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celstu1 · 07-20-2007, 07:25 AM

I don't think thats weird at all Denise! My baby boy died a horrible death also when he was only 5 months old (somehow got into rat poison and its a mystery to this day where he got it) but I got 2 more boys a couple months later and although I kept a lot of my other babies things, leashes, collars, favorite toys... I never let my boys now use or play with them! it would make me sad!! I don't blame you one bit! Its a constant reminder of the loss you had and how much it hurt you and made you sad.

ellie81 · 07-20-2007, 07:37 AM

I also think that you should wait, honey. It's too soon to tell, and it's understandable that you are feeling this way now. When the time comes, you'll know if you can keep some items or they are reminding you of Maddie too much. Maybe the joy that Macy will bring will be so big that it won't affect you too much; especially is she's a lot like Maddie in her personality. If they are very different, maybe putting her clothes on her will bring certain memories that will make you sad. So, I would say, wait and you'll know what's the right thing to do...

chloeandj · 07-20-2007, 08:02 AM

When my last maltese passed away I put all her things away. AFter a year or so passed I was ready to let them go and I sold some stuff and gave the rest away. I couldn't give them to my other dogs. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know your new baby will bring a special joy back into your life.

Tiger's Mom · 07-20-2007, 08:30 AM

Oh Denise, it sure must be so hard to see all of Maddie's wonderful clothes and know she will never wear them again.

I think you should not rush into doing anything. There is plenty of time to decide later, especially when you are past the grieving stage

If it helps, maybe put them away so you don't constantly see them and be depressed. When Macy finally comes home, see how you feel about it . . . and then decide.

Either way, I am sure it is the right thing to do for YOURSELF.

Yorkiekids · 07-20-2007, 08:34 AM

I agree. Keep some and pack some away. When Macy is in your heart, and soul you might reconsider letting her wear the clothes. If not you can deal with the clothes then.

MaxwellHouse · 07-20-2007, 08:48 AM

Denise,

The ones that Maddie wore a lot maybe you could make into a patchwork pillow or blankie - is that silly?

Our problem with Maxwell, is we still call him "Brutus" accidently, a lot. Brutus died unexpectedly Feb. 15 and I picked up Maxwell March 17. If Maxwell were wearing Brutus little jackets, well, I just don't know.

Sharing your pain, and your thrill with your new baby.
Debbie

Gingergirlsmom · 07-20-2007, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by chattiesmom

Denise, you don't have to do anything right now. If it were me I would go through Maggie's clothes, toys, etc. and pick out the one that harbor the happiest memories and carefully and lovingly pack them away forever. Then I would box up the rest of her things and just set them aside. You don't have to do anything right now. In fact, you should probably wait until you are past the initial grieving phase and are in the healing phase. Then you will be able to make a clearer decision about what you want to do.

You could always donate some of her things to a dogsoul in need or sell a few of the items and use that money to plant a tree/memory garden in her honor.

Hugs to you, my YT sister :ghugs:e that your new Macy will help to bring some healing to the hole in your heart.

I have to agree with this!!!! Give it time before you decide.

Catrina · 07-20-2007, 11:12 AM

I agree with Villette.. you should keep them and let Macy wear them..

BUT the ones that remind you the most of Maddie.. or whichever ones were your favorite on her, you should just store those away as a tribute to Maddie

pea496 · 07-20-2007, 11:59 AM

I would pack them away until you feel ready for the new furbaby to wear them. When the pain lessens, you will probably want Macy to wear Maddie's clothing.

judyeve · 07-20-2007, 12:22 PM

Dear Denise,

Your heart will tell you what the right thing to do for all of you is. I agree with everyone that you should put them away until you know what you want to do.

I'm sorry you're having a bad day.

Prayers and hugs,

Judy

Mitzis Mom · 07-20-2007, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by iloveemmy

Do you know of someone who would love to have clothes for their yorkie, but really can't afford them? If so and they fit, maybe you can send them to his/her furbaby! I am sure they would appreciate it! Keep a few favs for your new girl and send the others to a good home! Surely someone on YT knows someone personally who would love the clothes, but is struggling financially.

Good luck in whatever you decide!

one of them would be GREENLEESNANA or 111puppylove111...

Kbsqueff · 07-20-2007, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by red98vett

IF it were me......I'd consider it a tribute to Maddie and keep the clothes. You have so many cute ones and your new baby will never ever replace Maddie...She'll be cute in her OWN way wearing them

I totally agree w/ V...

The day my poodle Carina died (she had lung cancer), I was holding her in my arms while giving her oxigen to breath, at the hospital... Well, she didn't make it, and passed away in my arms...

At that moment I felt something just broke inside of me... I felt powerless, because I was right there losing my baby and I could not DO anything to help her...

Long after I came back to an empty home...

It's been 1 1/2 yr since Carina is gonne... And after 4 months that Caca'd passed away my Dad gave me Maggie. I STILL say Carina when I call for Maggie... and I could NEVER give away Caca's things/clothes...

Maggie and Hannah DO use Caca's bed, but not the clothes because they don't fit...

Best advise, IMO: take your time to decide... you'll know what to do when you stop grieving...

jp4m2 · 07-20-2007, 01:41 PM

I agree w/ the other posters who say you should get out the boxes...since you have posted that you DON'T know what to do, then I would do nothing...any decision you do when your head is not clear & your heart is still bruised may become a big regret later...if you just put them away til you are sure & clear in your decision, don't do anything...when the time comes you will feel very confident in the end w/ no regrets...take your time...

Too Cute Teddy · 07-20-2007, 01:41 PM

I didn't read through all of the posts so I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but there are some really cute patchwork quilts you can make (or have made) out of old clothes - they do it with infant clothes, etc. I might be cute to make or have made a blanket out of Maddie's clothes - that way you can wrap it around you and it will remind you that she is here with you at heart. You don't need enough clothes to make an entire quilt - they can fill in with coordinating material to finish it off. You can also get her name, DOB, a nice saying, etc embroidered on it.

littlewhip · 07-20-2007, 02:15 PM

Denise, sorry you are having such a bad day, I know how you feel, when i lost my dodger a few years ago, before i had my yorkies, I could not let go of anything, i put it all down in the basement for over a year, then slowly went thru some items and let my other babies play with his toys, after a few days i was happy i did, your heart will let you know what to do, you are in my thoughts, wish you the best

07-20-2007, 07:25 AM	#16
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	I don't think thats weird at all Denise! My baby boy died a horrible death also when he was only 5 months old (somehow got into rat poison and its a mystery to this day where he got it) but I got 2 more boys a couple months later and although I kept a lot of my other babies things, leashes, collars, favorite toys... I never let my boys now use or play with them! it would make me sad!! I don't blame you one bit! Its a constant reminder of the loss you had and how much it hurt you and made you sad. __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

07-20-2007, 07:37 AM	#17
ellie81 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: South Florida Posts: 5,314 Blog Entries: 1	I also think that you should wait, honey. It's too soon to tell, and it's understandable that you are feeling this way now. When the time comes, you'll know if you can keep some items or they are reminding you of Maddie too much. Maybe the joy that Macy will bring will be so big that it won't affect you too much; especially is she's a lot like Maddie in her personality. If they are very different, maybe putting her clothes on her will bring certain memories that will make you sad. So, I would say, wait and you'll know what's the right thing to do... __________________ Ellie and Bengi Bengi Is Home!!! - http://youtu.be/8OKv35pk5Pk

07-20-2007, 08:02 AM	#18
chloeandj Tinkerbell, My Little Flutterpup Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Beautiful California! Posts: 6,112	When my last maltese passed away I put all her things away. AFter a year or so passed I was ready to let them go and I sold some stuff and gave the rest away. I couldn't give them to my other dogs. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know your new baby will bring a special joy back into your life. Last edited by chloeandj; 07-20-2007 at 08:04 AM.

07-20-2007, 11:59 AM	#24
pea496 Donating Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Connecticut Posts: 1,511	I would pack them away until you feel ready for the new furbaby to wear them. When the pain lessens, you will probably want Macy to wear Maddie's clothing. __________________ Conner - my best buddy

07-20-2007, 12:22 PM	#25
judyeve Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Brooklyn, NY Posts: 1,729	Dear Denise, Your heart will tell you what the right thing to do for all of you is. I agree with everyone that you should put them away until you know what you want to do. I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Prayers and hugs, Judy __________________ *Judy, Max and Annie* *Rest in Peace my Sweet Angel Gracie Leigh:*

07-20-2007, 08:30 AM	#19
Tiger's Mom Donating YT 8000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Spokane, WA Posts: 9,339	Oh Denise, it sure must be so hard to see all of Maddie's wonderful clothes and know she will never wear them again. I think you should not rush into doing anything. There is plenty of time to decide later, especially when you are past the grieving stage If it helps, maybe put them away so you don't constantly see them and be depressed. When Macy finally comes home, see how you feel about it . . . and then decide. Either way, I am sure it is the right thing to do for YOURSELF.

07-20-2007, 08:34 AM	#20
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	I agree. Keep some and pack some away. When Macy is in your heart, and soul you might reconsider letting her wear the clothes. If not you can deal with the clothes then.

07-20-2007, 08:48 AM	#21
MaxwellHouse YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Earlysville Posts: 976	Denise, The ones that Maddie wore a lot maybe you could make into a patchwork pillow or blankie - is that silly? Our problem with Maxwell, is we still call him "Brutus" accidently, a lot. Brutus died unexpectedly Feb. 15 and I picked up Maxwell March 17. If Maxwell were wearing Brutus little jackets, well, I just don't know. Sharing your pain, and your thrill with your new baby. Debbie

07-20-2007, 11:12 AM	#23
Catrina I love my lil wolf! ;) Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Washington Posts: 2,434	I agree with Villette.. you should keep them and let Macy wear them.. BUT the ones that remind you the most of Maddie.. or whichever ones were your favorite on her, you should just store those away as a tribute to Maddie

07-20-2007, 01:41 PM	#28
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I agree w/ the other posters who say you should get out the boxes...since you have posted that you DON'T know what to do, then I would do nothing...any decision you do when your head is not clear & your heart is still bruised may become a big regret later...if you just put them away til you are sure & clear in your decision, don't do anything...when the time comes you will feel very confident in the end w/ no regrets...take your time... __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

07-20-2007, 01:41 PM	#29
Too Cute Teddy YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 539	I didn't read through all of the posts so I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but there are some really cute patchwork quilts you can make (or have made) out of old clothes - they do it with infant clothes, etc. I might be cute to make or have made a blanket out of Maddie's clothes - that way you can wrap it around you and it will remind you that she is here with you at heart. You don't need enough clothes to make an entire quilt - they can fill in with coordinating material to finish it off. You can also get her name, DOB, a nice saying, etc embroidered on it.

07-20-2007, 02:15 PM	#30
littlewhip Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: wiith my furbabys Posts: 8,874	Denise, sorry you are having such a bad day, I know how you feel, when i lost my dodger a few years ago, before i had my yorkies, I could not let go of anything, i put it all down in the basement for over a year, then slowly went thru some items and let my other babies play with his toys, after a few days i was happy i did, your heart will let you know what to do, you are in my thoughts, wish you the best __________________