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chattiesmom · 07-25-2008, 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by chachi

I think everybody should take responsibility for what they say but I have also seen where someone was called rude when they were just informing. Even when they put things like I am saying this gently. There seems to be alot of drama both ways lately. Those being accused of being rude and those scolding them

I agree 100%

4doggiemama · 07-25-2008, 11:25 AM

Everyone is different as to what they are offended by. How is one supposed to know that? Just FYI I get hurt feelings too but do I inform everyone by using words like hateful, mean, rude, intolerant, etc.? Sure one may be willing to take responsibility for their words, but are they willing to be called all those names? If not then the truth is squelched.

chattiesmom · 07-25-2008, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

Everyone is different as to what they are offended by. How is one supposed to know that? Just FYI I get hurt feelings too but do I inform everyone by using words like hateful, mean, rude, intolerant, etc.? Sure one may be willing to take responsibility for their words, but are they willing to be called all those names? If not then the truth is squelched.

This poll was very specific. Two questions. You have not voted yet

. I agree, 100% that you can't control how someone "takes" what you say, however you can take the responsibility for hurting a fellow member and apologize.

1) I have the right to speak my mind and if it hurts others it doesn't matter.
2) I have the right to speak my mind, but I also bear the responsibility of how my words affect others.

Diego · 07-25-2008, 11:45 AM

I think its very difficult to judge what is rude and what is not just by reading a post . Sometimes peoples say very logical things but peoples often believe it is rude .

chachi · 07-25-2008, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by Diego

I think its very difficult to judge what is rude and what is not just by reading a post . Sometimes peoples say very logical things but peoples often believe it is rude .

That is so true! I am a very matter of fact type of person and have gone back and read some of my own posts that maybe someone could consider rude and I definitely didnt mean it that way. Ive been trying to change my posting style though

4doggiemama · 07-25-2008, 12:01 PM

Okay, I voted but your poll did not have enough options IMO. Because I didn't feel either way was the entire story. Why should I apologize to someone who has just been informed that she is doing something wrong in a very nice way and is offended when she is told that? Not fair.

chattiesmom · 07-25-2008, 12:04 PM

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Originally Posted by 4doggiemama

Okay, I voted but your poll did not have enough option IMO. Because I didn't feel either way was the entire story.

I just sent you a pm and I was getting ready to post an apology publicly. I am very very sorry that I hurt your feelings. The poll was generic, not specific about whether each of us feels that we should be responsible and accountable for our words, both typed and spoken.

4doggiemama · 07-25-2008, 12:16 PM

Accepted. I actually do not have hurt feeling. That comment was referring to the educating members who have been called all sorts of things and may possibly have hurt feelings about that. We do live in the U.S. were we are allowed to have a difference of opinion. Have a good day. Joanne

erino77 · 07-25-2008, 02:03 PM

2) I have the right to speak my mind, but I also bear the responsibility of how my words affect others.
Is my vote. I was raised that If I had nothing nice to say then I should not say anything at all. I don't like my feelings to be hurt so I would not intentionally hurt others by cruel words. I do have the right to speak, yes of course I do, BUT with those rights should follow respect.
Just because I DISagree with someone, does not give me the right to DISrespect them even though I have the right to speak my mind.
Along with rights should come responsibility and respect.
Kind of the 3 R's

tinav · 07-25-2008, 02:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Little Bit

Me three! Please let me know if any of my posts ever come across as rude or abrasive, because if it does it is unintentional. I would never post rudely on purpose. I think we all need to be positive posters.

I'm with you

Tina

linsvs · 07-25-2008, 03:00 PM

I have only been on here a few months, but I have to say on 2 different occasions I was tempted to leave this site because of a FEW rude posters. What stoped me was the MANY good, kind, thoughtful people on this site. They more then made up for the few that are not always careful in choosing the words they use to get there message across. I always proof read my message ,sometimes I feel the need to change a word or 2 just to give a sentence a whole different meaning...

chachi · 07-25-2008, 03:26 PM

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Originally Posted by linsvs

I have only been on here a few months, but I have to say on 2 different occasions I was tempted to leave this site because of a FEW rude posters. What stoped me was the MANY good, kind, thoughtful people on this site. They more then made up for the few that are not always careful in choosing the words they use to get there message across. I always proof read my message ,sometimes I feel the need to change a word or 2 just to give a sentence a whole different meaning...

I am sorry that happened to you

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07-25-2008, 11:25 AM	#32
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	Everyone is different as to what they are offended by. How is one supposed to know that? Just FYI I get hurt feelings too but do I inform everyone by using words like hateful, mean, rude, intolerant, etc.? Sure one may be willing to take responsibility for their words, but are they willing to be called all those names? If not then the truth is squelched. __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012): Last edited by 4doggiemama; 07-25-2008 at 11:26 AM.

07-25-2008, 12:01 PM	#36
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	Okay, I voted but your poll did not have enough options IMO. Because I didn't feel either way was the entire story. Why should I apologize to someone who has just been informed that she is doing something wrong in a very nice way and is offended when she is told that? Not fair. __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012): Last edited by 4doggiemama; 07-25-2008 at 12:04 PM.

07-25-2008, 12:16 PM	#38
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	Accepted. I actually do not have hurt feeling. That comment was referring to the educating members who have been called all sorts of things and may possibly have hurt feelings about that. We do live in the U.S. were we are allowed to have a difference of opinion. Have a good day. Joanne __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012):

07-25-2008, 11:45 AM	#34
Diego Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Canada Posts: 3,617	I think its very difficult to judge what is rude and what is not just by reading a post . Sometimes peoples say very logical things but peoples often believe it is rude .

07-25-2008, 02:03 PM	#39
erino77 Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,503	2) I have the right to speak my mind, but I also bear the responsibility of how my words affect others. Is my vote. I was raised that If I had nothing nice to say then I should not say anything at all. I don't like my feelings to be hurt so I would not intentionally hurt others by cruel words. I do have the right to speak, yes of course I do, BUT with those rights should follow respect. Just because I DISagree with someone, does not give me the right to DISrespect them even though I have the right to speak my mind. Along with rights should come responsibility and respect. Kind of the 3 R's

07-25-2008, 03:00 PM	#41
linsvs YT Addict Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: maine Posts: 343	I have only been on here a few months, but I have to say on 2 different occasions I was tempted to leave this site because of a FEW rude posters. What stoped me was the MANY good, kind, thoughtful people on this site. They more then made up for the few that are not always careful in choosing the words they use to get there message across. I always proof read my message ,sometimes I feel the need to change a word or 2 just to give a sentence a whole different meaning...

07-25-2008, 04:47 PM	#43
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