I'm so upset

[mojo]

Originally Posted by Go4HelloKitty

You did nothing wrong! You are right, if she doesn't like dogs, better move somewhere else that doesn't allow dogs. That's her problem, not yours.

Sounds like she doesn't like people either. She sounds bitter.

[michiko]

I would have said "would you like me to put a muzzle on you?" for making such a comment. Well.. I am usually respectful to elders too as that is one biggest custom for Japanese people.. but oh well.

Originally Posted by Akina

I live in dog friendly apartment and all my neighbor love Momiji except this old lady across from my apartment.
I have only seen her twice since I moved 8 month ago.
She made nasty comments and I am just so upset.
Momiji barks when I leave home but as soon as I close the door, she stops barking, maybe a little whine a bit but she will stop that soon as well.
Anyhow this lonely miserable old lady (sorry, I am usually respectful to elder but not today with this person) said to my face "You should put muzzel on her".
So I gave my opinion "would you say the same thing to a mother with loaud child?"
She said I am not logilcal, dog and baby are different, so I told her she is my baby, then she said she hope I won't have a child.
I think that is extremely rude comment.
I know there are different opinions in the world and I have a feeling she thinks her opinion is the only correct one.
On the record, I told her if Momiji was barking all day, I apologize and she said she doesn't.
ewwww I wish she would just move but I know she won't until she dies. (you know what I mean...)

[yorkiegirl83]

I'm sorry you are going through this .

I've found that neighbors for the most part will always find something to complain about! I'm sure that some of mine aren't thrilled I have dogs, but I don't have any concrete proof besides hearing it through the grapevine.

My advice is just to smile, wave, bite your tongue and ignore her!

You aren't doing a thing wrong and as long as your baby isn't barking all day, there's no reason for her to be nasty about it.

Dogs bark -- simple as that.

[YorkieChick1]

She must be mean because you are one of the sweetest people I've met!! And Momiji, how can you not fall in love with her!! She is one of the tiniest and sweetest dogs ever!! So sorry but you know it's not you, she's just lonely and miserable. Hopefully you can just ignore her and she will ignore you too! Sorry you were sick this week too! We missed you at the meetup!

[chinovince]

the best way is to ignore, nothing we can do about that. That's absolutely personal problem, her problem, if you can deal with her as like as she doesn't exist, you have gained your ability, I always have the same problem, the only way is to walk away from the sick people, no use to discuss or talk, I also only want a peace, therefore they do what they want and say what they wish, I don't take any in heart, try the best to ignore.

[Akina]

Thank you all for your support!!!!
I knew I wasn't in the wrong.
I just check on my pet cam, Momiji is sleeping, just like every day.
So I know for sure she doesn't bark all day!!!
I'll keep my head up and smile because I know what goes around comes around.
I feel better and I want to gain more positive energy from everyone!!!
Thanks!!!!

p.s.
yes Momiji is one of the tiniest yorkie I ever had, only 3 lb little girl.
Since the lady doesn't like dog, I won't let Momiji near her, I have common sense, you know.

[deb22]

Someone said kill her with kindness. I agree.You can win her over. Take her something you baked. Pick up items from store when you go. Check and see if she is ok from time to time. If that doesn't work. Then to h-ll with her. At least you tried.
But it is hard to live with nasty neighbors. I have been there.

[MindieRose]

I have an elderly couple that moved into the house next door last October. We had lived here for 2 years at the time, and all of those 2 years that house had been vacant. When they moved in, Cleo would bark at them if they were outside. I would only let her out for a few minutes at a time if they were out because I didnt want her barking at them. I completely understood why though. With that property being empty for so long, she assumed it was our land, shes a dog, she doesnt know what property lines are when the property is unoccupied. One day the man came over and asked to see my dad I was like "my DAD doesnt live here, but my HUSBAND does". He says "well then, let me speak to your HUSBAND". At this point I am pissed because he is one of "those" type that doesnt deal with women. He told my husband Cleo had been outside for 2 HOURS barking at him nonstop. Yeah right, I have NEVER left her outside for 2 hours. We have a fenced in backyard with about 2-3 acres between our houses. SO, a few days later, I was walking Cleo, and the neighbor lady was outside doing yardwork with her son who was working a chainsaw. Cleo was upset. The lady came up to me, and I apologized for my dog barking, explained that my dog has never been out for 2 hours before, rather maybe 10 minutes, and told her that Cleo is just not used to anyone living there. She was rather unsympathetic, but bent down to pet Cleo. She was wearing gardening gloves and Cleo is terrified of gloves and hoods. Cleo nipped at her, missed, but still, the lady was clearly irritated. I dont tolerate dogs that bite, but that lady obviously hates her, not to mention her son was standing behind her holding a running chainsaw, while she had gloves on. Thats scarey to a little dog.
Now they are always standing in their yard staring at my house, all the time. I HATE it. I need a privacy fence just on that side. Its like they have nothing better to do than to stare at my house and complain.

[Akina]

Originally Posted by MindieRose

I have an elderly couple that moved into the house next door last October. We had lived here for 2 years at the time, and all of those 2 years that house had been vacant. When they moved in, Cleo would bark at them if they were outside. I would only let her out for a few minutes at a time if they were out because I didnt want her barking at them. I completely understood why though. With that property being empty for so long, she assumed it was our land, shes a dog, she doesnt know what property lines are when the property is unoccupied. One day the man came over and asked to see my dad I was like "my DAD doesnt live here, but my HUSBAND does". He says "well then, let me speak to your HUSBAND". At this point I am pissed because he is one of "those" type that doesnt deal with women. He told my husband Cleo had been outside for 2 HOURS barking at him nonstop. Yeah right, I have NEVER left her outside for 2 hours. We have a fenced in backyard with about 2-3 acres between our houses. SO, a few days later, I was walking Cleo, and the neighbor lady was outside doing yardwork with her son who was working a chainsaw. Cleo was upset. The lady came up to me, and I apologized for my dog barking, explained that my dog has never been out for 2 hours before, rather maybe 10 minutes, and told her that Cleo is just not used to anyone living there. She was rather unsympathetic, but bent down to pet Cleo. She was wearing gardening gloves and Cleo is terrified of gloves and hoods. Cleo nipped at her, missed, but still, the lady was clearly irritated. I dont tolerate dogs that bite, but that lady obviously hates her, not to mention her son was standing behind her holding a running chainsaw, while she had gloves on. Thats scarey to a little dog.
Now they are always standing in their yard staring at my house, all the time. I HATE it. I need a privacy fence just on that side. Its like they have nothing better to do than to stare at my house and complain.

ewww, I thought if I was able to afford a house I won't have to worry about a nasty neighbor but I was wrong!!!
I feel for you.
Hope your neighbor won't bother you too much.
And I know what you mean by "that type who doesn't deal with woman."
What an @#%hole!!!!

[Bella's Mommy]

awe I'm sorry to hear about all of this! It can ruin your life when you get one bad neighbor and dont let that happen!

[Potter]

So sorry to hear the stories. Some people are just complainers and are bitter. Most old people that I have met are either too nice that you can't help but love them and the other ones are the meanies. When you get an old meanie, they usually are very very mean. Don't mean to be impolite but you get what I am trying to say.

[MaxwellHouse]

Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

Let that be a lesson to all you young squirts. Your faults will be multiplied by 100 as you get older. I should know. I'm there. She may be a lonely old lady and has to get her kicks somehow and you just happen to be her target. Good idea to "kill her with kindness." Just might be the answer. She might get to loving your furbaby so much that she would babysit her when you have to be gone. Never hurts to try.

I was thinking the very same idea. It's worth a try. Go over board being nice. Sometimes it works. Now, granted, I had a horrible neighbor lady for 11 years. We finally moved because of her. She had a love/hate relationship with our big dog. She would come over to our yard and talk to him, then moments later she would curse at him, then come back to apologize to him and hug him. We would watch her from our deck. Poor dog didn't know what was up. We finally had to tell the police to tell her to stay off our property. She wouldn't listen to us. BUT if your neighbor is NOT a psycho like ours was, kindness just may work.

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by MindieRose

I have an elderly couple that moved into the house next door last October. We had lived here for 2 years at the time, and all of those 2 years that house had been vacant. When they moved in, Cleo would bark at them if they were outside. I would only let her out for a few minutes at a time if they were out because I didnt want her barking at them. I completely understood why though. With that property being empty for so long, she assumed it was our land, shes a dog, she doesnt know what property lines are when the property is unoccupied. One day the man came over and asked to see my dad I was like "my DAD doesnt live here, but my HUSBAND does". He says "well then, let me speak to your HUSBAND". At this point I am pissed because he is one of "those" type that doesnt deal with women. He told my husband Cleo had been outside for 2 HOURS barking at him nonstop. Yeah right, I have NEVER left her outside for 2 hours. We have a fenced in backyard with about 2-3 acres between our houses. SO, a few days later, I was walking Cleo, and the neighbor lady was outside doing yardwork with her son who was working a chainsaw. Cleo was upset. The lady came up to me, and I apologized for my dog barking, explained that my dog has never been out for 2 hours before, rather maybe 10 minutes, and told her that Cleo is just not used to anyone living there. She was rather unsympathetic, but bent down to pet Cleo. She was wearing gardening gloves and Cleo is terrified of gloves and hoods. Cleo nipped at her, missed, but still, the lady was clearly irritated. I dont tolerate dogs that bite, but that lady obviously hates her, not to mention her son was standing behind her holding a running chainsaw, while she had gloves on. Thats scarey to a little dog.
Now they are always standing in their yard staring at my house, all the time. I HATE it. I need a privacy fence just on that side. Its like they have nothing better to do than to stare at my house and complain.

Next time you see them staring at you go sit out there, face them, and just stare at them. Maybe even wave or blow kisses!!