I think as your new little one gets older, things will continually improve. My daughter's little guy stayed with me half the time and I got so attached, and him to me. My daughter was even jealous of the attachment to me because he followed me everywhere, wanted to sleep with me, etc. We eventually called it "going to Gran ma ma's house". Well soon, I missed him soooooo much when he left, I got my own little girl. At first, he did the same thing. You could tell with his personality, but as she grew, things improved. They are now so close. They love one another! At first, though the little one was the aggressive one. She dominated the toys! She outgrew it as we showed them both love and discipline, just like "real kids". We also confined them together in the kitchen at times. They had their own time to get acquainted. Maybe that will help them to adjust. I wish you all the best. You are a Great Mommy!!
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