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03-10-2014, 01:47 PM | #1 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Orange County, CA
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| Is Gizmo Too Attached To ME? My son’s friend said I have an unhealthy relationship with Gizmo because he is so attached to me. When anyone is holding him and I look like I’m going to walk away he starts whining, wiggling so much they have to really hold him and sometimes barks. It’s not a mean bark just like “Hey, don’t leave me”. When they put him down or I take him from their arms he is so excited as if he hasn't seen me in forever. When I leave and he stays with my boyfriend, he will whine for about 10 minutes while running around looking for me before he will start playing and being his normal self. I have left him with my friend for a couple of hours and he still whines and looks for me but then he’s fine. The other day we went out to lunch and Gizmo was on his leash and I walked in to see what I wanted while he waited outside with my boyfriend. He barked so loud as I walked into the restaurant that it shocked me. Before when I would get home, he would be so excited, jumping and whining. I started ignoring him and not making a big deal about being home so now he runs around me, whines very little then sits by my feet and waits patiently for me to pick him up. I have had Gizmo since he was 8 weeks old and stayed home with him the first two weeks, pretty much 24/7. I might have left once or twice to go to the store, but that’s it. My boyfriend doesn't live with me so it’s just me and my baby. Is this normal for Yorkies to be so attached to their owners? |
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03-10-2014, 02:00 PM | #2 |
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| I think so. Mine will not eat for anyone else unless I am around and when I leave she shuts down and will only sleep until I get back. Also if we go anywhere like the dog park or anything she will play but always turns around to make sure I am there.
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03-10-2014, 02:59 PM | #3 |
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| How old is Gizmo? ZoE was super attached to me as a young puppy and would cry when I left the room, cry while I was in the shower, and follow me everywhere. Then, somewhere around 9 months to a year, she became much more independent. Now she takes herself off to our bed at night by herself whenever she's tired and is completely fine being by herself for a while.
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03-10-2014, 03:49 PM | #4 |
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| Gizmo is 19 weeks. He is fine by himself if I'm in the shower or in the kitchen. He plays all alone and will walk in every once in a while to see what I'm doing. He's fine when other people are around except when they hold him. Even if I'm sitting right next to the person holding him he has to come to me. If I'm not around and they are holding him, he's fine. When I'm home, he'll follow me if I leave the room, I guess just to see what I'm going to do cuz he doesn't always stay with me. It was worse before because when I would clean the floor he would have to stay in the bedroom with my boyfriend with the gate up so he could see me. Even though he could see me he would still just whine and whine and not want to play, but now it does't bother him. He will just check to see if I'm still there. I've had dogs all my life and have never had one this attached to me. To be honest, it doesn't bother me. I was just wondering since he is my first Yorkie. |
03-10-2014, 06:17 PM | #5 |
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| Mine are very attached to me. They follow me everywhere....including into the bathroom. If I shut the door, they sit outside and wait for me to come out or paw at the door to come in. People say my older one is way better behaved when I am not around. If I am around, he won't let anyone touch him. When I leave, he's more friendly. When I leave them at my dads, they just lay on the couch staring at the door until I get back. Ricky didn't used to be so attached but he's just as bad as Prince. In fact, he has claimed my lap as his and Prince barely gets to sit there anymore...and if he does, they have to find a way to share my lap. Ricky will take a substitute lap, but as soon as mine becomes available, he will leave their lap for mine. He will leave my lap if someone is cooking in the kitchen!! |
03-10-2014, 06:45 PM | #6 |
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| I live with my mom and grandmom, Lola loves all 3 of us and likes to have time with each of us. She's my dog though and she has to know where I am. If I'm within sight she's ok or if she knows I'm doing something boring she'll sit with someone else. My mom and I had her at a store in her stroller, my mom was pushing her and she kept looking back to make sure I was there. She was more comfortable when I pushed her. If we're at someone elses house I have to make it 100% clear I'm not going anywhere or she'll get afraid that I'm going to leave her and glue herself to me. She also doesn't like it when people joke about stealing her. She totally understands what they're saying. We've had a few other yorkies too, all of them had one main person but loved the rest of the family too. I'd say it isn't a problem as long as he doesn't freak out for more than a few minutes when you leave. My grandmom's poodle had major seperation anxiety and she'd howl the whole time she was gone. OMG it was horrible. |
03-10-2014, 07:16 PM | #7 |
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| Gizmo sounds normal to me.
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03-10-2014, 07:59 PM | #8 |
YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: dearborn heights
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| I agree. Yorkies tend to be get attached to their owners, especially the boys. I've never had a girl to compare, but I hear the girls tend to be more independent. I've also heard that the male dogs gravitate to women and the female dogs get more attached to men. I personally don't think being really attached is bad unless the puppy is having separation anxiety or aggression/fear and anti-social issues because of it. If the puppy has a healthy temperment, than I don't see a problem. Unfortunately, my older dog has issues...his separation anxiety isn't nearly as bad as it was since I got a second dog, but his aggression is still horrible. He thinks he needs to protect me so he acts out towards others and he won't let anyone else touch him, . My other pup, Ricky sounds more like Lola! He loves me, but if I am not around, he'll find a new friend to hang with until I get back. I do find the attatchment to be an issue as far as traveling goes. I've never left Ricky and I only have spent one night away from Prince. I could leave them at my moms but i am just not sure how they'd do...or how I would do. I thought about just having someone babysit the boys, but since my older guy is afraid of strangers and the boys are used to sleeping with me, I just haven't been able to leave them for the night...but I guess some of that might be MY attachment issues, not theirs!! LOL! If you are worried about Gizmo getting too attached, maybe you could take him to doggy daycare once in a while. It would get him out and socializing with other pets...and without you being there. Most daycares have cameras set up so you can check in on your pup. My friend's pup was very clingy and he took him to daycare and now the pup is way more independent. |
03-11-2014, 08:12 AM | #9 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Orange County, CA
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| Gizmo is fine after 10- 15 minutes if I leave home. It's when someone is holding him when I'm around. He's okay for the first few seconds of saying hello and then it's like he feels they are going to take him away. That is the part my son's friend was referring to then it got me thinking. i don't think he has separation anxiety because when I leave him in the morning he whines for a few minutes, as a matter of fact he didn't even whine this morning at all. I have a puppy cam so I can see and hear him on my phone and on my computer at work. My conclusion is.... Gizmo is fine and just loves me a lot and that's just fine with me. If my worst problem is that he doesn't want to be held by someone else for too long, then I'm lucky! Thank you for your responses, I really appreciate it! |
03-11-2014, 08:37 AM | #10 |
YT Addict Join Date: Oct 2013 Location: Coastal, Virginia, US
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| I'd say Gizmo's attachment is normal--you are his world. My two are both wary of strangers (one of the only things they have in common) but they'll allow family members to briefly take charge of them on outings or something (e.g. if I have to go in a store and leave them in the car with their grandma or something). They are anxious but not over-the-top. Our only real attachment problem is that there's apparently priority seating with me...Keegan will growl if Daniel (cat) or Piper (puppy) try to slip into a position either closer to my face or blocking Keegan's immediate access to me. Keegan and Daniel actually got into a wrestling match last weekend (picture standing bears) on my lap, which wasn't ideal. But I don't mind that they find me so appealing. lol
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03-11-2014, 06:37 PM | #11 |
Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Northern VA
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| It COULD seem unhealthy to some people. I'm not sure how true this is but I thought I read somewhere that yorkies take on only ONE human as their alpha. That seems quite true in my case since Magnus/Zoey will obey/adores me the most even though my parents spoil them. As Keeganriley said, you're his whole world. Of course he always wants to be with you! |
03-13-2014, 09:49 AM | #12 |
YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2014 Location: Orange County, CA
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| Thanks everyone for your replies! |
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