I need your advice....PLEASE

[LunasMomma]

I felt the same way about Starr's clothes, Denise. I packed them away for a little while, as Luna was too tiny to wear them anyway. I recently dug them back out again and made a memory board using some of the favorite clothes and pictures. And Izzy is the same size that Starr was, so she wears some of the other stuff, and it now makes me smile instead of cry. I tell the girls about their big sister all the time and how much they would have loved each other

Give yourself time.

[yorkiegirl83]

I think that if I were in the situation it would be too hard for me to see the new baby in my old babies clothes.. but that is just me.

I would pack them up, as a few others have said and see how you feel about it when the time comes. If you do decide to give or sell some of her things, I think it is really important that you keep the most special ones to you to remember dear Maddie.

I also like the idea of planting a tree, I think that is so sweet. <3

[LoveMyJake]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

Thanks guys...I think I'm just having a really bad missing Maddie day

I mean, why shouldn't Macy wear her big sisters clothes. Thanks for the advcie. I knew I could count on all of you to keep my head straight..lol

and if something don't fit when she grows up, I can always sell it or donate it.

I understand how you feel. I didn't have time to buy my little Lily that many clothes yet, as she was way too little to wear them. I did buy her a little pink fleece blanket, and this seemed to be her favorite one. I cut a small piece off of it, enough to cover her with, before we buried her, and I have put the remainder of the blanket away. I will always keep that because it's the one she loved and the one we wrapped her in while holding her and while she was sleeping. I bought her one dress, which I did put on her long enough for a few pics, and I'm keeping that one also.

But, if I had more time with her and had bought her more clothes, and I got a new girl pup, I would let her new little sister wear them in HONOR of Lily. Just think of little Macy wearing them in Maddie's HONOR.

[Shadow]

Cindy said it all!

Originally Posted by chattiesmom

Denise, you don't have to do anything right now. If it were me I would go through Maggie's clothes, toys, etc. and pick out the one that harbor the happiest memories and carefully and lovingly pack them away forever. Then I would box up the rest of her things and just set them aside. You don't have to do anything right now. In fact, you should probably wait until you are past the initial grieving phase and are in the healing phase. Then you will be able to make a clearer decision about what you want to do.

You could always donate some of her things to a dogsoul in need or sell a few of the items and use that money to plant a tree/memory garden in her honor.

Hugs to you, my YT sister :ghugs:e that your new Macy will help to bring some healing to the hole in your heart.

[Jenn218]

Ohhhh Denise!!

I think (like most have said) to not do anything right now...it is just, just too soon!

I know when Buddy (my first small dog ever - a Shih-tzu) had to be put to sleep, we left his stuff alone for awhile, then as we moved, I had boxed them all up w/ all of his paperwork, etc. We have been moved for about 6 years and I never went through that box until last year! I didn't even think about using any of it for Mojo...I don't know why, I think I just tried to forget about it. We sold everything in a garage sale. - and of course, that money went to buy Mojo things.

I love the idea of using some of her clothing as a blanket...I have seen quilts done that way from tee shirts received through out school/sports - my grandmother one some for my cousins.

Sending big hugs!

[LoveMyJake]

Originally Posted by Too Cute Teddy

I didn't read through all of the posts so I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but there are some really cute patchwork quilts you can make (or have made) out of old clothes - they do it with infant clothes, etc. I might be cute to make or have made a blanket out of Maddie's clothes - that way you can wrap it around you and it will remind you that she is here with you at heart. You don't need enough clothes to make an entire quilt - they can fill in with coordinating material to finish it off. You can also get her name, DOB, a nice saying, etc embroidered on it.

That is a wonderful idea!

[RoxyJosMom]

Denise, having worked at a counseling center, I can offer this advice. You are still greiving and will be for a long time. Don't make any rash decisions right now. Keep Maddie's things - pack them away for a bit if you want, but hang on to them for awhile. You will know when you are ready to make the right decision and everyone is different in what they need to do for themselves. I think the quilt idea is a perfect one. I am getting ready to start one using my dh's ties and I think I will add some of his shirts, too. It took me a year to make that decision. But, whatever you decide to do, Maddie will approve.

[DENISE517]

Thanks everyone....I just wish it would stop hurting.

Thanks for being here for me during my bad days. You guys are the best!!!

[Baby Blessing]

Originally Posted by DENISE517

Thanks everyone....I just wish it would stop hurting.

Thanks for being here for me during my bad days. You guys are the best!!!

Dear Denise, I didn't read the other posts so don't know what others replied.

Ohhhhh Denise how I wish I lived real close to you, I would come right over and we would go to a nice little coffee shop and have a great big piece of pie of our liking topped with a big scoop of our favorite ice cream, and chat the evening away.

I know so well the pain you are feeling, I wish it was tomorrow that you could get Macy, I know that you are going to do much better then. We never loose our precious memories of the one we had to give back to the Lord but it truely does help to heal in getting another. Jack and I are continually keeping you and your family in our prayers.

Denise honey you don't need to make any decision on Little Maddie's things, just give yourself time to heal, although I have to admit we have not fully healed without our Cassie, we still cry and have very sad times but then we know that God has her in his keeping and that gives us comfort. I still have all Cassie's things and they are packed away, her little bed and everything, I started all new with Baby Blessing, and DollieDae. I just couldn't let them have Cassie's things. I can't part with them and every now and then I take them out and look at them, hold and hug them and put them back. It will be 21 months the fifth of August. I can't give them away either but thats okay, I feel okay about it so that's what matters.

Your heart will lead you to do what you want to later, just take one day at a time and think of all the fun times with little baby Macy Mae.

Well Denise lets pretend we just had our delicious pie with that big hunk of ice cream, now we will have to go to the 24 hour fitness a few times to work it off Jack and I are sending a (((((((big hug your way. )))))))
Your Friends, Patti and Jack

[babi1542]

Originally Posted by red98vett

IF it were me......I'd consider it a tribute to Maddie and keep the clothes. You have so many cute ones and your new baby will never ever replace Maddie...She'll be cute in her OWN way wearing them

I agree with Villette keep them!

[chuey]

Hello Denise,

So sorry about your baby. Trust me, I know what you are going thru. I 've been there, twice! I am going to post the story of Junior shortly; it's long overdue.

However, you do not have an easy decision to make, this is true. You can only go with what your heart tells you. There is plenty of great advice here. I'm sure you know nobody will lead you wrong here. I personally could not keep my other baby's stuff. I kept a bed, which Dest does use and 1 toy, (which was Jrs fav!) also given to Dest. And I kept Chuey's blanket, which is put away, (I'm gonna make a blanket or something out of it one day!)

So other than that, I tossed everything! Maybe even in a mad or frustrated way. I do regret throwing some of those things away, so I don't recommmend doing anything when you are feeling very emotional like this. Take your time and think things thru. I know it's easy.

Please feel free to reach out to me if you need anything else. Good luck and take care!!

[stedmansmommy]

Hey girl - I am so sorry that I am just now seeing this thread. I am going to e-mail you in a little while and give you my thoughts on this as believe it or not, I have been thinking about all this stuff already for you and was wondering what you were going to do about sweet little Maddie's things

I personally really do think that you should keep them, but I will write more in the e-mail

Big hugs girl