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MinMuf1 · 07-25-2006, 09:52 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

Men should come with a hanger on the back of their neck. When you need them fine, when you don't hang them up in the back of the closet. LOL

kshook90 · 07-25-2006, 10:49 AM

sry bout that hope ur day gets better

txshopper73 · 07-25-2006, 10:51 AM

Sorry that you're having a bad day.

I have those quite often with my hubby!

cheryl000 · 07-25-2006, 11:05 AM

I'm sorry this is happening. I went through the same thing with my husband. Every family has these unwritten rules about who takes care of what. That is what makes it so hard when you get married is that we have to try to make it clear to each other. My husband was under the impression that when I stopped working it was my new JOB to pick up whatever he left laying around the house. I quickly let him know that I'm not his mom and won't be doing that!
Another thing I learned from a communications class is to use "I feel statements" instead of "you" statements. Men can be really defensive and when they feel like they're being attacked they react. For instance if I told my husband "You make me mad when you don't do this." Instead say something like "When you don't pick up I FEEL unapprecaited." This has helped me out so much and has helped stop my husband and I from fighting over so much stuff. It's tough at first when you're not used to it. But men won't change just because we want them to, they have want to change. I hope he can understand how his actions make you feel.

07-25-2006, 10:49 AM	#32
kshook90 Yorkie Yakker Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Milltown, NJ Posts: 58	sry bout that hope ur day gets better __________________ If life is an illusion,is that why there are so many magical moments. Kevin's Myspace: http://www.myspace.com/skatr45s

07-25-2006, 10:51 AM	#33
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry that you're having a bad day. I have those quite often with my hubby! __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

07-25-2006, 11:05 AM	#34
cheryl000 YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: none Posts: 1,495	I'm sorry this is happening. I went through the same thing with my husband. Every family has these unwritten rules about who takes care of what. That is what makes it so hard when you get married is that we have to try to make it clear to each other. My husband was under the impression that when I stopped working it was my new JOB to pick up whatever he left laying around the house. I quickly let him know that I'm not his mom and won't be doing that! Another thing I learned from a communications class is to use "I feel statements" instead of "you" statements. Men can be really defensive and when they feel like they're being attacked they react. For instance if I told my husband "You make me mad when you don't do this." Instead say something like "When you don't pick up I FEEL unapprecaited." This has helped me out so much and has helped stop my husband and I from fighting over so much stuff. It's tough at first when you're not used to it. But men won't change just because we want them to, they have want to change. I hope he can understand how his actions make you feel.