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05-10-2008, 04:00 PM | #1 |
I ♥ Franklin & Maggie Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma
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| Starting to regret... ..getting Maggie. I know this is probably normal but I've had probably one of the most stressful days of my life and Franklin and Maggie are not getting along and I'm about thiisss close to a nervous breakdown. For those of you who don't know, we just adopted a 3 and a 1/2 year old female yorkie. Franklin is only 7 months so all he wants to do is play with her and follow her around. Well she apparently does not like that. She growls and nips at him and is very possessive of her crate, and the couches. Mind you, she's only been here half a day. She is the epitome of queen bitch to Franklin. She's VERY sweet to us and when we went to the dog park, she was really friendly to the other dogs and to other people. It makes me so sad because all I wanted was for him to have a playmate. I think maybe Franklin is just really annoying so when we got back from the dog park, I took him for a short walk, just to kind of tire him out a little. Well Maggie laid on the couch and fell asleep and all Franklin did was bark at her. He likes her a lot and it just makes me so sad because he's my baby boy.. why wouldn't she like him? I think she may be overly stressed from the trip and everything but it worries me that she's already so dominant in MY house after only being here for a couple of hours. It looks like she'll need a lot of training.. I'm scared she's going to hurt him. Lastly -- there is something else that may be affecting her mood. We're not sure though. I think she might be pregnant.. which basically sucks for me. The reason why we believe this is because she doesn't seem to be overweight around the ribs or anything but she has a HUGE belly, and her nipples seem to be swollen. I don't any anything about female dogs though. I called the vet and we couldn't get in today so I'm bringing her in on Monday. Can anybody tell me what the signs would be? I'm on my last nerve today. I know I'm probably HUGELY overreacting but today has literally been the most stressful day of my life.
__________________ Diana , Mommy to Franklin, Maggie, Oliver, and Millie - RIP Piper |
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05-10-2008, 04:09 PM | #2 |
I love Jackson too! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ohio
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| Just give them some time, they will be okay. When we first brought Jackson home, Jake was a little over a year old. He is very much a mama's boy, so he got mad at ME. He wasn't mad at my hubby, just me. That, of course, broke my heart, but I just made sure I gave them both the same amount of attention, and I would take Jake outside for his "mommy and Jake" time so that he wouldn't be so upset. He stayed mad at me for about 3 days, and he really didn't want much to do with Jackson. He would get curious and check him out, but he wouldn't play with him. Jackson was a 10-week-old puppy, and he wanted to play and run around. Jake would sit on the couch and watch him, but he wouldn't play. I was lucky though, neither one of them nipped or growled at each other. After about the 4th day, they started playing together a little bit. Then, the two of them had a little barking match. Jake rarely barks, but he started barking at Jackson over a toy. Jackson barked back. This went back and forth for a minute or so, then they both just started playing and have a good ole' time, and they have been best friends ever since. It was like they both got the rules straight lol. It's hard, but don't get discouraged. Give them a little time, and I bet they will be playing together. As for her being pregnant, I sure hope not! I can't help you with that, but I do want to wish you all the best.
__________________ Selina, mommy to Jake and Jackson. RIP baby Lily Coming soon: Gracie |
05-10-2008, 04:12 PM | #3 |
Loved by Layla Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Canada
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| awww Diana. Sending large hugs. I'm sure because it is the first day everything is overwhelming to you and her. she doesn't know where she is or what is hers or not hers. So she is probably just protecting everything in hopes that no one will make her leave... again. Take a deep breath. You did a wonderful thing adopting her and it is going to take time. I think it is a GREAT thing that Franklin likes her.. because if he didn't that would be hard to get through... so its just her.. and again... she is adjusting. I've read on here it can take a while for rescues to adapt. Hopefully someone who has one can help. Hang in there bella. |
05-10-2008, 04:56 PM | #4 | |
I ♥ Franklin & Maggie Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma
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__________________ Diana , Mommy to Franklin, Maggie, Oliver, and Millie - RIP Piper | |
05-10-2008, 05:00 PM | #5 |
Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA
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| Give them a little time. Bringing an older dog in can be more difficult. There is the possibility that they will just tolerate each other. That is how mine are and Angel was a pup when I added her. I'm not a breeder and definitely not an expert, but from those I know females do get wierdly possessive when they are pregnant - its the hormones. Hope this isn't the case for you......
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05-10-2008, 05:06 PM | #6 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Upstate, NY
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| I think she is acting normally for a dog in her situation. I don't know what her situation was before you got her, but maybe she is on stimulation overload! If she is pregnant, that would be even more scary for her to make a new adjustment. Just give her little doses of Franklin at a time, and eventually she will be fine. I have an 8 mo. old puppy that doesn't know when it is time to stop ruff-housing, and the older two have to put her in her place.....she is learning! Good luck!! |
05-10-2008, 05:19 PM | #7 |
Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Houma LA
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| I completely understand what you are going through. I had a yorkie about 15years ago. He was given to me as an older dog and one of the conditions from my mom was that she felt that at 15 I should handle most of the responsibilites such as brushing. I remember what a chore the hair was and swore that though I loved him dearly I would never deal with a Yorkie again. When I lost my yorkie I adopted a Chihuahua from the local pound. Shortly after that I bought a Chi puppy also. Thirteen years later I lost the puppy that I adopted. I like having two dogs, that way they are never alone when everyone leaves. I decided that the personality of the Yorkie is what I really wanted so I decided to buy a yorkie but keep the hair short. Immediately after buying my Ava I started seacond guessing myself with the normal work a new puppy brings into a home. Ava is now over a year and I can't imagine a day without her. On top of that I keep her hair long. I am loving the time I spend brushing her everynight and she enjoys it too. My Chi that that I bought, I still have. He is not as social as the puppy I adopted and didn't take well to Ava. It took some work and putting them together in time intervals but it was so worth it. Other than the normal disagreements they get along fine.
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05-10-2008, 07:13 PM | #8 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS
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| It definitely takes awhile for the older dogs to adjust to the energetic puppies. My two senior girls are a prime example. It has taken just a little less than a year to finally be willing to walk past my boys and brush up against them without snarling. The girls still have their temperamental moments. They warn the boys with a growl or sharp bark, and the boys generally respect them and back off. One of the girls is 3 lbs. and they even listen to her. Find that interesting. One of the reasons I got Snowboy, a rescue Pommie, was so that Chipper would have someone to play with. Felt sorry for him that the girls refused to play with him. There is about five months difference in age and they have had a ball playing together. It was well worth the effort to get Chipper a playmate. If you can just grit your teeth and bear it for awhile it will work out. Good luck!
__________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012): |
05-10-2008, 07:27 PM | #9 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois
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| Oh, so sorry for the stress!! Just some Dog Whisperer advice.... make sure that everyone knows that you're the alpha dog. Then they can sort out the pecking order after that. Puppies are kind of annoying. Maybe it's a good time to try training Franklin how to show attention to Maggie without all the puppy obnoxiousness. We're still working on that with Coby. He loves Reggie and every time he first sees Reggie, he lunges, jumps on, play bites, barks. Then they're fine together. We're working on "greeting" without all the drama. I'm no help on the pregnancy issue - does where you got her from offer any clues? At least to help determine how far along if you find out she is. Good luck!!
__________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08 |
05-10-2008, 07:29 PM | #10 |
Kyle Plus 3 Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Washington, DC
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| Aww, I'm sorry. How long have you heard them? I'm sure they'll work it all out.
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05-10-2008, 07:41 PM | #11 | |
I ♥ Franklin & Maggie Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma
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I'm hoping this subsides within a week or two. If not, I'm not sure if I'll have any hair left......
__________________ Diana , Mommy to Franklin, Maggie, Oliver, and Millie - RIP Piper | |
05-10-2008, 08:01 PM | #12 |
Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Florida/Canada
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| Oh my sorry for the stress of getting another yorkie.. but I promise it will settle down.. once they get use to each other you will be so amazed at how much they cannot live without each other.. It is not easy with an older dog neither.. but she is so new.. Take some pictures of post them of her belly so we can have a look at her.. who did you get the dog from??? are they no help as to if she is prego or not.. Take a deep breath.. love her as much as you can.. and do not leave out your baby.. I remember my second one so well..and yet. when I got her spayed.. I brought her home and I told our brandie she was sick.. I layed her in her bed.. and he so gently laid down with her.. and they both slept.. it was so heartwarming..our first was so mellow brandie.. and casey was so full of herself.. anne |
05-10-2008, 08:23 PM | #13 |
Wee Winston Wiggles Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Kewanee, Illinois
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| I wish you all well, hope it works out and they learn to love one another. I don't know the story of where she was adopted from...she obviously is not spayed. But do the previous owners give any indication that she could possibly be pregnant? Did they have other dogs? If you can post a picture of her and her belly/nipples...I'm sure many here could give further advise. I've never had a female let alone a pregnant one, so I am of no help there. Be patient, I know it's hard...you did the right thing...she's going to fit in just fine. Wait and see. Now try to relax and get some rest yourself...they can tell when you are stressed out.
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05-10-2008, 08:44 PM | #14 |
Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Palo Alto, California
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| Puppy with older dog Even a 7 month old puppy can be very high energy - way too much for a new older dog to deal with right away. Give them each space - let the new dog settle down - maybe even in another room. Poor girl is probably very overwhelmed. Her snapping at the puppy is normal - it's warning him to leave her alone. She probably won't hurt him - a 7 month old pup should be able to take care of himself and to learn what she will tolerate. I bet in a week you will have two dogs that will like each other a lot! Karen |
05-10-2008, 09:08 PM | #15 |
I ♥ Franklin & Maggie Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oklahoma
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| Thanks for all the encouragement, everyone! I knew it would be hard.. I just got overwhelmed. Currently they are both sleeping in separate rooms - Maggie in her crate in the kitchen and Franklin next to me on the couch. I've been letting them interact with each other for bout 5 minutes every time I go in the kitchen.. for the most part they've been ignoring each other. I plan on keeping them separated completely for probably about a week or so until they get used to each other. They can play together supervised or at the dog park. I'm crossing my fingers that it gets better - she really is a sweet girl with people and even other dogs. It just must be something about Franklin and being inside.. I'm pretty sure she's used to being outside most of the time. I'm also hoping that she's not pregnant. If she is.. that changes everything.
__________________ Diana , Mommy to Franklin, Maggie, Oliver, and Millie - RIP Piper |
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