Adoption is a great choice if you feel too young to raise a baby. My birth mom had me when she was 17 and I was adopted as a baby. I had a GREAT life and found my birth mom when I was in my early 20's...she has always felt she made the right decision for me..and so do I. Now that they have open adoptions as an option it would make it so much easier than way back when, when the adoption was closed and the records sealed for 18 years.

On the other hand I had my son at 19 and was waaay too immature looking back, to have a baby..but I did and grew up fast. If you feel like you can handle it finanicially, emotionally..etc..then go find a support group of young mothers and speak with them. Good luck with your decision...its a tough one.

Dawn

OK, this is very personal and I don't want to scare you either. I found myself very young and in your situation as well. I was receiving a lot of pressure to have an abortion. I just couldn't do it.

I have a lot of faith in God. Sometimes we can not see down the road, but he can.

I can not begin to tell you how grateful I am that I did not abort my beautiful daughter. You see, what I didn't know is, I had a problem from the IUD I was using. She would be the only child I would have. (I did not find this out until years later after trying to have another baby), If I had aborted her, I would not have had any children.

Now, I realize that your situation is not the same, but I truly believe that God has a purpose for everything. He has the road map and is all knowing.

Share your situation with your parents. Ask them for a private meeting, be prepared for them to be upset, they will be OK. Seek their guidance and wisdom. You will need to draw on their strength.

Edited after I saw that you thought that they would kick you out. I agree talk to your sister.

I will keep you in my prayers.

Maybe your parents regret the choice they made with your sister and wouldn't make that mistake with you.

I know it's hard, but you need to do what's right for you. If your boyfriend is not supportive now, what's it going to be like in the future? I understand that your decision will affect him in the long run but if you don't believe in abortion then don't do it and don't let him talk you into it. There are other options. If you feel you aren't ready for this, then give this baby a chance with a loving family that will adopt him/her. Find an organization where you will be able to stay involved in the childs life.

I am a mother of a 17 year old. Of course I want more for her, but things happen and you just deal with it. I would be disappointed, I won't lie to you, but what's done is done and my being angry isn't going to help or change anything.

Hang in there. Is there someone you can talk to? Church, school counselor?

Jessica, this is a perfect example of what I was talking about. God knows the plans he has for you....this pregnancy is what he has planned for you. It really sux now, but God can see the big picture and this is something that is going to "prosper you and not harm you."

I'm adopted too - can't imagine my life without my 'parents' - I don't know why... only that my real mom was very young too. Adoption is wonderful and these days so much easier than it was back when my parents were trying to adopt.

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I was 17 when I had my first child. It can be done. You need to confide in your parents. And like a couple others said. Stay in school. The Lord be with you and yours.
Blessings,
Teri:animal-pa

Adoption is such a wonderful blessing. Faith Hill is adopted. Isn't that interesting?! :p

Adoption is a great thing, but can you handle that emotionally, as well?

I must honestly say that if I were in your shoes, I would choose an abortion. I understand how you may feel about your unborn child, but you must remember yourself. I know it sounds selfish, but in this situation, you have every right to be selfish and do what is right for you. Your future matters to you, you are living, breathing, here right now..the fetus isn't. I'm sorry if this sounds a little harsh, but it's just my 2 cents. It reminds me of a situation that's often been talked about: If a pregant woman would get into, say, a car crash, and they could only save her or the baby, which would they choose? I say the mother; the baby has no real 'life' yet. The connection I'm making here is that it is your life that you will have to live, despite the decision you make.

I'm sorry...but all those who are adopted themselves would beg to differ with you. I am sure they are thankful that their mother's weren't "selfish."

I'm sorry, but I just don't see how someone can ask: "can you handle that emotionally" meaning adopting. I think knowing you saved your babies life and put them first and foremost would make you and everyone around you know you loved that child before you ever saw it, enough to put it before you. That is important. I personally couldn't live knowing I had ending my child's life.

I know this would be hard. But my sister-in-law had 2 children by the time she was 17 and had no parents, and she made it. She is now happily married to my brother, who adopted her kids and they have another child together. She is going to deliver kids when she finishes college and she wants to counsel young girls in the same position as you. She is 25 now and her life didn't straighten out until about 4 years ago when she met my brother. Her 2 kids "biological" dad is horrible but you will find that man who will love and support you and your children. God always has a reason, even if it takes a while to see.

I hope this helps, and I will pray for you.

I am very grateful my biological mother wanted more for me than what she could give me so she gave me up. I have had a wonderful life because of it.

Whew...thank god my birth mom didnt have an abortion...its not selfish to put a baby up for adoption, believe me if we are talking about handling it emotionally...would either decision really be easier?? I would think knowing your child was placed with a family who cant have, but DESPERATELY want children would put a person more at ease than aborting it lol...hmmmm

Dawn

Jess,Their is a reason why your feeling like you shouldn't have an abortion, listen to your gut. As human beings we sometimes ignore our own instinct and innerself even though we know we shouldn't. If you feel like you should keep your child, even if you put him or her up for adoption, then you should keep it. Do not allow your boyfriend to make a decison for you, because at the end of the day you will have to live with it. God and your family will help you through this.

It's been really hard 4 me 2 respond 2 the thread again because it's kind of embarrasing but the guy im pregnant by is not my bf...

Hon - whoever the dad is he deserves to know ....but in the end - it's YOUR BODY. Just remember that -

and as far as your parents throwing you out - you said your sister was 19 right ??? you're 17 ? there's a 2 year age diff but you NEED TO TELL Them IF you plan to keep the baby or go with adoption - don't wait too long.....this won't go away and you need to start making decisions.

dont be embarrased... we are not going to juge you.

No one is here to judge you....we are here to help you. Don't be embarrased. Sh*t happens. No one is perfect and no one is here to judge you.

Yeah, she was 19 and she went 2 live with her bf and i dont really have that choice.

thanks

What is she doing now?? Today?? Still living with her boyfriend? Are you sure that your parents "made" her move out or did she voluntarily move out in order to live with her boyfriend? How long ago did this happen?

Yeah she's still with him and I'm sure that my parents made her leave.

Remember, that's just Alliec1's opinion, just like you have your opinion, so don't be so hard.

I'd also like to say that there is a 'plan' for her. But within these things that happen in our life, there are multiple ways to deal with them, and they are all part of the plan...

Jess sweetie, don't be embarrassed about this. We are all here to support you all the way. Stay strong girl!

Do you think your parents would really kick you out? I mean, where in the heck would you go? I am almost positive that they are legally obligated to let you live with them until you are 18.

I have no idea where I would go. Maybe they would let me stay idk

So, I guess the next question is....when are you gonna tell them?

this whole situation is just so hard 2 take in. 2day i was on the verge of lying 2 the father 2day and telling him that i got the abortion and just disappearing out of his life. but idk if that's the right thing to do because i guess he has the right to know.

what bothers me is that he's a rapper and his music has been taking him pretty far and his music is about to come out on the radio and i feel like having this kid will probably take his dream away. that's one reason i wanted to tell him i got an abortion. do u think that's wrong?

This thread has really touched my heart. I was never able to have children. I never got to feel that little life growing inside me. I still wish and sometimes cry that I wasn't able to go through the whole pregnancy experience.....but

Almost 16 years ago, a young lady who was in a situation similar to yours decided she would choose adoption. I thank her and the great Lord above that she did. My son will turn 16 next month. He is the light of my life. I know you can't see me, but my emotions and tears right now are so overwhelming. I love him more than my own life, he is everything to me.

I know it had to be hard for her, but I know if she could see my son, she would think he was a fine, compassionate, smart young man. I love her for what she was able to do so that I could become a mother. If it wasn't for her, I don't know where I'd be. I had always wanted children, at least 5 and when I found out I couldn't have any, I was crushed beyond belief.

Adoption is a very hard choice for someone so young. It is so hard to see what may be best "down the road." You have to choose what is best for you and your baby.

I'm sorry to go on an on, I just wanted you to know the other side of the adoption choice.

I will be praying for you and your baby.....and wishing you all the best in whatever you decide.

Janet, your story has touched me beyond words. I know how much your son means to you and I am so happy that his biological mother chose adoption.

That's another reason I don't want to get an abortion. So many people can't have kids, so who am I to just throw a life away?

Honestly, if I were you, I would talk to your parents, give them a few days to cool off, and then talk to them about how to handle the father situation. I don't think I could give you any good advice on how to handle the father. One one hand, it probably would be more convenient to just have the father out of your life. But on the other hand, do you think it would benefit your child to know who his/her father is? Those are just some things to consider. Whatever you decide to do regarding the father, I know it will be the right choice for you. I think you should talk to your parents first. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))