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03-13-2006, 06:15 AM | #1 |
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| So frustrated Hello everyone. I just need someplace to vent. My best friend of 16 years from back home was scared last week that she might be pregnant, and I'm the only person she told. She's just 21 years old and she's supposed to graduate from university next year, so she was freaking out. She was so scared to tell her boyfriend, thinking he would leave her. They've been together for 2 years, but they've never discussed the possibility. He always told her if it happened they would deal with it then. So anyways I was urging her to take a test, and she said she would on the weekend. Well, Friday night she ended up telling her boyfriend about it, and he cried. So of course she felt even more horrible and she decided there that she's not pregnant. The next day she was all happy and told me she's not pregnant, because she has no other symptoms other than a missed period, which she said is just because she messed up her pills. This is after she told me she had headaches and nausea for a week. So I still told her to take a test to be sure but she told me not to make her worry again because it was the first time she was happy in a week. So I left it for the day and spent the whole night talking to my pregnant cousin, and getting information from women's health communities and websites which all indicated that she should DEFINITELY be taking a test. I was ready to show her all this information last night, but she called me almost in tears about fighting with her boyfriend. She thinks she should break up with him even though in my opinion, she just picks on him for every little thing he does that she doesn't agree with, like staying out an hour too late with his friends so he calls her later than she expects. Anyways, she was so upset last night I didn't have the heart to keep pushing her to get a pregnancy test. It's like it's totally out of her mind now. She lives 8 hours away from me, and if she was closer I would be at her door with a test. I'm so worried if she is pregnant, she's going to just continue taking her birth control pills and drinking alcohol and anything that's harmful because she's in total denial. I feel so helpless, I cried last night and didn't sleep at all. I don't know what to do and I can't tell anyone. I feel a little better just letting it out here.
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03-13-2006, 06:19 AM | #2 |
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| If she's doing all that it sounds like she doesn't care whether she's preganant or not. It seems to me that she would just "get rid of it." Am I wrong?
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03-13-2006, 06:34 AM | #3 |
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03-13-2006, 06:41 AM | #4 |
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| Please talk to her about a taking the test or see a doctor because my one sister's was in total denial about her pregnancy also. My sister did not say anything or see a doctor until she was 7 months, and the doctor said that she was very lucky that her baby and her were healthy. If you are that worried about it your friend, you can always go and tell her family. I know this is betraying your friendship with this person, but when it comes to her health and well being you can not just stand back and watch her hurt herself. She will be mad at you at first, but in the long run she will understand why. My sister had to tell her best friend's family that her husband was beating her, and her friend did not speak to her for a least a year. But after my sister's friend got the help she needed and left her husband, she forgave my sister and they are now closer than ever. |
03-13-2006, 09:33 AM | #5 | |
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03-13-2006, 09:38 AM | #6 | |
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My friend is one of the most loving people I know and she's great with children and she would make a great mom. I wish this time she wouldn't put her boyfriend first. He's a good guy and if she wants to go through with the pregnancy, he wouldn't stop her, but if their relationship is already on the rocks, which it seemed like from our conversation last night, I don't know if she could emotionally handle everything at once. I want to give her a hug and be there for her SO BAD but I can't, I have school and priorities here. Last night I prayed for the small chance that she isn't pregnant. We're so close it feels like I'm going through it too. I just seem way more worried than her!
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03-13-2006, 09:44 AM | #7 | |
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03-13-2006, 09:49 AM | #8 |
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| It sounds like she is more worried about him then herself and a possible baby. If her boyfriend is going to get mad at her because she might be pregnant, then she needs to drop him like bad habit and start taking care of herself. If they guy really cares about her he would not get mad her and he would help her thru this situation. |
03-13-2006, 11:54 AM | #9 |
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| I'd suggest giving her the information you found and strongly urge her as much as possible to take another test. If she does want to keep it, drinking and birth control pills can have a devastating effect on a baby as we all know, and if she is in perhaps not the right frame of mind, she may feel guilty about it later on if she is pregnant and she has the baby. |
03-13-2006, 01:21 PM | #10 |
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| She needs to take the test now. If she is, drinking & taking the pill can hurt the baby, I'd tell her to be 100% sure, she needs the test. Good luck to her!
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03-13-2006, 03:27 PM | #11 | |
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03-13-2006, 03:29 PM | #12 | |
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03-13-2006, 03:37 PM | #13 |
Banning Thread Dictator Donating Member | Sounds like she has all the information she needs but is not making the right decision to get tested. How about express mailing her an EPT? Maybe if you make it easy on her, she'll do the right thing. It'll cost you a few bucks, but if she's drinking, the kid at least will appreciate what you've done some day.
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03-13-2006, 04:25 PM | #14 |
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| Speaking from experience, sometimes denial is just an easy way to avoid the problem (not that being pregnant is always a problem). I do it often. I put off thinking about things until they absolutely need to be acted upon. Maybe she just needs a few days to come to her senses. Maybe she's afraid of knowing the truth.
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03-13-2006, 07:05 PM | #15 |
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| I think you should mention it again when the time is right. I"m 20 years old and this is my first pregnancy and it was VERY hard for me to tell my parents and my boyfriends parents because of a situation that i'd rather leave out. But after everything it's brought our families closer and it makes me appreciate life. i know some people frown upon young people have babies so soon, but i've been with my boyfriend for 6 years and he hasn't left me and he won't. I think she'll realize if she is pregnant, the baby will bring her a lot of joy, I know it has brought me a lot of joy (and stress as well) and it's all worth it |
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