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09-26-2005, 08:15 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: MS
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| Is husband always going to be the Alpha??(Long) Hello, I am new to this forum and I absolutely LOVE it! I have a question about my new puppy. My husband and I have 2 pets and just bought another. We have a poodle, yorkipoo and now a yorkie. When we married, my husband had a chow and I had a poodle. My poodle was 10/11 years when we met and married and was my shadow completely. He followed me everywhere and had little to do with my husband, which made my husband a little jealous. His chow was just about the same with him. Anyway, after my sweet baby died at age 12, I waited about 6 months and got the 2nd poodle. He automatically favored my husband, right away. Always ran to him first when we would come home, sat in his lap (mostly) would even nip at me if i pretend rough-housed with my husband. So I just accepted this and when he was 1 year old, we got the yorkipoo. Same thing, except for the aggressiveness. This is the sweetest dog on earth. Truly. But he completely favors my husband. We were told this had something to do with my husband being the alpha male from a trainer. So now we have the little yorkie puppy(female) and she already gets along with the other two somewhat. She kinda runs the roost right now. She is 13 weeks old. It's too early to tell about cuddling with her, she just wants to go run and play and not be held by either of us yet. My question is this: Is it a given, that this puppy is going to go straight for my husband also? I just crave having a "lap dog" like my old faithful poodle. Dont get me wrong, my other two greet me, play with me and sleep by me too, its just obvious that I am their second choice..lol Thanks for any insight or advice. Sorry this is so long. I really love this site and look forward to reading posts! |
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09-26-2005, 08:20 PM | #2 |
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| I have heard that too that the dogs are such strong pack animals that they bond with the leader or alpha of the pack which is scary fo rme cuz mine are all bonded to me even though they each have an owner. My standard poodle tnd to favor my husband because he spends more time with him. I would just make sure that you are the one to spend the mst time with the new baby, feed it, train it, take it everywhere with you and I bet it will become your shadow. Welcme to YT and congratulations on your new baby!! |
09-26-2005, 08:25 PM | #3 |
Banning Thread Dictator Donating Member | I think you've got a fighting chance with the Yorkie. I spend much more time with Eddie than my wife does, but he's her dog. There was a time when he started favoring me, but I didn't encourage it. The main thing is he sleeps next to her. When he started coming over to my side of the bed, I moved him over next to her. Good luck.
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09-26-2005, 08:37 PM | #4 | |
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09-26-2005, 09:20 PM | #5 |
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| My Gus is a total mommy's boy. But then again I am the one here at home with him 24/7. He loves my husband too but he can't be with out momma. Even when I go somewhere and have to leave him behind, he will not play or cuddle to my husband. He just wants to lay on the sofa close to the door and waits for me to come home. He will kick back with the kids when I'm home and he knows I'm there and in eyesight. but once I get up and walk away,,, there he comes too. The only time Gus will run to Tim (my husband) is when he's in trouble. Or he sees me gettin his bath ready,,,,,, Then he wants daddy. It's so funny because Tim looks down and Gus is trying to jump into his arms, and he says every time, Oh no what did you do? or is it bath time?
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09-27-2005, 12:58 AM | #6 |
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| Boy Isnt it annoying.I have prudence 6 and a half months old.(yorkie) I take her everywhere but like you said too busy playing to cuddle too long.I have a cairn 4 years old.I feed him take him for walks spend time playing who does he want? my husband!My jack russell I feed her walk her sleeps in our bed totally spoilt like the cairn,at night whos knee does she sit on at night and stare lovinly into his eyes?my husband! argh!!! its soooooooooo annoying.
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09-27-2005, 03:42 AM | #7 |
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| We got our Rowdy for my husband who doesn't feel well most of the time and is home all day, every day. I work so I am gone during the day. However, I had to get up with Rowdy, feed him, take him out, take care of him when he was sick, etc etc whenever my husband was in bed (which was ALOT). My hubby did care for him while I was gone though. So, at first he seemed to favor me - but now that he is 7 months old, I think he favors us about equally. For example, my husband has been in the hospital for almost 2 weeks, and when he came home yesterday, Rowdy hardly left his lap. When I would go into another part of the house though, Rowdy followed me - but when I returned to the room where my husband was, Rowdy would get up on his lap and stay. It's like he thinks I'm alpha but he spends most of his time with my husband. One thing that I would do though, back when Rowdy seemed to favor me was to put him on my husbands lap over and over again - so that even though he thought I was alpha, I was telling him to stay with my husband. I think maybe that helped him to bond better with my husband. Now, I really think he is equally happy with either of us.
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09-27-2005, 10:21 AM | #8 | |
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09-27-2005, 11:45 AM | #9 |
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| I think that's sort of the same thing that has happened with Susan. My husband kept his distance from her for a long time; he's just now starting to make friends. But he waited until Susan was well bonded to me. I appreciate his efforts that way because I'm the one who longed for a dog. Of course, the fact that I'm the one who's home most helps, too. |
09-27-2005, 05:52 PM | #10 |
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| Thanks for all the great replies! I'll keep my fingers crossed |
09-27-2005, 07:12 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 10K Club Member | Is husband always going to be the Alpha??(Long) I let my hubby think he is...LOL. I do think that Trace thinks hubby's the alpha dog though. He loves me best.....Trace not my husband, well guess my husband loves me better than Trace. THAT is one confusing sentence. Let's just say Trace has bonded with me BUT in our bed at night it is daddy he curls up to or against. I think Trace thinks that's where "us,( he and hubby) alpha dogs sleep." He doesn't snuggle me until after hubby has gotten up, taken him out, and brought him back in. Trace has learned in the morning, you go out, do you thing, then come back inside and wait to be put back into bed.
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