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07-09-2012, 06:31 AM | #1 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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| Partied out! **PHEW** almost a relief to be back at work this week! We've had a BUNCH of big parties at our house this year. We are the only ones we know with a pool. Plus we have room for people to crash at our house if they were there late and didn't want to drive home. Man I am partied out! 1 month ago we had a big graduation party for my husbands son. 2 weeks ago we had a big birthday party for his other son. We had a big party on the 4th of july and we had a big party, BIG party, this past Saturday for my nephew's birthday, hes turning 3! Its soooo much work. Preparing the pool area, cleaning the house/bathrooms, sweeping, cleaning off the furniture, cooking, buying the food, hauling everything downstairs and back upstairs, people coming through my house wet (even when I try to keep the upstairs off limits, they still do it), every beach towel is taken and left wet and dirty for us to have to wash. People stay for sometimes 48 hours (mainly my bro or close friends) and I have to plaster a smile, play great hostess and cater to everyone. oohhh I used to LOVE it very much..... but now I'm TIRED of parties at our house. I just wish, FOR ONCE, that someone else would have a party that we could bring a watermelon to and just sit and relax! Oh and the damage.... people just don't respect your things. We always have pool floats for the kids and stuff.... but by the end of the day, they are always broken and deflated. Those things are expensive. Now our towels are walking off, why do people not bring their own towels? My brother does not watch my nephews closely enough and yesterday the 3 year old broke a lamp. People feed my dogs so I end up having to put wet dogs up in our bedroom to protect them. Broken sliding screen doors. I ask people/kids to get rides because we are not picking up or dropping off anyone. We ask that people bring their own towels, we ask that people bring their own things to drink and sometimes even a little food item (to lighten the financial and physical burden on us), we shut & lock up the upstairs best as we can .... but nothing works! **PHEW** I think I just need a break!
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07-09-2012, 07:07 AM | #2 |
♥Love My 3 Furrbutts♥ Donating Member | Wow! Your're a wonderful hostess! The next party you have, can i come...I promise to bring my own towel, and food, and I wont break anything. Sit back and relax, pour a glass of wine and enjoy! This is the reason I don't have a pool...waaay to much work!
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07-09-2012, 07:50 AM | #3 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| The last few yrs all the get togethers have been at our house because we have a hot tub and a pond. We have tappered it down to a few a yr for the same reasons. We always have a halloween party. We have family get togethers at Christmas and Thaksgiving. We may through one barbq in the summer
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07-09-2012, 07:54 AM | #4 |
Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys
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| Oh....My.....Word!!...For a second I thought I wrote this!.....We had this same issue and it lasted for about five summers. It was getting so bad I didn't want to open the pool.These last three years has been much better. Most of the intruders have latched on to someone else and/or moved on. It would start off with a call from one of the intruders. If we saw who it was on the caller ID we wouldn't answer the phone. You would think problem solved.... WRONG!....The next thing we would here is their car pulling in. Out they would all unload with swimming attire and NO towels! These morons know their coming to swim yet NO towel!!.....I've lost many towels to this stupidity. They would linger till dinner so the grill was fired up. I ended up doing ALL the cooking, cleaning, and putting the food away. We have also had the broken pool items, wet floors, and the ever lingering leaches. So were out food, drinks, and towels and we didn't invite one of them....nice..... I think having a pool is way overrated. Between the users, the daily care of the pool as in putting in chemicals, checking chemicals, sweeping backwashing, debugging and running the pool pump even on days we don't get in it sometimes I wonder why we just don't fill in this hole in the ground.....
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07-09-2012, 08:38 AM | #5 |
Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: South Florida
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| wow.. it is like living in florida and all your "friends' and relatives want to visit ...in the winter It is rude.. no other word for it. I can not even think of going to someones house without being invited, bringing food or a hostest gift and leaving in a timely manner. I had a thread about something like this before. Well.. hang in there guys!
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07-09-2012, 08:39 AM | #6 | |
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when they pull in the drive way... have an overnight bag by the door and walk out and say.."oh... we are just leaving sorry"
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07-09-2012, 09:07 AM | #7 | |
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I agree it is plain rude! I wonder why this generation(s), what kind of kindness and or at least good manners upbringing did they have? One of my BF, has a wonderful city home, and country property. We are always invited in the summertime for at least one weekend. We show up with our car full; I usually call on the Wednesday asking what I can bring up from the city; then I bring wine for us to drink, and some bottles planned to leave behind, food (some that she asked for), and some extras, other fluids that we like to drink; fresh berries, enough corn on the cob for a good corn roast, plus our own towels, our dog crates etc. She is kind enough to let our dogs come! So all grooming stuff for the dogs. Each dog is totally dried out before I let them into the house, and groomed/brushed out on the dock. Usually on Sunday morning I ask if I can throw in a load of towels for her. She has a whole spa/bath-house with an onsite laundry room. We also take the sheets and pillowcases off the bed, and wash and dry and fold them. Her hubby has warmed up (over time to our big boy), he now feels really comfy, to leave the gals up north, when he goes back to the city. He is muttering to Susan, you know we should get one of these guard dogs. Susan goes, perish the idea I know who will be training them, and grooming et al; I've seen Gail. We are going to rely on our burglar alarm system! I don't understand where all the manners went these days?
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07-09-2012, 09:15 AM | #8 |
Cedric♥Lola♥Keylo Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Gilford, NH, USA
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| and a bottle of vodka! holy cow...first off stop putting out towels if they dont bring um to bad for them and honestly if you were say hosting a party for my son and you were my sister in law..let me tell you i would help you clean and i would supply the food, but thats just me. hope you get a much deserved break!!
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07-09-2012, 09:43 AM | #9 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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| Oh yeah, I'm beginning to think central air is better than a pool if you are above the age of 18! LOL Nooooo.. I love the pool. I love floating around and I love the look of it open and blue in the summer! I want to cry when we close it in the fall. But its a lot of work when there are 15 people at your house every weekend. I used to LOVE when people came over and we were busy ... but now I'm just tired of cleaning up after everyone. I'm REALLY tired of things getting broken every time we do have people over. I'm tired of people helping themselves to our stuff, the rum, the wine in the wine cooler, the pantry closet, now even my closet of clothes bc they are cold and have nothing to put on. No one even asks anymore. I never know what we are out of or where something went. Next party Im going to get an outhouse and LOCK all the doors in the house! LOL Tell me something... why does a kid getting out of the pool on a 90 degree day to sit in a chair outside in the sun, need a towel? I hardly EVER use a towel myself. I get out, sit in the sun and dry off... it's not cold, no need to go in the house wet... I never get the towel thing!
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07-09-2012, 09:52 AM | #10 |
I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana
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| If you want to continue to have people over your going to have to set rules and stick to the if they dont like it tough. There is no reason why things should be getting broke or the just helping thenselves to things going on
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07-09-2012, 09:54 AM | #11 | |
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In the past Ive had to sit down with the frequent visitors and start to stand up for myself. Ask them to bring towels, food, drinks.... ask them to clean up and put their dishes in the dishwasher.... ask them to stop hanging their wet clothes & towels on my cherry dining room table & chairs. Tell them to throw away their empty cans and trash. Even to help me cook or cook for everyone else once in awhile... I even went so far as to have one of them buy 3 new pool floats the next time she came over. Since her kids broke 3 when they were there last and they are $20-$30 each. My bro is getting better at being more prepared and so are a few other people. AFter this crazy weekend, I have to work all day at my full time job and then work for my contract job tonight for a few hours and on top of that my car had a meltdown today, the speakers were shot out of the blue and the car was SCREAMING at me when I went to go get lunch, so instead of lunch I ended up at the BMW dealership so they could stop the noise and to schedule an appt to get it fixed. uugghhh NO REST FOR THE WICKED! hehe
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07-09-2012, 10:20 AM | #12 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| We had the same problem I used to have about 25 beach towels (they were NOT cheap, as you know well) and now I have TWO left. We were going broke providing everything for everyone, my stepsons being the biggest culprits. They are all in their 20's now, and all 3 of them would bring a few friends, and next thing you know they're on the cell phones inviting MORE friends, ugh Not ONE of those kids or their friends would think about buying a pack of hot dogs or some charcoal, or even some soda. ZIP. Well, my husband LOVED every minute of it and wouldn't stop it, but I put an end to it. I told them that from this day forward, they would have to provide all their party supplies and would only be allowed one friend each, AND they had to call the day before if they wanted to use our pool/hot tub. That was the end of that, about 2 years now I also before I laid the law down, took my remaining beach towels and hid them in my bedroom closet and guard them viciously I have since bought a few more for DH, DD, and I to use, but when guests come over and they start looking for a towel, I kindly tell them sorry, we only have enough for us and WHY didn't you bring one? I swear, the older I get, the less I give a rat's patootie if I hurt anyone's feelings if they are rude. Maybe that's why I have wayyy less friends now? Oh well, the ones I have left are true friends and behave as such. I'm so sorry that everyone is taking advantage of you, but YOU are the only one that can put a stop to it. You might hurt some feelings, and you might end up with less friends, but those that don't understand and drop off weren't really friend material anyway. Good luck!!!
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07-09-2012, 10:43 AM | #13 | |
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07-09-2012, 11:15 AM | #14 | |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire
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Sat night I went to bed at 1030 with about 20 people still at our house. I just said I had a headache and had to lay down. I never got up. AMAZINGLY when I got up in the morning, they picked up and put away everything, and they even washed the dishes. I KNEW they could do it!!! I did have to tell them to throw it all away though.. the pasta salad was not safe considering it had mayo and was out the whole day before. The regular salad was nasty looking... but at least they thought enough to put the food back in the fridge! So proud of them! LOL
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07-09-2012, 11:26 AM | #15 |
Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida
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| Now that's an improvement So from now on, you just go to bed early, and take all the fricken towels with ya It's rough being hostess all the time, and it's not fair. I expect crap from a bunch of men, but the women need to at least step it up, right? My problem was it was all boys and young girls that never lifted a finger in their whole lives It'll get better and better if you just keep standing up for yourself. Oh, and as far as pool floats/toys? Let those people buy their kids' toys, it's not your respobsibility. If you have floaties that you like to use, might want to hide them
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