Everyone: can we TURN UP the COMPASSION here?

[chachi]

Originally Posted by ladyjane

I did not say that you did! I said that I saw someone say that she felt she did deserve different treatment.

I understand your points and I am not saying anything negative to or about you.

I keep seeing people talk about long term members leaving...and I just have my own thoughts about that.

And....honestly, you never know if anyone will be here the next day! Longevity is not a guarantee that they will be here. That is in real life as well..things happen and people move on to different things....different places.

Well I didnt see the post about the person who said they thought they should get different treatment but I dont agree with it either . There is no way they could run a site this size and diverse that way. I know people can and do leave for many reasons but when many say they are leaving because of the drama or are tired ofc the drama I take notice and thats all was saying. Nor do I think one group should dictate what everyone else does. I was just saying I take notice when long time members leave. Alot of them dont even say why they are leaving they just go

[hartygirl]

Originally Posted by Mardelin

I managed over 1,000 men across the country....and boy it took great effort to keep them from whining, calm and focused on their jobs.....

While I thoroughly enjoy YT, I think some of us get a bit touchy when a remark is made, some think it's directed and them, and off it goes. I try to remember that a good healthy debate is the best way to learn.

As far as someone being here longer than another, well that is not the best way to judge someone on their knowledge. I know if my mentor joined this forum today (when hell freezes over, cause she hates computers), and I didn't know her, just be the way she would post would, I would know that this woman was a woman of great knowledge.

Right you are, I have learned from every debate on here, and from some people I have learned what I DON'T want to be, but they educated me none the less.

[hartygirl]

Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

Seriously? It's completely realistic. It happens all the time here. And generally there are a good number of people who do beg them to stay. Sometimes they stay, sometimes they leave, and sometimes they come back after a while. I can think of a couple members this has happened with recently--they didn't like what they saw, left and had an outpouring of people that complained once they were gone.

Can you come back once you leave??

I always picture people threatening to leave making a pouty face like a baby, I no wike it here anymore, you no play nice im telling! moooooooom! Im leaving, hmmm.

If you can interpret that with a baby voice its sounds so cute

[BamaFan121s]

Originally Posted by hartygirl

Can you come back once you leave??

I always picture people threatening to leave making a pouty face like a baby, I no wike it here anymore, you no play nice im telling! moooooooom! Im leaving, hmmm.

Ha ha ha...yeah, I always kind of picture that too.

If you have Admin disable your account, you can always ask them to reactivate it later and pick up where you left off. (If they choose to allow it and as long as it's been at least 30 days since you left.)

But other than that, per site guidelines:
12. If you post a thread or post stating you will leave YorkieTalk, your post or thread will be deleted and your account will be permanently disabled.

[Ladymom]

Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

Ha ha ha...yeah, I always kind of picture that too.

If you have Admin disable your account, you can always ask them to reactivate it later and pick up where you left off. (If they choose to allow it and as long as it's been at least 30 days since you left.)

But other than that, per site guidelines:
12. If you post a thread or post stating you will leave YorkieTalk, your post or thread will be deleted and your account will be permanently disabled.

I love rule #12!

I belong to another forum with no such rule and a few members regularly post that they are leaving after giving us a tongue lashing, saying how fed up they are with the forum, etc. We even had one member threaten to leave because not enough people were commenting on her pictures! She counted the number of views versus the number of posts and was very offended that so many people looked, but didn't take the time to comment. Of course, they never really leave or if they do, they always return.

People threaten to leave for attention and love to be begged not to leave. I am so glad YT doesn't permit this type of drama.

[ladyjane]

Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

Seriously? It's completely realistic. It happens all the time here. And generally there are a good number of people who do beg them to stay. Sometimes they stay, sometimes they leave, and sometimes they come back after a while. I can think of a couple members this has happened with recently--they didn't like what they saw, left and had an outpouring of people that complained once they were gone.

Oh...my bad...poorly worded. I meant someone as in the admin or mod. I know people beg others to stay.

I did ask someone to stay when I saw that they were attacked unnecessarily. They really did not post and sit around waiting for us to beg. They posted they were leaving...and bang, they were gone. I did talk about it later...it honestly still galls me. Not a lot bothers me on the internet, but once in a while I see something that totally gets to me. Guess we all have that happen at one time or another.

[chandracz]

Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

Ha ha ha...yeah, I always kind of picture that too.

If you have Admin disable your account, you can always ask them to reactivate it later and pick up where you left off. (If they choose to allow it and as long as it's been at least 30 days since you left.)

But other than that, per site guidelines:
12. If you post a thread or post stating you will leave YorkieTalk, your post or thread will be deleted and your account will be permanently disabled.

I need to freshen up on my YT rules, because I didn't know about this rule or forgot...

[jp4m2]

Originally Posted by Nancy1999

I've seen some things happening in the past couple of months that I never noticed before. A person, might be upset because of a remark made in a post, and normally would have let it go, but a third party became involved, and fed their hurt pride until they were enraged. Friendships were fused by a common hatred. Hopefully, the cancer has been cut out, and Yorkietalkers can start focusing on why they are here, and that's a common love of dogs. While I think it's important to have compassion for people, I feel compassion for the dogs, as well, and since they can't speak up, we need to speak for them; hopefully we can do it with compassion.

I must say I have seen quite a bit of this on here too......There's a time for support and then there is a time to zip it.....

[mojo]

Originally Posted by chachi

Well I didnt see the post about the person who said they thought they should get different treatment but I dont agree with it either . There is no way they could run a site this size and diverse that way. I know people can and do leave for many reasons but when many say they are leaving because of the drama or are tired ofc the drama I take notice and thats all was saying. Nor do I think one group should dictate what everyone else does. I was just saying I take notice when long time members leave. Alot of them dont even say why they are leaving they just go

What do you mean by "just go". Are the accounts still active? I have gotten fed up or really disliked somebody that everybody else seemed to just love and have left for a while but eventually come back.
Are these people just taking a kind of break or gone for good with closed accounts?

And I know exactly what ladyjane is talking about. There were a few that were "my way or the highway"...ended up being the highway.

[chachi]

Originally Posted by mojo

What do you mean by "just go". Are the accounts still active? I have gotten fed up or really disliked somebody that everybody else seemed to just love and have left for a while but eventually come back.
Are these people just taking a kind of break or gone for good with closed accounts?

And I know exactly what ladyjane is talking about. There were a few that were "my way or the highway"...ended up being the highway.

They just leave but remain active on their account. Some leave and eventually come back some dont. I have recently learned someone who left here that I had alot of respect on here had the My way or the highway attitude and Im shocked. I just wouldnt have expected it from this person. Anyway so I know what LJ is saying also. I dont think Admin or the Mods should put up with that kind of attitude and honestly you couldnt or everyone would be doing it and it would be a mess

[violet voon]

Wonderful thread

[Rachael x]

Originally Posted by Wylie's Mom

I don’t know the right way to say this, so I’ll just say it plainly…

I'm hoping everyone on this board can stop and consider whether it is possible for them to be more compassionate to their fellow members.

You don’t have to love everyone. You don’t have to like everyone. You don’t have to like anyone, for that matter. But we do ask that you be respectful…that you try to be compassionate.

None of us have walked in anyone else’s shoes but our own, as far as I know. So until one of us has that capability, let’s not pretend we are overly fit to judge.

Words hurt people. Insinuations can hurt just as much as words. Before you post something…think of how you would feel if it was posted to YOU.

We don’t have to gush over each other (although it is welcome ), we don’t have to be fakey-nicey. You don’t have to be a Pollyanna. But please, do remember that every action, kind or otherwise, has consequences – in some way or another.

Thanks for reading this and for making YT such a wonderful place!

[Lou]

Originally Posted by manolos mom

You are very right Lou, its all about the dogs.

I almost missed this post. Thank you, I'm glad you see my point!

[sashazx75]

i so agree with wiley'smom..the people that bash or know it all should consider what they're dishing out and how would they feel if it was dished to them...i came on here to meet friends yes i met a very nice person and 3 ppl after they saw how bashed i got..i bred my yorkie to keep an offspring so even though i read books on the breed and wanted to be a vet so i read alot on different kinds of animals..i want to know first hand from ppl that experience the good with the bad..i was crucified for breeding my yorkie said i was putting a death notice on her...that was from a non breeder but breeders said i was doing it wrong to keep an offspring,a girl..sadly chloe had 3 pups would of been 4 but 1 was dead inside her,the vet gave her a needle to produce milk and to push him out..she had 2 boys and a girl but the girl died sadly 3 days later...the 2 boys are striving..i came on here to learn and too calm my nerves and know what they just made my nerves go out the door..1 of the breeder who lives 45min from me i called her when chloe was having them and she talked me threw it and calm me down and suggested i take her to the vet for the needle to produce the milk since she wasn't..glad i did x-ray showed only 3 pups..so i see what everyone is getting at if you don't like someone or going only say mean things to them my pt is to stuff it and shutup for once lol ty

[ladyjane]

Interesting how some people turn things into what they were never meant to be. I am going to stop at that because this is a nice thread and to give any further details would most likely turn it into a debate about compassion for people vs compassion for animals.
I personally go with the animals first since they do not have voices they can use to speak for themselves.