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gardengirl77 · 05-25-2011, 05:59 PM

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We only had Teddi about 2 mos. (so he was only 6 mos. old) when we took him to his first puppy friendly cafe. He was in his carrier, poking his little head out every once in a while to check things out. This lady had the nerve to walk over to me and say, " Can I borrow your yorkie?" (Borrow!!!)

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Good grief, that is crazy. No way would I let someone walk off with her. I'm fine with people petting her, but i'm not crazy about them picking her up & try to avoid it. And about the other lady too... Protecting Heidi would be my #1. I'm pretty easy going, but concerning Heidi it might not be too hard to get my arms & fists a swingin'!

mscat · 05-25-2011, 06:14 PM

Suzi has been around children most of her life. She loves people. Especially the kids. I am more concerned for the child who may have not been taught to ask to play with your dog, or pet. Toy dogs are known to be proctetive and Yes, snappy , It all depends on temperment and socialization skills. Suzi knows a 9 year old child in the neighborood pretty well. He was only 6 when I first brought her home. Now, well she gets so excited to see this boy, that she pees

I thnk it is called submissive peeing. it is icky , and embarassing. But I could be dealing with a yorkie who does not like other people. So I will take little dog who sometimes pees when overly excited any day over one that is not people friendly . LOL.

ArmaniMan · 05-25-2011, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by smepperson

Has anyone ever had this scenario?

We only had Teddi about 2 mos. (so he was only 6 mos. old) when we took him to his first puppy friendly cafe. He was in his carrier, poking his little head out every once in a while to check things out. This lady had the nerve to walk over to me and say, " Can I borrow your yorkie?"

(Borrow!!!)

I replied, "What?" and she repeated herself explaining that her sister is visiting FL, is a breeder and would love to have a look at him. I rudely said, "NO!" and offered to let her sister see Teddi with me, where we were sitting. Can you imagine??? Never saw them again after that.

The same day another lady practically crushed him with her large chest while trying to stick the whole upper part of her body into his small carrier to kiss him on the head! I mean this woman had one of those pointy fifties bras on and every time I tried to push her away she said, "He likes it, I'm just trying to give him a kiss!" (She was obviously hitting the bloody mary's early that day!) Geeeezzzz. WTHeck is wrong with people??

WOW! No way would I allow anyone to walk off with my dog- or stick their pointy boobs in their faces for that matter

Princess10 · 05-25-2011, 07:09 PM

I usually end up trying to get people to pet Princess. She's usually so geeked that someone is near she starts wagging & jumping a mile a minute. I want her to become familiar with both new people and being calm in a "social setting". People don't always know what she wants so they don't know if she's on the attack or what & will sometimes back away slowly.

If she was uncomfortable with the contact I would definitely tell them they can't pet her. I've always asked before letting myself or my daughter pet someone's dog & I think it's common courtesy for others to do the same. I think I'd rather come off as a little rude than deal with my dog biting or scaring someone or getting worked up itself.

citygirl123 · 05-25-2011, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by AlicetheYorkie

This is always a though one and I usually just try to avoid it all together by just keeping walking because as has been said, sometimes you just don't know how it's going to go.

Ever since then if someone asks to pet on a walk - I watch the dogs reactions to that person carefully first. If they go right up to the person curious and wanting the attention, I say sure. If they seem scared or just uninterested, I usually just say "oh - she's afraid of strangers" and if it's a kid I simply say "sorry honey, she might bite" and they quickly pull their hand back lol. I know that sounds mean but hey, it's not worth the risk - our walks aren't a traveling petting zoo lol there's purpose to it and I like the dogs to just focus on "traveling".

Thank you for your post. All of it was great, but I especially like the way you worded your answers to people. It is simple and to the point.

Thank you to all who posted "feedback." All of it was wonderful. That's why I love yorkietalk... good people, good advice.

trin7 · 05-25-2011, 10:25 PM

Darwin & Mabel LOVE people - doesn't matter if they are older or younger. Mabel is usually the one they want to pet because she's is much smaller but Darwin wins them over by standing on his hind legs and 'waving' constantly at everyone. He can go on for quite a while when he wants to say hi. I don't let people pick them up but I'm happy to have people say hi to them. Yesterday, I had a lady that was extremely surprised about how friendly they were, saying that she's only known nasty yorkies. I haven't met many other yorkies but the one's I've met have all been pretty friendly.

MauiGirl · 05-25-2011, 10:46 PM

My 4 all love attention from people and especially kids. I don't mind at all if people pet them, but do appreciate when they ask (which most do). But I only let people hold them if they are sitting down.

Last month I took my 2 youngest, Karlee and Kayla, to my granddaughter's first grade class at the end of the day, and everybody had a blast with them. I kept a close watch on them, and they were treated very nicely. They were so cute, wearing sun dresses and bows, the kids went nuts. Fun day for all.

LunasMomma · 05-26-2011, 07:14 AM

If they ask first, then I tell them that it's ok. If they are just rude and grabby, I will actually deflect their hand with mine and say that they bite

katienme2002 · 05-26-2011, 07:34 AM

I personally have no problem with polite adults and children that ask to pet Foxy first. I had two adorable boys ask to pet Foxy while we were on a mini trip to a car show, and they were very gentle with her, of course she loved it, and then they thanked me and skate boarded away..lol..they were adorable kids and so dang polite!

dexterandalana · 05-26-2011, 08:02 AM

unfortunately we never socialized dexter with children so he does snap at them. i have to be on high alert whenever i see kids. if i see them running over, i tell them before they get there that dexter bites. he has had a biting problem his whole life and i have worked with him so now he can finally be groomed without biting and no longer goes after adults. but still working on children. i need more friends to start having babies so i can use their kids as training tools.

111lily222 · 05-26-2011, 08:55 AM

Louie is very socialized. That is one of the first things we did with him when we got him.He LOVES all ages of people and he is very good in different situations. So I have no problem with kids asking to pet him. Actually we have neighbors with small children and he waits for them to come in the yard. They are very good with him and Louie loves it cause he know he will get lots of attention, and he lives for that

ASTPhi877 · 05-26-2011, 11:32 PM

I used to be okay with letting kids pet my girls, but the other day in the park an overly pushy little boy made me reconsider.

I was sitting on a bench with a book letting the girls sun when this kid came over and wanted to pet my girls. They both have always LOVED people, so I had no problem and said sure. I had some treats and was letting the little boy give them to Lila when another dog crossed the sidewalk behind us. Well, Lucy (who was on the ground) is TERRIFIED of other dogs... She always goes crazy barking and growling, and this was no exception. Lila is normally fine around other dogs... But she must have gotten spooked from all of the commotion, because she all of a sudden started to convey in no uncertain terms that she did NOT want to have a strange child's hands on her. She is normally SUCH a sweetie, but I guess it was just too much excitement for her. Anyways, she tensed and gave a low, warning growl (y'all know how I mean), so I politely suggested to the little boy (he was probably about 8 or 9, I guess... Maybe older... But def plenty old enough to understand) that maybe now was not the best time to pet my dog, because she seemed a little scared, and that even sweet dogs might bite if they are scared. I was perfectly polite and reasonable... But this kid just completely ignored me! He started trying to grab at her, trying to take her off my lap and out of my arms! Then he starts shoving his hands in her face, deliberately antagonizing her... And of course she was now full-out growling and yipping, and I could tell she was about to start snapping. So I asked him to PLEASE stop, that I didn't want him to be bitten (although at this point, I was a little more worried about Lila than the boy). But the little hellion would NOT let up! Now keep in mind that I still had Lucy going crazy, trying to wrap herself around the bench seat to get to the other dog, and Lila was wriggling around so much in my arms that it was all I could do not to drop her... And this kid was STILL trying to pull at her, waving his nasty little claws in front of her mouth like he thought it was funny to scare her even more... so it wasn't like I could just take my dogs and run, which is what I desperately wanted by now to do... Then, of course, Lila actually started snapping, and, I swear, it was all I could do not to lose my patience with the kid! Because I knew if he was bitten he was gonna go crying to his parents (who, incidentally, were witnessing this entire episode from a distance and did NOTHING to intervene!), and I would have to deal with, at a minimum, their unfair accusations about my dog and, in a worst case senerio, a lawsuit. I was STILL trying to speak reasonably, but authoritatively, to the kid, all the while trying to protect Lila from his darting hands... but I eventually ended up having to physically block his hands with mine, and at that point I really just lost my patience! I raised my voice to tell him very sharply that he needed to STOP! That my dog did NOT want to play, that he was scaring her and that I did NOT appreciate him antagonizing her! That she is a DOG not a TOY! My tone was really rather rude, but this kid was being over-the-top ridiculous... He was literally assaulting both me and Lila, and it was the only thing I could do, because he just would NOT listen!

Well, as soon as he paused in shock, I quickly juggled Lila to a safer position away from him, untwirled a still-crazy Lucy from the bench and half-dragged her and Lila out of the park. I admit, I was red faced from anger... And embarrassment over having to raise my voice to a child, which, if you knew me, you'd realize I have NEVER done! But I mean really! My goodness!

So, needless to say, I have been quite a bit more hesitant to let a child pet either of my puppies since then, and it may be awhile yet before I'm comfortable enough to let them try. Now I just say "Don't let the wagging tails fool you. They both bite. Hard."

dexterandalana · 05-27-2011, 05:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ASTPhi877

I used to be okay with letting kids pet my girls, but the other day in the park an overly pushy little boy made me reconsider.

I was sitting on a bench with a book letting the girls sun when this kid came over and wanted to pet my girls. They both have always LOVED people, so I had no problem and said sure. I had some treats and was letting the little boy give them to Lila when another dog crossed the sidewalk behind us. Well, Lucy (who was on the ground) is TERRIFIED of other dogs... She always goes crazy barking and growling, and this was no exception. Lila is normally fine around other dogs... But she must have gotten spooked from all of the commotion, because she all of a sudden started to convey in no uncertain terms that she did NOT want to have a strange child's hands on her. She is normally SUCH a sweetie, but I guess it was just too much excitement for her. Anyways, she tensed and gave a low, warning growl (y'all know how I mean), so I politely suggested to the little boy (he was probably about 8 or 9, I guess... Maybe older... But def plenty old enough to understand) that maybe now was not the best time to pet my dog, because she seemed a little scared, and that even sweet dogs might bite if they are scared. I was perfectly polite and reasonable... But this kid just completely ignored me! He started trying to grab at her, trying to take her off my lap and out of my arms! Then he starts shoving his hands in her face, deliberately antagonizing her... And of course she was now full-out growling and yipping, and I could tell she was about to start snapping. So I asked him to PLEASE stop, that I didn't want him to be bitten (although at this point, I was a little more worried about Lila than the boy). But the little hellion would NOT let up! Now keep in mind that I still had Lucy going crazy, trying to wrap herself around the bench seat to get to the other dog, and Lila was wriggling around so much in my arms that it was all I could do not to drop her... And this kid was STILL trying to pull at her, waving his nasty little claws in front of her mouth like he thought it was funny to scare her even more... so it wasn't like I could just take my dogs and run, which is what I desperately wanted by now to do... Then, of course, Lila actually started snapping, and, I swear, it was all I could do not to lose my patience with the kid! Because I knew if he was bitten he was gonna go crying to his parents (who, incidentally, were witnessing this entire episode from a distance and did NOTHING to intervene!), and I would have to deal with, at a minimum, their unfair accusations about my dog and, in a worst case senerio, a lawsuit. I was STILL trying to speak reasonably, but authoritatively, to the kid, all the while trying to protect Lila from his darting hands... but I eventually ended up having to physically block his hands with mine, and at that point I really just lost my patience! I raised my voice to tell him very sharply that he needed to STOP! That my dog did NOT want to play, that he was scaring her and that I did NOT appreciate him antagonizing her! That she is a DOG not a TOY! My tone was really rather rude, but this kid was being over-the-top ridiculous... He was literally assaulting both me and Lila, and it was the only thing I could do, because he just would NOT listen!

Well, as soon as he paused in shock, I quickly juggled Lila to a safer position away from him, untwirled a still-crazy Lucy from the bench and half-dragged her and Lila out of the park. I admit, I was red faced from anger... And embarrassment over having to raise my voice to a child, which, if you knew me, you'd realize I have NEVER done! But I mean really! My goodness!

So, needless to say, I have been quite a bit more hesitant to let a child pet either of my puppies since then, and it may be awhile yet before I'm comfortable enough to let them try. Now I just say "Don't let the wagging tails fool you. They both bite. Hard."

i would have been SOOOOOOOOO angry myself. the worst part is that the parents watched from a distance and did nothing. a similar experience to this is why i think my Dexter hates children now. antagonizing child with an irresposible parent. it only took one incident and i have been trying to correct it for years....

gidget529 · 05-27-2011, 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by dexterandalana

i would have been SOOOOOOOOO angry myself. the worst part is that the parents watched from a distance and did nothing. a similar experience to this is why i think my Dexter hates children now. antagonizing child with an irresposible parent. it only took one incident and i have been trying to correct it for years....

I know what you mean about one incident and then it takes years ago correct.

An acquaintance of mine brought her child over to see me (and Cricket). Cricket liked the child at first. Then the child decided to hit Cricket repeatedly w a plastic bottle. The parent did nothing to step in. I stepped in and grabbed my dog, but it took years for Cricket to start trusting children again.

addevo · 05-27-2011, 09:45 AM

As our previous Yorkie got older, it was harder for her to keep up when we went on long walks with our other dogs. My solution was to get a "pet pouch" so I could carry her but still have a hand free to hold a leash for another dog. But it had a very unexpected side effect. Note the position of the dog's head in the picture below. This is not a picture of me, but I had the pet pouch adjusted so that Tina's face was at about the same level - meaning her head was just about even with my, um, chest.

The first day I carried her this way, the first person we encountered on our walk was a 30-ish young man who obviously LOVED yorkies. He came running up, gushing at how cute she was, grabbed Tina's face in both hands and started kissing her. Normally, this would be ok, both with Tina and with me, but having a strange young man's hands and mouth suddenly within an inch of my breasts was a shock, and rather disconcerting to say the least!

I gradually became more accustomed to people seemingly grabbing at my chest to pet Tina, but it did take some conditioning on my part to realize they were reaching for her, not me!

05-25-2011, 06:14 PM	#32
mscat YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Hanford, CA Posts: 4,895	Suzi has been around children most of her life. She loves people. Especially the kids. I am more concerned for the child who may have not been taught to ask to play with your dog, or pet. Toy dogs are known to be proctetive and Yes, snappy , It all depends on temperment and socialization skills. Suzi knows a 9 year old child in the neighborood pretty well. He was only 6 when I first brought her home. Now, well she gets so excited to see this boy, that she pees I thnk it is called submissive peeing. it is icky , and embarassing. But I could be dealing with a yorkie who does not like other people. So I will take little dog who sometimes pees when overly excited any day over one that is not people friendly . LOL. __________________ "No matter how little money & how few possessions, you own, having a dog makes you rich."

05-25-2011, 07:09 PM	#34
Princess10 Banning Queen Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Home of the Kalamazoo Wings, MI. Posts: 3,122	I usually end up trying to get people to pet Princess. She's usually so geeked that someone is near she starts wagging & jumping a mile a minute. I want her to become familiar with both new people and being calm in a "social setting". People don't always know what she wants so they don't know if she's on the attack or what & will sometimes back away slowly. If she was uncomfortable with the contact I would definitely tell them they can't pet her. I've always asked before letting myself or my daughter pet someone's dog & I think it's common courtesy for others to do the same. I think I'd rather come off as a little rude than deal with my dog biting or scaring someone or getting worked up itself. __________________ For The Night Is Dark & Full Of Terriers

05-25-2011, 10:46 PM	#37
MauiGirl Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Maui, Hawaii Posts: 7,740	My 4 all love attention from people and especially kids. I don't mind at all if people pet them, but do appreciate when they ask (which most do). But I only let people hold them if they are sitting down. Last month I took my 2 youngest, Karlee and Kayla, to my granddaughter's first grade class at the end of the day, and everybody had a blast with them. I kept a close watch on them, and they were treated very nicely. They were so cute, wearing sun dresses and bows, the kids went nuts. Fun day for all. __________________ SANDY, MOM TO TIKI , KAYLA , KARLEE , R.I.P. MEIKA

05-26-2011, 07:14 AM	#38
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	If they ask first, then I tell them that it's ok. If they are just rude and grabby, I will actually deflect their hand with mine and say that they bite __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

05-26-2011, 07:34 AM	#39
katienme2002 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Posts: 1,290	I personally have no problem with polite adults and children that ask to pet Foxy first. I had two adorable boys ask to pet Foxy while we were on a mini trip to a car show, and they were very gentle with her, of course she loved it, and then they thanked me and skate boarded away..lol..they were adorable kids and so dang polite! __________________

05-25-2011, 10:25 PM	#36
trin7 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 554	Darwin & Mabel LOVE people - doesn't matter if they are older or younger. Mabel is usually the one they want to pet because she's is much smaller but Darwin wins them over by standing on his hind legs and 'waving' constantly at everyone. He can go on for quite a while when he wants to say hi. I don't let people pick them up but I'm happy to have people say hi to them. Yesterday, I had a lady that was extremely surprised about how friendly they were, saying that she's only known nasty yorkies. I haven't met many other yorkies but the one's I've met have all been pretty friendly.

05-26-2011, 08:02 AM	#40
dexterandalana Dreamin' of Dexter Donating YT Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: toronto, Canada Posts: 1,612	unfortunately we never socialized dexter with children so he does snap at them. i have to be on high alert whenever i see kids. if i see them running over, i tell them before they get there that dexter bites. he has had a biting problem his whole life and i have worked with him so now he can finally be groomed without biting and no longer goes after adults. but still working on children. i need more friends to start having babies so i can use their kids as training tools. __________________ Alana - Proud mommy to Dexter & Peppermint Dexter's Ruff Life on: You Tube Facebook Twitter Blogger

05-26-2011, 08:55 AM	#41
111lily222 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Macomb, MI Posts: 2,112	Louie is very socialized. That is one of the first things we did with him when we got him.He LOVES all ages of people and he is very good in different situations. So I have no problem with kids asking to pet him. Actually we have neighbors with small children and he waits for them to come in the yard. They are very good with him and Louie loves it cause he know he will get lots of attention, and he lives for that __________________ Dee and Lil' Louie RIP Lil' Brody boy 6.7.99 - 1.3.10

05-26-2011, 11:32 PM	#42
ASTPhi877 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Louisiana, USA Posts: 192	I used to be okay with letting kids pet my girls, but the other day in the park an overly pushy little boy made me reconsider. I was sitting on a bench with a book letting the girls sun when this kid came over and wanted to pet my girls. They both have always LOVED people, so I had no problem and said sure. I had some treats and was letting the little boy give them to Lila when another dog crossed the sidewalk behind us. Well, Lucy (who was on the ground) is TERRIFIED of other dogs... She always goes crazy barking and growling, and this was no exception. Lila is normally fine around other dogs... But she must have gotten spooked from all of the commotion, because she all of a sudden started to convey in no uncertain terms that she did NOT want to have a strange child's hands on her. She is normally SUCH a sweetie, but I guess it was just too much excitement for her. Anyways, she tensed and gave a low, warning growl (y'all know how I mean), so I politely suggested to the little boy (he was probably about 8 or 9, I guess... Maybe older... But def plenty old enough to understand) that maybe now was not the best time to pet my dog, because she seemed a little scared, and that even sweet dogs might bite if they are scared. I was perfectly polite and reasonable... But this kid just completely ignored me! He started trying to grab at her, trying to take her off my lap and out of my arms! Then he starts shoving his hands in her face, deliberately antagonizing her... And of course she was now full-out growling and yipping, and I could tell she was about to start snapping. So I asked him to PLEASE stop, that I didn't want him to be bitten (although at this point, I was a little more worried about Lila than the boy). But the little hellion would NOT let up! Now keep in mind that I still had Lucy going crazy, trying to wrap herself around the bench seat to get to the other dog, and Lila was wriggling around so much in my arms that it was all I could do not to drop her... And this kid was STILL trying to pull at her, waving his nasty little claws in front of her mouth like he thought it was funny to scare her even more... so it wasn't like I could just take my dogs and run, which is what I desperately wanted by now to do... Then, of course, Lila actually started snapping, and, I swear, it was all I could do not to lose my patience with the kid! Because I knew if he was bitten he was gonna go crying to his parents (who, incidentally, were witnessing this entire episode from a distance and did NOTHING to intervene!), and I would have to deal with, at a minimum, their unfair accusations about my dog and, in a worst case senerio, a lawsuit. I was STILL trying to speak reasonably, but authoritatively, to the kid, all the while trying to protect Lila from his darting hands... but I eventually ended up having to physically block his hands with mine, and at that point I really just lost my patience! I raised my voice to tell him very sharply that he needed to STOP! That my dog did NOT want to play, that he was scaring her and that I did NOT appreciate him antagonizing her! That she is a DOG not a TOY! My tone was really rather rude, but this kid was being over-the-top ridiculous... He was literally assaulting both me and Lila, and it was the only thing I could do, because he just would NOT listen! Well, as soon as he paused in shock, I quickly juggled Lila to a safer position away from him, untwirled a still-crazy Lucy from the bench and half-dragged her and Lila out of the park. I admit, I was red faced from anger... And embarrassment over having to raise my voice to a child, which, if you knew me, you'd realize I have NEVER done! But I mean really! My goodness! So, needless to say, I have been quite a bit more hesitant to let a child pet either of my puppies since then, and it may be awhile yet before I'm comfortable enough to let them try. Now I just say "Don't let the wagging tails fool you. They both bite. Hard."

05-27-2011, 09:45 AM	#45
addevo Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2008 Location: Alexandria, VA, USA (near Washington, DC) Posts: 312	As our previous Yorkie got older, it was harder for her to keep up when we went on long walks with our other dogs. My solution was to get a "pet pouch" so I could carry her but still have a hand free to hold a leash for another dog. But it had a very unexpected side effect. Note the position of the dog's head in the picture below. This is not a picture of me, but I had the pet pouch adjusted so that Tina's face was at about the same level - meaning her head was just about even with my, um, chest. The first day I carried her this way, the first person we encountered on our walk was a 30-ish young man who obviously LOVED yorkies. He came running up, gushing at how cute she was, grabbed Tina's face in both hands and started kissing her. Normally, this would be ok, both with Tina and with me, but having a strange young man's hands and mouth suddenly within an inch of my breasts was a shock, and rather disconcerting to say the least! I gradually became more accustomed to people seemingly grabbing at my chest to pet Tina, but it did take some conditioning on my part to realize they were reaching for her, not me! Attached Thumbnails