Bella fell of the top bunk!

[maxs_momma]

What can i do my 17 year old daughter (18 next month) will not listen to me or hubby we told her don't let Bella sleep with you on the top bunk put her in her cage if she whines just walk away she has to be in the cage at night no matter what because #1 it is safe there #2 she still needs a heat light 3# we are trying to crate train her well she tells me this morning that Bella fell off her bed i started freaking out WHAT HOW!? so she tells me that she was whining so she let her sleep with her AGAIN so i am guessing she lets her sleep with her alot I am yelling by now asking what happened did she fall on the floor? She tells me that she fell on a pile of clean laundry that she had on the floor (she is lazy kid) well i start checking Bella over scared something is totally wrong and she gets all crappy with me and says MOM SHE IS FINE I ALREADY CHECKED HER! well i ignore and check her anyway then i said i can't believe she fell when i was really wanting to say i can't believe you let her sleep on top bunk with you and she snaps back I KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE TO REMIND ME I FEEL BAD ENOUGH ALREADY! I mean she is getting really snotty to me about it what can i do if anything? If i tell her what to do with Bella she will just send her to stay with her boyfriend (the one who bought her for her) and he doesn't watch her at all! and no one is home at all for hours and hours at his house during the day guys please tell me there is something i can do to save this baby from her own mommy

[Ellie May]

I would call your vet and see if they need to see her. That is atleast seven feet and she might need to be seen. I don't know what you can say to your daughter but that could have caused a concussion and/or death very easily. Two feet would be a long way to fall.

[jen0225]

I am really not sure how to handle this, does your daughter really want her her or is it just that Bella was a gift? If she really only wants her because she was a gift, maybe you and your husband could offer to buy her from your daughter &/or her boyfriend. Seems like you would be a better mom for Bella & teenagers are usually more attracted to money than anything else.

[maxs_momma]

Originally Posted by Ellie May

I would call your vet and see if they need to see her. That is atleast seven feet and she might need to be seen. I don't know what you can say to your daughter but that could have caused a concussion and/or death very easily. Two feet would be a long way to fall.

I am sorry i got so caught up in asking what to do i left out the vet part yes i took her in first thing this morning and everything was okay i am sorry about that...that was one of the most importnat parts to.

[littlewhip]

Iam so happy she is ok, thats a long fall for a small dog talk to your daughter and tell her just how fragile these little ones are, Have her look on her for an hr, that might give a better idea as to what can happen.

[Ellie May]

That is a good idea. Sentence her to reading the injury threads on YorkieTalk.

[karen171]

Originally Posted by jen0225

I am really not sure how to handle this, does your daughter really want her her or is it just that Bella was a gift? If she really only wants her because she was a gift, maybe you and your husband could offer to buy her from your daughter &/or her boyfriend. Seems like you would be a better mom for Bella & teenagers are usually more attracted to money than anything else.

I like Jen0225's idea. Maybe your daughter isn't ready for the responsiblity of Bella. She might welcome some help. For Bella's sake I hope she can stay under your care. That would be so sad if she sent her to the neglectful boyfriend's. So glad the vet said she wasn't injured...it's a miracle she fell into something soft. I would talk to your daughter about this... but not in an accusing way. Being a teenager she would resent that. Good luck and hope it turns out all right.

[ARCHIE]

The only thing I can think of to tell her is, if you had a baby and it was crying in the middle of the night would you put the baby next to you in
a top bunk bed and go back to sleep?

I do hope she say's no. Sometimes when you can relate something
else to kids they understand. Hopefully she does and you won't be stressed worring about it any longer.
Good luck,

[maxs_momma]

Originally Posted by jen0225

I am really not sure how to handle this, does your daughter really want her her or is it just that Bella was a gift? If she really only wants her because she was a gift, maybe you and your husband could offer to buy her from your daughter &/or her boyfriend. Seems like you would be a better mom for Bella & teenagers are usually more attracted to money than anything else.

No it isn't because she is a gift because she ask for her and has wanted one forever but it isn't for the right reasons she only wanted her so she could be another brittney spears or paris hilton she wants her as a fashion accessory but she don't want me to have her.

[domesticated08]

Originally Posted by Ellie May

That is a good idea. Sentence her to reading the injury threads on YorkieTalk.

Good idea!!

[maxs_momma]

Originally Posted by ARCHIE

The only thing I can think of to tell her is, if you had a baby and it was crying in the middle of the night would you put the baby next to you in
a top bunk bed and go back to sleep?

I do hope she say's no. Sometimes when you can relate something
else to kids they understand. Hopefully she does and you won't be stressed worring about it any longer.
Good luck,

Well i did and she just thinks i am being a smartass about it she is at that stage where if i say anything she snaps back at me about it no matter what it is.

[TurtleDove]

Originally Posted by jen0225

I am really not sure how to handle this, does your daughter really want her her or is it just that Bella was a gift? If she really only wants her because she was a gift, maybe you and your husband could offer to buy her from your daughter &/or her boyfriend. Seems like you would be a better mom for Bella & teenagers are usually more attracted to money than anything else.

That's a really good idea

[maxs_momma]

I will try to get her to come on here and read some of the injuries that other have had or that can heppen

[vanessa19]

okay, I'm only 21 and i just got married 5 months ago so I still lived at home until then, and if I would have talked back to either one of my parents they would have taken everything away from me (epecially if i was 17-18) they would have taken my car i wouldnt have been able to see my boyfriend the only thing i could have done is gone to school and they would have taken me to make sure i was there. I would threaten her with that, the puppy is a living being and needs to be taken care of it's not fair to the baby, but when my parents threatened taking my car, cell phone, and boyfriend away my attitude completely changed!!! I hope this advice works for you!!

[Ladymom]

Ah, I remember the teenage days and how 17 was the worst age.

With that said, you must remember that you are still her mother and she is living under your roof. She must abide by your rules whether she likes it or not. If she screws up, like she just did, there are consequences.

First, I would take Bella to the vet to be checked for injury. Your daughter should be responsible for every penny of that bill if she has to lose her allowance for months. Make her work off the bill doing chores. She will hate it - that's part of being a teenager, but it will teach her some responsibility about pet ownership.

I would not allow her to have Bella alone in her room unsupervised until she has proven she can care for her. Again, she will hate it, but we are talking about a living creature, not something that can be broken and tossed out.

While Bella is living in your house, you will have to be her mommy, not your daughter. She is obviously not responsible enough for pet ownership.

Did her boyfriend consult you before getting her a puppy for Christmas? This is a perfect example of why pets as gifts are such a bad idea.