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Rem&Silkmom · 07-24-2006, 04:06 AM

Sometimes you just have to vent! Hope things are better for you tomorrow.

cribal · 07-24-2006, 04:51 AM

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Originally Posted by peanut

Thats why I don't have a husband anymore, just a boyfriend I can send home....

That's what I feel like I need to do sometimes. We havn't even been married a year and I kinda feel like I'm trapped. He's not mean to me or anything but when your married and they piss you off beyond an appology helping then there's really noghting to do but get over it. You can't just break up like with a boyfriend. You have to suck it up or go ALL THE WAY and get a divorce. (I think they know that and that's why they don't change, b/c they know your stuck with them) It's sucks.....

Crystal

Peters · 07-24-2006, 06:41 AM

i get mad at mine every day he doesn't like my pets and we constantly argue about them but i love them! sometimes it make sme want to pick up and leave! my parents family are 2 hours away mins you it's a little difficult to go away for a day or so espically with a toddler and 2 yorkies in tow!

Gingergirlsmom · 07-24-2006, 06:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Men should come with a hanger on the back of their neck. When you need them fine, when you don't hang them up in the back of the closet. LOL

Great idea!

LuvMySissy · 07-24-2006, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Men should come with a hanger on the back of their neck. When you need them fine, when you don't hang them up in the back of the closet. LOL

I think you should run for President!!!

KellyV · 07-24-2006, 07:19 AM

I'm there with ya... Hubby and I have been married a little over a year (we're both young mind you - early 20s - which makes it that much harder). We fight and bicker, sure, but I never thought it was that bad. Apparently he did. He left me one Thursday night. Said that was it, he didn't "want to do this any more" and thought we should get a divorce. I didn't see or hear from him for over three weeks. No phone calls, text message, emails, nothing. He wouldn't respond to my calls/messages either... I was a complete wreck. Couldn't eat, sleep, think, nothing... Anyway, long story short, he's back home now. We're going to counseling to hopefully sort things out. When it comes down to it we really do love each other, but sometimes it's just too easy to focus on all the negatives and forget about all the reasons you got married in the first place....

If we've learned anything from the counseling it's that you need to be open about how you feel... Don't let things fester and boil inside until you can't take it and explode. Yelling doesn't do anything other than anger the other person too... Sit down, have a civilized conversation and find a way to work through it. We probably won't get the exact outcome we were hoping for, there will have to be compromises... No marriage is perfect, there's always going to be a certain amount of work involved.

I wish you luck.... hope everything works out.

veguroev · 07-24-2006, 12:07 PM

We are ok now. We had another big argument after he came home last night, all because he ddin't want to admit that I was right, not that I wanted to be right it was because I was right, when they don't help you in the house that is not only yours but is both of us house and you are the only one putting effort to keep it clean and nice and after you ahve work so hard on it he comes home and messes it up in a blink of an eye, you really feel like you aren't being appreciate it. That's how everything started. But we are ok now.

Rockster's Mom · 07-24-2006, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by veguroev

We are ok now. We had another big argument after he came home last night, all because he ddin't want to admit that I was right, not that I wanted to be right it was because I was right, when they don't help you in the house that is not only yours but is both of us house and you are the only one putting effort to keep it clean and nice and after you ahve work so hard on it he comes home and messes it up in a blink of an eye, you really feel like you aren't being appreciate it. That's how everything started. But we are ok now.

I have had that same fight with my fiance. I work really hard to keep the house clean, and sometimes when I go to Houstion for a weekend to visit my mom, and when I get back home the house is a total wreck. It really pisses me off!!!! and he has to ask why I am so mad at him.

My dad told him that they may pay for the house, but us girls just let them leave there.

Yorkie3 · 07-24-2006, 12:27 PM

Glad everything is going better. I use to complain about mine coming home and making a mess of everything too. He has a habit of just laying things down instead of putting them up. After my son was born (15 years ago) I made the rule not only for my husband, but for my son too, If I had to pick it up it goes in the trash. I didn't care what it was. After a few times of things coming up missing, they put things up. Why should I have to pick it up and most of the time more than once. So that's where the rule came from. Also, we have two garages and if I found something in the house that wasn't suppose to be here, I threw it out the back door. I know it sounds harsh and drastic, but I wanted to have a life too, and not have to run around behind the boys picking up after them all the time.

It worked!!

kriston · 07-24-2006, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by veguroev

We are ok now. We had another big argument after he came home last night, all because he ddin't want to admit that I was right, not that I wanted to be right it was because I was right, when they don't help you in the house that is not only yours but is both of us house and you are the only one putting effort to keep it clean and nice and after you ahve work so hard on it he comes home and messes it up in a blink of an eye, you really feel like you aren't being appreciate it. That's how everything started. But we are ok now.

Yea!

I LOVE a happy ending!

BabyFidgette · 07-24-2006, 10:22 PM

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Originally Posted by peanut

Thats why I don't have a husband anymore, just a boyfriend I can send home....

LOLOL Good one!!!

BabyFidgette · 07-24-2006, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Men should come with a hanger on the back of their neck. When you need them fine, when you don't hang them up in the back of the closet. LOL

What a GREAT idea! So that's what God forgot! (sigh)

baby03 · 07-24-2006, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Men should come with a hanger on the back of their neck. When you need them fine, when you don't hang them up in the back of the closet. LOL

HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!

omega · 07-25-2006, 04:17 AM

Hmmm, which kind of hanger? The regular wire kind or the pants hanger that you can tighten???????????

omega

Yorkie3 · 07-25-2006, 04:57 AM

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Originally Posted by omega

Hmmm, which kind of hanger? The regular wire kind or the pants hanger that you can tighten???????????

omega

Good question. I've always heard you beat them with wire hanger, so maybe the one that tightens....ooooohhhhh yeah!!!

07-24-2006, 04:06 AM	#16
Rem&Silkmom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Chesapeake, VA Posts: 833	I feel for Ya! Sometimes you just have to vent! Hope things are better for you tomorrow. __________________ *Remmy&ChanceMOM*

07-24-2006, 12:07 PM	#22
veguroev Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Space City Posts: 2,079	We are ok now. We had another big argument after he came home last night, all because he ddin't want to admit that I was right, not that I wanted to be right it was because I was right, when they don't help you in the house that is not only yours but is both of us house and you are the only one putting effort to keep it clean and nice and after you ahve work so hard on it he comes home and messes it up in a blink of an eye, you really feel like you aren't being appreciate it. That's how everything started. But we are ok now. __________________ IF THERE ARE NO DOGS IN HEAVEN, THEN WHEN I DIE I WANT TO GO WHERE THEY GO. CHIKIS, OSCARITO,JEROME, KIKI, AND NEGRITA.

07-24-2006, 12:27 PM	#24
Yorkie3 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 4,686	Glad everything is going better. I use to complain about mine coming home and making a mess of everything too. He has a habit of just laying things down instead of putting them up. After my son was born (15 years ago) I made the rule not only for my husband, but for my son too, If I had to pick it up it goes in the trash. I didn't care what it was. After a few times of things coming up missing, they put things up. Why should I have to pick it up and most of the time more than once. So that's where the rule came from. Also, we have two garages and if I found something in the house that wasn't suppose to be here, I threw it out the back door. I know it sounds harsh and drastic, but I wanted to have a life too, and not have to run around behind the boys picking up after them all the time. It worked!! __________________ Janet

07-24-2006, 06:41 AM	#18
Peters YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Alabama Posts: 2,225	i get mad at mine every day he doesn't like my pets and we constantly argue about them but i love them! sometimes it make sme want to pick up and leave! my parents family are 2 hours away mins you it's a little difficult to go away for a day or so espically with a toddler and 2 yorkies in tow!

07-24-2006, 07:19 AM	#21
KellyV YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 776	I'm there with ya... Hubby and I have been married a little over a year (we're both young mind you - early 20s - which makes it that much harder). We fight and bicker, sure, but I never thought it was that bad. Apparently he did. He left me one Thursday night. Said that was it, he didn't "want to do this any more" and thought we should get a divorce. I didn't see or hear from him for over three weeks. No phone calls, text message, emails, nothing. He wouldn't respond to my calls/messages either... I was a complete wreck. Couldn't eat, sleep, think, nothing... Anyway, long story short, he's back home now. We're going to counseling to hopefully sort things out. When it comes down to it we really do love each other, but sometimes it's just too easy to focus on all the negatives and forget about all the reasons you got married in the first place.... If we've learned anything from the counseling it's that you need to be open about how you feel... Don't let things fester and boil inside until you can't take it and explode. Yelling doesn't do anything other than anger the other person too... Sit down, have a civilized conversation and find a way to work through it. We probably won't get the exact outcome we were hoping for, there will have to be compromises... No marriage is perfect, there's always going to be a certain amount of work involved. I wish you luck.... hope everything works out.

07-25-2006, 04:17 AM	#29
omega Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: MN Posts: 7,575	Hmmm, which kind of hanger? The regular wire kind or the pants hanger that you can tighten??????????? omega