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01-29-2009, 07:31 PM | #1 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: woodside, new york, us
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| do you let your babies cry? i have had this on my mind lately and i feel really silly askin this question bc there are probably a million more important questions to ask but this is buggin me.. do you guys ever let your babies cry? for instance, if i put prince in his playpen or in his crate at night to sleep sometimes he will want OUT.. he will first bark and jump up and down, they hell bark and try to find an escape route(this is kind of cute... in his playpen hell push against the door, chew the sides and sniff around then sigh & bark some more when he is unsuccessful), then the whimpering and cries. this breaks my heart and i just cant listen to his cry and do nothing! this is when i either pick him up or ill lay outside his crate til he settles down and goes to sleep. is this bad? just wondering if maybe its okay to let them cry a little. i heard that if you let a baby cry they learn to soothe themselves.. or is this completely cruel(which i think it is).. |
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01-29-2009, 07:47 PM | #2 |
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| My opinion is that it's OK to let them cry as long as they aren't frantic. I've had many puppies in my life and they all learned to settle on their own if I left them alone. Believe me, my heart nearly broke with a couple of my furbabies. You didn't say how old your little guy is but if he has something to comfort him - a toy or his blanket - that may help. Some take a couple of nights to settle and some take longer but it will happen. If not soon, then you may want to involve your vet in the process. There are some natural products that help calm them down. Lavender is one I've used. Good luck. |
01-29-2009, 07:48 PM | #3 |
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| its ok we all have done it Im sure, even though it breaks our heart they really cant get away with everything, even though they try
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01-29-2009, 07:51 PM | #4 |
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| hes 3 months.. ive had him for a month now.. we do have his favorite blankey and toy with him in his crate with a comfy bed.. he was usually okay with his crate but he was in the next room and i read that its better to have them with you at night so they can see us and feel safe. i dont know why but ever since i moved him into my room he cries in his crate at night. i guess hes just not used to the surroundings but i thought he would rather be with me.. silly boy |
01-29-2009, 08:02 PM | #5 |
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| You know, 3 months is still pretty young. I don't know if this is appropriate, or when it would be, but... I think there comes a time when you have to let them know that the behavior is not acceptable. For a while, Lexi had run of the kitchen. But we were having major construction done, and there were times when work was being done in the kitchen, or the workers were in and out, and we'd have to put her in her ex-pen. She didn't like that, and would bark - especially her high-pitched "I don't like this" bark. Very hard to take... When she would start to bark, I would go over and in a firm low voice, say, "Quiet." You need to be calm and assertive. At first, I would also lift one section of the ex-pen just a bit and push it down on the floor. The noise was a bit startling - not super loud, but like a surprise - and not exactly something anyone would enjoy and ask for again. It didn't take long before we could say quiet without banging the ex-pen. And after that, sometimes words weren't even necessary. Just walking over and giving "the look" was enough. Nothing horrible was done - she wasn't yelled at, hit, or punished. We just let her know, firmly and calmly, that the barking was not okay. And it didn't take too long before it worked. And yes... I did feel badly, and wished she didn't have to be in there! But sometimes, that's life, and we just have to deal with different things on different days.
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01-29-2009, 08:25 PM | #6 |
Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: woodside, new york, us
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| thanks so much.. that sounds like great advice! i will have to start showingg tough love.. i know i do but its just so hard. we even have problems with his eating because i spoiled him and now im sorry.. he wont eat out of a bowl only our hand and he hates dog food only home cooked. so i guess its better to start layin down the rules before its too late.. i just feel so bad for him cus i hate when hes alone in his crate. this makes me want another yorkie so he will have someone to sleep with..shh dont let my bf hear he will KILL me lol he says im obssesed with prince but hes just jealous lol |
01-29-2009, 08:28 PM | #7 |
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| I feel so bad when my furbaby cries but she normally doesn't cry anymore unless she's in her crate for a timeout. As hard as it sounds, I try not to cave in to her cries. |
01-29-2009, 08:29 PM | #8 |
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| thats so funny that you responded newyorkielover.. i was just looking through your albums.. your baby is soooo cute.. i wish i had baby pictures that like~! |
01-29-2009, 08:37 PM | #9 |
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| OMG as im typing on here prince just reversed sneezed for the first time EVER!.. KINDA SCARY but normal right? i covered his nose for like 1 sec and it stopped but it was def a reverse sneeze.. i cant believe it lol |
01-29-2009, 09:34 PM | #10 |
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| When I put Chloe in her pen at night she will cry and bark and jump up and down and up and down and up and...well , you get the idea But I just ignore her and she usually quiets down after a couple minutes and goes to sleep. During the day she will do it but it takes longer for her to stop. I say "quiet" and she will stop eventually ( maybe 10-15 minutes or so) It's like at night she thinks , "well , she wont come get me out so I may as well go to sleep." ...but during the day she thinks she still has a shot I think you have to let them cry at times , it's the only way to get anything done !
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01-29-2009, 10:54 PM | #11 |
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| For me, it depends on why she's crying. If she cries because I've left her upstairs while I go down to switch the laundry, then I ignore it. When she was crying because I'd put her in her ex-pen for the night, I couldn't ignore it. She now sleeps in bed with me. I didn't want her to feel lonely
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01-30-2009, 02:27 AM | #12 | |
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01-30-2009, 03:27 AM | #13 | |
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I wanted to add that Lexi is fine in her pen now. She's very comfortable there. When we are going out, or when it's time for bed, she may just lie down, or she might stand and watch us for a bit. The only time she will bark is if we get home (or get up in the morning) and don't get her out fast enough. It's like, "Hey - don't forget about me!" So I think the barking/crying is more for a new situation that wasn't her favorite. Of course she'd rather be out with her family, or leaving to go in the car with us! But it's not like it was torture or anything. And I think the crying/barking is something that has the potential to just become a habit more than anything if you allow it to continue. Also, like children, if they complain enough and we give in, they learn very quickly that the behavior works, and will continue it. So...if you do give in, think it over carefully because you might be stuck with that behavior for a long time! And that's fine, as long as you're fine with it. So, if he's barking at night, and you are okay with having him sleep in your bed every night, then let him out. Watch some Dog Whisperer to help you remain "calm and assertive"!
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01-30-2009, 03:29 AM | #14 | |
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01-30-2009, 04:45 AM | #15 |
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