or the dog, but not both. That would make for a horribly upsetting life.
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11-20-2011, 06:02 PM | #7 | |
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11-20-2011, 06:06 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 30K Club Member | The only problem I have with my husband and yorkies is that he never said No.So now I have 4! lol He even paid for Pixie and Roxie. Maybe trying to involve him in the decision process would help. I wouldn't bring another one home until you have his full buy in. Yorkies can be challenging to house break and if he thinks inside dogs are nasty I'm pretty sure if you had a hard time housebreaking a puppy he would want you to get rid of the puppy again. I always let my DH name my dogs. When I was looking for my 2nd and 3rd dog, I would say I am just going to look. He would say take the money with because I know you are coming home with them.
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11-20-2011, 06:52 PM | #9 | |
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11-20-2011, 06:55 PM | #10 |
Donating YT 4000 Club Member | You don't get another one unless and until he is completely onboard with the idea. Strong arming or guilting him in to it because you want one is bound to cause more resentment and may very well end up with the next unlucky dog being disposed of, too. It should take everyone in agreement to bring an animal (or child for that matter) in to a relationship, but only one "no" to veto the whole thing.
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11-20-2011, 07:01 PM | #11 |
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11-20-2011, 07:53 PM | #12 | |
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11-20-2011, 07:56 PM | #13 |
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11-20-2011, 07:58 PM | #14 |
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| I do agree,I would never bring another one into my home without his full approval but that is what I am working on,lol. I think it was more resentment for me sneaking it in then him not liking her. I have asked him to go with me next weekend to "look",I am hoping the adorable things will win him over,and if I let him "pick it out" I believe he will feel different about it. Another reason he thought it was nasty was because when I got her she had ringworms. Everyone in the family caught it from her including HIM. I did have vet bills with Chloe because the previous owner didn't tell me but she had a broken leg when I got her and I had to have it fixed and also treating the ringworm. I know they can get worse than that but I think it would be worth it to have a tiny companion around. I have problems with depression and when I had Chloe,she helped with that alot and I have told him that. He is definately considering it now,so hopefully the visit will win him over. |
11-20-2011, 08:34 PM | #15 |
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| get rid of husband, get dog hahaha |
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