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jkat · 03-30-2006, 01:34 PM

Most of us agree that by letting kids sleep in our beds is a bad bad bahavior. It's a behavior that will be hard to correct and is the beginning of many child behavior problems.

Having that said, I don't let my furby sleep in my bed either. She sleeps in her own crate. Why? There are times when I may need someone else to babysit her overnight and I wouldn't want them to feel, "What? I HAVE to sleep with her?"

I babysat a dog once that slept with its human mom since it was 7 weeks old. By then, he was five months. There was no way I'd put him in my bed so he slept in his crate. Boy, he was not happy! I had two miserable nights.

So, no, I wouldn't want that on someone else or my list of avilable people will be shorter and shorter each time.

bchgirl · 03-30-2006, 01:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Claire

AAAWWWW THANKS, but I bet you would not feel the same way the first time you were woken up from a dead sleep by a flying pacifier... it hurts and sometimes leaves a mark and Mia thinks that a "screaming in pain mommy" is a funny mommy

It's a very effective alarm clock though

bchgirl · 03-30-2006, 01:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Claire

I do, my nephew... he will be 15 in August and still sleeps with his mom on occasion...
I know, I'm getting the "Weird Lady" look from you guys but let me explain... this is my soon-to-be-ex-husband's sister who lets her soon-to-be 15 year old son sleep in bed with her.... they are ALL a bit weird on that side of the family.

And now we know why you make up those smiley conversations

Btw, I think it's wrong for a 15 year old to do this and I have a problem with any woman who still breastfeeds a child over the age of a year. Even dogs know you wean the pups when they get teeth

troubletb · 03-30-2006, 01:50 PM

I too agree its not the best idea to have your children in your bed. But here is a story for you. My neighbor has a son who is around 11-12 and in his parents bedroom he has a bed. Yes a bed of his own, right in their bedroom. Now that is pretty sick??!!??

vainchick5 · 03-30-2006, 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

I have a problem with any woman who still breastfeeds a child over the age of a year. Even dogs know you wean the pups when they get teeth

LMAO you had me rolling on this one..It's true. My modo is if you are old enough to ask for it, or chew a steak, you are too old to have breast milk. I've heard of people breast feeding until 8 years old

Can you imagine that? The kid is at school going "Hey I gotta get home, my mom's waiting to breast feed me my lunch"

bchgirl · 03-30-2006, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by vainchick5

LMAO you had me rolling on this one..It's true. My modo is if you are old enough to ask for it, or chew a steak, you are too old to have breast milk. I've heard of people breast feeding until 8 years old

Can you imagine that? The kid is at school going "Hey I gotta get home, my mom's waiting to breast feed me my lunch"

A friend's neighbor actually has a child who ASKS for it.He is 5! I think his mother is sick and it has far greater complications than where the kid's sleeping.....

vainchick5 · 03-30-2006, 02:02 PM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

A friend's neighbor actually has a child who ASKS for it.He is 5! I think his mother is sick and it has far greater complications than where the kid's sleeping.....

Do you think she does it for, dare I say it, PLEASURE?? That is so sick!

kittendes · 03-30-2006, 02:04 PM

When we adopted our daughter the only place she would sleep was on me. Even with that said she never slept in our bed. I slept with her on the couch and she laid on top of me, we did that for 2 weeks and I had enough of that. We worked for about a week and a half on getting her to sleep in her bed, and she became a much better sleeper in her bed. This past summer we had a cricket problem with her, they were so loud that she was afraid to sleep in her room, to get her to stay in there I would lay in her room with her until she fell asleep, then I would leave.
I don't personally agree with having her sleep in our bed on a daily basis.

We do let her sleep with 1 on us, when we go upstate to our cabin or when we go camping. And she knows that it is a special treat and she IS going to sleep in her bed when we get home.

Desiree

bchgirl · 03-30-2006, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by vainchick5

Do you think she does it for, dare I say it, PLEASURE?? That is so sick!

I honestly have no clue, but she is in need of medical help. Come to think of it, her husband needs to start a petition

gutu28 · 03-30-2006, 02:22 PM

That guys petition has over 11000 signatures! Needless to say..plenty of people share his view..

Claire · 03-30-2006, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bchgirl

I have a problem with any woman who still breastfeeds a child over the age of a year. Even dogs know you wean the pups when they get teeth

Wait a minute.. havent you ever thought that MAYBE the child is being breast feed past the age of one for a medical reason??? I was breast feed for 15 months because I was allergic to EVERYTHING! My mom would try a new food or a different formula and I would break out in hives and scream for hours in pain... And yes, I bit my mom on more then one occasion and YES she threw me across the room once when I bit down hard and THAT IS WHY I have smiley face conversations... they say it all comes back to the mom in therapy!
My daughter, thank GOD is not as bad, she is allergic to apples and oat and a handful of other things...

chloeandj · 03-30-2006, 05:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Claire

Wait a minute.. havent you ever thought that MAYBE the child is being breast feed past the age of one for a medical reason??? I was breast feed for 15 months because I was allergic to EVERYTHING! My mom would try a new food or a different formula and I would break out in hives and scream for hours in pain... And yes, I bit my mom on more then one occasion and YES she threw me across the room once when I bit down hard and THAT IS WHY I have smiley face conversations... they say it all comes back to the mom in therapy!
My daughter, thank GOD is not as bad, she is allergic to apples and oat and a handful of other things...

That is understandable. However, I think I would use a breast pump.

Tashasmom · 03-30-2006, 05:20 PM

My oldest slept with me til he was four and now he's 17 a good student..works pays his bills doesn't drink do drugs run the streets and is a very well rounded kid. Now if he had turned out bad..i hardly doubt it could of been cause he slept with mom..thats ridiculous. My girls slept with me off and on..and my youngest sleeps with us every night. He bout died from asthma. He was crying and started coughing and the next thing I know he is blue and lifeless in my arms..while i'm waiting on an ambulance..if my baby wants to sleep with us..then my baby will sleep with us..and no my husband doesn't have a problem with it..he wouldn't want it any other way. He's a wonderful dad and I wouldn't want it any other way..

Tiger's Mom · 03-30-2006, 05:22 PM

I have debated on whether or not I should respond to this thread . . .but as you can see, I could not resist.

I must be the loner on this one when I say that my baby slept in our bed until about 6 years old. When I finally moved her to her own room, she would sleep there but in the middle of the night she would climb up to our room and snuggle in bed.

She did that for the longest time until she was old enough (grade school) and said I don't wanna be squeeshed anymore

. It must be an asian thing because I know that my sister has 4 of her kids all on her bed (well her oldest one finally moved out because she too was squished). My daughter's Best friend still sleeps with her mommy when she comes home from college and so the dad goes to the daughter's room. Again, I must say it could be an asian thing.

Just so you know, my daughter ended up growing up just fine . . . she is very normal, we are very close and she calls me every single day. She is a stellar student and continues to be on the Dean's list in College. She is very independent and very level headed and has never gotten into trouble - not once. We have this great bond and she is very open to me and kept no secrets and I have no regrets on my decision to have her sleep in our bed . . .

As for her best friend, she too is a great kid . . . graduated at the top of her class as well and is now in Georgetown U taking up International business ad so very independent. She is just very close to her mommy. As for my sister, all her kids have been nominated to the GATE program - academic (you CA residence should know about this program) and excelling in sports and adores their parents like you would not believe.

Did I say it must be an "asian" thing . . .

Of course, Tiger now sleeps in my bed and Nika soon to follow!

What can I say . . I hope this revelation will not get me kicked out of YT!

gutu28 · 03-30-2006, 05:32 PM

I say..to each his own! If it works for you then so be it..

03-30-2006, 01:50 PM	#34
troubletb Love my Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: New Port Richey, Florida Posts: 2,339	I too agree its not the best idea to have your children in your bed. But here is a story for you. My neighbor has a son who is around 11-12 and in his parents bedroom he has a bed. Yes a bed of his own, right in their bedroom. Now that is pretty sick??!!?? __________________ Karen~ Bell, Lilly and Peter's Mom Rest in Peace <3

03-30-2006, 02:22 PM	#40
gutu28 Lovin' the Cali kisses! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Lawrenceville, Georgia Posts: 2,990	That guys petition has over 11000 signatures! Needless to say..plenty of people share his view.. __________________ Larissa and Cali Let's go Georgia Bulldogs!

03-30-2006, 05:20 PM	#43
Tashasmom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Indiana Posts: 950	My oldest slept with me til he was four and now he's 17 a good student..works pays his bills doesn't drink do drugs run the streets and is a very well rounded kid. Now if he had turned out bad..i hardly doubt it could of been cause he slept with mom..thats ridiculous. My girls slept with me off and on..and my youngest sleeps with us every night. He bout died from asthma. He was crying and started coughing and the next thing I know he is blue and lifeless in my arms..while i'm waiting on an ambulance..if my baby wants to sleep with us..then my baby will sleep with us..and no my husband doesn't have a problem with it..he wouldn't want it any other way. He's a wonderful dad and I wouldn't want it any other way.. __________________ LOVE MEANS MORE THAN JUST HUGS & KISSES!!

03-30-2006, 05:32 PM	#45
gutu28 Lovin' the Cali kisses! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Lawrenceville, Georgia Posts: 2,990	I say..to each his own! If it works for you then so be it.. __________________ Larissa and Cali Let's go Georgia Bulldogs!

03-30-2006, 01:34 PM	#31
jkat YT Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: California Posts: 459	Most of us agree that by letting kids sleep in our beds is a bad bad bahavior. It's a behavior that will be hard to correct and is the beginning of many child behavior problems. Having that said, I don't let my furby sleep in my bed either. She sleeps in her own crate. Why? There are times when I may need someone else to babysit her overnight and I wouldn't want them to feel, "What? I HAVE to sleep with her?" I babysat a dog once that slept with its human mom since it was 7 weeks old. By then, he was five months. There was no way I'd put him in my bed so he slept in his crate. Boy, he was not happy! I had two miserable nights. So, no, I wouldn't want that on someone else or my list of avilable people will be shorter and shorter each time.

03-30-2006, 02:04 PM	#38
kittendes Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: May 2005 Location: Perkasie, PA Posts: 214	When we adopted our daughter the only place she would sleep was on me. Even with that said she never slept in our bed. I slept with her on the couch and she laid on top of me, we did that for 2 weeks and I had enough of that. We worked for about a week and a half on getting her to sleep in her bed, and she became a much better sleeper in her bed. This past summer we had a cricket problem with her, they were so loud that she was afraid to sleep in her room, to get her to stay in there I would lay in her room with her until she fell asleep, then I would leave. I don't personally agree with having her sleep in our bed on a daily basis. We do let her sleep with 1 on us, when we go upstate to our cabin or when we go camping. And she knows that it is a special treat and she IS going to sleep in her bed when we get home. Desiree

03-30-2006, 05:22 PM	#44
Tiger's Mom Donating YT 8000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Spokane, WA Posts: 9,339	I have debated on whether or not I should respond to this thread . . .but as you can see, I could not resist. I must be the loner on this one when I say that my baby slept in our bed until about 6 years old. When I finally moved her to her own room, she would sleep there but in the middle of the night she would climb up to our room and snuggle in bed. She did that for the longest time until she was old enough (grade school) and said I don't wanna be squeeshed anymore . It must be an asian thing because I know that my sister has 4 of her kids all on her bed (well her oldest one finally moved out because she too was squished). My daughter's Best friend still sleeps with her mommy when she comes home from college and so the dad goes to the daughter's room. Again, I must say it could be an asian thing. Just so you know, my daughter ended up growing up just fine . . . she is very normal, we are very close and she calls me every single day. She is a stellar student and continues to be on the Dean's list in College. She is very independent and very level headed and has never gotten into trouble - not once. We have this great bond and she is very open to me and kept no secrets and I have no regrets on my decision to have her sleep in our bed . . . As for her best friend, she too is a great kid . . . graduated at the top of her class as well and is now in Georgetown U taking up International business ad so very independent. She is just very close to her mommy. As for my sister, all her kids have been nominated to the GATE program - academic (you CA residence should know about this program) and excelling in sports and adores their parents like you would not believe. Did I say it must be an "asian" thing . . . Of course, Tiger now sleeps in my bed and Nika soon to follow! What can I say . . I hope this revelation will not get me kicked out of YT!