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I'm Pregnant... =/ Ok so I found out I'm pregnant 2 weeks ago. I'm 8 weeks today. I'm only 17. I have no idea what to do. I have been holding this in since I found out. I barely told the father on Sunday. I was avoiding telling him because I knew he would try to rush me in to getting an abortion. I don't believe in abortion and could never see myself getting one, but I also don't see myself being able to raise a baby on my own at my age. I feel so cornered right now because of the father. We talked about adoption but he said he can't live with himself knowing he has a kid out there, and I don't think I can either. I don't know what to do! :(:confused: |
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I had my 1st son at your age - STAY in school !! I did and graduated when he was 2 months old - It's a huge huge responsibility - tell your parents and try NOT to be scared - you all need a solution to this and it involves more people than just you. IF you really want this - it can happen ...but you need to look at it from ALL ANGELS - I missed out on alot by being a young mom - but it was the best thing that ever happened to me - I kind of grew up with my boys and we're super close - well worth all that I missed...but it's not for everyone. Your life is just starting - you're really an adult now - if you had dreams - you can still find them but you will always have to put your child first so think this thru very carefully and be open to all suggestions .... GOOD LUCK ! |
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If you feel you cant raise him/her and your boyfriend is no help.. maybe you can giver her up to some one you know... like what we dont on YT..not trying to make you babys sound like a furbaby.. but you get what I mean.. What ever you decied, just remeber ever one on YT is here for you and well help you out any way we can! |
Jess, please don't make any rash decisions. You have lots to think about. And your boyfriend will more than likely not be around forever. Adoption is a wonderful thing if you think you go thru with it. Do your parents know? |
If you feel strongly about not having an abortion, please don't let the father talk you into it. You will be the one who has to live with that for the rest of your life, not him. There are so many options out there besides abortion. So many people (Villette for example) have the baby at your age and have no regrets. You can always put it up for adoption if the time comes and you decide not to keep it. Just please don't let him talk you into having an abortion. :( We are all here for you! (((((((((hugs!)))))))) I am young and have had many friends to get pregnant and have the baby and they are so happy they did so. I have also have had friends who have had abortions and still cry about it years later. If you ever need to talk, please PM me. I am around your age and although I have never personally been pregnant, I have had many many close friends go through exactly what you're going through right now. I would love to help you in any way that I can. ;) |
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I Pmed you with some...blabing...BUT like I said in the pm, DON'T let your BF interfere with your decisions, this is about YOU. You decide! |
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How do you think your parents will react? Will they be disappointed but understanding? Will they help you raise him/her when s/he is born? Or will they be really upset? |
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so he rather have you have an abortion,then for him to have a kid "just out there." yeah that is SOO wrong and makes no scent at all. I know its going to be hard.. but you need to tell your parents.. maybe they will be understanding and help you out any way they can. You never know.. My best friends dad is a deacon and she freak out when she found out.. but she took them to the church and told both her parents.. couldnt kill her in a church right? :p but they where VERY understanding and helped her out any way they could... your going to have to tell them sooner or later.. Its better to get it over with and not have it eating you alive every time you see them. |
Jess, I know this is a really tough stressfull time for you and you feel lost, but please do not let your boyfriend pressure you into something that could have negative effects years from now. The decision to have an abortion is your decision, not his and if you feel you shouldn't then that's your decision and no one elses. There are many people who have had their children and have lead, happy, healthy, successfull well rounded lives. Your a strong girl and whatever you decide you will be okay and you will get through this. I'm sending the biggest hug I can give and I'll pray for you. |
Sending hugs your way. My heart breaks for you. Please, trust yourself and your parents and sit down with them.... Chances are they will go ballistic at first -- so expect it. You are their baby girl and I am sure that having you carrying their grandchild at 17 is not what they had in mind for you. You might be surprised at how quickly they will throw their support behind you to help you make the right decisions for you and your precious baby. |
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I do agree however, that it is SOOO easy for him to tell her just to do get rid of it like it isn't a big deal, cause HE doesn't have to go through it. SHE does. |
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Do you really think they would kick you out of the house? |
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My lil sis was in your position at the age of 17, and her BF wanted nothing to do with it. Let me tell you she was scared to death to tell our parents, but she did and they were really upset at first but helped her. She decided to have an abortion which was very hard for her to decide, but in the long run it was the right thing for HER todo. Please tell your parents, they might surprise you and be very supportive and sympathic, but do execpt some helling at first since they will be very upset and disappointed. Also, please make a decision based on what you want and what is best for you and your baby. As for your BF, tell him to take a hike, because it is obvious he does not care about you nor your baby. Good Luck!!!!! |
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Jess, this is your decision! You have to do what is right for you and your baby. I agree...I feel you are young to be a Mom but, not impossible. Honestly, if you were my daughter, yes, I would initally be upset but, worse things could happen. I have 2 grown daughters myself and the thought of them getting pregnant did cross my mind...I never casted stones. You really need to tell your parents, their reaction may surprise you. Have you thought about talking to a counseler, priest, phsycologist? You are bringing a little person into this world that you will cherish for the rest of yours and (his/her) life and it is your right to do what you want...Please don't let your BF pressure you into something you don't feel comfortable with..You are the one that will have to live with the decision. HUGE HUGS to you. |
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