Jealousy, Resentment, Avoidance

[luvmyYorkieJack]

So I brought home the newest addition to the family, Romeo. Jack loves other dogs so I felt that a brother would be great addition. I knew to expect him to be upset, I mean really it's been me and him for almost the last year. But how long does it last? Jack really won't let Romeo near him to sleep. Jack will get up and leave his spot if I touch the new puppy. When you got a new puppy, how long did it take before your baby accepted the new little one? I'm hoping he comes around cause Romeo is a little love bug and tries to chase Jack around but he's still so little that he either gets sidetracked or tired. Please help. Any suggestions would be great. Or just words of comfort that Jack will hopefully accept Romeo would be kindly appriciated. And pictures are on my profile if you would like to see Romeo.

[xxmxaxrxyxx]

give it some time...is Jack neutered? How old is Jack?

[luvmyYorkieJack]

Hey! I completely spaced out that information. Jack is a year and two months old and he was neutered right after I got him at 15 weeks. He loves other dogs when we are out and about so I'm pretty positive this will work out in due time. I just feel awful that he seems upset with me.

[Toby'sMama]

Just give them time. Don't try and force it. It took mine 3 to 4 weeks before he decided she MIGHT be fun to play with. (He was 6 years old when I got him his sister) Give your first one the first attention, treats, pets, snuggles, etc. After a couple of months -- he would get very upset if they were separated. Patience is the key!

[Patti]

I had an 8 year old only dog pom when I brought Cali home and she didn't really interact much with her as my Pom was always a loner. Then a year later I brought in Pixie who was 13 months and she fell in love with my pom Maya and Maya let Pixie sit in between her front paws and Pixie watched out for her as her health declined. Then when I brought in Roxie from the same breeder as Pixie and it was like they knew they were related. They love each other but still fight/play and get jealous when ones is getting my attention. I just would give Jack some time and extra attention and I bet they will be best of pals soon. I always made sure the existing dogs got fed first and their treats first too.

[luvmyYorkieJack]

Aw that is absolutely adorable. I am taking the pups to the dog park (there are two different enclosures and one serves better for big dogs which many people take them to and then the other one is smaller so a lot of the small dogs go there) for some extra out-of-the-house-off-leash playtime. I'm hoping it will help. But now I have a new problem.

I went to work and put Romeo in the kennel (it's a small one since it was only Jack) and he cried the ENTIRE time I was gone (like 5 hours). Do I get a bigger kennel so that I put Romeo and Jack in there together? I think that is all Romeo wanted was to be near him and Jack was out running around since he is potty trained. I don't want to force Jack to be there but I feel I don't have another choice. What do I do?

[Britster]

Originally Posted by luvmyYorkieJack

Aw that is absolutely adorable. I am taking the pups to the dog park (there are two different enclosures and one serves better for big dogs which many people take them to and then the other one is smaller so a lot of the small dogs go there) for some extra out-of-the-house-off-leash playtime. I'm hoping it will help. But now I have a new problem.

I went to work and put Romeo in the kennel (it's a small one since it was only Jack) and he cried the ENTIRE time I was gone (like 5 hours). Do I get a bigger kennel so that I put Romeo and Jack in there together? I think that is all Romeo wanted was to be near him and Jack was out running around since he is potty trained. I don't want to force Jack to be there but I feel I don't have another choice. What do I do?

If Jack is already potty trained and has had free roam, I would not put him in a crate with Romeo. That's not fair to Jack. I think you should just let Romeo cry, he will get used to it. You can't give in to his whining. Give him a fun toy or stuffed animal he likes to comfort him or an old t-shirt with your smell on it. You could also buy an ex-pen (you can get at Kmart, target, Petsmart etc) rather than putting him in a crate so he has more room.

[bchgirl]

How long has it been? You don't want Jack to feel as if Romeo is his replacement...which means for awhile your attention needs to be focused on Jack...not the puppy. Jack gets greeted first, feed first, loved on first etc. Eventually this isn't necessary as Jack is reassured of his status in the household.

I would not crate a dog who isn't tolerating a new addition well with a new puppy.

[lucirbc]

If you think he is crying because he wants to be with jack, then put his crate in the room that Jack spends most of his time. Then he can see him, juts not play with him. I have 2 of the dogs in crates next to eachother because they want to be close to eachother. Most of the time when i come home the dog that doesn't have to be crated is laying on the floor outside of the girls' crates!

[luvmyYorkieJack]

See that's how I feel too. Jack gets extra love and attention while Romeo is still adjusting being away from the litter. But I live in an apartment and Romeo is SO loud. I never had problems with Jack whinning and what not when he was kenneled so this is new to me. I do have an xpen and Jack does know how to climb out. That was my next step. I'm just trying to think of anything I can.

[manolos mom]

Yes, you need to give it some time. I was babysitting for XUXA the other day and LOLA was PO. She even tried to bite XUXA on the neck. After a day or two I had them all on my bed at night. She still acts a little PO but it gets better....