[linz06]

Hello everyone. I just need someplace to vent. My best friend of 16 years from back home was scared last week that she might be pregnant, and I'm the only person she told. She's just 21 years old and she's supposed to graduate from university next year, so she was freaking out. She was so scared to tell her boyfriend, thinking he would leave her. They've been together for 2 years, but they've never discussed the possibility. He always told her if it happened they would deal with it then. So anyways I was urging her to take a test, and she said she would on the weekend. Well, Friday night she ended up telling her boyfriend about it, and he cried. So of course she felt even more horrible and she decided there that she's not pregnant. The next day she was all happy and told me she's not pregnant, because she has no other symptoms other than a missed period, which she said is just because she messed up her pills. This is after she told me she had headaches and nausea for a week. So I still told her to take a test to be sure but she told me not to make her worry again because it was the first time she was happy in a week. So I left it for the day and spent the whole night talking to my pregnant cousin, and getting information from women's health communities and websites which all indicated that she should DEFINITELY be taking a test. I was ready to show her all this information last night, but she called me almost in tears about fighting with her boyfriend. She thinks she should break up with him even though in my opinion, she just picks on him for every little thing he does that she doesn't agree with, like staying out an hour too late with his friends so he calls her later than she expects. Anyways, she was so upset last night I didn't have the heart to keep pushing her to get a pregnancy test. It's like it's totally out of her mind now. She lives 8 hours away from me, and if she was closer I would be at her door with a test. I'm so worried if she is pregnant, she's going to just continue taking her birth control pills and drinking alcohol and anything that's harmful because she's in total denial. I feel so helpless, I cried last night and didn't sleep at all. I don't know what to do and I can't tell anyone. I feel a little better just letting it out here.