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kitty · 03-13-2007, 04:56 AM

Well, last Wednesday (March 7) I had my hysterectomy done. I was released from the hopsital at which point my husband saw fit to take me to Texas. After that very painful trip, he drug me around Amarillo to look at houses. On Sunday I finally convinced him to bring me home so I could get kids to school the next day. My grandma was suppose to come and help me but she has decided not to come. I'm here now trying to do it all on my own. This has been the worst experience in my whole life. I can't believe my family has desereted me in a time like this. My husband didn't even stay at the hospital while I was in surgery. He came home and took a nap then went out to eat for lunch before coming back to the hospital. I'm very disappointed in the whole lot of them!
Sorry about my venting. I just wanted to let everyone know I was back. I've got alot of reading to do to get caught up!

FlDebra · 03-13-2007, 05:07 AM

OMG -- I cannot believe you went house-hunting immediately after discharge from a hysterectomy -- you poor lady! Not sure which type you have but I think with any hysterectomy the recuperation time is at least 4-6 weeks! I got back to regular activities fairly soon, but did not have 100% of energy and stamina for months after mine.

Time for a family meeting! Tell them you are not Superwoman and you need to heal -- either that or you will wind up back in the hospital and they can do it all! You need help and they need to realize you just had major surgery. I think families sort of think mom's are never sick and can do anything. They need their attention gotten when they forget you, too, need help at times. Push too hard now and it will be forever til you get back to normal. Take care of yourself so you can take care of them.

Welcome back!

RoxyJosMom · 03-13-2007, 05:10 AM

I'm happy to hear you are home and all went well - at least with the surgery. I'm sorry you aren't getting the support you really need right now, both physically and mentally. I wish there was something I could do. You really need time to recouperate or you could injure yourself. A friend of mine had one and her Dr. told her she wasn't allowed to lift anything heavier than a martini with 1 olive for 8 weeks. You be careful and someone should explain to your family that you just had MAJOR SURGERY and need help. Hugs to you and prayers that you get some much needed help.

LuvMySissy · 03-13-2007, 05:11 AM

I am so sorry you have been treated so badly. I think sometimes others don't realize that a hysterectomy is a MAJOR procedure, even if done vaginally. Time to give everyone a wake-up call!!!! Please take care of yourself.

furby2000 · 03-13-2007, 05:12 AM

I am very glad you are back and feeling good enough to go thru all these posts!! Will be sending prayers your way for a speedy recovery

You need to let your family know that you are going to need time to heal well before you continue day-to-day activities on your own - no need to house hunt or anything like that for a good month at least

kitty · 03-13-2007, 05:15 AM

The doctor couldn't even do a vaginal hysterectomy because of my 4 c-sections. My family's idea of helping me is shipping me all over the countryside. My step mom wants to come and get me and take me to Kansas next week so we can go house shopping there. On top of all the pain/discomfort I had riding to Texas, the trip to Kansas is even longer. When I arrived home on Sunday from Texas all of the baby hamsters had escaped their cage and I'm still missing 2. Most of my fish were dead too. I'm not happy with my family.

My husband even went as far as to tell me to start packing and moving things out of our other house since he's finally sold it! I can't beleive the nerve of him! I did vacume yesterday and am doing some laundry today but I am taking everything really slowly. I have been running a fever too. (101.3)

DENISE517 · 03-13-2007, 05:30 AM

You really need to be careful.. You could do damage to yourself and your surgery. Put yourself first and tell them you need to take care of you first for a few weeks. Its ok to tell them NO. lol You poor soul, I can't believe he didnt even stay there at the hospital with you. I hope your family will be more understanding, but you may have to step up and tell them you can't do it. I sure hope you feel better soon!!!

ARCHIE · 03-13-2007, 05:32 AM

Sweetie you have to put your foot down. Your health is more important
that anything else. Let your husband hire someone to help him.
You stay put! I think he needs a good talking too and if that does
not help I won't say what I'm thinking. You take care of yourself,
there is only one you.

magnolia · 03-13-2007, 01:00 PM

I agree with what others have said - YOU have to put YOU first and put your foot down with your family!!! All kinds of things can happen if you don't do what you need to do to allow your body time to heal! First of all, you aren't supposed to be lifting anything heavy - nada, nothing. And you aren't supposed to be pushing and pulling on a vacuum, broom, or mop!! I don't mean to be "gross" but - if you don't get the rest you need and continue, things inside could not heal like they are supposed to and then things could start falling (i.e. bladder, etc). Before you know it, you are back in for more surgery. As for the temp - you may be trying to start with a post-op infection. Please call your doctor on this.

Vent all you want to!! That's what we are here for - each other. I'm glad the surgery, for the most part, went okay. Now you just have to have the time to heal and recover and it takes time. It literally took me 4 months to get back to feeling "normal" after mine.

Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!! Please keep us posted.

Tiggerwit · 03-13-2007, 01:31 PM

Didn't they do the same thing when you hurt your wrist? I'd ship the whole lot of 'em off and send myself to a spa for some much needed R&R and pampering.

Grayson's mom · 03-13-2007, 03:13 PM

Stacy I am sorry you are having a hard time! Geez your family needs to help you and let you rest!! I hope you feel better SOON! Get some rest!

LunasMomma · 03-13-2007, 03:20 PM

I had a hysterectomy, so I say this from experience and LOVE. GET THE F away from the vacuum, step away from the washer and dryer, and sit yer ass down! Your husband should be SHOT, wtf is he doing, trying to kill you? I'm sorry to be so blunt, but OMG you could really hurt yourself badly and then have to have MORE surgery and possibly die. Your family obviously thinks that they know better than the surgeon

Please take care of yourself

LunasMomma · 03-13-2007, 03:21 PM

Oh, and P.S. If that were my husband, he wouldn't be having sex with me for at least a year after this, if I even kept his sorry butt around

I am SO angry at your family FOR you, don't they have any compassion?

OMG I am shaking right now

Katys mom · 03-13-2007, 03:37 PM

I am at a loss for words. Pick up the phone, grab his credit card and higher someone to do the work for you.

kitty · 03-13-2007, 04:15 PM

I wanted to let everyone know that I went back to my doctor today. He has put me on an antibiotic in case I'm trying to get an infection. He said everything looked good though.
Thanks for all the compasion and kind words from you all. You guys are GREAT!

03-13-2007, 04:56 AM	#1
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	I'm back from the hospital..... Well, last Wednesday (March 7) I had my hysterectomy done. I was released from the hopsital at which point my husband saw fit to take me to Texas. After that very painful trip, he drug me around Amarillo to look at houses. On Sunday I finally convinced him to bring me home so I could get kids to school the next day. My grandma was suppose to come and help me but she has decided not to come. I'm here now trying to do it all on my own. This has been the worst experience in my whole life. I can't believe my family has desereted me in a time like this. My husband didn't even stay at the hospital while I was in surgery. He came home and took a nap then went out to eat for lunch before coming back to the hospital. I'm very disappointed in the whole lot of them! Sorry about my venting. I just wanted to let everyone know I was back. I've got alot of reading to do to get caught up! __________________ Support our Troops :

03-13-2007, 05:07 AM	#2
FlDebra Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: FL Posts: 7,651	Wishing you a speedy recovery! OMG -- I cannot believe you went house-hunting immediately after discharge from a hysterectomy -- you poor lady! Not sure which type you have but I think with any hysterectomy the recuperation time is at least 4-6 weeks! I got back to regular activities fairly soon, but did not have 100% of energy and stamina for months after mine. Time for a family meeting! Tell them you are not Superwoman and you need to heal -- either that or you will wind up back in the hospital and they can do it all! You need help and they need to realize you just had major surgery. I think families sort of think mom's are never sick and can do anything. They need their attention gotten when they forget you, too, need help at times. Push too hard now and it will be forever til you get back to normal. Take care of yourself so you can take care of them. Welcome back! __________________ FlDebra and her ABCs Annie, Ben, Candy Promoting Healthy Breeding to the AKC Yorkshire Terrier Standard

03-13-2007, 05:10 AM	#3
RoxyJosMom Love The Verminator! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: ny Posts: 4,282	I'm happy to hear you are home and all went well - at least with the surgery. I'm sorry you aren't getting the support you really need right now, both physically and mentally. I wish there was something I could do. You really need time to recouperate or you could injure yourself. A friend of mine had one and her Dr. told her she wasn't allowed to lift anything heavier than a martini with 1 olive for 8 weeks. You be careful and someone should explain to your family that you just had MAJOR SURGERY and need help. Hugs to you and prayers that you get some much needed help. __________________ Roxy loves Alphy Remi loves Millie [COLOR="Purple"]Mom to RoxyJo & Remington , Fozzy Bear & Chloe

03-13-2007, 05:11 AM	#4
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	I am so sorry you have been treated so badly. I think sometimes others don't realize that a hysterectomy is a MAJOR procedure, even if done vaginally. Time to give everyone a wake-up call!!!! Please take care of yourself. __________________ Sissy & Angel

03-13-2007, 05:12 AM	#5
furby2000 Lil' Divas mom Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Miami, FL Posts: 3,337	I am very glad you are back and feeling good enough to go thru all these posts!! Will be sending prayers your way for a speedy recovery You need to let your family know that you are going to need time to heal well before you continue day-to-day activities on your own - no need to house hunt or anything like that for a good month at least __________________ Tiffany http://www.dogster.com/?447329 & little Zoey:http://www.dogster.com/dogs/859071

03-13-2007, 05:15 AM	#6
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	The doctor couldn't even do a vaginal hysterectomy because of my 4 c-sections. My family's idea of helping me is shipping me all over the countryside. My step mom wants to come and get me and take me to Kansas next week so we can go house shopping there. On top of all the pain/discomfort I had riding to Texas, the trip to Kansas is even longer. When I arrived home on Sunday from Texas all of the baby hamsters had escaped their cage and I'm still missing 2. Most of my fish were dead too. I'm not happy with my family. My husband even went as far as to tell me to start packing and moving things out of our other house since he's finally sold it! I can't beleive the nerve of him! I did vacume yesterday and am doing some laundry today but I am taking everything really slowly. I have been running a fever too. (101.3) __________________ Support our Troops : Last edited by kitty; 03-13-2007 at 05:17 AM.

03-13-2007, 05:30 AM	#7
DENISE517 No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: INDIANA Posts: 4,449	You really need to be careful.. You could do damage to yourself and your surgery. Put yourself first and tell them you need to take care of you first for a few weeks. Its ok to tell them NO. lol You poor soul, I can't believe he didnt even stay there at the hospital with you. I hope your family will be more understanding, but you may have to step up and tell them you can't do it. I sure hope you feel better soon!!!

03-13-2007, 05:32 AM	#8
ARCHIE No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 16,218	Sweetie you have to put your foot down. Your health is more important that anything else. Let your husband hire someone to help him. You stay put! I think he needs a good talking too and if that does not help I won't say what I'm thinking. You take care of yourself, there is only one you.

03-13-2007, 01:00 PM	#9
magnolia YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Mississippi Posts: 1,459	I agree with what others have said - YOU have to put YOU first and put your foot down with your family!!! All kinds of things can happen if you don't do what you need to do to allow your body time to heal! First of all, you aren't supposed to be lifting anything heavy - nada, nothing. And you aren't supposed to be pushing and pulling on a vacuum, broom, or mop!! I don't mean to be "gross" but - if you don't get the rest you need and continue, things inside could not heal like they are supposed to and then things could start falling (i.e. bladder, etc). Before you know it, you are back in for more surgery. As for the temp - you may be trying to start with a post-op infection. Please call your doctor on this. Vent all you want to!! That's what we are here for - each other. I'm glad the surgery, for the most part, went okay. Now you just have to have the time to heal and recover and it takes time. It literally took me 4 months to get back to feeling "normal" after mine. Sending you lots of hugs and prayers!! Please keep us posted. __________________ Suzi - mom to Gabby and Gage For Mickey

03-13-2007, 01:31 PM	#10
Tiggerwit Just me 'n my boys Donating Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: Murphy, TX Posts: 4,596	Didn't they do the same thing when you hurt your wrist? I'd ship the whole lot of 'em off and send myself to a spa for some much needed R&R and pampering. __________________ "Be kinder than necessary, for everyone is fighting some kind of battle." Alphy 's Roxy

03-13-2007, 03:13 PM	#11
Grayson's mom Mommy's Little Boo Boo Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Virgina Posts: 3,734	Stacy I am sorry you are having a hard time! Geez your family needs to help you and let you rest!! I hope you feel better SOON! Get some rest! __________________ Proud mom to Grayson Abby Dusty Pepper Ryan Gabriel and of course me Diane Grayson loves Tia

03-13-2007, 03:20 PM	#12
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	I had a hysterectomy, so I say this from experience and LOVE. GET THE F away from the vacuum, step away from the washer and dryer, and sit yer ass down! Your husband should be SHOT, wtf is he doing, trying to kill you? I'm sorry to be so blunt, but OMG you could really hurt yourself badly and then have to have MORE surgery and possibly die. Your family obviously thinks that they know better than the surgeon Please take care of yourself __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

03-13-2007, 03:21 PM	#13
LunasMomma Izzy's Momma Too! Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Stuart, Florida Posts: 8,799	Oh, and P.S. If that were my husband, he wouldn't be having sex with me for at least a year after this, if I even kept his sorry butt around I am SO angry at your family FOR you, don't they have any compassion? OMG I am shaking right now __________________ Tracy, Mom to Izzy and Luna

03-13-2007, 03:37 PM	#14
Katys mom I love yorkie kisses Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Oklahoma Posts: 1,751	I am at a loss for words. Pick up the phone, grab his credit card and higher someone to do the work for you.

03-13-2007, 04:15 PM	#15
kitty My Best Friend Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: oklahoma Posts: 2,258	I wanted to let everyone know that I went back to my doctor today. He has put me on an antibiotic in case I'm trying to get an infection. He said everything looked good though. Thanks for all the compasion and kind words from you all. You guys are GREAT! __________________ Support our Troops :