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jacquelinebabco · 11-05-2010, 09:10 AM

Wow who started this depressing thread? Lol. It's raining and cold and I was depressed enough without worrying about dying and no one to take care of the loves of my life.

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by jacquelinebabco

Wow who started this depressing thread? Lol. It's raining and cold and I was depressed enough without worrying about dying and no one to take care of the loves of my life.

I am pointing my fingers at Darlene.

AllDogBoots · 11-05-2010, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

I am pointing my fingers at Darlene.

Definitely Darlene

I can honestly say that i have never thought about this. However I feel that my parents or my brother and his family would be able to care for and love my boys if something happened to me. Euthanasia is an interesting choice for someone who has nobody to leave their beloved pets to. I'm a very open minded person although at first your response was a little shocking. I'll have to think about this for a while.

Vinniedoggy · 11-05-2010, 10:39 AM

Wow, scary thought. I'm fortunate to have lots of people in my life who I know would take care of my little guys should anything ever happen to me. However, I wonder if there's a way to specify in writing that you'd at least want them to go to a rescue that would rehome them somewhere loving and appropriate.

FlDebra · 11-05-2010, 10:52 AM

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Originally Posted by boopster

I have a feeling that if something happened to a YT member and a family member or friend posted about it here, the dog(s) would have offers of several instant loving homes. I have several family members that I think would want Tallulah if something should happen to me and I know they would love her just as much as I do.

But if none were in a position to care for her properly, I would want this group to know about it -- there is always someone here who has lost a beloved pet and is ready for a new one to love. Or who is ready to add to their existing family. I might add that Tallulah would come with a large wardrobe and collection of toys.

Not that I plan on having anything happen to me any time soon...

Darlene -- I think Boopster has a great plan. Maybe you could have someone designated that would contact someone you feel close to on YT. They could find a great home from the membership here. I may put that as an option to my boys. That way if they feel they cannot care for them the way I would want, they can feel free to contact someone here on YT without feeling guilty themselves. I know my one son wants his Jack Russell. She is definately his baby and is missing him something fierce now that he is off to college. But my other boys have dogs of their own. Not sure if they want Yorkies too. Someone here on YT that would act as a go between to find a placement home would be great. Not that any of us are planning on leaving anytime soon -- but you never know. I sure did not think my husband would be gone so soon either.

I am going to solidify this plan and talk with my sister (she has 2 of our pups and would probbly be glad to take mine as well)and make sure I have at least 3 potential places for them to go. I just can't even think about adding euthanasia to the possibilities.

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 11:24 AM

Again, let me say that just because someone talks a good story on the internet, it does not always make it so.

I have seen lots of people say "I hope someone from YT gets him" referring to a dog in a shelter. That always shocks me. I am not singling anyone out as being a poor pet parent, but trust me when I say just because they can type a good line it does not make them good pet parents.

It always scares me when I see some people believe that being a member of YT validates anyone....as a breeder, as a pet parent, as anything.

I will AGAIN say: put in writing EXACTLY what should be done including the verification that the people who are getting your pups are truly good. Only by checking their history with prior pets will you really know. I could tell you all some stories that would make your hair fall out. Any rescue person could.

As for euthanasia as an option, I can only AGAIN tell you that if you saw what I see on a daily basis, you might also have it as an option. Many people think that any life is better than death.....not so.

Britster · 11-05-2010, 01:08 PM

This is such a depressing, sad thought.

I'm 20 years old and I can hope and pray that I have a lot more life to live, but nobody ever knows of course. I lost my 5yr old brother in 2006 so I know all to well that lives can be lost too soon. I don't really want to think about it - I honestly Jackson would be really depressed for a while. We have such a tight bond and whenever I leave him for a few days, he typically WILL have fun, but at the end of the day... he's sitting in the window again waiting for me.

I know for a fact my dad would take him. He is married, has my little brother, and two little dogs of their own. They bring their dogs with them on the RV camping, etc. He is the one who takes Jackson for me when I go away, etc, and we visit once or twice a week and sleep there. Jackson is 100 percent family over there. My dad loves him to pieces and spoils him, and my step-mom is the one who enjoys doing the training (like me) and taking them for walks, sufficient exercise, and gives them plenty of attention. I've never official discussed it with my dad, as I don't want to bring up death to him... I think it would scare him, me talking like that.

If for some odd reason, my dad didn't work out.... I'm pretty positive my friend Lauren, here from YT but in real-life, would take him. He adores her and her dogs Bandit and Nala and I'm sure if I discussed that with her, it would be something she would say definitely too. I would do the same for her dogs. If these two didn't work out, I have a TON of family members who I know would step up to the plate. My aunt is a huge dog lover and loves Jackson to death. My grandma is the same. And though these people wouldn't be my first choice, simply because they wouldn't give him ALL I do, I know he would be happy and safe.

But to be honest, I just don't really like thinking about it. Both me losing him and him losing me. Gosh Darlene, ya had to get all depressing!!!

manolos mom · 11-05-2010, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

It is a depressing thought. What I can tell you, though, is that there is sadly a fate for these pups that is far worse than a painless passing. I definitely don't have it on the top of my list of options. My son and I have discussed this at length and, while I do have provisions in my will, it is in need of updating. This is important for all pet owners to think about...and putting it in writing is crucial.

I agree with you that many do not care for their pups...and I am like you..I want my pups to never be in a home that does not put their well being first. I am not a person who feels I am the only one who can care for them...I just know how hard it is to find people who think the way that I do about what proper care is. I also have 7 pups of my own...that is a lot to expect that one peson will care for. I know we are not supposed to bargain with God, but I can say I am guilty of asking for the favor of living long enough to see my pups to the end of their lives.

Sorry everyone, I called tabs on Linda about 2 years ago!!!!!

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 01:26 PM

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Originally Posted by manolos mom

Sorry everyone, I called tabs on Linda about 2 years ago!!!!!

You are all INSANE! I have too many dogs NOW. hhahahhaha

Besides, I am older than all of you....so look out when I go.

Patti · 11-05-2010, 01:41 PM

As I get older it is something I do worry about,especially having 4. I have it stipulated in my will that a certain amount of money goes with each dog. This goes to the person/persons who take them in for future care. I know my dtr would take Cali and between her and my other relatives find great homes for the others. They know who to contact on YT that could help find them homes that would meet my standards. Having taken in Nikki in a similar situation, I have realized that some can adjust as long as it is to a loving home. If worse came to worse I too would rather see them safely go to sleep rather then end up in a horrible situation. Working at a shelter I see dogs that just can't adjust to shelter life and it breaks my heart.

manolos mom · 11-05-2010, 01:51 PM

I already have a plan on where the dogs and the Parrot will live. We need that piece of mind.

boopster · 11-05-2010, 02:05 PM

I agree with you, Ladyjane. Not everyone who is a good talker here might necessarily treat your beloved dog the way you want it to be treated. But I do think that YT would be a good starting point for finding a new home. Of course there would be personal interviews, home visits, and vet talks before my dog would be surrendered. Her trust fund would cover that. Not to mention I promise to haunt anyone that mistreats my pet(s) after I'm gone. And I mean that.

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by boopster

I agree with you, Ladyjane. Not everyone who is a good talker here might necessarily treat your beloved dog the way you want it to be treated. But I do think that YT would be a good starting point for finding a new home. Of course there would be personal interviews, home visits, and vet talks before my dog would be surrendered. Her trust fund would cover that. Not to mention I promise to haunt anyone that mistreats my pet(s) after I'm gone. And I mean that.

Oh, yes, probably a good place to start; especially because there are so many who we do know and who do care for their pups!

I hear you on the haunting part. I would be jumping out of my grave for sure.

Darlene68 · 11-05-2010, 02:14 PM

I did start this depressing thread, but having lost so many people I loved dearly very unexpectedly, I can't help but think.. what if? I spoke about it to my BF today and he got quite upset with me, and told me that is not something I should be thinking about, let alone worrying about. He does not understand. I know a few people on here I would give my boys to and know in my heart they would be loved and cared for...I won't mention any names..maybe I will stipulate those people be contacted if ever the need arises ( hopefully never ) I'm sure you're all thinking " Please don't let it be me!!"

Sandysbabies · 11-05-2010, 02:42 PM

Personally, I don't find it depressing but just good common sense to want to provide for our babies. I had a friend that has poms but said she would love to take mine in case something happened to both of us at the same time. She has always seemed to be as crazy about her poms as we are our babies. Then, talking to her the other day, she said she thought her oldest one had signs of diabetes. She said she was not going to do like I did and give 2 shots a day and stay on a strict scheldue and food. She said I am going to just let her live out her life. Well, I'm sorry but that changed my mind very quickly. She will not be getting my babies. I feel like they are a respondsibilty to the end, which includes all their health needs. If anyone doesn't want to take care of them and do what you can for them when they are sick, you shouldn't have pets. These our like our children. People can sure fool you. I would not have thought she would have had that outlook. This poor little dog has already gone blind and it could, (maybe) been avoided if she had of started her on insulin in the start.

11-05-2010, 10:39 AM	#19
Vinniedoggy YT Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 280	Wow, scary thought. I'm fortunate to have lots of people in my life who I know would take care of my little guys should anything ever happen to me. However, I wonder if there's a way to specify in writing that you'd at least want them to go to a rescue that would rehome them somewhere loving and appropriate. __________________ Andrea, Mom to Vinnie, Alex, and Guru

11-05-2010, 11:24 AM	#21
ladyjane Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 27,490	Again, let me say that just because someone talks a good story on the internet, it does not always make it so. I have seen lots of people say "I hope someone from YT gets him" referring to a dog in a shelter. That always shocks me. I am not singling anyone out as being a poor pet parent, but trust me when I say just because they can type a good line it does not make them good pet parents. It always scares me when I see some people believe that being a member of YT validates anyone....as a breeder, as a pet parent, as anything. I will AGAIN say: put in writing EXACTLY what should be done including the verification that the people who are getting your pups are truly good. Only by checking their history with prior pets will you really know. I could tell you all some stories that would make your hair fall out. Any rescue person could. As for euthanasia as an option, I can only AGAIN tell you that if you saw what I see on a daily basis, you might also have it as an option. Many people think that any life is better than death.....not so. __________________ CLOUD NINE BEDS--YORKIE HAVEN RESCUE MY ETSY SHOP

11-05-2010, 01:08 PM	#22
Britster Action Jackson ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Maryland Posts: 17,815	This is such a depressing, sad thought. I'm 20 years old and I can hope and pray that I have a lot more life to live, but nobody ever knows of course. I lost my 5yr old brother in 2006 so I know all to well that lives can be lost too soon. I don't really want to think about it - I honestly Jackson would be really depressed for a while. We have such a tight bond and whenever I leave him for a few days, he typically WILL have fun, but at the end of the day... he's sitting in the window again waiting for me. I know for a fact my dad would take him. He is married, has my little brother, and two little dogs of their own. They bring their dogs with them on the RV camping, etc. He is the one who takes Jackson for me when I go away, etc, and we visit once or twice a week and sleep there. Jackson is 100 percent family over there. My dad loves him to pieces and spoils him, and my step-mom is the one who enjoys doing the training (like me) and taking them for walks, sufficient exercise, and gives them plenty of attention. I've never official discussed it with my dad, as I don't want to bring up death to him... I think it would scare him, me talking like that. If for some odd reason, my dad didn't work out.... I'm pretty positive my friend Lauren, here from YT but in real-life, would take him. He adores her and her dogs Bandit and Nala and I'm sure if I discussed that with her, it would be something she would say definitely too. I would do the same for her dogs. If these two didn't work out, I have a TON of family members who I know would step up to the plate. My aunt is a huge dog lover and loves Jackson to death. My grandma is the same. And though these people wouldn't be my first choice, simply because they wouldn't give him ALL I do, I know he would be happy and safe. But to be honest, I just don't really like thinking about it. Both me losing him and him losing me. Gosh Darlene, ya had to get all depressing!!! __________________ ~ Brit & Lights! Camera! Jackson! CGC ETD TKP ~ Follow Jackson on Instagram: https://instagram.com/jacksontheterrier Last edited by Britster; 11-05-2010 at 01:10 PM.

11-05-2010, 01:41 PM	#25
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	As I get older it is something I do worry about,especially having 4. I have it stipulated in my will that a certain amount of money goes with each dog. This goes to the person/persons who take them in for future care. I know my dtr would take Cali and between her and my other relatives find great homes for the others. They know who to contact on YT that could help find them homes that would meet my standards. Having taken in Nikki in a similar situation, I have realized that some can adjust as long as it is to a loving home. If worse came to worse I too would rather see them safely go to sleep rather then end up in a horrible situation. Working at a shelter I see dogs that just can't adjust to shelter life and it breaks my heart. __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

11-05-2010, 01:51 PM	#26
manolos mom Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 7,982	I already have a plan on where the dogs and the Parrot will live. We need that piece of mind. __________________ Ethical Breeders follow and support http://www.ytca.org/

11-05-2010, 09:10 AM	#16
jacquelinebabco Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: hannacroix,ny Posts: 1,364	Wow who started this depressing thread? Lol. It's raining and cold and I was depressed enough without worrying about dying and no one to take care of the loves of my life.

11-05-2010, 02:05 PM	#27
boopster Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southern California, USA Posts: 1,643 Blog Entries: 1	I agree with you, Ladyjane. Not everyone who is a good talker here might necessarily treat your beloved dog the way you want it to be treated. But I do think that YT would be a good starting point for finding a new home. Of course there would be personal interviews, home visits, and vet talks before my dog would be surrendered. Her trust fund would cover that. Not to mention I promise to haunt anyone that mistreats my pet(s) after I'm gone. And I mean that.

11-05-2010, 02:14 PM	#29
Darlene68 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 4,923	I did start this depressing thread, but having lost so many people I loved dearly very unexpectedly, I can't help but think.. what if? I spoke about it to my BF today and he got quite upset with me, and told me that is not something I should be thinking about, let alone worrying about. He does not understand. I know a few people on here I would give my boys to and know in my heart they would be loved and cared for...I won't mention any names..maybe I will stipulate those people be contacted if ever the need arises ( hopefully never ) I'm sure you're all thinking " Please don't let it be me!!" __________________ Darlene Bailey Blu & Jesse Bee

11-05-2010, 02:42 PM	#30
Sandysbabies YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dallas, Texas Posts: 2,234	Personally, I don't find it depressing but just good common sense to want to provide for our babies. I had a friend that has poms but said she would love to take mine in case something happened to both of us at the same time. She has always seemed to be as crazy about her poms as we are our babies. Then, talking to her the other day, she said she thought her oldest one had signs of diabetes. She said she was not going to do like I did and give 2 shots a day and stay on a strict scheldue and food. She said I am going to just let her live out her life. Well, I'm sorry but that changed my mind very quickly. She will not be getting my babies. I feel like they are a respondsibilty to the end, which includes all their health needs. If anyone doesn't want to take care of them and do what you can for them when they are sick, you shouldn't have pets. These our like our children. People can sure fool you. I would not have thought she would have had that outlook. This poor little dog has already gone blind and it could, (maybe) been avoided if she had of started her on insulin in the start.