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Nikki+2 · 01-09-2008, 01:11 PM

Here's one of my threads that show how easily they can be hurt. http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...ght=concussion This was a concussion as a result from falling from a desk chair. Does she at least have a bottom bunk she can sleep in?

maxs_momma · 01-09-2008, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by vanessa19

okay, I'm only 21 and i just got married 5 months ago so I still lived at home until then, and if I would have talked back to either one of my parents they would have taken everything away from me (epecially if i was 17-18) they would have taken my car i wouldnt have been able to see my boyfriend the only thing i could have done is gone to school and they would have taken me to make sure i was there. I would threaten her with that, the puppy is a living being and needs to be taken care of it's not fair to the baby, but when my parents threatened taking my car, cell phone, and boyfriend away my attitude completely changed!!! I hope this advice works for you!!

Oh believe me it has came down to that i have threatened many times and it does work but onlt for a short time then right back to being herself see Brittany is a materialistic person i didn't raise her like that but that is how she turned out to be. Honestly she wouldn't have the boyfriend she has now if his family wasn't loaded she will only date rich boys and she has to have the best of the best like louios vuitton channel uggs tiffany you name it she has it most are gifts from boyfriends or their mothers i honestly think this child was switched at birth because i am just the opposite

maxs_momma · 01-09-2008, 01:26 PM

I did take her and my daughter is paying the bill (she works) my fear is that she will send Bella off to be with her boyfriend and he does not watch her at all and no one is ever home at his house not only that she will be 18 next month and she can just up and go and take Bella with her and god only knows what would happen to the poor girl then

And NO no one consulted us about anything she just calls me christmas eve and says hey mom i got my dog for christmas

the thing is she had mentioned wanting one back in september october and november and we told her flat out NO you cannot have a dog! But you see how well she listens and now that Bella is here there is no way we can turn the poor baby away we love her to death and like i said in a prior thread Brittany goes to school all day and then works some day and dances on the dance team others so i have been with Bella alot and i have gotten very attached to her so there is no way i can tell her she has to find her a new home that would kill me

I will talk to my husband about everything you guys have told me and hopefully he can put his foot down and get her to listen to him. She has papers for the dog and they are in her name so if i tried to stop her from taking the dog anywhere (like her boyfriends) couldn't she call teh law on me?

maxs_momma · 01-09-2008, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Nikki+2

Here's one of my threads that show how easily they can be hurt. http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...ght=concussion This was a concussion as a result from falling from a desk chair. Does she at least have a bottom bunk she can sleep in?

Thank you so muich for that i saved it to my favorites and i am going to make her read it when she gets home

For My Coby · 01-09-2008, 01:37 PM

Perhaps another way you can approach this....

You are the parent, but it sounds like you have a wonderfully willful child on your hands too.

And balancing setting rules, boundaries, and limitations (sound like Cesar, huh?) on your children while not alienating them completely is hard.

She does care about Bella. I mean her crying at least moved her to try to do something kind (although very dangerous and irresponsible). She didn't get angry and kick the kennel. So maybe start there on a good note. When our babies are hurting, crying, sad, etc., we want to reach out to them, but even when it goes against what we "want" to do, we have to do the responsible thing and "avoid" negative consequences. Perhaps there are baby stories about her that you can share. I'm sure that her cries broke your heart at different times, but because of safety issues or training issues or something else, you had to do something other than your first desire (like putting the baby in bed with you if your bed was not a safe place for a baby). Good luck. I know that preserving the relationship with your daughter is important just as the safety of Bella is.

Wylie's Mom · 01-09-2008, 01:49 PM

She's your tiny one, right? She's the one w/ the hypoglycemia issues? Yikes, I'd be terrified if I were you too!

There is a member on here who dropped a calculator (while sitting in a chair) and it fell on her yorkie's head (a rather tiny yorkie) and the pup almost DIED. She had to give her mouth to mouth and revive her. Luckily, she lived. There are plenty of stories on here where a yorkie fell off of a sofa - and died.

I would share these stories with her, calmly, and just ask her to really put herself in these stories - and ask her to really feel how it would be afterward for her if something like this happened. It would be one of those things she might live w/ forever - and re-live over and over and over. I hope she changes her mind about how cautious she's being...

Gracie2006 · 01-09-2008, 02:54 PM

Maybe you could offer to Foster Bella until your daughter has enough maturity to handle the responsibility of Bella's safety and training?

Bizzymammabee · 01-09-2008, 03:01 PM

Oh man that is a rough situation. Sometimes you just want to smack them kids upside the head... I know about that

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I agree if you can get her to read the postings maybe it will help out a lot.

Good luck.

Yorkiedaze · 01-09-2008, 03:07 PM

Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks. As long as she is living in your house, then you set the rules.

red98vett · 01-09-2008, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks. As long as she is living in your house, then you set the rules.

I wont repeat what others are saying but it's common sense that a puppy or baby could fall off a top bunk and you all were very very lucky that poor puppy wasn't killed....

nikkinack · 01-09-2008, 03:16 PM

My husband never listens to me, he puts lily on the bed with him every chance he gets so I told him if she gets hurt you can be the one who takes her to the vet and explain what happened and pay the bill. I would tell her she needs to pay the vet bill mabe she will think twice about Bellas safety. It does not sound like she is quit ready for the big responsibility, I am glad she is ok.

Beabble · 01-09-2008, 03:32 PM

I know this is going to sound harsh, but MAYBE it will work. Could you maybe perhaps offer to buy Bella from her? That way Bella really IS yours and you CAN tell her what she can and cannot do with Bella? Kids, they like to think they know it all once they turn 18. If that don't work, then I'd simply tell her, look, you're living in your Dad and I's house, you either follow our rules and show us the respect we deserve, or, the privledge of having a puppy while living in your home will no longer be an option for her. Hopefully now she understand that accidents can and DO happen and she needs to make better choices to ensure her puppy remains safe and doesn't get hurt. If she can't do those things, then perhaps she isn't mature enough to have a puppy. I'm glad the pups ok, but next time she may not be so lucky. Hopefully there isn't a next time though. Good luck!

abbie's mom · 01-09-2008, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks.

.....That's what I was about to suggest! If she can't stand her whining....get down on her level to SAFELY comfort.

MiLeighsMoM · 01-09-2008, 03:52 PM

ok im 24... i live 2 and a half hours away from my parents.. If i would have thought about talkin to my mom like that i bet she could get here in 30min... I had anything and everything i wanted growin up.. i didn't even have to work i chose to when i turned 20... Then i moved out...I want a tattoo so bad i can't stand my self... But to hear my mom tell me she is Disapointed in me or hear her Cry cuz of something i did.. That hurts me worse then anything she could take.. oh my god then her not talk to me

... Thats why i don't have one... But her Rule was.. Until you move out of MY house these are MY Rules... and Don't let her hear you say but im 18,21 heck 41 she will go ape on you lol... She took my cell away from me for a YEAR cuz i ran the bill to 2000$.. i was 18...

Nikki+2 · 01-09-2008, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiedaze

Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks. As long as she is living in your house, then you set the rules.

That is brilliant! Yorkiedaze I'm coming to you if my daughter ever starts acting up.

01-09-2008, 01:11 PM	#16
Nikki+2 I heart Sugar Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Florida Posts: 7,373	Here's one of my threads that show how easily they can be hurt. http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...ght=concussion This was a concussion as a result from falling from a desk chair. Does she at least have a bottom bunk she can sleep in? __________________ "If you have men who will exclude any of God’s creatures from the shelter of compassion and pity, you will have men who will deal likewise with their fellow men." — St. Francis of Assisi, 1181-1226

01-09-2008, 01:37 PM	#20
For My Coby Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Illinois Posts: 4,139	Perhaps another way you can approach this.... You are the parent, but it sounds like you have a wonderfully willful child on your hands too. And balancing setting rules, boundaries, and limitations (sound like Cesar, huh?) on your children while not alienating them completely is hard. She does care about Bella. I mean her crying at least moved her to try to do something kind (although very dangerous and irresponsible). She didn't get angry and kick the kennel. So maybe start there on a good note. When our babies are hurting, crying, sad, etc., we want to reach out to them, but even when it goes against what we "want" to do, we have to do the responsible thing and "avoid" negative consequences. Perhaps there are baby stories about her that you can share. I'm sure that her cries broke your heart at different times, but because of safety issues or training issues or something else, you had to do something other than your first desire (like putting the baby in bed with you if your bed was not a safe place for a baby). Good luck. I know that preserving the relationship with your daughter is important just as the safety of Bella is. __________________ Diane, and my boys ..... Coby and Reggie !! Striving to be a YTPP - a YT Positive Poster! In Memory of My Beautiful Mother 7/22/28-8/27/08

01-09-2008, 01:49 PM	#21
Wylie's Mom Furbutts = LOVE Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Phoenix, AZ Posts: 35,889 Blog Entries: 2	She's your tiny one, right? She's the one w/ the hypoglycemia issues? Yikes, I'd be terrified if I were you too! There is a member on here who dropped a calculator (while sitting in a chair) and it fell on her yorkie's head (a rather tiny yorkie) and the pup almost DIED. She had to give her mouth to mouth and revive her. Luckily, she lived. There are plenty of stories on here where a yorkie fell off of a sofa - and died. I would share these stories with her, calmly, and just ask her to really put herself in these stories - and ask her to really feel how it would be afterward for her if something like this happened. It would be one of those things she might live w/ forever - and re-live over and over and over. I hope she changes her mind about how cautious she's being... __________________ ~ A friend told me I was delusional. I nearly fell off my unicorn. ~ °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨° Ann \| Pfeiffer \| Marcel Verdel Purcell \| Wylie \| Artie °¨¨¨°ºOº°¨¨¨°

01-09-2008, 02:54 PM	#22
Gracie2006 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Sequim, Wa Posts: 4,541	Maybe you could offer to Foster Bella until your daughter has enough maturity to handle the responsibility of Bella's safety and training? __________________ Gracie loves Bailey. Holly loves Tucker. Proud member of the YT Gracie Girls.

01-09-2008, 03:01 PM	#23
Bizzymammabee Luvs Lulu Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Queens, NY Posts: 6,931 Blog Entries: 1	Oh man that is a rough situation. Sometimes you just want to smack them kids upside the head... I know about that . I agree if you can get her to read the postings maybe it will help out a lot. Good luck. __________________ Lulu will always be in my heart

01-09-2008, 01:26 PM	#18
maxs_momma Living life with yorkies! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Indiana Posts: 1,722	I did take her and my daughter is paying the bill (she works) my fear is that she will send Bella off to be with her boyfriend and he does not watch her at all and no one is ever home at his house not only that she will be 18 next month and she can just up and go and take Bella with her and god only knows what would happen to the poor girl then And NO no one consulted us about anything she just calls me christmas eve and says hey mom i got my dog for christmas the thing is she had mentioned wanting one back in september october and november and we told her flat out NO you cannot have a dog! But you see how well she listens and now that Bella is here there is no way we can turn the poor baby away we love her to death and like i said in a prior thread Brittany goes to school all day and then works some day and dances on the dance team others so i have been with Bella alot and i have gotten very attached to her so there is no way i can tell her she has to find her a new home that would kill me I will talk to my husband about everything you guys have told me and hopefully he can put his foot down and get her to listen to him. She has papers for the dog and they are in her name so if i tried to stop her from taking the dog anywhere (like her boyfriends) couldn't she call teh law on me?

01-09-2008, 03:07 PM	#24
Yorkiedaze My hairy-legged girls Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: lompoc, ca. Posts: 12,228	Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks. As long as she is living in your house, then you set the rules.

01-09-2008, 03:16 PM	#26
nikkinack YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mid Michigan Posts: 1,510	My husband never listens to me, he puts lily on the bed with him every chance he gets so I told him if she gets hurt you can be the one who takes her to the vet and explain what happened and pay the bill. I would tell her she needs to pay the vet bill mabe she will think twice about Bellas safety. It does not sound like she is quit ready for the big responsibility, I am glad she is ok. __________________ Member of Petite Pups United and Spoiled Rotten Club Proud member of the CrAzYcLuB

01-09-2008, 03:32 PM	#27
Beabble YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,104 Blog Entries: 4	I know this is going to sound harsh, but MAYBE it will work. Could you maybe perhaps offer to buy Bella from her? That way Bella really IS yours and you CAN tell her what she can and cannot do with Bella? Kids, they like to think they know it all once they turn 18. If that don't work, then I'd simply tell her, look, you're living in your Dad and I's house, you either follow our rules and show us the respect we deserve, or, the privledge of having a puppy while living in your home will no longer be an option for her. Hopefully now she understand that accidents can and DO happen and she needs to make better choices to ensure her puppy remains safe and doesn't get hurt. If she can't do those things, then perhaps she isn't mature enough to have a puppy. I'm glad the pups ok, but next time she may not be so lucky. Hopefully there isn't a next time though. Good luck! __________________ ~Tracy~

01-09-2008, 03:52 PM	#29
MiLeighsMoM BANNED! Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: Lafayette, Louisiana Posts: 562	ok im 24... i live 2 and a half hours away from my parents.. If i would have thought about talkin to my mom like that i bet she could get here in 30min... I had anything and everything i wanted growin up.. i didn't even have to work i chose to when i turned 20... Then i moved out...I want a tattoo so bad i can't stand my self... But to hear my mom tell me she is Disapointed in me or hear her Cry cuz of something i did.. That hurts me worse then anything she could take.. oh my god then her not talk to me ... Thats why i don't have one... But her Rule was.. Until you move out of MY house these are MY Rules... and Don't let her hear you say but im 18,21 heck 41 she will go ape on you lol... She took my cell away from me for a YEAR cuz i ran the bill to 2000$.. i was 18...