My Heart Is Heavy Right Now

[velobabe]

We've decided to place our female Boxer, Luna, with another couple. She is a beautiful girl with a lot of spunk and we love her so much but she requires so much more time and training that we don't have to give her right now. She is 6 months old now and try as we might nothing is improving with her housetraining and her destructiveness. We asked a close friend of ours who has 2 Boxers if they would like to have her but they weren't able to take her but knew of a friend who is looking for a female for a companion to their male. They had a female but she died of cancer. We take her this evening to meet them and if all goes well she'll be staying. I feel so sad and like a horrible Mommy I will miss her so but I know it's for the best for all of us. She is a good girl but just requires the majority of attention and with the other 3 dogs and our 1 year old son we don't have as much attention to give that she seems to need. My Hubby is hurting too but he is the one that has to deal with cleaning up the majority of her messes. And we just bought our home a little more than 5 months ago and she has done so much damage to it despite having 101 different chew toys. With this couple she'll have more one-on-one interaction and I pray will be spoiled rotten by them. They are thinking of breeding her and I'm not sure how I feel about that. We thought of breeding her to our male Boxer ONCE when she was old enough and then spaying her but now that's not an option since she won't be ours. I will worry about her so much. I wish there was another outcome but we don't know what else to do. Our male Boxer will be devastated and so too will Piper. They are like the Three Musketeers. If we take her there and it doesn't "feel right" she'll be coming right back home. Sorry for the long post...I just needed to share my hurt

[bugaboosmom]

I,m sure you're trying your best to do the right thing for your baby boxer. I'ts not easy.

[velobabe]

Originally Posted by bugaboosmom

I,m sure you're trying your best to do the right thing for your baby boxer. I'ts not easy.

Thanks so much for the kind words. I can't even thinking of sleeping right now...this is weighing so heavily on my mind. I love your username btw. Our son's nickname is Bug and I say Bug a Boo to him a lot. Seeing your name made me smile

[bugaboosmom]

I thought I had an original name for my (four-legged) son? Is it in a children's cartoon?

[eensor]

A most of YT knows, I rescued a black Lab last summer (Layla). She was 3 days away from euthanasia. We kept her and worked with her as long as we could, but she just needed more room to run. She was also very destructive due to boredom, I think. She is now on a farmette with other Labs and kids and two ponds she can swim in! She loves it and is doing great!

The point of all this is, your Boxer may indeed be happier somewhere else. Don't beat yourself up about this! You are trying to do the best thing for HER as well as your household. It'll be ok!

[red98vett]

I agree with Eenser....sometimes the hardest choices are the best choices and the best of luck to her in her new home...I hope things work out for you

[rrosenberry]

Sounds like you're doing the right thing for her, I'm sure it will be hard for you guys, but she will be happier.

[iheartyorkies]

Tammy my heart goes out to you. I know you're hurting but you're not being a bad mommy, you're being a good one who considers what is best for the dog and your family.

[deb4air]

Sending you hugs ,,,its always hard when your loving somthing enough to let it go .

[Baby Blessing]

Please don't feel badly about making the decision to place your puppy in a new home, I admire you and your husband. You are doing what you feel is best and that is important.
I am sure your puppy will do fine and maybe you can visit it now and then if the new owner is close by.

[velobabe]

I Love all you guys so much! YTers are the BEST!! You all know just what to say to make me feel better. The update is we were unable to take her to the couple tonight so we have to wait until Thursday. The people sound really excited to get her but when my hubby came home he ended up on the floor cuddling with Luna and they looked so sweet together. I could tell by his face and mannerisms that he was sad. So I tested him and said I was going to call and tell the people that we were keeping her and he said OK, so now I know he doesn't really want to get rid of her. So I told him that if we make a real effort to devote more attention to her and also get her some obedience training that she would probably be the best dog ever, because she is a huge cuddler and lover, but the decision is ultimately his since she's his baby. So we just may be keeping her. I'm torn because as of right now it'd be best to let her go but I don't want to give her up if my hubby isn't 100% sure. Once we let her go we can't get her back so I want him to be certain. We have until Thursday to decide for sure. I pray the right answer comes and we make the right decision for all. Thanks so much for the advice and comforting words

[velobabe]

Originally Posted by bugaboosmom

I thought I had an original name for my (four-legged) son? Is it in a children's cartoon?

I believe it was a show/cartoon back in the 70's or 80's because my hubby and his brother know the theme song. They sing it to Tristan often....

The Bugaboos, The Bugaboos,
They're in the air and everywhere,
The Bugaboos, The Bugaboos...

That's the only part I know from them singing it So FUNNY!!!

[cheryl000]

Originally Posted by velobabe

I Love all you guys so much! YTers are the BEST!! You all know just what to say to make me feel better. The update is we were unable to take her to the couple tonight so we have to wait until Thursday. The people sound really excited to get her but when my hubby came home he ended up on the floor cuddling with Luna and they looked so sweet together. I could tell by his face and mannerisms that he was sad. So I tested him and said I was going to call and tell the people that we were keeping her and he said OK, so now I know he doesn't really want to get rid of her. So I told him that if we make a real effort to devote more attention to her and also get her some obedience training that she would probably be the best dog ever, because she is a huge cuddler and lover, but the decision is ultimately his since she's his baby. So we just may be keeping her. I'm torn because as of right now it'd be best to let her go but I don't want to give her up if my hubby isn't 100% sure. Once we let her go we can't get her back so I want him to be certain. We have until Thursday to decide for sure. I pray the right answer comes and we make the right decision for all. Thanks so much for the advice and comforting words

I read your story and I got excited about this post. I really feel like you love the dog and can make things work. There was a rough patch with my 2 dogs for a while. It seems like potty training was going no where and they just tore stuff up all the time. But now my husband is loving on them and he even fell asleep with them last night(well, he was kind of drunk from the super bowl but I'll take it). But you learn how to adapt to them. They are like your family. Whenever my husband got frustrated I reminded him about how attached our son is to the dogs and how mad I used to get everytime my father would get rid of one of his hunting dogs that we always named and got attached to. These animals are a part of the family and it just wouldn't be the same without them.
I really think you could make things work. We set up a baby gate so the dogs only stay in the kitchen until they are completely potty trained. Is there anyway you can section off a part of the house that isn't carpeted for the dogs so you don't get as mad when they have an accident? My dogs only run the house only if someone is always with them. They also have a crate that we use at night, they're alot easier to train that way. I can also recommend reading some books or magazines to read. I figured out that when my dogs have accidents that it's really my fault most of the time. I hope this helps.
Oh, and about the boxer. I would ask ALOT of questions to the lady and make sure she's serious about breeding and not a byb. Make sure she knows not to go into the first heating cycle, etc. Make sure she is going to keep the dog inside as well. I would also recommend to charge her an adoption fee since you don't know her very well. People in general have attendancy to take better care of animals/things that they spent money on. Also, I would make up a contract that if something ever happens to her that she HAS to give her back to you instead of taking the dog to the shelter. Good luck!

[Chelsey]

Originally Posted by velobabe

We've decided to place our female Boxer, Luna, with another couple. She is a beautiful girl with a lot of spunk and we love her so much but she requires so much more time and training that we don't have to give her right now. She is 6 months old now and try as we might nothing is improving with her housetraining and her destructiveness. We asked a close friend of ours who has 2 Boxers if they would like to have her but they weren't able to take her but knew of a friend who is looking for a female for a companion to their male. They had a female but she died of cancer. We take her this evening to meet them and if all goes well she'll be staying. I feel so sad and like a horrible Mommy I will miss her so but I know it's for the best for all of us. She is a good girl but just requires the majority of attention and with the other 3 dogs and our 1 year old son we don't have as much attention to give that she seems to need. My Hubby is hurting too but he is the one that has to deal with cleaning up the majority of her messes. And we just bought our home a little more than 5 months ago and she has done so much damage to it despite having 101 different chew toys. With this couple she'll have more one-on-one interaction and I pray will be spoiled rotten by them. They are thinking of breeding her and I'm not sure how I feel about that. We thought of breeding her to our male Boxer ONCE when she was old enough and then spaying her but now that's not an option since she won't be ours. I will worry about her so much. I wish there was another outcome but we don't know what else to do. Our male Boxer will be devastated and so too will Piper. They are like the Three Musketeers. If we take her there and it doesn't "feel right" she'll be coming right back home. Sorry for the long post...I just needed to share my hurt

We have had a boxer for MANY years and i honestly can agree with you that they need a LOT of attention and training, you have to be on top of them ALL the time, dont get me wrong, they are GREAT dogs and one of my favourite breeds. We had a male, a very pleasant dog with a beautiful nature, but oh my word, left unattended he would do everything he wasnt supose to do! He distroyed 2 lounge suits, curtains "he used to rip them down" we once tried to crate him, we left him in the kitchen in his crate, when we came home he was standing by the door crate and all. If he got the chance to go into my grocerie cupboard he would pull anything that was in his reach off the shelves, once he got hold of a box of cocoa powder after he was done we had to give the whole house a Spring cleaning. If i look back at those times now, i laugh about it and wonder where i got the patients from with him, but his nature made up for all his mistakes, he was a rescue that had a terrible past and all we could do was forgive him and love him lol

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by eensor

A most of YT knows, I rescued a black Lab last summer (Layla). She was 3 days away from euthanasia. We kept her and worked with her as long as we could, but she just needed more room to run. She was also very destructive due to boredom, I think. She is now on a farmette with other Labs and kids and two ponds she can swim in! She loves it and is doing great!

The point of all this is, your Boxer may indeed be happier somewhere else. Don't beat yourself up about this! You are trying to do the best thing for HER as well as your household. It'll be ok!

I agree. Don't beat yourself up about it. You're doing the best for your boxer. She knows you love her.