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BubblPopElectrc · 09-15-2007, 12:38 PM

I think 14 is fine.

Don't be to overly protective of him. The last thing you want is him lying to you.

Anna Banana · 09-15-2007, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

i think group dating is the way to go and as far as someone talking about how young they were when they were in each others ooms for long periods and etc. My only comment is to shake my head and wonder where in the world were the parents heads to allow this.

Wow, thats kind of judgemental. Honestly, I would be happy to have a duaghter that I could trust to behave appropriately, even when I wasn't around. You can't always watch your kids, and its a true test of your parenting when your children are able to show their own moral values by judging what is and is not appropriate.

Yorkieluv · 09-15-2007, 12:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Anna Banana

You can't always watch your kids, and its a true test of your parenting when your children are able to show their own moral values by judging what is and is not appropriate.

Chelsea15 · 09-15-2007, 12:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Sugar's Mom

i think group dating is the way to go and as far as someone talking about how young they were when they were in each others ooms for long periods and etc. My only comment is to shake my head and wonder where in the world were the parents heads to allow this.

is this about ME?!?!?

Chelsea15 · 09-15-2007, 12:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Anna Banana

Wow, thats kind of judgemental. Honestly, I would be happy to have a duaghter that I could trust to behave appropriately, even when I wasn't around. You can't always watch your kids, and its a true test of your parenting when your children are able to show their own moral values by judging what is and is not appropriate.

thank you

Catrina · 09-15-2007, 01:30 PM

u guys are lucky... im 22 and my mom is sooooooooooo strict still ... like

i know ur gonna say i can do whatever i want cuz im an adult, but its not like this in their house and i cant even move out yet cuz i just graduated and i need to find a job......

txshopper73 · 09-15-2007, 01:39 PM

My head is reeling from this thread! My daughter will be 13 in May. I'm not ready for any of this!!!!!!!

I didn't start dating until I was 17 and glad that I waited. I've told my daughter that she can start at 16 IF she was mature enough.

its stephyylove · 09-15-2007, 02:26 PM

I think you should let him.. I'm almost 16 and and I'm not allowed to date.. And I seriously hate it.

adorame · 09-15-2007, 03:38 PM

Wow, thanks all, you all have great points. I would like that he stay open and honest with us. I guess that a group date is fine but I think that I would prefer a chaperone to be around just to be on the safe side, after all it's not like he is old enough to drive himself around! He is very mature for his age, he has alway's been mature to the point that you tend to forget his real age when talking with him. My husband and I told him we wanted to go over a few things and then we will sit down and have a talk with him about what we decide to go about this. It's hard for me because of how strict my own mother was with me and my 3 sisters. I don't want to be too strict myself but their has to be rules if we go ahead and let him go on movie dates!

I Love Bailey · 09-15-2007, 03:48 PM

My teens are 17 & 19 and were not allowed to date until they were 16.
We did allow them to go in groups to the movies or out to eat or just have everyone over and hang out at our house. I just always made sure we had soda and juice in the fridge and snacks in the cupboard. Every Friday night we would order pizza or bbq. Sure our grocery bill went up but it gave us piece of mind as well as the kids a place to go.
We let them know we would check in on them or we would watch movies together.
We have a good relationship with most of the kids and the kids still stop by just to talk with my husband or me. It also gives you a chance to get to know the kids and make some judgement calls to interfere if you need to.We even had one friend of our sons live with us for about 4 months last year. He calls me his second mom...we really got him turned around and back on track.

Chelsea15 · 09-15-2007, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by I Love Bailey

We have a good relationship with most of the kids and the kids still stop by just to talk with my husband or me. It also gives you a chance to get to know the kids and make some judgement calls to interfere if you need to.We even had one friend of our sons live with us for about 4 months last year. He calls me his second mom...we really got him turned around and back on track.

Bizzymammabee · 09-15-2007, 05:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

It's definetly worse with girls, because their the one's that come home pregnant. I've always encouraged and even took my daughter to get birth control. I'd rather be safe then sorry. I gave her the whole birth control doesn't keep you from getting sexually transmitted diseases. It turned out pretty well, except she told me some things I didn't know myself. LOL

I think it's scary no matter the sex of your child. My mom always figured she had nothing to worry about with her son....wrong. When my brother was a HS senior his girlfriend got preggers. Her mom threw her out and she came to live with us. So either way your in big trouble. I have two girls and a boy and it scares me spitless watching how these kids are now a days. I have heard the most vulgur things come out of the mouths of young teen girls on teh train in the morning. I think it's great you kept an open line of communication and took her to get BC.

Tillys_mom · 09-15-2007, 05:53 PM

My mom was great with me. She was and still is my best friend. I went to her for EVERYTHING. I would go on dates and my mom would be up waiting to hear if it was good or bad. Did he kiss you? Was it good? I didn't mind sharing. I was 17 when put on the pill. I felt comfortable enough to go to her and talk to her about it. She said she respected the way I came to her to tell her that I thought I was ready instead of just going out and doing it and regretting it later. I didn't get yelled at for it, I didn't get praised at for it, I was told both sides. My mom was def. the best mom and friend I could of asked for. I didn't go out and party. I've never smoked and I drank once after I got married. Kids will do whatever they want believe me. My brother is the complete opposite of me. My parents always had a little bit different of a relationship with him. Not their choice but his. They regret that they let him get so distant from them. He dropped out of high school, smokes, parties, gets in trouble all the time, doesn't have a job, you name it. Just don't let him get distant. It's great that he is like this now. My brother was about 16 when he got distant from my parents. You can't let them get by with everything, but I think you should meet them halfway. It will pay off in the long run.

Anna Banana · 09-15-2007, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Chelsea15

thank you

You're welcome. You sound like a really mature and responsible girl, and it sounds like your mom had a really big part in that.

Chelsea15 · 09-15-2007, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Anna Banana

You're welcome. You sound like a really mature and responsible girl, and it sounds like your mom had a really big part in that.

yea she knows that I have the same "rebelious" attitude as her, so she doesnt force me to rebel, the way my grandparents did to her. I'm glad she understands it to, I really dont know where I would be without the relationship I have with my mom. When I told her I was thinking about having sex she just gave me a few facts and told me that she would trust me to be safe, and I'm glad she reacted that way. It just made me trust her that much more, knowing that I could even talk to her about sex.

09-15-2007, 01:39 PM	#52
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	My head is reeling from this thread! My daughter will be 13 in May. I'm not ready for any of this!!!!!!! I didn't start dating until I was 17 and glad that I waited. I've told my daughter that she can start at 16 IF she was mature enough. __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

09-15-2007, 03:48 PM	#55
I Love Bailey I Love Angel too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Northern Nevada Posts: 1,339	My teens are 17 & 19 and were not allowed to date until they were 16. We did allow them to go in groups to the movies or out to eat or just have everyone over and hang out at our house. I just always made sure we had soda and juice in the fridge and snacks in the cupboard. Every Friday night we would order pizza or bbq. Sure our grocery bill went up but it gave us piece of mind as well as the kids a place to go. We let them know we would check in on them or we would watch movies together. We have a good relationship with most of the kids and the kids still stop by just to talk with my husband or me. It also gives you a chance to get to know the kids and make some judgement calls to interfere if you need to.We even had one friend of our sons live with us for about 4 months last year. He calls me his second mom...we really got him turned around and back on track. __________________ Michele & Bailey Angel 7/06-9/12

09-15-2007, 05:53 PM	#58
Tillys_mom Spoilin' Tilly & Jack Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 2,227	My mom was great with me. She was and still is my best friend. I went to her for EVERYTHING. I would go on dates and my mom would be up waiting to hear if it was good or bad. Did he kiss you? Was it good? I didn't mind sharing. I was 17 when put on the pill. I felt comfortable enough to go to her and talk to her about it. She said she respected the way I came to her to tell her that I thought I was ready instead of just going out and doing it and regretting it later. I didn't get yelled at for it, I didn't get praised at for it, I was told both sides. My mom was def. the best mom and friend I could of asked for. I didn't go out and party. I've never smoked and I drank once after I got married. Kids will do whatever they want believe me. My brother is the complete opposite of me. My parents always had a little bit different of a relationship with him. Not their choice but his. They regret that they let him get so distant from them. He dropped out of high school, smokes, parties, gets in trouble all the time, doesn't have a job, you name it. Just don't let him get distant. It's great that he is like this now. My brother was about 16 when he got distant from my parents. You can't let them get by with everything, but I think you should meet them halfway. It will pay off in the long run. __________________ Momma Tilly Money will buy you a pretty good dog, but it won't buy the wag of his tail.

09-15-2007, 12:38 PM	#46
BubblPopElectrc Kyle Plus 3 Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Washington, DC Posts: 6,929	I think 14 is fine. Don't be to overly protective of him. The last thing you want is him lying to you.

09-15-2007, 01:30 PM	#51
Catrina I love my lil wolf! ;) Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Washington Posts: 2,434	u guys are lucky... im 22 and my mom is sooooooooooo strict still ... like i know ur gonna say i can do whatever i want cuz im an adult, but its not like this in their house and i cant even move out yet cuz i just graduated and i need to find a job......

09-15-2007, 02:26 PM	#53
its stephyylove Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: the lovely massachusetts Posts: 402	I think you should let him.. I'm almost 16 and and I'm not allowed to date.. And I seriously hate it.

09-15-2007, 03:38 PM	#54
adorame YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Ohio Posts: 2,312 Blog Entries: 1	Wow, thanks all, you all have great points. I would like that he stay open and honest with us. I guess that a group date is fine but I think that I would prefer a chaperone to be around just to be on the safe side, after all it's not like he is old enough to drive himself around! He is very mature for his age, he has alway's been mature to the point that you tend to forget his real age when talking with him. My husband and I told him we wanted to go over a few things and then we will sit down and have a talk with him about what we decide to go about this. It's hard for me because of how strict my own mother was with me and my 3 sisters. I don't want to be too strict myself but their has to be rules if we go ahead and let him go on movie dates!