An opportunity but hubby says NO! - YorkieTalk.com Forums

lostnomad · 06-23-2010, 06:35 AM

So the BYB I know is looking for a home for her male Yorkie. Rico is a 1 year old, sweet, little (1 1/2 lbs) boy who has a humping problem. He humps all day long. Anything and everything. He also isn't potty trained.

The BYB has put stipulations on who she wants Rico to go to because she wants him close so she can visit him. She also says that he can't go to a home who will neuter him. AND she wants someone who is familiar with the breed.

We've been offered the opportunity to have him but hubby says NO. I'm purely thinking with my heart on this one. Rico spends 9/10ths of his day in a crate. He gets little social interaction and is basically a sperm donor. That's it! At least in our home he would get the necessary interaction he needs to make him a great dog. Right now he's afraid of his own shadow. I just don't know what to do. I want this little guy to know what a loving home is all about but I also worry that too many negative things have been instilled in him that he may not overcome.

Thoughts? Suggestions?

RoscoesMommy42 · 06-23-2010, 06:46 AM

Awww....poor little thing. Why wouldn't she want him neutered??

Rhetts_mama · 06-23-2010, 06:47 AM

Why would she not want him neutered if he's going to be a pet in someone else's home? Sounds to me like she just wants to have someone else feed/vet/care for him so she can use him as a sperm donor when the mood strikes.

As much as you want to save him, could you handle being stuck with the BYB in your life?

TLC · 06-23-2010, 07:00 AM

At 1 year old - he is still young enough to learn love and be socialized.

Belly Bands are great for the humping and marking.

I say follow your heart

You CAN mold him to be what you want to be.

And down the road you CAN neuter him, after all - he will be YOURS

Priscilla80 · 06-23-2010, 07:06 AM

Really weird why he can't be neutered..
And its sad to hear he is in his crate so long.

good luck. x

jp4m2 · 06-23-2010, 07:16 AM

Awww, I hope you can persuade your DH that Rico is in need of a loving home and your in the position to give it to him......Good luck and I hope it works out.....

Speed · 06-23-2010, 07:49 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

Why would she not want him neutered if he's going to be a pet in someone else's home? Sounds to me like she just wants to have someone else feed/vet/care for him so she can use him as a sperm donor when the mood strikes.

As much as you want to save him, could you handle being stuck with the BYB in your life?

That's exactly what I'm thinking.

Adi-and-Missy · 06-23-2010, 08:13 AM

Once he's yours, she can't really tell you not to neuter him. If She gets mad, too bad, not her Rico anymore! Come up with a plan on how you plan to potty train him, obidence train him, and deal with the neutering issue and then go talk to the hubby. He may be more willing to listen if he sees you have a plan and have thought this through

good luck!!!

JesBred · 06-23-2010, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by TLC

At 1 year old - he is still young enough to learn love and be socialized.

Belly Bands are great for the humping and marking.

I say follow your heart

You CAN mold him to be what you want to be.

And down the road you CAN neuter him, after all - he will be YOURS

Agreed!!

BanditSocks2 · 06-23-2010, 08:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

Why would she not want him neutered if he's going to be a pet in someone else's home? Sounds to me like she just wants to have someone else feed/vet/care for him so she can use him as a sperm donor when the mood strikes.

As much as you want to save him, could you handle being stuck with the BYB in your life?

I agree!

Are contracts allowed to tell you NOT to neuter pets? I know a lot of shelters say you HAVE to neuter your puppy by a certain date for obvious reasons, but I've never heard of the opposite. I think you'd be a great home for him

lostnomad · 06-23-2010, 09:09 AM

Well, hubby is NOT on board. We have 4 dogs in the house already and he just doesn't feel we have the room for 1 more. Rico is so small, I don't see one more making a huge difference. I'm also the one who would be training him because I'm home all day. I'm thinking of doing a trial run (1 or 2 weeks) to see how it goes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Right?

Anywho, the BYB is adamant about the neuter. She is looking for a permanent home. However, she wants to be able to have access to Rico for another breeding to her female. Why? I don't know. Rico is NOT papered. And, I believe, he doesn't possess outstanding qualities that make him a wanted stud. The poor thing is better suited for a lap dog.

I've attached a pic of him. He's the one closest.

Roccosmommy · 06-23-2010, 09:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Rhetts_mama

Why would she not want him neutered if he's going to be a pet in someone else's home? Sounds to me like she just wants to have someone else feed/vet/care for him so she can use him as a sperm donor when the mood strikes.

As much as you want to save him, could you handle being stuck with the BYB in your life?

My thoughts EXACTLY! Also, whether it's you or anyone else that takes him, shouldn't he have paperwork that signs him over to the new owner? Otherwise, this BYB who sounds less than loving toward her pups, could re-claim him and use him as a sperm donor whenver she wants to. I feel so bad for this baby, because I read somewhere a while ago that excessive humping is a sign of anxiety.

ArmaniMan · 06-23-2010, 09:32 AM

Honestly, this doesn't sound like the greatest situation.

This "breeder" wants someone to train her dog, pay its medical bills and cost of keep and then use him as a stud whenever her heart so pleases, so she can get money out of him but not put anything into him. I personally wouldn't want to be any part of that.

shamrocks · 06-23-2010, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by ArmaniMan

Honestly, this doesn't sound like the greatest situation.

This "breeder" wants someone to train her dog, pay its medical bills and cost of keep and then use him as a stud whenever her heart so pleases, so she can get money out of him but not put anything into him. I personally wouldn't want to be any part of that.

Rhetts_mama · 06-23-2010, 10:02 AM

It's horrible that she's breeding an un-papered male. Anyone who does take him could potentially be on the hook for any pups he sires down the road.

The things she's doing makes her not only a BYB, but a very, very BAD one at that.

06-23-2010, 06:35 AM	#1
lostnomad Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sarasota, FL Posts: 35	An opportunity but hubby says NO! So the BYB I know is looking for a home for her male Yorkie. Rico is a 1 year old, sweet, little (1 1/2 lbs) boy who has a humping problem. He humps all day long. Anything and everything. He also isn't potty trained. The BYB has put stipulations on who she wants Rico to go to because she wants him close so she can visit him. She also says that he can't go to a home who will neuter him. AND she wants someone who is familiar with the breed. We've been offered the opportunity to have him but hubby says NO. I'm purely thinking with my heart on this one. Rico spends 9/10ths of his day in a crate. He gets little social interaction and is basically a sperm donor. That's it! At least in our home he would get the necessary interaction he needs to make him a great dog. Right now he's afraid of his own shadow. I just don't know what to do. I want this little guy to know what a loving home is all about but I also worry that too many negative things have been instilled in him that he may not overcome. Thoughts? Suggestions? __________________ Mom to Tensley, my ever curious, stubborn and independent Yorkie and Cheeky, my Katrina survivor, who brings such joy and peace to our lives.

06-23-2010, 06:46 AM	#2
RoscoesMommy42 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Morristown, TN Posts: 3,736	Awww....poor little thing. Why wouldn't she want him neutered?? __________________ Hello and hugs from Kristie & the furbabies! A world without yorkies is not a very bright one

06-23-2010, 06:47 AM	#3
Rhetts_mama Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 5,959 Blog Entries: 1	Why would she not want him neutered if he's going to be a pet in someone else's home? Sounds to me like she just wants to have someone else feed/vet/care for him so she can use him as a sperm donor when the mood strikes. As much as you want to save him, could you handle being stuck with the BYB in your life? __________________ Don't get your knickers in a knot. Nothing is solved and it just makes you walk funny.

06-23-2010, 07:00 AM	#4
TLC Slave to My Rug-Rats Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Long Island Posts: 7,247	At 1 year old - he is still young enough to learn love and be socialized. Belly Bands are great for the humping and marking. I say follow your heart You CAN mold him to be what you want to be. And down the road you CAN neuter him, after all - he will be YOURS __________________ Adopt Donate Foster www.yorkie911rescue.com

06-23-2010, 07:16 AM	#6
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	Awww, I hope you can persuade your DH that Rico is in need of a loving home and your in the position to give it to him......Good luck and I hope it works out..... __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

06-23-2010, 07:06 AM	#5
Priscilla80 BANNED! Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: The Hague(Den Haag)The Netherlands Posts: 370	Really weird why he can't be neutered.. And its sad to hear he is in his crate so long. good luck. x

06-23-2010, 08:13 AM	#8
Adi-and-Missy Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Torrance, CA Posts: 495 Blog Entries: 2	Once he's yours, she can't really tell you not to neuter him. If She gets mad, too bad, not her Rico anymore! Come up with a plan on how you plan to potty train him, obidence train him, and deal with the neutering issue and then go talk to the hubby. He may be more willing to listen if he sees you have a plan and have thought this through good luck!!! __________________ "Yorkies aren't our whole lives, but they make our lives whole." Last edited by Adi-and-Missy; 06-23-2010 at 08:17 AM. Reason: can't Spell

06-23-2010, 09:09 AM	#11
lostnomad Yorkie Yakker Join Date: May 2010 Location: Sarasota, FL Posts: 35	Well, hubby is NOT on board. We have 4 dogs in the house already and he just doesn't feel we have the room for 1 more. Rico is so small, I don't see one more making a huge difference. I'm also the one who would be training him because I'm home all day. I'm thinking of doing a trial run (1 or 2 weeks) to see how it goes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Right? Anywho, the BYB is adamant about the neuter. She is looking for a permanent home. However, she wants to be able to have access to Rico for another breeding to her female. Why? I don't know. Rico is NOT papered. And, I believe, he doesn't possess outstanding qualities that make him a wanted stud. The poor thing is better suited for a lap dog. I've attached a pic of him. He's the one closest. Attached Thumbnails __________________ Mom to Tensley, my ever curious, stubborn and independent Yorkie and Cheeky, my Katrina survivor, who brings such joy and peace to our lives.

06-23-2010, 09:32 AM	#13
ArmaniMan I ♥ Armani & Chloe Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 3,895	Honestly, this doesn't sound like the greatest situation. This "breeder" wants someone to train her dog, pay its medical bills and cost of keep and then use him as a stud whenever her heart so pleases, so she can get money out of him but not put anything into him. I personally wouldn't want to be any part of that. __________________ Armani & Chloe

06-23-2010, 10:02 AM	#15
Rhetts_mama Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgia Posts: 5,959 Blog Entries: 1	It's horrible that she's breeding an un-papered male. Anyone who does take him could potentially be on the hook for any pups he sires down the road. The things she's doing makes her not only a BYB, but a very, very BAD one at that. __________________ Don't get your knickers in a knot. Nothing is solved and it just makes you walk funny.