I'm Pregnant... =/

[mizzwanned]

I have never been pregnant before but I always tell myself if I ever happen to get pregnant I will keep the baby, although I know you think totally different when you are actually pregnant. I am also against abortion but agree with adoption if the mother doesn't want to keep the baby. There are ways to get thru this. My mother once told me if I ever got pregnant to keep it but continue to go to school because she's against abortion and I am glad for that. Of course I am sure she would be mad at first if I did get pregnant or who knows. She told me not too long ago that before she had me and my brother she had an abortion and she regrets it sooo much. My dad on the other hand once told me he would never talk to me again if I got pregnant at this age. I'm 19 and can't see myself with a baby right now but if I were to get pregnant I would def. consider keeping it. My friend had her son when she was only 15! She was a sophmore in H.S. and she still attends my h.s., she was 2 grades below me. She did it and she loves her baby. But whatever you decide will be a good choice because it is the right thing for you. There are many decisions you can make just think them throughly and I'm sure you''ll make the right one. I am here for you also if you ever need to talk. Maybe tell your mom first, she might be more understanding than your dad since she's a woman. Also speak to your sister about it so she can give you advice. As for the father of the baby I wouldn't consider having an abortion just because of his career. You have to put yourself first and of course the baby. If you decide not to keep the baby adoption is a great thing where loving parents can support it. Good luck and I hope everything works out.
Sarah

[Rae Rae]

I think it will be hard, but that you can do it. Some of my friends had kids in HS, and while times are hard for them, they are still doing great. If you don't want an abortion, don't have one. I've done tons of research projects on abortion, and I always found "testimonials" where girls who had them regretted them so much after it was done. Also, keep in mind the joy and love this baby is going to bring to you. I think you'll be OK. Just try to think of all the positive that will come from this little blessing, and not anything negative. If you ever want to talk, PM me.

[RLC12345678]

After reading other people's post, would it be beneficial to tell either your mother or your father separately first (whichever one your closer to) and that way, they can kinda be on your "team" before you tell the other parent, the one that will flip their lid? Also, if you tell them when they're together, do you think they will gang up on you? I know if it were my parents, I would tell my mother first and try to get her on my side before we told my father. This way, my mother and my father wouldn't gang up on me if I told them at the same time. It's just a thought..........

[GORJESS]

I think if I tell my mother first she'll just run and tell my father right away, and the same thing with him.

BTW I found this site and it just broke my heart. www.abort73.com

[marcerella02]

after reading all of these posts... i just wanted to add my support.. i'm 23.. and have had a lot of friends that had babies young... my cousin is 21 and he and his gf (19) just had a baby 2 months ago... i went and visited and she said.. it's tough.. but she can't imagine life without him..... either way you go... adpotion or keeping the baby... both will be tough... but i also think both are very rewarding... i'm praying for you!

[RLC12345678]

Originally Posted by GORJESS

I think if I tell my mother first she'll just run and tell my father right away, and the same thing with him.

BTW I found this site and it just broke my heart. www.abort73.com

I can't bring myself to look at the site.

[Rae Rae]

Originally Posted by GORJESS

I think if I tell my mother first she'll just run and tell my father right away, and the same thing with him.

BTW I found this site and it just broke my heart. www.abort73.com

You gotta tell your parents. It'll probably be one of the hardest things, but you never know. You won't know how they'll react until you tell them. Maybe they won't react as bad as you think they will. Just remember, they will find out, and it's probably best that you tell them and that your completly honest with them.

W/ a lot of my friends who got pregnant at young ages, of course telling their parents was one of the hardest things, but not their parents love they'r little grandbaby soo much. I hope it'll be the same with you. I don't know you or your parents, so alls I can really say is just to tell them and get it over with. Like I said, you never know the outcome. HOpefully all will be good. You'll be in my prayers.

[RLC12345678]

I would tell your mother first and cry and bed her not to be mad at you. You never know....maybe she won't run and tell your dad. I would give it a try since telling them at the same time didn't work for your sister.

[gypsyqueen]

Hi I wanted to share the adoption of my daughter with you I had 4 children when my youngest a girl made 18 she joined the airforce I had empty nest syndrome we started fostering when we got my baby she was 6months old a drug baby. After 6months of caring for her we could not give her up when she came up for adoption we adopted her this was and is one of GODS greatest gifts to us I would and my husband give up our lives for her my daughter she is normal healthy and so smart. My point adoption allows someone to love someone else you could have open adoption where you can still keep in touch with your child when my daughter is ready I will help her find her mother this does not hurt me I owe this person for the joy she gave my husband and myself.

[gypsyqueen]

Your parents love is unconditional dont be afraid to talk to them you might be surprised how they can help

[kitty]

I had my first baby at 20, my second at 21 and then had 2 more at age 24, and 25. It has not been easy. I've grown up so much and made so many mistakes too. I missed out on alot of things.

When I was in high school I took my best friend to get an abortion. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done. I am against abortion. I cared enough for my friend to take her though. I sat in the waiting room and cried the whole time I was there. I still think about it to this day. I looked at the website you posted and it brought it all back to me.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

[Thorsmomma]

I think that's a great place to start. It's going to be so hard to tell them, I really hope they are supportive of you.

[ytsirk27]

Originally Posted by RLC12345678

Honestly, if I were you, I would talk to your parents, give them a few days to cool off, and then talk to them about how to handle the father situation. I don't think I could give you any good advice on how to handle the father. One one hand, it probably would be more convenient to just have the father out of your life. But on the other hand, do you think it would benefit your child to know who his/her father is? Those are just some things to consider. Whatever you decide to do regarding the father, I know it will be the right choice for you. I think you should talk to your parents first. ((((((((((hugs)))))))))

It depends on the father and how he acted. My mom left me when I was 7 not a word..just left...my real dad abanoned us...I would rather NOT know who my parents ever were than know that they never wanted me. May sound stupid but thats just my 2 cents

[Brookef18]

My daughter is 17 and has been dating since she was 15. i have always known that there is a chance she could come home pregnant even though she promises me that will never happen.


My husband and I used to fool around before marriage and I waited to tell my daughter till I thought the time was right. I told her last year and she freaked out thinking I was a virgin when I got married...I am very straight laced... i don't swear, have never been drunk... my hubby was my only boyfriend ever... She was shocked to find out we had sex before marriage.

My point is your parents know how hard it is to resist sex. They have always known there was a chance this could happen. I am hoping you pray for understanding on their part and decide to tell them...

Here is a pray right now for you...

Dear Heavenly Father,
Please give this sweet girl the peace that only you can give. Please give her courage to do your will and help her to have wisdom and guidance from you. I pray you would put someone in her life that can help her make decisions. I also pray that the father wold not pressure her to abort her baby and think past how this effects him.
Lord I pray that you would soften the hearts of parents of both young adults and give them understanding, compassion, and over whelming love to help these young people through this confusing time in their lives. Please show all involved your perfect plan for them and for this new life. Help all to tun to you for all decisions and wisdom. Thank you Lord for all your unfailing love. In Jesus name Amen

Please keep us updated... I will pray every day for you. I am hoping every one else here will too!
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[Tiggerwit]

Hang in there. As you've seen we are all here for you with an endless supply of advice.

In Seattle there is a 800 for the crisis clinic, which is a hotline for people/teens to call and talk anonymously. They can also hook you up with all kinds of help and services. Find out if there is something like that in your area. Also find a counselor or something at school. If you decide on abortion, you will need someone to talk to about it and if you decide to keep the baby or adopt you will need to stay in school throughout your pregnancy and they can help you with your options and advise you on how to go about doing that. Are you close to your sister? Maybe talk to her first and have her go with you to tell your folks.

We love ya. Be strong and be proud. Asking for help from us is the first step. You are going to be ok. I think deep down you know what you want to do you are just looking for reassurance.