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Darlene68 · 11-05-2010, 07:02 AM

I have this on my mind a lot. I have no close family, I haven't seen them in over 10 years. None of the people I know are anyone I would trust to care for my boys the way I would want them to be cared for. My boyfriend, although he loves my boys is not home enough to give them the care that I do, and he doesn't baby them like I do.
If something happened to me, and it is always a possibility ( I lost my Dad and my little brother quite suddenly ) It scares me so much to think of what would become of my babies, They are good boys, I want them to be happy with the best care possible for as long as they are on this earth.

107barney · 11-05-2010, 07:04 AM

I often think about the same thing! I have not come up with a good answer other than this place in Texas I know of that might take them. I have her name in my will...

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by 107barney

I often think about the same thing! I have not come up with a good answer other than this place in Texas I know of that might take them. I have her name in my will...

OMG you crazy woman....why do I get the feeling you are referring to me?!?!?!?

I love your babies, but OH NO ... not MORE..hahhahaha!
No worries, though, I am going to outlive you and send MY crew to YOU .. going to call my attorney to change my will today!

On a serious note, this is a concern Darlene. I cannot begin to tell you how many people I have seen surrender dogs AFTER their loved one passed away. They had promised their loved ones to care for their dogs, but then reneged after it all happened. So...the only thing I can advise you is to be VERY careful.

I have said before that I would stipulate that mine be euthanized...and there are people who think that is awful. I just simply cannot bear the thought that any of my beloved pups would end up in some of the places I have seen so many end up. It is a terrible world for our precious furbabies sometimes.

CouversMom · 11-05-2010, 07:14 AM

I have thought of this as well... I know Khloe would have a home with her original mommy, but I don't know where Couver would go. My DH could keep him, but he doesn't spoil him the same way I do...

I just try to avoid doing anything dangerous and it eases my mind somewhat

Darlene68 · 11-05-2010, 07:16 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

OMG you crazy woman....why do I get the feeling you are referring to me?!?!?!?

I love your babies, but OH NO ... not MORE..hahhahaha!
No worries, though, I am going to outlive you and send MY crew to YOU .. going to call my attorney to change my will today!

On a serious note, this is a concern Darlene. I cannot begin to tell you how many people I have seen surrender dogs AFTER their loved one passed away. They had promised their loved ones to care for their dogs, but then reneged after it all happened. So...the only thing I can advise you is to be VERY careful.

I have said before that I would stipulate that mine be euthanized...and there are people who think that is awful. I just simply cannot bear the thought that any of my beloved pups would end up in some of the places I have seen so many end up. It is a terrible world for our precious furbabies sometimes.

My God the thought of that breaks my heart and makes me want to cry. I do make myself sick with worry though, I have no one that I feel can give them the life they deserve. There are people I know that have animals and I get so upset with them for paying so little attention to their pets, why bother to even have them!?

BonBon · 11-05-2010, 07:23 AM

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Originally Posted by ladyjane

OMG you crazy woman....why do I get the feeling you are referring to me?!?!?!?

I figured Cathy was talking about you.

Sorry Linda, but I plan on leaving my crew to you also. Have you thought about buying a larger house?

Seriously though, this is a concern for me too. There are so few people in my life that I believe would give my babies the love and care I think they deserve. And I hate the thought of having them be seperated if something did happen to me.

celstu1 · 11-05-2010, 07:31 AM

Darlene, I worry about this too. My family lives far away from me. None of my friends want my boys or would care for them like I want them to be cared for. My boyfriend though, he treats them soooo well and even though he works full time and may not have all the time in the world, I would never take them away from him. My boyfriend would get them and treat them special and love them to pieces. I'm afraid though that if I am 10 years in the ground and he has WELL moved on... will he still feel the same? hhhmmm It is a thought. I hate to even think about it.

Sammy Mommy · 11-05-2010, 07:33 AM

My friend and I had this same conversation. It's scary to think about because we feel no one would love and care for our babies like we do.

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 07:36 AM

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Originally Posted by Darlene68

My God the thought of that breaks my heart and makes me want to cry. I do make myself sick with worry though, I have no one that I feel can give them the life they deserve. There are people I know that have animals and I get so upset with them for paying so little attention to their pets, why bother to even have them!?

It is a depressing thought. What I can tell you, though, is that there is sadly a fate for these pups that is far worse than a painless passing. I definitely don't have it on the top of my list of options. My son and I have discussed this at length and, while I do have provisions in my will, it is in need of updating. This is important for all pet owners to think about...and putting it in writing is crucial.

I agree with you that many do not care for their pups...and I am like you..I want my pups to never be in a home that does not put their well being first. I am not a person who feels I am the only one who can care for them...I just know how hard it is to find people who think the way that I do about what proper care is. I also have 7 pups of my own...that is a lot to expect that one peson will care for. I know we are not supposed to bargain with God, but I can say I am guilty of asking for the favor of living long enough to see my pups to the end of their lives.

jacquelinebabco · 11-05-2010, 07:43 AM

I made it a point to be sure my breeder would take back my boy should anything happen to me. She is much younger than I and I trust her enough that I know she would keep her promise. I had a friend who said when I die I want my dog euthanized and put in the casket with me. I thought at the time that that was awful but I guess I can understand. Fortunately, when he died his daughter refused to follow his wishes and she now has his dog and he is a well loved baby.

jencar98 · 11-05-2010, 07:47 AM

Although like everyone else I too have the same concern about what will happen, I don't worry too much about it or anything else in life for that matter. I am 50 years old and spent most of my life worrying about things that never happened.

Take necessary precautions where you can, try to have a plan in place, live a healthy lifestyle and try not to worry.

I do have plans, one of which is to keep my dh healthy as can be♥, the other involves my sons, and yet another involves a couple of yorkie friends. Anyone that knows and loves me would honor my wishes, just as I would theirs (plus, I have contracts, a will and a darn good attorney)

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Wylie's Mom · 11-05-2010, 08:20 AM

We worry about this too, especially bc our kiddos do have some issues...and Marcel is so small.

We have a Pet Trust set up in our Will - and this provides money for the rest of the dogs' lives, and is set up so it can only be used for the dogs. I also have a document typed up that lists things about their food, vets/records, any medical issues (past & present), canine nutritionists, online vendors, their supplements and meds, 'not to wear collars', 'not to ever let yorkies outside alone', the YT website and info and on and on and on. It's a little much, but it's the only way I can even be slightly comfortable about their care, if we're not here.

If something happens to us, Wylie and Marcel go to Tony's family. With Pfeiffer, the decision is TammyJM's - Tammy can decide whether she thinks Pfeiffer should come back to her home, or if she'd prefer to find the home for her, or if she should go to Tony's family. To be totally honest, I think YT'ers (like Tammy etc) would be the best homes for all of my babies - bc there is so much info here at YT about my babies, and also bc I know YTers are so great about asking for information, if needed.

It's a really tough subject to consider

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boopster · 11-05-2010, 08:31 AM

I have a feeling that if something happened to a YT member and a family member or friend posted about it here, the dog(s) would have offers of several instant loving homes. I have several family members that I think would want Tallulah if something should happen to me and I know they would love her just as much as I do.

But if none were in a position to care for her properly, I would want this group to know about it -- there is always someone here who has lost a beloved pet and is ready for a new one to love. Or who is ready to add to their existing family. I might add that Tallulah would come with a large wardrobe and collection of toys.

Not that I plan on having anything happen to me any time soon...

ladyjane · 11-05-2010, 08:43 AM

I know there are many people who are always wanting to help yorkies. I guess what I want to caution everyone about is that it is not as simple as people think to place yorkies in good homes.

What I would encourage everyone to stipulate is that whoEVER is going to offer to assist their pups have an excellent vet reference. I have sadly seen how many people talk the talk but do NOT walk it. I have had many conversations with people who knocked me off my feet and I was ready to adopt to them...UNTIL I called their vet and asked very specific questions. I never call a vet and ask how the person is. I ask specifics! Sadly, some people are full of you know what.

I also saw where someone did die on YT and the dogs all got placed, but I heard one got returned....so again, I say proceed with extreme caution. All is not always as it seems.

mkbartz · 11-05-2010, 08:50 AM

Luckily (!!!) I have a FABULOUS brother. He lived with me a few summer's ago and was my "dog nanny." I swear that my dogs love him more than they love me! It is so cute to see how the normally calm one goes BEZERK when she sees him (every few months). I have named him as the Pet Gardian, in my will should anything happen to both my husband and me.

11-05-2010, 07:02 AM	#1
Darlene68 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 4,923	Always worried what would happen to my boys. I have this on my mind a lot. I have no close family, I haven't seen them in over 10 years. None of the people I know are anyone I would trust to care for my boys the way I would want them to be cared for. My boyfriend, although he loves my boys is not home enough to give them the care that I do, and he doesn't baby them like I do. If something happened to me, and it is always a possibility ( I lost my Dad and my little brother quite suddenly ) It scares me so much to think of what would become of my babies, They are good boys, I want them to be happy with the best care possible for as long as they are on this earth. __________________ Darlene Bailey Blu & Jesse Bee

11-05-2010, 07:04 AM	#2
107barney T. Bumpkins & Co. Donating YT Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: New England Posts: 9,816	I often think about the same thing! I have not come up with a good answer other than this place in Texas I know of that might take them. I have her name in my will... __________________ T. Bumpkins & Co. Washable Doggie Pee Pads (Save 10% Enter YTSAVE10 at checkout) Cathy, Teddy, Winston and Baby Clyde...RIP angels Barney and Daisy

11-05-2010, 07:14 AM	#4
CouversMom and Khloe Mae's too! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Eastern Washington Posts: 14,732	I have thought of this as well... I know Khloe would have a home with her original mommy, but I don't know where Couver would go. My DH could keep him, but he doesn't spoil him the same way I do... I just try to avoid doing anything dangerous and it eases my mind somewhat __________________ Michelle- mommy to Couver and Khloe Mae! http://yorkiehavenrescue.com/

11-05-2010, 07:31 AM	#7
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Darlene, I worry about this too. My family lives far away from me. None of my friends want my boys or would care for them like I want them to be cared for. My boyfriend though, he treats them soooo well and even though he works full time and may not have all the time in the world, I would never take them away from him. My boyfriend would get them and treat them special and love them to pieces. I'm afraid though that if I am 10 years in the ground and he has WELL moved on... will he still feel the same? hhhmmm It is a thought. I hate to even think about it. __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

11-05-2010, 07:43 AM	#10
jacquelinebabco Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: hannacroix,ny Posts: 1,363	I made it a point to be sure my breeder would take back my boy should anything happen to me. She is much younger than I and I trust her enough that I know she would keep her promise. I had a friend who said when I die I want my dog euthanized and put in the casket with me. I thought at the time that that was awful but I guess I can understand. Fortunately, when he died his daughter refused to follow his wishes and she now has his dog and he is a well loved baby. Last edited by jacquelinebabco; 11-05-2010 at 07:45 AM.

11-05-2010, 07:33 AM	#8
Sammy Mommy Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York Posts: 3,896	My friend and I had this same conversation. It's scary to think about because we feel no one would love and care for our babies like we do.

11-05-2010, 07:47 AM	#11
jencar98 Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 6,435 Blog Entries: 3	Although like everyone else I too have the same concern about what will happen, I don't worry too much about it or anything else in life for that matter. I am 50 years old and spent most of my life worrying about things that never happened. Take necessary precautions where you can, try to have a plan in place, live a healthy lifestyle and try not to worry. I do have plans, one of which is to keep my dh healthy as can be♥, the other involves my sons, and yet another involves a couple of yorkie friends. Anyone that knows and loves me would honor my wishes, just as I would theirs (plus, I have contracts, a will and a darn good attorney). __________________ ~Ruby, Reno, Razz, & Jack~

11-05-2010, 08:20 AM	#12
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	We worry about this too, especially bc our kiddos do have some issues...and Marcel is so small. We have a Pet Trust set up in our Will - and this provides money for the rest of the dogs' lives, and is set up so it can only be used for the dogs. I also have a document typed up that lists things about their food, vets/records, any medical issues (past & present), canine nutritionists, online vendors, their supplements and meds, 'not to wear collars', 'not to ever let yorkies outside alone', the YT website and info and on and on and on. It's a little much, but it's the only way I can even be slightly comfortable about their care, if we're not here. If something happens to us, Wylie and Marcel go to Tony's family. With Pfeiffer, the decision is TammyJM's - Tammy can decide whether she thinks Pfeiffer should come back to her home, or if she'd prefer to find the home for her, or if she should go to Tony's family. To be totally honest, I think YT'ers (like Tammy etc) would be the best homes for all of my babies - bc there is so much info here at YT about my babies, and also bc I know YTers are so great about asking for information, if needed. It's a really tough subject to consider . __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

11-05-2010, 08:31 AM	#13
boopster Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southern California, USA Posts: 1,643 Blog Entries: 1	I have a feeling that if something happened to a YT member and a family member or friend posted about it here, the dog(s) would have offers of several instant loving homes. I have several family members that I think would want Tallulah if something should happen to me and I know they would love her just as much as I do. But if none were in a position to care for her properly, I would want this group to know about it -- there is always someone here who has lost a beloved pet and is ready for a new one to love. Or who is ready to add to their existing family. I might add that Tallulah would come with a large wardrobe and collection of toys. Not that I plan on having anything happen to me any time soon...

11-05-2010, 08:43 AM	#14
ladyjane Resident Yorkie Nut Donating YT 20K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 27,450	I know there are many people who are always wanting to help yorkies. I guess what I want to caution everyone about is that it is not as simple as people think to place yorkies in good homes. What I would encourage everyone to stipulate is that whoEVER is going to offer to assist their pups have an excellent vet reference. I have sadly seen how many people talk the talk but do NOT walk it. I have had many conversations with people who knocked me off my feet and I was ready to adopt to them...UNTIL I called their vet and asked very specific questions. I never call a vet and ask how the person is. I ask specifics! Sadly, some people are full of you know what. I also saw where someone did die on YT and the dogs all got placed, but I heard one got returned....so again, I say proceed with extreme caution. All is not always as it seems. __________________ CLOUD NINE BEDS--YORKIE HAVEN RESCUE MY ETSY SHOP Last edited by ladyjane; 11-05-2010 at 08:44 AM.

11-05-2010, 08:50 AM	#15
mkbartz YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: London, Ontario, canada Posts: 518	Luckily (!!!) I have a FABULOUS brother. He lived with me a few summer's ago and was my "dog nanny." I swear that my dogs love him more than they love me! It is so cute to see how the normally calm one goes BEZERK when she sees him (every few months). I have named him as the Pet Gardian, in my will should anything happen to both my husband and me.