Husband on Strike

[Claire]

I have never once shared a bed with my daughter or my yorkie. There are too many risks involved with bed-sharing. What happens if you roll over on them at night or they fall out of the bed or get stuck between the mattress and the wall.... parents have enough to worry about normally, why add something to the mix!
I am also against sharing a room with your kids, unfortunately I have shared a room with my daughter since the day that she was born, not because I want to but because I have to. I dream of the day that she gets her own room, yes I will cry because I'll miss her at night but I will get over it as soon as I realize that I can lie in bed at night and read with the light on instead of using a flashlight. Oh, and something else I have to look forward to, I won't have pacifiers flying at my head when she is ready to get up in the morning!!!

[chloeandj]

I could NEVER let my children sleep in bed with us. I would be up all night afraid I had rolled on them or kicked them out of bed. Also when you spend your entire day with them, there is nothing better than putting them in THEIR bed at 8 oclock and having the rest of the evening to your self. I can't think of ONE good reason why they SHOULD be in your bed I think parents that do this, do it for themselves. Maybe because it is easier

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by yorkiepip

My kids always go to sleep in their own beds but on occaisions might come in to me in the middle of the night.
I dont mind this as its not all the time and im making the most of them being kids as IMO kids grow up too fast these days.
AND does it really matter? Each to their own!!!

My dd used to come get in our bed after we were asleep. Someone told me oh, you need to stop that immediately, well it's pretty dang hard to stop something when you're asleep She quit doing it when it got uncomfortable to sleep with 3 of us in the bed, however, if my dh is out of town...I can tell you where she plans on sleeping

Btw, I don't know of any 15 year olds still sleeping with their parents

And if my husband started an on line petition where the kids were sleeping wouldn't be his only problem....actually problem solved...how 'bout you sleep on the couch, sweetie

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

No offense to anyone that does this, because everyone is different. But I think over indulging kids, by letting them eat what they want, sleep where they want, and watch what they want, is creating monsterous kids that need shows like Nanny 911. When I was growing up, everything was whatever mom and dad said and nothing more. Kids have become more and more spoiled and bratty by the minute. It's because parents just want them to shut up so they over indulge them and let them have whatever to keep them quiet. Again I'm not a parent, but am a keen observer. Not good parenting skills.

I agree, we knew where our boundries were and what the punishment was going to be if we crossed them. Many of todays kids are so disrespectful to authority figures because they get by with it at home. And for those who say it is no one elses business, I disagree, those are the kids that cause the problems that the rest of the children have to endure.

Discipline starts in the home. Monsters are raised, not born.

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by Claire

Oh, and something else I have to look forward to, I won't have pacifiers flying at my head when she is ready to get up in the morning!!!

I love Mia's spunk

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

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Btw, I don't know of any 15 year olds still sleeping with their parents

And if my husband started an on line petition where the kids were sleeping wouldn't be his only problem....actually problem solved...how 'bout you sleep on the couch, sweetie

I don't think the point is that they will NEVER grow out of it, but I think what I was trying to say, was that it creates other behavioral problems and they might not grow out of it for a long time. Personally I wouldn't want my husband and I to be hostages of our children for 7-8 years until they grow out of it and sleep in their own beds. My intimacy with my husband would be WAY more important than my kids feeling the need to sleep in our bed, when they have a perfectly good bed of their own. So I guess I wouldn't want my hubby to sleep on the couch because my kids refuse their own bed.

[StewiesMom]

I agree that it could be emotionally damaging, but above and beyond all that, shouldn't parents be concerned with it being EXTREMELY dangerous?

[bchgirl]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I don't think the point is that they will NEVER grow out of it, but I think what I was trying to say, was that it creates other behavioral problems and they might not grow out of it for a long time. Personally I wouldn't want my husband and I to be hostages of our children for 7-8 years until they grow out of it and sleep in their own beds. My intimacy with my husband would be WAY more important than my kids feeling the need to sleep in our bed, when they have a perfectly good bed of their own. So I guess I wouldn't want my hubby to sleep on the couch because my kids refuse their own bed.

Many parents that allow their children to sleep with them....start the pattern not the other way around. Baby won't sleep so they lay down with baby...so baby gets used to sleeping with someone. Now I never did this, refused to do it after seeing friends of mine who HAD to go to bed with the child EVERY night. It's better to never start the habit, but that being said, what people say they will or will not do as parents...doesn't always happen....because as the commercial says...a baby changes everything

I'd put hubby on the couch for starting an ON LINE petition or any petition for that matter. That doesn't help anything, jmho.

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

I'd put hubby on the couch for starting an ON LINE petition or any petition for that matter. That doesn't help anything, jmho.

I think I would beat my husband over the head with a frying pan, for airing out our dirty laundry..loool...I like how they are quoted as saying "We have a very happy marriage but this is a problem"...loool

[hle_625]

This reminds me of a story, I never slept in bed with my mom but one night it was storming really bad and I was like 7 or 8 and I got scared. So I got up and went to crawl in bed with my mom, well when I woke her up she was having a bad dream and she raised straight up in bed and started growling at me like she was some kind of monster! I was so scared I started running around the house screaming! When she snapped out of it and realized what was going on she appoligized and then let me crawl in bed with her!

[Claire]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

Btw, I don't know of any 15 year olds still sleeping with their parents

I do, my nephew... he will be 15 in August and still sleeps with his mom on occasion...
I know, I'm getting the "Weird Lady" look from you guys but let me explain... this is my soon-to-be-ex-husband's sister who lets her soon-to-be 15 year old son sleep in bed with her.... they are ALL a bit weird on that side of the family.

[vainchick5]

Originally Posted by hle_625

This reminds me of a story, I never slept in bed with my mom but one night it was storming really bad and I was like 7 or 8 and I got scared. So I got up and went to crawl in bed with my mom, well when I woke her up she was having a bad dream and she raised straight up in bed and started growling at me like she was some kind of monster! I was so scared I started running around the house screaming! When she snapped out of it and realized what was going on she appoligized and then let me crawl in bed with her!

LMAO, sorry but I just started busting up. I can just imagine the whole thing. You poor thing...lol

[JeanieK]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

I think I would beat my husband over the head with a frying pan, for airing out our dirty laundry..loool...I like how they are quoted as saying "We have a very happy marriage but this is a problem"...loool

I believe it just shows how desparate he is. He is trying to get his wife back and she doesn't seem to care about him at all.

Personally I believe that the children in the bed is not the real problem. I believe the wife has other issues that are way deeper. Why else would she feel the need to have the children sleep with her. The baby is 2 months old. Not even old enough to know the difference.

[hle_625]

Originally Posted by vainchick5

LMAO, sorry but I just started busting up. I can just imagine the whole thing. You poor thing...lol

Its funny now and we laugh about it, but at the time it was in no way funny at all

[Claire]

Originally Posted by bchgirl

I love Mia's spunk

AAAWWWW THANKS, but I bet you would not feel the same way the first time you were woken up from a dead sleep by a flying pacifier... it hurts and sometimes leaves a mark and Mia thinks that a "screaming in pain mommy" is a funny mommy