How should I word this?
 

My mom is going to have me a baby shower next month and in the invitation we want to put a list of things that we don't have along with where we are registered. What would be a proper way of wording the title of that list? I don't want to sound pushy or demanding. I'm afraid if we title it, Things We Don't Have, it would sound pushy. Thanks for all your advice. :)

your not able to buy the things you don't have where you are registered?...I know people do register at more then one store

What about "Our Wish List"

How about just going the simple route: We are registered at...
I also like Jen's idea about the wish list, thats cute, or you can say something like "Baby (fill in the name)'s wish list"

First let me congratulate you on becoming a mother to a skin baby.:) LOL
The proper thing to do is put on the invitation the store or stores where you are registered.
When you register at whatever stores you wish they will have all the items
you choose in their data bank and when someone comes in they can pick out whatever they want from that list. It would not be proper to list items on an invitation. Good luck to you and have fun at your shower.

I agree with Archie, however, when they RSVP to your mother and if they should ask, she should feel free to tell them what is needed, or not. Word of mouth works great….

Have fun!!!!!!!

Thanks for the great ideas! I think the wish list is a great idea and will have to tell mom. We are registered at more than one place but a lot of who we are inviting are older ladies that don't have a computer. I thought a list would be helpful to them. All of our big things we have we just need a few odds and ends. Thanks again for your help and congrats!!! :D

You don't really need a computer. When you register, whomever goes to the store for your registry, the store will print out what you've picked. So they have a list to work off of.

Oooh I like that ... Baby's Wish List.

That sounds like a good idea. I would much rather know what someone would actually need rather than just take a blind stab and hope I get something they can use.:)

Congrats on the coming baby! i was always told that first and foremost.. a baby shower is a celebration... presents are really not required.. but people bring them... so i think it might rub some people the wrong way to have a list of things they should bring.... i like the word of mouth idea... i just attended a shower and asked the hostess what the mom needed the most. good luck and post pictures!!

Please forgive ramblings by an old lady
 

From an old lady in the deep South, my congratulations to you and your family on the blessed event. Now, please don't be offended as I am not stating my own opinion, just what is considered proper for formal events celebrating the new birth.

First, we labor under the impression that a wedding shower is not a request for gifts but a celebration shared only by our dearest hundred or so friends who just wouldn't dream of coming without a present for the new treasured baby. No registry or anything remotely suggesting that you expect a present would be on or in the invitation. However, all of the guests who will very properly rsvp will inquire of the hostess, who will just happen to know exactly what you might want or appreciate receiving. If they are so considerate as to tell her what it would give them great joy to present the new young family with, she will, of course, not mention that item to another person so that you would not receive duplicate items.

Second then, the event is never hosted by a family member, because they will also, of course, be so surprised that someone would care enough to personally select a present that you just dearly love and would never have expected. And how delighted you are that they know you so well and/or took their own time to choose exactly what you most wanted.

Usually these formal teas are hosted by the maid of honor and female wedding attendants, house party or close friends at the home of whoever has the finest china and silver and most spacious formal receiving areas. The invitations will be engraved and the envelopes hand addressed by whomever is the the most talented in the dying art of calligraphy. There would be no other enclosure than the rsvp card & envelope personally addressed and stamped.

The corsage and floral arrangements are given to the bride to make her waiting days more comfortable or to welcome the new arrival to his new home. The hostesses also usually give a quite nice shower present.

I have to add, that even in our small town, these events are becoming more rare, as the younger generation embraces the computer printed invitations and other very practical modern conveniences.

I'm not even saying one way is better, just enjoyed remembering the way it was and still is sometimes done. Of course, everyone had to wear their very best Sunday clothes and the bride also spent many hours trying to find just the perfect gift for each hostess ( and sometimes there were many hostesses to share the expense and work since these Southern teas could become quite expensive)

I'm afraid I just enjoyed reminiscing on your post. Please forgive me if I have in any way been offensive. It certainly wasn't my intention. I hope you have a wonderful shower and a beautiful perfect baby. God bless you.

Please forgive ramblings by an old lady
 

From an old lady in the deep South, my congratulations to you and your family on the blessed event. Now, please don't be offended as I am not stating my own opinion, just what is considered proper for formal events celebrating the new birth.

First, we labor under the impression that a wedding shower is not a request for gifts but a celebration shared only by our dearest hundred or so friends who just wouldn't dream of coming without a present for the new treasured baby. No registry or anything remotely suggesting that you expect a present would be on or in the invitation. However, all of the guests who will very properly rsvp will inquire of the hostess, who will just happen to know exactly what you might want or appreciate receiving. If they are so considerate as to tell her what it would give them great joy to present the new young family with, she will, of course, not mention that item to another person so that you would not receive duplicate items.

Second then, the event is never hosted by a family member, because they will also, of course, be so surprised that someone would care enough to personally select a present that you just dearly love and would never have expected. And how delighted you are that they know you so well and/or took their own time to choose exactly what you most wanted.

Usually these formal teas are hosted by the maid of honor and female wedding attendants, house party or close friends at the home of whoever has the finest china and silver and most spacious formal receiving areas. The invitations will be engraved and the envelopes hand addressed by whomever is the the most talented in the dying art of calligraphy. There would be no other enclosure than the rsvp card & envelope personally addressed and stamped.

The corsage and floral arrangements are given to the bride to make her waiting days more comfortable or to welcome the new arrival to his new home. The hostesses also usually give a quite nice shower present.

I have to add, that even in our small town, these events are becoming more rare, as the younger generation embraces the computer printed invitations and other very practical modern conveniences.

I'm not even saying one way is better, just enjoyed remembering the way it was and still is sometimes done. Of course, everyone had to wear their very best Sunday clothes and the bride also spent many hours trying to find just the perfect gift for each hostess ( and sometimes there were many hostesses to share the expense and work since these Southern teas could become quite expensive)

I'm afraid I just enjoyed reminiscing on your post. Please forgive me if I have in any way been offensive. It certainly wasn't my intention. I hope you have a wonderful shower and a beautiful perfect baby. God bless you.

Oops
 

Oh gee, If I have offended, I've doubled it now. I was trying to edit my post to say that at times I've used the word bride, I should have said new mother or mom to be. I think I thought in the terms of bride because this is usually only done for the first time mother. I guess in our pompous little world, all subsequent children used hand me downs!

I hope I have had my tonque in my cheek but I am afraid it may have been my foot in my mouth instead. Please pardon my trampling all over your post.

LOL!!!! Thank you for your post and allowing me to travel down that "Memory Road" with you! Hubby and I will celebrate 21 years in January and I remember well my showers before the wedding (invitations, wearing the Sunday best, hostess gifts, etc.).

As for the baby shower, I agree with everyone here - don't provide a list of what you want. Each place you are registered at will provide your guest with a list of your wishes to select from. And if you get duplicates, return them to the store and get something you didn't get. I would make sure your mom has a list of "baby wishes" on hand for the rsvp's that may not be available at the stores you've registered. If she's asked for gift suggestions from the prospective guest, she can give them a few items off the list so they can choose one for you.

And most important - CONGRATULATIONS - on the addition to your family:):) Babies are such joy! Please take pictures to share with us!