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Lisa and Pic · 02-03-2015, 02:12 AM

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Originally Posted by yorkiemini

Bentleysmom,

This whole behavior is called "grooming" - sucking you in!
You witnessed/heard his behavior! Your gut feeling is important - don't ignore that! He know what he said and he felt free to say it.

He wants you to doubt yourself. Anyone who talks to you like that is NOT THE ONE!

I did not marry until I was in my my late thirties - was very career oriented and very picky about how I wanted to be treated - didn't ruin my life in the least! In fact I had many friends who married young tell me I was smart!

When I did marry my husband never talked to me like that even once! And we both had our good days and bad days.

I want you to think more of yourself!!! You are too important to Bentley and you two have a great thing going.

Listen to what other experienced folks on here are saying to you and don't be in a hurry!

I so agree and thank you Jay for your perspective!

yorkietalkjilly · 02-14-2015, 12:27 PM

Just wanted to check on you and be sure you are okay? Did you stick to your decision and move on with your life?

capt_noonie · 02-14-2015, 09:22 PM

Yes, I've also been thinking about you.

BorderKelpie · 02-15-2015, 04:30 AM

I would appreciate an update. Just a bit concerned for you.

capt_noonie · 02-15-2015, 07:07 PM

I hope she is ok. Looks like she was on last night.

Bentleysmom1985 · 02-16-2015, 09:57 PM

I told him I changed my mind about meeting him.

He keeps trying to convince me to meet, but he only texts me now and I have t talked to him in the past couple of days.

I'll update later with details since it's 1am now lol

Thanks for worrying !! I'm okay ... It gets lonely sometimes though ...

BorderKelpie · 02-16-2015, 10:04 PM

It's good to hear from you. Stay strong - you deserve so much better than that.

matese · 02-17-2015, 04:35 AM

My advise is change your phone #. He cannot make contact with you, thus making you weak, and regretful. No meetings, no talking, no texting, no contact in any shape or form. You are doing this for YOU, not for him. Stay busy, see friends, focus on lil Bentley, keep you mind occupied, you will not be lonely. Lonely is better then being with a verbally abusive man. As hard as it will be, PLEASE stay STRONG. There is a saying,
"always move forward, never backwards". Many of us have been in your shoes, we know how hard this is for you. (((HUGS)))

matese · 02-17-2015, 04:38 AM

Forgot to add, when you are feeling lonely, call a friend or family, call anyone just to chat, this will take your mind off the loneliness.

capt_noonie · 02-17-2015, 08:30 AM

Or come on YT! We are always here!

sandy simpson · 02-17-2015, 01:56 PM

You are a very precious person. Realize how wonderful you are and do not lower yourself to this person's abuse. Sounds like he has low self esteem and needs you to make him happy. He is bringing you down and it will only get worse. See the signs in front of you. Get away from him now or you will only get hurt. Love never hurts the one they love. I will pray for you to have the strength to end this. Do not look back once you do. Go forward and with the Lord's guidance, you will see beautiful things happen to you. Not this awful abuse. May real love surround you, the kind Jesus gives us. You will have peace in your heart. No fear or turmoil.

02-14-2015, 12:27 PM	#62
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Just wanted to check on you and be sure you are okay? Did you stick to your decision and move on with your life? __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

02-14-2015, 09:22 PM	#63
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	Yes, I've also been thinking about you. __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

02-15-2015, 07:07 PM	#65
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	I hope she is ok. Looks like she was on last night. __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

02-16-2015, 09:57 PM	#66
Bentleysmom1985 YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: With Bentley Posts: 420	I told him I changed my mind about meeting him. He keeps trying to convince me to meet, but he only texts me now and I have t talked to him in the past couple of days. I'll update later with details since it's 1am now lol Thanks for worrying !! I'm okay ... It gets lonely sometimes though ... __________________ I Bentley

02-17-2015, 04:35 AM	#68
matese Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa. Posts: 69,269	My advise is change your phone #. He cannot make contact with you, thus making you weak, and regretful. No meetings, no talking, no texting, no contact in any shape or form. You are doing this for YOU, not for him. Stay busy, see friends, focus on lil Bentley, keep you mind occupied, you will not be lonely. Lonely is better then being with a verbally abusive man. As hard as it will be, PLEASE stay STRONG. There is a saying, "always move forward, never backwards". Many of us have been in your shoes, we know how hard this is for you. (((HUGS))) __________________ Joan, mom to Cody RIP Matese Schnae Kajon Kia forever in my A House Is Not A Home Without A Dog

02-15-2015, 04:30 AM	#64
BorderKelpie Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: TX USA Posts: 234	I would appreciate an update. Just a bit concerned for you.

02-16-2015, 10:04 PM	#67
BorderKelpie Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Sep 2014 Location: TX USA Posts: 234	It's good to hear from you. Stay strong - you deserve so much better than that.

02-17-2015, 04:38 AM	#69
matese Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: E.Stroudsburg, Pa. Posts: 69,269	Forgot to add, when you are feeling lonely, call a friend or family, call anyone just to chat, this will take your mind off the loneliness. __________________ Joan, mom to Cody RIP Matese Schnae Kajon Kia forever in my A House Is Not A Home Without A Dog

02-17-2015, 08:30 AM	#70
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	Or come on YT! We are always here! __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

02-17-2015, 01:56 PM	#71
sandy simpson YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: santee, california Posts: 2,123 Blog Entries: 1	dog You are a very precious person. Realize how wonderful you are and do not lower yourself to this person's abuse. Sounds like he has low self esteem and needs you to make him happy. He is bringing you down and it will only get worse. See the signs in front of you. Get away from him now or you will only get hurt. Love never hurts the one they love. I will pray for you to have the strength to end this. Do not look back once you do. Go forward and with the Lord's guidance, you will see beautiful things happen to you. Not this awful abuse. May real love surround you, the kind Jesus gives us. You will have peace in your heart. No fear or turmoil.