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monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 05:36 AM

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Originally Posted by cindy0721

Why not temp out... for awhile until you get on your feet? Where r u now in Texas? I am in South Texas and run a temp service if that helps you any... the weather is great over here....good luck with your decision.

OMG thank you!!!! Im in el paso texas how far are you?

Ponyup · 07-11-2006, 05:39 AM

I'm just a year older than you, but I have been married almost 4years. My husband & I didn't live together before marriage & once we started living together it was rough. We couldn't agree on anything & fought about everything. I was constantly pouting about something. So I talked to some married people & found out it was normal. I had always thought that if you married the one everything would be perfect...no fights just love love love. It's not like that marriage & love for that matter is a choice. It's something that takes work & patience. He may just need some time & he may be feeling over whelmed. Getting married is a huge decision especially if you were raised that divorse is not an option period. He may just be scared & think that the little bickering is a sign of something bigger. Give him some space & see what happens.

As far as a job, my father's company just bought a plant in El Paso, we make wire, that might be a place to try & get a job. PM me if you want the contact information.

cindy0721 · 07-11-2006, 05:40 AM

11 hrs and 50 mins....... Im 4 1/2 hours from San Antonio...... we have a office in Austin if its closer..... but you moved from el paso where did ya go?

RLC12345678 · 07-11-2006, 05:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Passionfruition

When my husband and I got engaged, we argued more than ever. I think it's something about the stress of being not married but more than dating that really gets to you and scares you about your future. We even broke our engagement off once for 2 months! ....because the arguing got so bad......it was scary, you know, arguing so much before marriage. Now, I can't say my marriage (2.5 years) has been the smoothest road but we did it and don't regret it.

Oh my gosh...my husband and I fought more for the 6 months we were engaged than we EVER did the whole 2.5 years we dated. It was AWEFUL! We did often say to each other that we probably shouldn't get married bc we just fight WAY too much. We did "call off" the engagement a couple of times (although we never "officially" called it off), but after we both cooled down then we reconciled. Also, we did not live together before we got married. But, we DID go through pre-marital counseling. Boy, did that help 100%. Our counselor, who was the preacher that married us, gave us this book that taught us how to "fight" the "right" way. We hardly ever fight anymore, but if we DO fight, we do it the "right" way.

Give him a chance to cool off. Don't call him. Give him a chance to call you. If it ultimately does not work out, then I promise you that it will be a blessing in disguise. Keep your chin up! Find a job or a hobby or something that will keep you occupied and keep your mind off of this whole situation.

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 05:55 AM

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Originally Posted by cindy0721

11 hrs and 50 mins....... Im 4 1/2 hours from San Antonio...... we have a office in Austin if its closer..... but you moved from el paso where did ya go?

I drove to alburquerque nm... i will be here for a week.

cindy0721 · 07-11-2006, 05:57 AM

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Originally Posted by monkeyandpenut

I drove to alburquerque nm... i will be here for a week.

IC well if you decide you want a change of nice beach weather head this way... South Padre Island is about 30 minutes away.... good luck and yes keep your head up!

ytsirk27 · 07-11-2006, 06:55 AM

I hope all works out!

JeanieK · 07-11-2006, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkie3

I am a firm believer that even though a woman can love with all her heart and soul...she should never be dependant on anyone else. Get yourself a job and start supporting yourself. That way if in this relationship or another, whether it's he who breaks it off or you, you have the means to take care of yourself without depending on someone else. Good luck to to you.

Amen to that. Never put yourself in a position where you are dependent on anyone that you are not married too.

I don't know how long you have been engaged, or what your arguments are about, but you should try to get counseling, even if you do get back together.

I know it is hard to let go and move on, but somethimes that is the best thing to do.

Pray about it and keep your mind open for an answer. God will always answer, but it isn't always the answer we are hoping for. Ultimately, God is still in control. And this man might not be who you are supposed to be with.

RLC12345678 · 07-11-2006, 07:08 AM

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Originally Posted by JeanieK

Amen to that. Never put yourself in a position where you are dependent on anyone that you are not married too.

I don't know how long you have been engaged, or what your arguments are about, but you should try to get counseling, even if you do get back together.

I know it is hard to let go and move on, but somethimes that is the best thing to do.

Pray about it and keep your mind open for an answer. God will always answer, but it isn't always the answer we are hoping for. Ultimately, God is still in control. And this man might not be who you are supposed to be with.

EXCELLENT post!

AMEN!

txshopper73 · 07-11-2006, 07:11 AM

I am not good at giving advice, but you two are in my thoughts and prayers. Relationships are hard at times and everyone goes through trials like these.

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 08:26 AM

Thank you guys all your advise helps me get through the day a lot easier....Peanuts came with me so he can play with a 7month old 90lbs labrador...its funny.. but i doit for a few mins and under very careful suppervison..

candybaby · 07-11-2006, 08:37 AM

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Originally Posted by monkeyandpenut

I wish this was the case with us. Our fear and cause for most of these fights were because we were scared to loose one another...and now we have

Was there a trust issue??? That will do it everytime

cribal · 07-11-2006, 08:48 AM

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Originally Posted by candybaby

Was there a trust issue??? That will do it everytime

Yea, it's hard to get over trust issues. Were there things in your relationship that happened that made you two think one or the other was going to leave?

Crystal

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 08:53 AM

it seems im like that...im scared to get hurt...But i wanna get rid of that, i just realized yesterday that i gotta doit for my own well being and happines....

candybaby · 07-11-2006, 08:57 AM

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Originally Posted by monkeyandpenut

it seems im like that...im scared to get hurt...But i wanna get rid of that, i just realized yesterday that i gotta doit for my own well being and happines....

yes, hunny you do; get rid of that security issue and you will see a different light and it is a beautiful one. Has he given you a reason to get hurt?

07-11-2006, 05:39 AM	#17
Ponyup YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Northern Indiana Posts: 1,252	I'm just a year older than you, but I have been married almost 4years. My husband & I didn't live together before marriage & once we started living together it was rough. We couldn't agree on anything & fought about everything. I was constantly pouting about something. So I talked to some married people & found out it was normal. I had always thought that if you married the one everything would be perfect...no fights just love love love. It's not like that marriage & love for that matter is a choice. It's something that takes work & patience. He may just need some time & he may be feeling over whelmed. Getting married is a huge decision especially if you were raised that divorse is not an option period. He may just be scared & think that the little bickering is a sign of something bigger. Give him some space & see what happens. As far as a job, my father's company just bought a plant in El Paso, we make wire, that might be a place to try & get a job. PM me if you want the contact information. __________________ Ponyup Mom to LOGAN

07-11-2006, 05:40 AM	#18
cindy0721 Always In My Heart Donating Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: The Lone Star State Posts: 3,393	11 hrs and 50 mins....... Im 4 1/2 hours from San Antonio...... we have a office in Austin if its closer..... but you moved from el paso where did ya go? __________________ Cindy & Gizmo Gizmo on Dogster *Rest in peace My Madda* *very much*

07-11-2006, 07:11 AM	#25
txshopper73 Donating YT 14K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Texas Posts: 14,226 Blog Entries: 1	I am not good at giving advice, but you two are in my thoughts and prayers. Relationships are hard at times and everyone goes through trials like these. __________________ As always...JMO (Just My Opinion) Kimberley

07-11-2006, 08:26 AM	#26
monkeyandpenut Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: San Antonio Tx Posts: 169	Thank you guys all your advise helps me get through the day a lot easier....Peanuts came with me so he can play with a 7month old 90lbs labrador...its funny.. but i doit for a few mins and under very careful suppervison.. __________________ MAYRA

07-11-2006, 08:53 AM	#29
monkeyandpenut Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: San Antonio Tx Posts: 169	it seems im like that...im scared to get hurt...But i wanna get rid of that, i just realized yesterday that i gotta doit for my own well being and happines.... __________________ MAYRA

07-11-2006, 06:55 AM	#22
ytsirk27 BANNED FOR SCAMMING MEMBERS! Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 2,811	I hope all works out!