I have a real problem!!! (lots of problems!!!)

[Cinq1964]

I am so glad you were able to get help. I have only 1 and can imagine he would be the same way as your Buddy! Good Luck!!! It will be all worth it in the end!!! Sounds like you are a loving caring mommie and they are very lucky to have you!!

[kalina82]

great to see some things are working out. Lucy will learn through watching what buddy does and what buddy gets. its easier to have an older dog and bring in a puppy because the older dogs help treat the younger ones.

can't wait to read about more improvements! good luck and have fun with your two babies.

[peanut]

just seeing this but you have got some excellent advise all ready, just hang in there it does take time. I would have suggested the same as everyone else has. Try the washable pads they are the best and they can't chew them up. She will watch Buddy and learn alot, and going outside with him will help. Hang in there, your doing a fantasic job

[Buddy-licious]

Just thought I would give you guys an update on the problems I am having.

Problem #1...Lucy has completely adjusted to pottying outside. You guys were right...once I started taking her outside it was not big deal.

Problem #2....the mudroom is still Lucy's area because that is where I have to keep her when I am not around. Things are not working out so well with Lucy and Buddy(my other spoiled Yorkie). Lucy loves Buddy but Buddy is not liking his new sister at all. Buddy is so sad all the time!! His personalty has completed changed!!! He will not come out from behind the sofa when she is in the room!!! We have tried everything!!! We are giving Buddy so much attention but is not working!!

Problem #3...Lucy's eating has improved so much. I have her on 1/2 kibble and 1/2 dry. She seems to be fine with this....she is just not a big eater and mostly Mom had to adjust to this. (I have been used to Buddy who eats a lot)

Problem #4....The toy situation has not improved at all. Lucy does not take any toys away from Buddy ....it is just that Buddy drops any toy if she walks by or he will not touch any toy if she is around!!! We have tried and tried to inner act with them but Buddy is completely withdrawn when Lucy is around and he is getting worse!!! Just breaks my heart...I want Buddy to love Lucy as much as we do!!!

Problem #5....the sitting with Mommy situation has gotten worse too. If Lucy is in my lap....Buddy will go hide!!!! So Mommy is dividing time with Buddy and Lucy. This is the only way I know to do it. I have tried and tried to play with them together, tried holding them together (Buddy will have NO part of that), tried giving them treats together (I do this all day long),....you name it ....I have tried it (I even took them both to a trainer this afternoon to see if he could get Buddy to play with her. The only way Buddy would play was if I took Lucy out of the room). Buddy is just so sad & depressed when she is around!!!

Please understand that Buddy is not mean to her but he just seems extremely depressed & sad since we got Lucy and is getting worse everyday.

What am I going to do? All this is causing my DH and I to fight and we NEVER fight!!! I guess I should not say we are fighting ...it is just that we are both stressed out over the situation. I am the one that is home all day and I think my DH is expecting to see some improvement each day when he gets home but Buddy is getting worse & worse with each day.
Has any of this ever happened to anyone else? I am at a loss!!!!

[kalina82]

i'm sorry some things are getting worse. it seems like your doing everything right. I guess it just takes time. Buddy should eventually adjust to her. He may not love her but he should at least tolerate her to the point where he can go back to his normal ways. Keep at it. things will change for the better soon. i know its stressful and upsetting.

[tjdmom]

How about walking them together? I found it helped my two get along a little better. I hope it will help.

[Patti]

In time they will get along better. My Pom was a cranky (still is) only dog for 8 years when we brought Cali home and she ingnored her but they coexisted.When we brought Pixie home a year later she loved Maya and just insisted on laying almost on top of her all the time and now Maya loves her and is protective of her. But it takes time.

[YorkichonBella]

I think as your new little one gets older, things will continually improve. My daughter's little guy stayed with me half the time and I got so attached, and him to me. My daughter was even jealous of the attachment to me because he followed me everywhere, wanted to sleep with me, etc. We eventually called it "going to Gran ma ma's house". Well soon, I missed him soooooo much when he left, I got my own little girl. At first, he did the same thing. You could tell with his personality, but as she grew, things improved. They are now so close. They love one another! At first, though the little one was the aggressive one. She dominated the toys! She outgrew it as we showed them both love and discipline, just like "real kids". We also confined them together in the kitchen at times. They had their own time to get acquainted. Maybe that will help them to adjust. I wish you all the best. You are a Great Mommy!! enuf LUV for 2

[4doggiemama]

My two seniors barely tolerate my two boys. Just a few minutes ago I had to get after Rosie for all the cranky barking she was doing at Snowboy. There's not much love lost between her and my two boys. We've had Chipper for over a yr. now and not much has changed since the day I walked in the door with him. One reason I rescued Snowboy was so that Chipper would have someone to play with and leave the girls alone. It has worked out quite well. The girls get to snooze in the corner of the couch while the boys tussle on the floor. Once in awhile they bring it up on the couch---then the deal is on.

[txrosegirl]

awwwww i was so hopeful after seeing the first update that things were better but it looks like sweet buddy is still sad and not adjusting as well as you would like him to

i really think it WILL get better with time and it has been less than 2 weeks, right? i am sure buddy is just not used to sharing you and your hubby and it will take some time for him to realize that you still love him just as much...

in the meantime, perhaps you could give him the mudroom back so he still has "his space" ... as little as that may seem, it is something familiar to him and something that has not changed with the arrival of miss lucy? if you give him his space back, he might realize sooner that he is still your spoiled little boy who is loved very very much

good luck and i am going to keep checking this thread for updates!

[Buddy-licious]

Originally Posted by txrosegirl

awwwww i was so hopeful after seeing the first update that things were better but it looks like sweet buddy is still sad and not adjusting as well as you would like him to

i really think it WILL get better with time and it has been less than 2 weeks, right? i am sure buddy is just not used to sharing you and your hubby and it will take some time for him to realize that you still love him just as much...

in the meantime, perhaps you could give him the mudroom back so he still has "his space" ... as little as that may seem, it is something familiar to him and something that has not changed with the arrival of miss lucy? if you give him his space back, he might realize sooner that he is still your spoiled little boy who is loved very very much

good luck and i am going to keep checking this thread for updates!

Thank you for your sweet comments!!!! As for the mud room...having giving that area has really worked out very well for Buddy. I know that I originally called the mudroom "Buddy's room" but he rarely was in there but to eat or get a toy. Now I have all his toys in the family room which he seems to love. I also moved his food and water to the kitchen which he seems to approve of this as well!!!
Having Lucy in the mudroom has actually turned out to be a blessing for Buddy. When Lucy is in the mudroom he gets some piece and quite and he gets all my attention. When Lucy is out of the mud room she trying to love and play with Buddy....and we all know how me feels about that!!!!
Buddy and Lucy are both so loving and sweet but just not to each other!! Well, Lucy tries to love on him but he hates it!!! All this just completely breaks my DH and I's heart!!! But we will keep trying!!!!

[Buddy-licious]

Originally Posted by YorkichonBella

I think as your new little one gets older, things will continually improve. My daughter's little guy stayed with me half the time and I got so attached, and him to me. My daughter was even jealous of the attachment to me because he followed me everywhere, wanted to sleep with me, etc. We eventually called it "going to Gran ma ma's house". Well soon, I missed him soooooo much when he left, I got my own little girl. At first, he did the same thing. You could tell with his personality, but as she grew, things improved. They are now so close. They love one another! At first, though the little one was the aggressive one. She dominated the toys! She outgrew it as we showed them both love and discipline, just like "real kids". We also confined them together in the kitchen at times. They had their own time to get acquainted. Maybe that will help them to adjust. I wish you all the best. You are a Great Mommy!! enuf LUV for 2

Thank you for sharing!!! Hopefully, things will get better!!!

[Buddy-licious]

Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

My two seniors barely tolerate my two boys. Just a few minutes ago I had to get after Rosie for all the cranky barking she was doing at Snowboy. There's not much love lost between her and my two boys. We've had Chipper for over a yr. now and not much has changed since the day I walked in the door with him. One reason I rescued Snowboy was so that Chipper would have someone to play with and leave the girls alone. It has worked out quite well. The girls get to snooze in the corner of the couch while the boys tussle on the floor. Once in awhile they bring it up on the couch---then the deal is on.

Sounds like you have the same problem!!! Also sounds like you are a great mommy!!!

[Buddy-licious]

Originally Posted by Patti

In time they will get along better. My Pom was a cranky (still is) only dog for 8 years when we brought Cali home and she ingnored her but they coexisted.When we brought Pixie home a year later she loved Maya and just insisted on laying almost on top of her all the time and now Maya loves her and is protective of her. But it takes time.

I hope giving this a little more time will help things in our house!!!

[Buddy-licious]

Originally Posted by tjdmom

How about walking them together? I found it helped my two get along a little better. I hope it will help.

Thanks for the suggestion!!! I have been walking them together. Well, Lucy is in the stroller because she is too small to go the 2 miles that Buddy and I go each day. For the last 1/8 of mile of our walk...I get Lucy out to walk. They seem to be OK during this time but I think it is because Buddy is on a mission to get home so he just ignores her!!! He is usually tired by this point and ready for a nap!!! lol