It Needs To Stop Now!!

[Morkie4]

Originally Posted by DianeW

Well Said, I Know Exactly How You Feel, Everyone Is Entitled To Their Own Views, But You Need To Be Considerate Of Others Too.

There Is Nothing Wrong In Expressing Your Opinions, As Long As You Do So In A Way So As Not To Offend, Or Upset People, After All We Are All Different And Have Different Views.

I Try To Be Careful How I Put Things - As Sometimes Text Can Sound Rude, Even If The Intention Is Not Meant......

VERY WELL PUT!!!!

[browniesmom622]

Originally Posted by Shadow

I don't go into to the breeders section for this reason.I think we should speak up and defend poor breeding practises,we are the dogs voices. I don't know which post you are referring to or if it was done rudely.I am just saying there are people that have no business breeding and in my opinion need to be told so.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Shadow

I don't go into to the breeders section for this reason.I think we should speak up and defend poor breeding practises,we are the dogs voices. I don't know which post you are referring to or if it was done rudely.I am just saying there are people that have no business breeding and in my opinion need to be told so.

Like i said before no i don't think everyone should be a breeder but some really have a love for it and if the can do it the right way why bash them for it? If one day you decided i love this breed and i want to become a breeder to better the breed and you came on here for advice to get started and you got slammed because you have no idea what your doing and how dare you think you can be a breeder and not a BYB how would that make you feel when you just came to get advice? What if you weren't sure if you wanted to breed or not and just wanted advice and you got slammed for it? what if it was your very first post would you come back?

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

This is my point exactly! New members and old members are afaid to ask questions that could really help us because we are scared of the un needed bashing about them. Do you know why we get those please help me my dog is pregnant and help what do i do now posts? Becaus ethey were to afraid to ask here! It's great we can all talk about how cute our puppies are and what food to feed but what about the really important things that we should talk about and learn from eachother about? We can't because of the heated debates it's really sad

Great post I agree. You don't have to agree just try to answer their questions.
For that matter its really ok to disagree just do it tactfully. I know people will give me a hard time but when you feel you have to defend yourself it tends to bring out your inner animal!

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by dobiedude

Great post I agree. You don't have to agree just try to answer their questions.
For that matter its really ok to disagree just do it tactfully. I know people will give me a hard time but when you feel you have to defend yourself it tends to bring out your inner animal!

Thanks Dobie and you are prime example of how bashing new members goes there are people who dispise you here but you were attacked from day one and had to constantly defend yourself. I'm not just talking about the breeding section either it's all the hot topics here that we need to be aware of.

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

Like i said before no i don't think everyone should be a breeder but some really have a love for it and if the can do it the right way why bash them for it? If one day you decided i love this breed and i want to become a breeder to better the breed and you came on here for advice to get started and you got slammed because you have no idea what your doing and how dare you think you can be a breeder and not a BYB how would that make you feel when you just came to get advice? What if you weren't sure if you wanted to breed or not and just wanted advice and you got slammed for it? what if it was your very first post would you come back?

Exactly. But who made all of us God and the final word? Who here can tell if someone is going to be a bad breeder just from some questions on a forum? This is maybe where they are getting their feet wet. It is good to give them info and let them make their decisions on their own. Knowledge is power so why not give them more power to choose the right direction! Turning them away may send them in the wrong direction.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by dobiedude

Exactly. But who made all of us God and the final word? Who here can tell if someone is going to be a bad breeder just from some questions on a forum? This is maybe where they are getting their feet wet. It is good to give them info and let them make their decisions on their own. Knowledge is power so why not give them more power to choose the right direction! Turning them away may send them in the wrong direction.

EXACTLY!!

[sassypup]

Great post!!!!

I was telling my hubby about some of the things going on YT and he feels the 'issues' are so common amongs all public boards...he belongs to an online car forum and same issues, rude people, rude comments, people feeling left out, theft amongst members etc.

None-the-less, this is an incredible forum where people learn so much and admin is such a nice group too! I'm not offended, I just roll my eyes from time to time and that is all.

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

Thanks Dobie and you are prime example of how bashing new members goes there are people who dispise you here but you were attacked from day one and had to constantly defend yourself. I'm not just talking about the breeding section either it's all the hot topics here that we need to be aware of.

Your welcome and this is a good post. I know some people here just want me to go away and it makes me sad to think they came to this conclusion because of how I defended myself. But such is life and I know you can't be all things to all people. That is why I commend your post here I think it would do YT alot of good for everyone to remember this.

[Yorkie3]

I think you're absolutely right Amber. If everyone would read the post thoroughly it would help. Then ask theirselves these questions..1) are they wanting support, 2) do they want and need an answer and 3) do they want an OPINION. I always try to keep my opinions to myself unless my opinion is specifically asked for. I think this would help tremendously.

I had one rude response the other day when all I wanted was support, a shoulder to lean on.

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I think you're absolutely right Amber. If everyone would read the post thoroughly it would help. Then ask theirselves these questions..1) are they wanting support, 2) do they want and need an answer and 3) do they want an OPINION. I always try to keep my opinions to myself unless my opinion is specifically asked for. I think this would help tremendously.

I had one rude response the other day when all I wanted was support, a shoulder to lean on.

Great questions to ask and also i would like to add a 4th: Can i give my opinion in a way that will be constructive and not be hurtful? If not you shouldn't give your opinion

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I think you're absolutely right Amber. If everyone would read the post thoroughly it would help. Then ask theirselves these questions..1) are they wanting support, 2) do they want and need an answer and 3) do they want an OPINION. I always try to keep my opinions to myself unless my opinion is specifically asked for. I think this would help tremendously.

I had one rude response the other day when all I wanted was support, a shoulder to lean on.

[Breeze]

Originally Posted by Shadow

I don't go into to the breeders section for this reason.I think we should speak up and defend poor breeding practises,we are the dogs voices. I don't know which post you are referring to or if it was done rudely.I am just saying there are people that have no business breeding and in my opinion need to be told so.

Great post!

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by Amber_lv

Great questions to ask and also i would like to add a 4th: Can i give my opinion in a way that will be constructive and not be hurtful? If not you shouldn't give your opinion

You got one more for the 4th question!

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by Shadow

I don't go into to the breeders section for this reason.I think we should speak up and defend poor breeding practises,we are the dogs voices. I don't know which post you are referring to or if it was done rudely.I am just saying there are people that have no business breeding and in my opinion need to be told so.

I COMPLETELY agree with this. And I disagree that people who are not breeders shouldn't post their opinions. Just because someone doesn't breed does not mean that they aren't educated on the subject. There is probably a reason they don't breed and they may be trying to share their reasoning with the people who are thinking about breeding.

Opinions should be given, but definately in a tactful, non-confrontational manner.