How should I word this?

[Tillys_mom]

Originally Posted by doortego

Oh gee, If I have offended, I've doubled it now. I was trying to edit my post to say that at times I've used the word bride, I should have said new mother or mom to be. I think I thought in the terms of bride because this is usually only done for the first time mother. I guess in our pompous little world, all subsequent children used hand me downs!

I hope I have had my tonque in my cheek but I am afraid it may have been my foot in my mouth instead. Please pardon my trampling all over your post.

I didn't take offense to your post. I asked for everyones input. This is hubby and I's first child and we are new to all of these things, so are our parents. It is going to be the first grandbaby on both sides. Most of hubby and I's friends no longer live near us so family is definately the only option we have in giving us a shower. For my bridal shower I had my maid of honor give me my shower and it was a total flop. She acted as if she had everything under control then at the last minute told my family she couldn't do it and my mom ended up doing that shower for her. My mom is my best friend and I couldn't think of a better person to ask to share this exciting time with more, except for hubby of course. But again, I do appreciate your advice. I will be sure to post pictures!!!

[Lacy's Mom]

If your inviting your friends then I really doubt they would be offended by a Baby's wish list, but older people that are more your husband's family friends and your Mom's friends, might be. I personally wouldn't be offended in either case. I really do think the registry is the best idea though so you don't get multiples of the same item because they are shown as bought once someone purchases them.

[doortego]

Originally Posted by Tillys_mom

I didn't take offense to your post. I asked for everyones input. This is hubby and I's first child and we are new to all of these things, so are our parents. It is going to be the first grandbaby on both sides. Most of hubby and I's friends no longer live near us so family is definately the only option we have in giving us a shower. For my bridal shower I had my maid of honor give me my shower and it was a total flop. She acted as if she had everything under control then at the last minute told my family she couldn't do it and my mom ended up doing that shower for her. My mom is my best friend and I couldn't think of a better person to ask to share this exciting time with more, except for hubby of course. But again, I do appreciate your advice. I will be sure to post pictures!!!

See, I was afraid I would leave that impression. I just really started rambling, please forgive me. As you can see, I left the baby shower somewhere in the middle and ended up at the bridal shower. Now if that isn't getting the cart before the horse. Oh, hope I didn't step in something there as well. I better shut up now. It's too late to quit while I am ahead.

[AllyKenyon]

you could word it "things (babys name) could use" and then if you do put your registry in there make sure you give them intructions to get to it or at least the name on the registry...my best friend just had her baby shower last weekend and i have her invitation still...and she ended up having her baby yesterday...her inviation had an insert that said "gift ideas" and then it said check out my registry at blah blah bla and then gave instructions on how to get to it for those who dont know how to use the pc much (like my gma lmao) and then it also had some stuff that wasnt on her registry that she could use...hope this helps

[Tillys_mom]

Originally Posted by doortego

See, I was afraid I would leave that impression. I just really started rambling, please forgive me. As you can see, I left the baby shower somewhere in the middle and ended up at the bridal shower. Now if that isn't getting the cart before the horse. Oh, hope I didn't step in something there as well. I better shut up now. It's too late to quit while I am ahead.

Please don't feel sorry you didn't do anything wrong.

[alisonJ]

I agree with doortego (having been raised in the Deep South). A shower is not a request for gifts, it is a celebration of your new baby. I think it would be fair to give a list of things you need to the hostess and IF SOMEONE ASKS HER what you need, she could make suggestions.

[irishawk]

Oh, ladies, we all know that none of us would really show up at a shower without a gift.

I would probably leave the "wish list" off of the invitation. It'll make it look cluttered and sloppy. But I would definetly list my registries! I get annoyed when someone doesn't have a registry!! It makes it that much more difficult for me to pick something out for them. For your odds and ends that you wanted to put in the invitation, could you just register somewhere like Target where they have everything under the sun??

Congratulations on your baby!!

[judyeve]

Dear D:

What a lovely memory to share. I don't think it was offensive, just a beautiful reminisence of how things used to be.

Thanks for sharing that.

By the way, "Baby's Wish List" is a great way to let people know what you need. They don't have to buy them if they don't want to. When I made my daughter a shower for one of her babies, we ran around registering all over the place and ended up getting tons of beautiful pink clothes, none of which she registered for.

Judy