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LuvMySissy · 07-11-2006, 09:00 AM

I just received this quote from a fellow Yogi and I think it might help - her goes....

Every event we experience and every person we meet has intentionally been put in our path to help raise our level of consciousness. When we awaken to this fundamental truth, life becomes a true adventure, a spiritual adventure. The person who smiles at you while you are walking down the street is no longer a stranger. The phone call from an old friend who crossed your mind is no longer a surprise. The failed relationship tha tleft you broken hearted is no longer a source of bitterness and pain. Instead it's seen as a blessing in disguie, a gift that makes you stronger, more conscious and ultimately, more alive. From Unmistakable Touch of Grace by Cheryl Richardson

ytsirk27 · 07-11-2006, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by monkeyandpenut

it seems im like that...im scared to get hurt...But i wanna get rid of that, i just realized yesterday that i gotta doit for my own well being and happines....

You know, i have had my battles at my marriage also. My younger life was far from great. My mom left me when I was 7 years old so i went to live with my dad which he tried but he drank alot and was never home either. I actually went to a counsler a while back because I was always trying to leave jeff even over the stupidest things. As I have said in a past post. I have trust issues also and dont trust people or get real close to ppl for the fear that there just going to leave anyway so why bother even try mentality. There are still sometimes that I cannot talk to my husband like a wife should but I had so much fear that he was going to leave me that I found every way possible to leave him first. I dont know your upbringing or situation I just thought i would share. This is really a big step for me..I guess i am getting better huh?

Baby Blessing · 07-11-2006, 09:42 AM

I hope that things are working out for you and that you will be looking towards your future with a positive outlook. At the moment it might be difficult for you to see, but maybe this was something best for the two of you to go your seperate ways. I hope you will be able to get good employment and then maybe set a goal of continuing your education to further better yourself in the working field. This is my personal experience; in my early life I sought out the guidance of the Lord and leaned on him in directing my path through life, I have never been sorry, he has always given me the strength to push on, life is not easy and it can be so very difficult but with allowing him to be the director in my life it sure has made it ever so much easier. My husband and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary in May, of which I can give all the credit to not ourselves but in seeking the Lords will in our lives. As my husband is progressing with the Parkinsons, lifes road is not an easy one to travel for either of us but we know who is in control and just have to stop and count our blessings and we both know if it was not for the important choice we both made in our early life that we would not have reaped the joys and abundance of happiness which we had a choice in making for our life to be better and the way it was meant to be. My prayer is with you that you will know many joys awaiting for you and that all will be fine in the path you choose to follow. Please note what I am sharing here in our own personal life is not a preaching, but is out of love from us two who have traveled lifes path with all the obstacles of rough times financially, losses, illness's and so forth but getting through each with the strength that God gives us to know that we can make it.
Patti and Jack

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 11:18 AM

I appreciate so much to all of you who have shared your personal stories...it makes this transition so much better....

Nothing seems better that hearing all of your experiences. I do know things will turn out for the best. God always takes good care of me. What the best for me is i dont know...

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by candybaby

yes, hunny you do; get rid of that security issue and you will see a different light and it is a beautiful one. Has he given you a reason to get hurt?

By no means has he given me a reason to be hurt, i know he is a good man and i think its just a big miscomunnication...I have been hurt by other people in the past...this is why i have a mistrust issue with a lot of people

But im going to fix this problem...Im sick and tired of living in fear everyday...I just want to live my life with no worries. I want to enjoy my life. I know i will......

candybaby · 07-11-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by monkeyandpenut

By no means has he given me a reason to be hurt, i know he is a good man and i think its just a big miscomunnication...I have been hurt by other people in the past...this is why i have a mistrust issue with a lot of people

But im going to fix this problem...Im sick and tired of living in fear everyday...I just want to live my life with no worries. I want to enjoy my life. I know i will......

Do you think he may want to reconcile? Let him know you are going to work on your trust issue's. But, don't call him let him call you and then tell him what you have been thinking/feeling, "no arguing"

. And if he really loves you he will give you a second chance and if he doesn't then it just wasn't meant to be

.

Hang in there, and its good you posted this thread because it gives you a chance to talk about it and it's always good to talk about your problems and not keeping them bottled up.

Annabelles_mom · 07-11-2006, 04:31 PM

Maybe this all happened for a reason. I know it is hard to hear that cliche, but it is usually true. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

Was there mistrust? If there is no trust, it is hard to make something work out.

Maybe he wasn't the "One". Consider him a stepping stone.

Maybe it is your time for you to be self-sufficient, and not with someone for a while. That will give you strength and confidence.

I know it hurts, there is nothing worse than a broken heart, but I PROMISE you, it goes away. And one day, you will look back and say, "Ha, I am so glad I am not with him!"

If he is not willing to go to counselling to work things out, then maybe that means he really doesn't want things to work out, period.

Don't take the break up personally either! You are not any less of a person because it didn't work out.

Take care, and don't be sad!!

monkeyandpenut · 07-11-2006, 08:30 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Annabelles_mom

Maybe this all happened for a reason. I know it is hard to hear that cliche, but it is usually true. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

Was there mistrust? If there is no trust, it is hard to make something work out.

Maybe he wasn't the "One". Consider him a stepping stone.

Maybe it is your time for you to be self-sufficient, and not with someone for a while. That will give you strength and confidence.

I know it hurts, there is nothing worse than a broken heart, but I PROMISE you, it goes away. And one day, you will look back and say, "Ha, I am so glad I am not with him!"

If he is not willing to go to counselling to work things out, then maybe that means he really doesn't want things to work out, period.

Don't take the break up personally either! You are not any less of a person because it didn't work out.

Take care, and don't be sad!!

I just miss him so much right now... two nights that I havent slept by his side...just hurts.

He is my love, my bestfriend.... i know i can get back on my feet... but i want to do all of this by his side..and show him how we can learn to get over this, and be happy again.

BabyFidgette · 07-11-2006, 11:10 PM

My fiance broke off our engagement last year. I know exactly what you are going through. I just wrote you a PM.

BabyFidgette · 07-11-2006, 11:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Annabelles_mom

Maybe this all happened for a reason. I know it is hard to hear that cliche, but it is usually true. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.

Was there mistrust? If there is no trust, it is hard to make something work out.

Maybe he wasn't the "One". Consider him a stepping stone.

Maybe it is your time for you to be self-sufficient, and not with someone for a while. That will give you strength and confidence.

I know it hurts, there is nothing worse than a broken heart, but I PROMISE you, it goes away. And one day, you will look back and say, "Ha, I am so glad I am not with him!"

If he is not willing to go to counselling to work things out, then maybe that means he really doesn't want things to work out, period.

Don't take the break up personally either! You are not any less of a person because it didn't work out.

Take care, and don't be sad!!

Everyone said the SAME thing to me. And I didn't want to hear it. But, the cliche was true. Everything happens for a reason and for the best.

07-11-2006, 09:00 AM	#31
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	I just received this quote from a fellow Yogi and I think it might help - her goes.... Every event we experience and every person we meet has intentionally been put in our path to help raise our level of consciousness. When we awaken to this fundamental truth, life becomes a true adventure, a spiritual adventure. The person who smiles at you while you are walking down the street is no longer a stranger. The phone call from an old friend who crossed your mind is no longer a surprise. The failed relationship tha tleft you broken hearted is no longer a source of bitterness and pain. Instead it's seen as a blessing in disguie, a gift that makes you stronger, more conscious and ultimately, more alive. From Unmistakable Touch of Grace by Cheryl Richardson __________________ Sissy & Angel

07-11-2006, 11:18 AM	#34
monkeyandpenut Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2006 Location: San Antonio Tx Posts: 169	I appreciate so much to all of you who have shared your personal stories...it makes this transition so much better.... Nothing seems better that hearing all of your experiences. I do know things will turn out for the best. God always takes good care of me. What the best for me is i dont know... __________________ MAYRA

07-11-2006, 11:10 PM	#39
BabyFidgette Learn Yorkie CPR! Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 6,855	My fiance broke off our engagement last year. I know exactly what you are going through. I just wrote you a PM. __________________ Nicole & Baby "The more men I meet, the more I love my Yorkie!"

07-11-2006, 09:42 AM	#33
Baby Blessing Our Blessings R Many Donating Member Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: In the shelter of God's Loving Care. Posts: 3,095 Blog Entries: 1	I hope that things are working out for you and that you will be looking towards your future with a positive outlook. At the moment it might be difficult for you to see, but maybe this was something best for the two of you to go your seperate ways. I hope you will be able to get good employment and then maybe set a goal of continuing your education to further better yourself in the working field. This is my personal experience; in my early life I sought out the guidance of the Lord and leaned on him in directing my path through life, I have never been sorry, he has always given me the strength to push on, life is not easy and it can be so very difficult but with allowing him to be the director in my life it sure has made it ever so much easier. My husband and I celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary in May, of which I can give all the credit to not ourselves but in seeking the Lords will in our lives. As my husband is progressing with the Parkinsons, lifes road is not an easy one to travel for either of us but we know who is in control and just have to stop and count our blessings and we both know if it was not for the important choice we both made in our early life that we would not have reaped the joys and abundance of happiness which we had a choice in making for our life to be better and the way it was meant to be. My prayer is with you that you will know many joys awaiting for you and that all will be fine in the path you choose to follow. Please note what I am sharing here in our own personal life is not a preaching, but is out of love from us two who have traveled lifes path with all the obstacles of rough times financially, losses, illness's and so forth but getting through each with the strength that God gives us to know that we can make it. Patti and Jack

07-11-2006, 04:31 PM	#37
Annabelles_mom No Longer a Member Join Date: May 2006 Location: Louisiana Posts: 314	Maybe this all happened for a reason. I know it is hard to hear that cliche, but it is usually true. What doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Was there mistrust? If there is no trust, it is hard to make something work out. Maybe he wasn't the "One". Consider him a stepping stone. Maybe it is your time for you to be self-sufficient, and not with someone for a while. That will give you strength and confidence. I know it hurts, there is nothing worse than a broken heart, but I PROMISE you, it goes away. And one day, you will look back and say, "Ha, I am so glad I am not with him!" If he is not willing to go to counselling to work things out, then maybe that means he really doesn't want things to work out, period. Don't take the break up personally either! You are not any less of a person because it didn't work out. Take care, and don't be sad!!