I'm there with ya... Hubby and I have been married a little over a year (we're both young mind you - early 20s - which makes it that much harder). We fight and bicker, sure, but I never thought it was that bad. Apparently he did. He left me one Thursday night. Said that was it, he didn't "want to do this any more" and thought we should get a divorce. I didn't see or hear from him for over three weeks. No phone calls, text message, emails, nothing. He wouldn't respond to my calls/messages either... I was a complete wreck. Couldn't eat, sleep, think, nothing... Anyway, long story short, he's back home now. We're going to counseling to hopefully sort things out. When it comes down to it we really do love each other, but sometimes it's just too easy to focus on all the negatives and forget about all the reasons you got married in the first place....
If we've learned anything from the counseling it's that you need to be open about how you feel... Don't let things fester and boil inside until you can't take it and explode. Yelling doesn't do anything other than anger the other person too... Sit down, have a civilized conversation and find a way to work through it. We probably won't get the exact outcome we were hoping for, there will have to be compromises... No marriage is perfect, there's always going to be a certain amount of work involved.
I wish you luck.... hope everything works out. |