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appleJAX · 01-24-2015, 11:49 AM

I am so very sorry for the loss of your little boy. I just want to let you know that you did the right thing. I know that you did everything that you possibly could have done to help your baby. How do I know that?, because I went through the same thing that you are now going through.

My "Kloee" had a few bouts of pancreatitis and had a heart murmur all of her life. 9 months before her passing, I had her on medications to help drain the fluid in her lungs and to help her breathe easier because the murmur had gotten worse. The last thing that I did for her was have the Vet put her in an oxygen tank. That helped for a day, then things drastically turned for the worse.

It was around 2am when I tried to get her to drink a little water. As she was drinking, I walked out of the kitchen so I wouldn't be a distraction. That's when I heard a thump and raced in there to find her lying on the floor having a seizure. I didn't know what to do but collapse to my knees by her and scream "NO,Kloee!". I put her on her feet and all she could do is look at me with her eyes and that said it all, it was time to let go. She was tired, tired of fighting. I did everything I could, she fought, but couldn't fight any longer.

I had called my friend, which was out of town at the time, and told her and asked her if she thought of anything else that I could do for "Klo". She was crying also and reassured me that I did everything that I could and that it was time to let go.

Please don't beat yourself up by second guessing yourself, because you did everything that you could for your little boy. He knows how much you loved him and he couldn't have had a better mommy to take care of him. RIP "Baby Boy"

mama to Jax

Johcee

Lucee

and "Kloee"RIP

Graneet · 01-24-2015, 10:49 PM

Oh dont second guess yourself. you did the right thing out of great love for you fur love. You honored him/her sorry by loving them and being there to say goodby. Sounds like your baby was very very ill and you gave him/her peice. Your last act of a great love. Iknow you are hurting. Idid the same thing with my doxie. You are hurting enough dont add to your grief. Sooooo sorry for your loss .

appleJAX · 01-28-2015, 08:35 AM

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Originally Posted by Graneet

Oh dont second guess yourself. you did the right thing out of great love for you fur love. You honored him/her sorry by loving them and being there to say goodby. Sounds like your baby was very very ill and you gave him/her peice. Your last act of a great love. Iknow you are hurting. Idid the same thing with my doxie. You are hurting enough dont add to your grief. Sooooo sorry for your loss .

I am so sorry for your loss of your lil' doxie. RIP "Lil' Baby"

redwind30 · 03-13-2015, 08:48 PM

It has been almost two moths sincei had to let my little boy go. I kniw i did the best thing for him. My vet called the next day and reassured me. Told me i gave him an amazing life in spite of all of his health problems.
He has left a huge hole in my heart. Everyone who knew him loved him. He was a very special little boy. I know i will see him again some day. But until then this house is very quiet and empty.

Thanks for your loving and kind comments. Your support meant so much to me. God bless you.

ladyjane · 03-13-2015, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by redwind30

It has been almost two moths sincei had to let my little boy go. I kniw i did the best thing for him. My vet called the next day and reassured me. Told me i gave him an amazing life in spite of all of his health problems.
He has left a huge hole in my heart. Everyone who knew him loved him. He was a very special little boy. I know i will see him again some day. But until then this house is very quiet and empty.

Thanks for your loving and kind comments. Your support meant so much to me. God bless you.

Happy to see you here. It takes time and even then, it never goes away. Yes, you will see him again. I totally believe that. God would not give us such wonderful beings and not let us join them again.

*hugs* to you

MauiGirl · 03-13-2015, 09:04 PM

Ahh, bless your heart. I know how hard it is, and do hope that time will help heal some.

Verbena · 03-14-2015, 05:18 AM

I am so very sorry for your loss

dinkster · 03-17-2015, 04:44 PM

you made the decision with love and instinct.
And if you had decided the other way and he died that night, you would have made a decision based on love and instinct.
I probably would have made the same decision that you went with.

betsygage · 03-17-2015, 10:46 PM

I am so sorry for you loss. I could almost feel the pain in your heart when I read your note. We love our little ones so much and want to do everything possible to do what is right for them it is natural to wonder if we could have or should have done something different. Your baby had 14 years with you and helped you through difficult times in your life. He was your "rock"and you must feel lost without him. But you absolutely did the right thing for him. He trusted you to make the right decisions for him at the end as you had all along his life. He knew you were there with him which is what he needed more than anything else in the world. My heart aches for you because I know how much you must miss him. It also aches because my 15 year old boy was just diagnosed with prostate cancer two weeks ago and I am having to make difficult choices also. I am afraid of making the wrong ones too. His condition is not now critical like your baby''s was but I fear as time goes on (as there is no cure, only 9-12 months at best) when it will become so, wait too long causing suffering or end his little life too soon. So I understand completely how you second guess your decision. But I do believe with the cardiac problem causing the airway issues which can be so acute, you had to go with your gut....you didn't let him suffer. You let him rest and he is at peace. My heart goes out to you. I hope when it's my time I can be as strong as you. Betsy

MissSunni · 03-18-2015, 05:18 AM

As I read your post, all I wanted to do was give you a hug. I know what you are going through, and it is so so hard. I recently had to make the same decision and felt so guilty. After many months of medical treatments, surgery etc..we had come to the end of medical intervention. I held my little guy in my arms and knew that my keeping him alive any longer was for me. The kind and loving choice was to let him go to the Rainbow Bridge with me holding him telling him I loved him, and it was ok. My vets were truly wonderful. They gave me all the time I needed to hold him and talk to him…I loved him so much that I didn't want him to suffer, knowing there was no chance of recovery any way I looked, it was the most loving act I could ever do for him. He was a spunky little man, who loved his walks and playing and eating. He wasn't enjoying any of those things anymore. I still cry over him, but I am sure it was the most loving thing I could do for him. My heart goes out to you, but to me you loved your little one enough to let him have a peaceful, loving goodbye. The fact that you were afraid of him being alone was so touching. Huge hug and deepest sympathy to you.

Tink04 · 03-18-2015, 06:05 AM

I'm so sorry for the loss of your little boy *prayers*

Nutmeg · 03-20-2015, 01:57 AM

Today I had to put my little baby to rest, and can feel your pain. She was 15 1/2. I want to tell you how much I admire you for what you did. I wish I could be as unselfish and loving as you were, putting his needs in front of your own. In my case, I waited much too long, knowing now that I put my baby through more pain than she deserved, thinking that things were going to turn around. I know now that if you can save your little one from one more day of pain and suffering, it's the kindest thing you can do for them. The vet told me today that this will be one of the worst days of my life, but the best day in the life of my little yorkie. i'm trying to hold onto that thought through this unimaginable pain and grief. Don't know if I'll ever be able to give my forgive myself for prolonging her pain. Please believe in yourself and know what a kind, compassionate, caring person you truly are. Bless you!

03-13-2015, 08:48 PM	#19
redwind30 Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: bradenton fl usa Posts: 91	Thanks to all of you It has been almost two moths sincei had to let my little boy go. I kniw i did the best thing for him. My vet called the next day and reassured me. Told me i gave him an amazing life in spite of all of his health problems. He has left a huge hole in my heart. Everyone who knew him loved him. He was a very special little boy. I know i will see him again some day. But until then this house is very quiet and empty. Thanks for your loving and kind comments. Your support meant so much to me. God bless you.

03-13-2015, 09:04 PM	#21
MauiGirl Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: Maui, Hawaii Posts: 7,740	Ahh, bless your heart. I know how hard it is, and do hope that time will help heal some. __________________ SANDY, MOM TO TIKI , KAYLA , KARLEE , R.I.P. MEIKA

03-14-2015, 05:18 AM	#22
Verbena Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: with my flying monkeys Posts: 15,620 Blog Entries: 7	I am so very sorry for your loss __________________ Teri . . . Galen Jameson Frazier Seraphina Luna Rosencrantz, Saber Tooth Tiger, Pussy Willow Pandora Guildenstern

01-24-2015, 11:49 AM	#16
appleJAX Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: Washington Posts: 95	I am so very sorry for the loss of your little boy. I just want to let you know that you did the right thing. I know that you did everything that you possibly could have done to help your baby. How do I know that?, because I went through the same thing that you are now going through. My "Kloee" had a few bouts of pancreatitis and had a heart murmur all of her life. 9 months before her passing, I had her on medications to help drain the fluid in her lungs and to help her breathe easier because the murmur had gotten worse. The last thing that I did for her was have the Vet put her in an oxygen tank. That helped for a day, then things drastically turned for the worse. It was around 2am when I tried to get her to drink a little water. As she was drinking, I walked out of the kitchen so I wouldn't be a distraction. That's when I heard a thump and raced in there to find her lying on the floor having a seizure. I didn't know what to do but collapse to my knees by her and scream "NO,Kloee!". I put her on her feet and all she could do is look at me with her eyes and that said it all, it was time to let go. She was tired, tired of fighting. I did everything I could, she fought, but couldn't fight any longer. I had called my friend, which was out of town at the time, and told her and asked her if she thought of anything else that I could do for "Klo". She was crying also and reassured me that I did everything that I could and that it was time to let go. Please don't beat yourself up by second guessing yourself, because you did everything that you could for your little boy. He knows how much you loved him and he couldn't have had a better mommy to take care of him. RIP "Baby Boy" mama to Jax Johcee Lucee and "Kloee"RIP

01-24-2015, 10:49 PM	#17
Graneet YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Marion ohio Posts: 476 Blog Entries: 2	Oh dont second guess yourself. you did the right thing out of great love for you fur love. You honored him/her sorry by loving them and being there to say goodby. Sounds like your baby was very very ill and you gave him/her peice. Your last act of a great love. Iknow you are hurting. Idid the same thing with my doxie. You are hurting enough dont add to your grief. Sooooo sorry for your loss .

03-17-2015, 04:44 PM	#23
dinkster YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: Michigan Posts: 344	you made the decision with love and instinct. And if you had decided the other way and he died that night, you would have made a decision based on love and instinct. I probably would have made the same decision that you went with.

03-17-2015, 10:46 PM	#24
betsygage Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: California Posts: 38	I am so sorry for you loss. I could almost feel the pain in your heart when I read your note. We love our little ones so much and want to do everything possible to do what is right for them it is natural to wonder if we could have or should have done something different. Your baby had 14 years with you and helped you through difficult times in your life. He was your "rock"and you must feel lost without him. But you absolutely did the right thing for him. He trusted you to make the right decisions for him at the end as you had all along his life. He knew you were there with him which is what he needed more than anything else in the world. My heart aches for you because I know how much you must miss him. It also aches because my 15 year old boy was just diagnosed with prostate cancer two weeks ago and I am having to make difficult choices also. I am afraid of making the wrong ones too. His condition is not now critical like your baby''s was but I fear as time goes on (as there is no cure, only 9-12 months at best) when it will become so, wait too long causing suffering or end his little life too soon. So I understand completely how you second guess your decision. But I do believe with the cardiac problem causing the airway issues which can be so acute, you had to go with your gut....you didn't let him suffer. You let him rest and he is at peace. My heart goes out to you. I hope when it's my time I can be as strong as you. Betsy

03-18-2015, 05:18 AM	#25
MissSunni YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2015 Location: NJ USA Posts: 492	As I read your post, all I wanted to do was give you a hug. I know what you are going through, and it is so so hard. I recently had to make the same decision and felt so guilty. After many months of medical treatments, surgery etc..we had come to the end of medical intervention. I held my little guy in my arms and knew that my keeping him alive any longer was for me. The kind and loving choice was to let him go to the Rainbow Bridge with me holding him telling him I loved him, and it was ok. My vets were truly wonderful. They gave me all the time I needed to hold him and talk to him…I loved him so much that I didn't want him to suffer, knowing there was no chance of recovery any way I looked, it was the most loving act I could ever do for him. He was a spunky little man, who loved his walks and playing and eating. He wasn't enjoying any of those things anymore. I still cry over him, but I am sure it was the most loving thing I could do for him. My heart goes out to you, but to me you loved your little one enough to let him have a peaceful, loving goodbye. The fact that you were afraid of him being alone was so touching. Huge hug and deepest sympathy to you.

03-18-2015, 06:05 AM	#26
Tink04 YT Addict Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: Illinois Posts: 328 Blog Entries: 1	I'm so sorry for the loss of your little boy prayers

03-20-2015, 01:57 AM	#27
Nutmeg Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: minneapolis, mn, usa Posts: 22	Today I had to put my little baby to rest, and can feel your pain. She was 15 1/2. I want to tell you how much I admire you for what you did. I wish I could be as unselfish and loving as you were, putting his needs in front of your own. In my case, I waited much too long, knowing now that I put my baby through more pain than she deserved, thinking that things were going to turn around. I know now that if you can save your little one from one more day of pain and suffering, it's the kindest thing you can do for them. The vet told me today that this will be one of the worst days of my life, but the best day in the life of my little yorkie. i'm trying to hold onto that thought through this unimaginable pain and grief. Don't know if I'll ever be able to give my forgive myself for prolonging her pain. Please believe in yourself and know what a kind, compassionate, caring person you truly are. Bless you!