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pepe mint · 09-29-2007, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Tillys_mom

For every few bad people on here I can name so many good. Those people keep me coming back. Poo on those negative people.

exactly

judyeve · 09-29-2007, 05:37 PM

I've dropped off a lot lately because of a new feeling of negativity on threads that wasn't here when I joined.

I've seen threads being closed, people being bashed indirectly on other threads, etc. (The new batch of crazies who pop on every so often are not so bad - they're even funny and I don't let them bother me.)

What bothers me is the unnecessary nastiness I've seen. I'm finished buying into the excuse that this is an open forum and everybody is entitled to voice their opinions. This is true, however, putting that same opinion as nicely as you can is an adult choice. I don't have to listen to anyone's opinion if I feel they're just out and out nasty about how they state it.

As far as I'm concerned, that excuse is nonsense. The reality is that some people don't want to post here anymore, so, true or not, it's just not working out well. Learn to be nice about what you have to say, or don't say it at all.
In other words, grow up!

I just got a new puppy and haven't really put up too many pictures, nor shared a lot about her and Max. There are some people here who I do not want to share my joy or my business with. I don't need their negative energy in my life.

On the other hand, these people are in the minority. Most YT members are wonderful, amazing people who I care about. I care about your dogs, your families, when someone is sick, when you share your happiness and your sorrows.

I have also learned 90% of what I know about Yorkies from YT. I could not have raised Max so well without the help and support of YT. I certainly couldn't have found Gracie Leigh without the help and advice of YTers.

I'll be back on, but I do not believe that "freedom to state your opinion" crap.
State your opinion to somebody else. I just don't care all that much about it and I don't want negativity in my life.

Just my opinion.

BamaFan121s · 09-29-2007, 05:38 PM

Here's another question and point to consider: At what point do you post based on the dog's well being vs the person who may have their feelings hurt? Where do you draw that line?

I.e. "I'm going to breed my 2 1/2 pound female" At what point do you take the dog's interest to heart and base a response on what's best for her vs 'not caring' and refraining from posting altogether?

jp4m2 · 09-29-2007, 05:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I don't post very much here, I get my feelings hurt to easily so I'm one that is afraid. I do a lot of reading, and when YorkieRose gives advice, I actually take notes. Very nice lady.

Maybe when the mean posts are spotted, someone can click on the exclamation point triangle and report it right away. I have noticed it is usually the same ones most of the time, not all the time, but most.

Great post Amber!

Hi Janet, Now that you mention it I don't see you posting much,any more, I always liked your posts...that's a shame you've stopped doing it as much because some one had a mean streak....I hope you reconsider.....

I can only remember two posts where I was taken aback, one of them posted a reply peppered with exclamation points...all I could think was,"Why didn't you just ask for clarification w/o the shotgun blast of exclamation points"..... sheesh....then I got over it....

Mardelin · 09-29-2007, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

I don't think anyone should not post their feelings and opinions i just think they should think before they say rude comments that will hurt another persons feelings.

Just let me interject my feelings here. I do try to temper my words when posting. However, it's very difficult when you see people come on here posting about accidents....or people that haven't done their homework. It does anger me, because they didn't think of the dogs.......yes, to me they come first. To me it's irresponsible pet ownership, but it doesn't stop me from attempting to help.

BamaFan121s · 09-29-2007, 05:40 PM

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Originally Posted by jp4m2

"Why didn't you just ask for clarification w/o the shotgun blast of exclamation points"..... sheesh....then I got over it....

Lol...that's funny.

love_me_cody · 09-29-2007, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jp4m2

Hi Janet, Now that you mention it I don't see you posting much,any more, I always liked your posts...that's a shame you've stopped doing it as much because some one had a mean streak....I hope you reconsider.....

I can only remember two posts where I was taken aback, one of them posted a reply peppered with exclamation points...all I could think was,"Why didn't you just ask for clarification w/o the shotgun blast of exclamation points"..... sheesh....then I got over it....

ohhhh, You got my started with the exclamation marks! (!)..... They are either good (like when you have something 'happy' to say) or they just make what that person say seem like yelling...

jp4m2 · 09-29-2007, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by BamaFan121s

Here's another question and point to consider: At what point do you post based on the dog's well being vs the person who may have their feelings hurt? Where do you draw that line?

I.e. "I'm going to breed my 2 1/2 pound female" At what point do you take the dog's interest to heart and base a response on what's best for her vs 'not caring' and refraining from posting altogether?

Just a thought but what if in that kind of situation you P.M.ed the person and tell them you wanted to offer some advice in private so as to not cause unnecessary hurt or embarrassment and offer her the info....

Amber_lv · 09-29-2007, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Mardelin

Just let me interject my feelings here. I do try to temper my words when posting. However, it's very difficult when you see people come on here posting about accidents....or people that haven't done their homework. It does anger me, because they didn't think of the dogs.......yes, to me they come first. To me it's irresponsible pet ownership, but it doesn't stop me from attempting to help.

and you are a prize example on how you help someone without bashing them into the ground!

i know how passionate you are about the breed and you help a lot of people here with your wisdom and you do it with a positive attitude

Amber_lv · 09-29-2007, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by jp4m2

Just a thought but what if in that kind of situation you P.M.ed the person and tell them you wanted to offer some advice in private so as to not cause unnecessary hurt or embarrassment and offer her the info....

pepe mint · 09-29-2007, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Mardelin

Just let me interject my feelings here. I do try to temper my words when posting. However, it's very difficult when you see people come on here posting about accidents....or people that haven't done their homework. It does anger me, because they didn't think of the dogs.......yes, to me they come first. To me it's irresponsible pet ownership, but it doesn't stop me from attempting to help.

i agree..i always want to help when i can...but again...there is a considerate way to help...and a rude way to offer your help.

maybe those people were not raised with the knowlege or taught how to do the research necessary....so they come here...and that is where it is our duty to help them learn. in a nice way

i will say...i don't have any problems with your posts...you carry yourself very professionally in all of the posts i have read from you. you sound knowledgeable and i am sure you have helped many many people. we are all blessed that you are willing to offer that help...as many others do.

BamaFan121s · 09-29-2007, 05:45 PM

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Originally Posted by judyeve

I'm finished buying into the excuse that this is an open forum and everybody is entitled to voice their opinions.

But unfortunately, that IS the case, to an extent.(And pretty significant part of what this country was founded on...regardless to what anyone's opinion is.) Maybe not nice, or ethical, or preferred, but fact, nevertheless.

"Freedom of Speach" (and opinion) is 'all the time', not just when it's 'what you want to hear.'

BamaFan121s · 09-29-2007, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by jp4m2

Just a thought but what if in that kind of situation you P.M.ed the person and tell them you wanted to offer some advice in private so as to not cause unnecessary hurt or embarrassment and offer her the info....

I guess...of course, for all those who "just read" as it has been pointed out in this very thread...they would only read the comments posted, so it really wouldn't do them any good, would it?

Kind of a no win situation.

jp4m2 · 09-29-2007, 05:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Amber_lv

and you are a prize example on how you help someone without bashing them into the ground!

i know how passionate you are about the breed and you help a lot of people here with your wisdom and you do it with a positive attitude

I have to agree with you Amber with this observation...Some people stick in our memories for good reasons or bad reasons, Mardelin has always been informative w/o making the person feel stupid for asking or condescending toward the person....Mardelin sticks in my memory for being one of the good ones

....

BamaFan121s · 09-29-2007, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by love_me_cody

ohhhh, You got my started with the exclamation marks! (!)..... They are either good (like when you have something 'happy' to say) or they just make what that person say seem like yelling...

What are you trying to say? !!! !!! !!! !!! !!! !!! !!!

09-29-2007, 05:37 PM	#47
judyeve Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 1,729	I've dropped off a lot lately because of a new feeling of negativity on threads that wasn't here when I joined. I've seen threads being closed, people being bashed indirectly on other threads, etc. (The new batch of crazies who pop on every so often are not so bad - they're even funny and I don't let them bother me.) What bothers me is the unnecessary nastiness I've seen. I'm finished buying into the excuse that this is an open forum and everybody is entitled to voice their opinions. This is true, however, putting that same opinion as nicely as you can is an adult choice. I don't have to listen to anyone's opinion if I feel they're just out and out nasty about how they state it. As far as I'm concerned, that excuse is nonsense. The reality is that some people don't want to post here anymore, so, true or not, it's just not working out well. Learn to be nice about what you have to say, or don't say it at all. In other words, grow up! I just got a new puppy and haven't really put up too many pictures, nor shared a lot about her and Max. There are some people here who I do not want to share my joy or my business with. I don't need their negative energy in my life. On the other hand, these people are in the minority. Most YT members are wonderful, amazing people who I care about. I care about your dogs, your families, when someone is sick, when you share your happiness and your sorrows. I have also learned 90% of what I know about Yorkies from YT. I could not have raised Max so well without the help and support of YT. I certainly couldn't have found Gracie Leigh without the help and advice of YTers. I'll be back on, but I do not believe that "freedom to state your opinion" crap. State your opinion to somebody else. I just don't care all that much about it and I don't want negativity in my life. Just my opinion. __________________ *Judy, Max and Annie* *Rest in Peace my Sweet Angel Gracie Leigh:*

09-29-2007, 05:38 PM	#48
BamaFan121s Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Alabama Posts: 11,432	Here's another question and point to consider: At what point do you post based on the dog's well being vs the person who may have their feelings hurt? Where do you draw that line? I.e. "I'm going to breed my 2 1/2 pound female" At what point do you take the dog's interest to heart and base a response on what's best for her vs 'not caring' and refraining from posting altogether?