It Needs To Stop Now!!

[JCarlson2004]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I COMPLETELY agree with this. And I disagree that people who are not breeders shouldn't post their opinions. Just because someone doesn't breed does not mean that they aren't educated on the subject. There is probably a reason they don't breed and they may be trying to share their reasoning with the people who are thinking about breeding.

Opinions should be given, but definately in a tactful, non-confrontational manner.

Well said.

[txshopper73]

Geez...been gone a couple of days and look at what I've missed! DEEP BREATH EVERYONE!!!

[browniesmom622]

i dont think we should have to ask before giving our opinion
it is a public forum
if you post you should expect opinions esp on breeding

[chachi]

Uh oh I must have missed a rude post.

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by browniesmom622

i dont think we should have to ask before giving our opinion
it is a public forum
if you post you should expect opinions esp on breeding

I agree with this, too. There are many people who have VERY strong opinions are breeding. If someone posts a question on breeding, they have to expect a strong response. It just comes with the territory of posting this type of question. I don't think anything we say is going to change this.

[LuvMySissy]

Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I think you're absolutely right Amber. If everyone would read the post thoroughly it would help. Then ask theirselves these questions..1) are they wanting support, 2) do they want and need an answer and 3) do they want an OPINION. I always try to keep my opinions to myself unless my opinion is specifically asked for. I think this would help tremendously.

I had one rude response the other day when all I wanted was support, a shoulder to lean on.

We should all keep these in mind with all threads. Everyone ultimately has a right to hiw/her opinion, but it all goes back to the golden rule of treating others as you would want to be treated.


ALL I REALLY NEEDED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN
All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school.

These are the things I learned:
Share everything. Play fair. Don't hit people. Put things back where you found them. Clean up your own mess. Don't take things that aren't yours.
Say you're sorry when you hurt somebody. Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush. Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you. Live a balanced life - learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some. Take a nap every afternoon. When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.

Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that. Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup - they all die. So do we.

And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned - the biggest word of all - LOOK. Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world - had cookies and milk at about 3 o'clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

[Source: "ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN" by Robert Fulghum. See his web site at http://www.robertfulghum.com/ ]

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by browniesmom622

i dont think we should have to ask before giving our opinion
it is a public forum
if you post you should expect opinions esp on breeding

You don't have to ask and it is a public forum but don't you think it should be done with a little tact? We are all human and have feelings i just don't think it's necesary to be rude about it. I didn't start this thread to offend anyone but i think it's time that we all reliez that everyone has feelings and you can have an opinion but you don't have to be brutal to get it across!

[txshopper73]

There is nothing wrong with having an opinion...just how you present it.

[red98vett]

Well.....After being here a long time I've seen both sides....sometimes someone asks questions, they don't like the answers & get confrontational - then..... the flip side is......I've seen people get bashed for almost the same questions.

I personally try to use tack when posting but I think sometimes our passion comes out...Everyone is different - some more blunt than others but I agree -we should always use respect. Everyone is entitled to their opinions ...even if we disagree with something - it doesn't anyone the excuse to be downright rude.

and Dobie that even includes YOU lol - I don't know why you think people want you to leave...you grew on me your first few hours on the site and I think others feel the same way.

[chachi]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I agree with this, too. There are many people who have VERY strong opinions are breeding. If someone posts a question on breeding, they have to expect a strong response. It just comes with the territory of posting this type of question. I don't think anything we say is going to change this.

I agree with this for the most part. I have seen some instances though where someone just asked an inocent question and got slammed.

[candybaby]

"WOW", this was the reason I stopped coming on YT for a while and I come back to see this bashing is still going on . The infamous "TEACUP" word and "BREEDING" word, those two words are soooooooo dangerous on this site, peoples heads start spinning like the Exorcist when you say them .

[Amber_lv]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

I agree with this, too. There are many people who have VERY strong opinions are breeding. If someone posts a question on breeding, they have to expect a strong response. It just comes with the territory of posting this type of question. I don't think anything we say is going to change this.

But why? why does it have to be that way because a few people here can't say anything nice i mean come on we are not in Jr. High we are adults it should not be that way! So if i post something about breeding by what you just said i should just automatically know that someone isn't mature enough to post an opinion without bashing me?THIS IS THE PIONT I AM TRYING TO GET ACROSS IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE LIKE THAT!

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by chachi

I agree with this for the most part. I have seen some instances though where someone just asked an inocent question and got slammed.

Yes this has happened and I think all Amber is saying is to lighten up a little and try to answer the question with a little tact and not your emotions. I know its hard for me to think before I type but this is something we all should do especially when it is just a question. I mean really whats so bad about a question? Yes they may not like the answer but it is also in how the answer is presented that can cause heartburn!

[chewiesmom]

Originally Posted by dobiedude

Yes this has happened and I think all Amber is saying is to lighten up a little and try to answer the question with a little tact and not your emotions. I know its hard for me to think before I type but this is something we all should do especially when it is just a question. I mean really whats so bad about a question? Yes they may not like the answer but it is also in how the answer is presented that can cause heartburn!

My husband's favorite quote is "It's not what you say, but how you say it.

[dobiedude]

Originally Posted by chewiesmom

My husband's favorite quote is "It's not what you say, but how you say it.

Ches this is exactly what I mean.