Shame + Shady Breeder = Beginning 2 Regret...

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

I did not read your entire post. I felt I had cried enough from what you posted the other day. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO RESPOND TO ME! I am new here, and I hope everyone else who is new can read some of the posts you write and think twice before asking a question. Attacking me for no reason. Perhaps I did get you confused with someone else that is the only thing I apologize for. BUT YOU HAVE NO _______ IDEA WHAT I HAVE BEEN THROUGH AND CONTINUE TO GO THROUGH! You have no clue what you say and how you say it and it is OFFENSIVE to people. In fact I am shaking as I type this because on a daily basis I struggle with past memories.

I watch my father kill my mother.
I was raped.
My brother died in an accident I suppose to be in.
My other brother beat me up.
I was abandoned by my both of my ENTIRE family and left to find a way to get into college on my own.
Once in college I was diagnosed with Major Depression and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.


Then I come online to get suggestions and you type crap. I don't care if you don't agree with what I say, NOT a big deal! But it is how you say it that matters. "It seems like misplaced priorities to me." <--- ????? You HAVE NO CLUE!
The ONLY reason I am sharing this with you all and everyone else who may see this is because I want to teach people a lesson. And the lesson is, you NEVER know who is on the other end of the screen reading the hurtful posts you put out there. Yes, some people MAY very well deserve a "rude" awakening but there are plenty of people who are "good" people at heart.
I hope I NEVER meet someone like FlDebra...or anyone who agrees with what she says for that matter. Because it is the same people that the news and media are so concerned with, Internet Bullies. Despite me trying to diffuse the situation or you just leaving me alone you continue to bother me. I cried hard last night because of what you said. Since I was 10 I have been mistreated and falsely accused and then to come to a place where no one knows you and have the same thing happen is ridiculous. I never would have thought when I decided to join this site I would experience something like this. Your mindset needs a hard-looking, if you "think" what you said was kind. As I mentioned before I cannot and will not spend all day online trying to explain something to 1 person. Because only YOU are the one who got it all wrong....hmm, says something I believe. Perhaps you need to talk with someone and pray for a compassionate spirit. Never will I play the Devil's Advocate...I would just tell the truth, end of story. And if you "think" you caught me in a lie, "think" again. When I said spent hours that meant totaling up the length of times we have talked. First time I called her and questioned her we were on the phone for 45-55 min. One other phone call was 32-36 min. long. After that the average phone call was 13-17 min. The emails were mostly pictures. Not a description or a sentence even. Not a he is doing great. Or he has grown this much. Or he now being weaned. Or any of that. Would anybody who cares want a REAL update about a pup they had been watching grow up...I think so! So I would ask her a question she would respond back. That's it. Why breed if you don't care about the homes they go to. I realize the breeder I thought to be good was in fact not...who's fact was that? Mine, I should have stuck with my gut perhaps. But who lied? She did. Who doesn't care? She doesn't. Who is doing it for ulterior motives? She is. NOT ME! My post was about what I should do regarding the breeder. Don't have that question anymore...Why? BECAUSE I HAVE THE PUPPY! If you got a problem here...then don't bother posting on a thread I started. Your post is not doing any good at all...and I thought that would be the whole reason for posting...May God Bless You!


Once again thank you to all who posted. I appreciate the concern. I will try to post a few pics before I delete this account!
Thanks FIDebra!

I'm sorry you're so upset, but I think Fldebra was trying to just give you an idea from the breeder's perspective. I don't think she was implying you lied anything. I think that's what she meant by "devils advocate", just allowing you to look at it from the other side, in order to make a better decision for you.

Buying a puppy is a big deal, and we all realize that people are emotional when buying a dog. You really seem like you've done a lot of homework on how to find a good breeder, and it can be overwelming! I fully support your idea that if you have bad feelings, you should look elsewhere. I think a breeder should be patient and reassuring, but it sounds like she got her money and didn't want much more to do with you. I just want to say that I'm so sorry of all the turmoil you've had in your life, that's way more stuff than anyone should handle, but I also believe you have the power to overcome that, and become an extremely strong person. They say what doesn't kill you leaves you stronger, so please, try to take a step back and know that we were just trying to help you make the best choice for you.

[shoefelmeyer]

Congratulations on your new little puppy, "Niko". Looking forward to seeing photos.

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I'm sorry you're so upset, but I think Fldebra was trying to just give you an idea from the breeder's perspective. I don't think she was implying you lied anything. I think that's what she meant by "devils advocate", just allowing you to look at it from the other side, in order to make a better decision for you.

Buying a puppy is a big deal, and we all realize that people are emotional when buying a dog. You really seem like you've done a lot of homework on how to find a good breeder, and it can be overwelming! I fully support your idea that if you have bad feelings, you should look elsewhere. I think a breeder should be patient and reassuring, but it sounds like she got her money and didn't want much more to do with you. I just want to say that I'm so sorry of all the turmoil you've had in your life, that's way more stuff than anyone should handle, but I also believe you have the power to overcome that, and become an extremely strong person. They say what doesn't kill you leaves you stronger, so please, try to take a step back and know that we were just trying to help you make the best choice for you.

I will try to understand that. I would like to believe that what she said was not trying to be as mean as it came across. With that being said, some of the things she said she should take a second look at and realize that when reading on the computer and talking in person one sentence can be misconstrued. Perhaps, I did do that, I not saying I am perfect in any way, but still to be careful can prevent a lot of damage. After talking to my fiance i realized I shouldn't internalize it but sometimes it is easier said than done.

Of course, I would like to apologize for offending anyone with my posts or threads for that matter. I am not here to start or be part of conflict. (Just need to find a way to post pics.) Maybe I can just open a flicker account or something.)

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by shoefelmeyer

Congratulations on your new little puppy, "Niko". Looking forward to seeing photos.

thank you... as soon as I get them up I will post that here.

[Nancy1999]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

I will try to understand that. I would like to believe that what she said was not trying to be as mean as it came across. With that being said, some of the things she said she should take a second look at and realize that when reading on the computer and talking in person one sentence can be misconstrued. Perhaps, I did do that, I not saying I am perfect in any way, but still to be careful can prevent a lot of damage. After talking to my fiance i realized I shouldn't internalize it but sometimes it is easier said than done.

Of course, I would like to apologize for offending anyone with my posts or threads for that matter. I am not here to start or be part of conflict. (Just need to find a way to post pics.) Maybe I can just open a flicker account or something.)

Glad you are trying to see it this way, I've had problems writing things the best way, and reading others replies has helped me learned to write better, and usually Fldebra sets the best example! I guess everyone has an off day.

I like Photobucket for uploading pictures, have you tried it? It will resize them for you too. Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket Once they are on Photobucket you can upload them easily to a thread here.

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

I will try to understand that. I would like to believe that what she said was not trying to be as mean as it came across. With that being said, some of the things she said she should take a second look at and realize that when reading on the computer and talking in person one sentence can be misconstrued. Perhaps, I did do that, I not saying I am perfect in any way, but still to be careful can prevent a lot of damage. After talking to my fiance i realized I shouldn't internalize it but sometimes it is easier said than done.

Of course, I would like to apologize for offending anyone with my posts or threads for that matter. I am not here to start or be part of conflict. This is the reason for my leaving. (Just need to find a way to post pics.) Maybe I can just open a flicker account or something.)

I think sometimes words can come across differently than we expect. That happens in post like this as well as emails. Even if we don't mean for them to.

I would only like to make one suggestion to you. Please think and consider your actions before you decide to delete the account. You have a new furbaby and with that said, there are so many knowledgeable people here that will help you along the way. Rosie is three and I have had to turn to YT so many times. As I feel you will also have that need. So, please think about that for your little Niko.

I hope that you don't find this offensive but I would like to post something here. Again, I am not trying to offend anyone.

Ephesians 4:32
Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.


Please do post pictures so we can see your new little joy.

[Ringo1]

Hmmm.

Reads . . digests. . . says "Good Luck with Your New Puppy" . . and steps away from the land mine.

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by yorkietalkjilly

I'm confused - I don't remember seeing a breeder mentioned by name or any other reference but maybe I have missed a post. I think I do remember reading a post refusing to post the name due to concerns of not getting the pup. There is so much on this site posted by breeders and others about how to recognize disreputable breeders and what to do when one runs afoul of one, I think she got spooked and posted out of worry. I am so glad it worked out and the baby is home.

You have a way of posting to bring peace and I believe everyone on here can agree to that.

I never have mentioned the breeder on a public post and I am now thinking I should not have mentioned it privately as well.

I was spooked and now know for all the right reasons. Many promises were broken and i feel that Niko was let down by her. He has absolutely nothing to remind him of his birthplace and siblings. I don't know if the person Niko was shipped with updated her after we came and picked him up, but she hasn't called me to see how everything is going or how he doing. Upsets me, she just appeared to care so much. Would rather have her honesty than her lies.

OAN:

Aniko is happy and healthy. He was very tired yesterday, slept soundly through the night. Woke up at about 1 after a potty break and thought it was play time, LOL. But, I quickly convinced him otherwise after the lights went back off, LOL. He didn't eat as much as I wanted him to, so I supplemented with nutri-cal. He slept with us (in his bed)...wanted to keep an eye on him and his behavior since he hadn't eaten. But, can't lie...using that as an excuse, b/c he will sleep with us all the time. The vets were all closed by the time he arrived yesterday so this morning we went in to the vet. Says he is a healthy and cuddly puppy. Stools all check out well and no parasites, etc. Ooo's and Aaahh's all over the place. But who could resist that face.
We CANT!

Thanks I Dream of Jeanie!
I appreciate your concern. How's your baby doing?

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by BabyGirl Rosie

I think sometimes words can come across differently than we expect. That happens in post like this as well as emails. Even if we don't mean for them to.

I would only like to make one suggestion to you. Please think and consider your actions before you decide to delete the account. You have a new furbaby and with that said, there are so many knowledgeable people here that will help you along the way. Rosie is three and I have had to turn to YT so many times. As I feel you will also have that need. So, please think about that for your little Niko.

I hope that you don't find this offensive but I would like to post something here. Again, I am not trying to offend anyone.

Ephesians 4:32
Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.


Please do post pictures so we can see your new little joy.

Lovely Verse. I REALLY appreciate that!
I do believe that is a thought to ponder. Maybe i should stay but keep out of General discussion.

I just don't like conflict and I notice (and the reason I was reserved to post to begin with) is many posts turn bad. I don't want to be labeled as the person to do that. So, if I can stay out of trouble then perhaps I will try for Niko. Or someone else about to make a bad breeder decision.

Thank you for everything!

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by Ringo1

Hmmm.

Reads . . digests. . . says "Good Luck with Your New Puppy" . . and steps away from the land mine.

No land mines to be concerned with. I hope I am not coming across like that. But thank you so much for the well wishes!

God bless to you and yours!

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

Lovely Verse. I REALLY appreciate that!
I do believe that is a thought to ponder. Maybe i should stay but keep out of General discussion.

I just don't like conflict and I notice (and the reason I was reserved to post to begin with) is many posts turn bad. I don't want to be labeled as the person to do that. So, if I can stay out of trouble then perhaps I will try for Niko. Or someone else about to make a bad breeder decision.

Thank you for everything!

And it does happen sometimes. But not all the time. I promise there are more posts here that are good than those that end up bad. Before long everything will settle down and you will want to share those stories and pictures. Trust me it is addicting. Oh, and then the shopping comes along. And if your like me, well it will never stop! These babies are just too darn cute and too easy to buy for.

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

Glad you are trying to see it this way, I've had problems writing things the best way, and reading others replies has helped me learned to write better, and usually Fldebra sets the best example! I guess everyone has an off day.

I like Photobucket for uploading pictures, have you tried it? It will resize them for you too. Image hosting, free photo sharing & video sharing at Photobucket Once they are on Photobucket you can upload them easily to a thread here.

All of the pics are on my phone. (wrong time to have the digital cam. battery low, huh.) So I will see if they have an app or something for the iPhone and try that way. If not I will stop being lazy and send them to an email and then adding to photobucket. Completely forgot about them!

Thank you

[BabyGirl Rosie]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

All of the pics are on my phone. (wrong time to have the digital cam. battery low, huh.) So I will see if they have an app or something for the iPhone and try that way. If not I will stop being lazy and send them to an email and then adding to photobucket. Completely forgot about them!

Thank you

I text my pics to my email. Works great!

[MyLovelyNiko]

Originally Posted by Lumpysmama

as a newbie replies to posts like this make me wanna not post here and run

But...

I am sorry you have had such a rough go of life and as of late on here as well. There is some amazing information posted that will help you care for your new baby. Please stay and take a break from posting if you must but to leave such a knowledgeable forum would be a shame to you and yours.

I don't want to make all newbies here afraid of posting. Just understand and be willing to know that others may or may not agree with you. There may be some rude posters still and those are the times when you have to take a step back and realize what you should internalize and not. Sometimes interpretations can be biased or just completely misunderstood. But please don't let this hinder you from what could potentially be a great experience.

God Bless to you and yours as well!

[Lumpysmama]

Originally Posted by MyLovelyNiko

I don't want to make all newbies here afraid of posting. Just understand and be willing to know that others may or may not agree with you. There may be some rude posters still and those are the times when you have to take a step back and realize what you should internalize and not. Sometimes interpretations can be biased or just completely misunderstood. But please don't let this hinder you from what could potentially be a great experience.

God Bless to you and yours as well!

I'm sorry I was not clear, not just this thread and its not your post that scares me it's the seasoned members