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Lexi Rae · 01-05-2006, 07:50 AM

i met this really nice guy around a month ago. i already had 1 date and
already made him dinner last week, why, dont know, im a jerk, anyway i think im really starting to like him.. at first i really didnt, and then just went with the flow... he is so kind and generous and cares for me and im scared to death..im so afraid when the time comes when (you know ) that i will be an emotional crazy person....to me , when that day comes, im hooked. please just give me some advise. i need to be calmed down,im a bunch of nerves.
he keeps text msging me as im typing this how much he missed me already.
help!

simonandhallie · 01-05-2006, 08:12 AM

awww what's wrong with liking him? He seems nice and he seems to really like you! Take a deep breath and see what happens. Good luck you lucky girl!

Lexi Rae · 01-05-2006, 08:19 AM

thanks, its been rough on me, i was married for 10 years, got divorced and i was so depressed, went down to 94 lbs....from 115 lbs.. then met someone else and he moved in for 4 years and didnt do the right thing by me and he was gone. that devestated me... and now after 1year and a half im finally ready and im scared of falling for someone...im not used to being treated like a lady...

Patti · 01-05-2006, 08:21 AM

Just be yourself and you will be fine. If it's meant to be it will. Just enjoy his company!

cchu · 01-05-2006, 08:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

thanks, its been rough on me, i was married for 10 years, got divorced and i was so depressed, went down to 94 lbs....from 115 lbs.. then met someone else and he moved in for 4 years and didnt do the right thing by me and he was gone. that devestated me... and now after 1year and a half im finally ready and im scared of falling for someone...im not used to being treated like a lady...

Hunnie, YOU DESERVE THE BEST!! If he treats you the way you are supposed to be treated, girl...he's a keeper. I've been going out with my guy for 5 years and we lost that "passion" you know. But I love him.

Its time that you started looking out for yourself. Embrace the attention and take this one day at a time. let me know how this goes.

minniemn · 01-05-2006, 08:25 AM

Just take things a day at a time, don't worry about the future, and "that day, that may come" enjoy his friendship and company... if you feel he is going to fast, ask him to slow down.

Don't go to the next level until you are ready, things don't have to go from 1st base to a home run within a week or month.... take your time and enjoy eachothers companionship.

most of all HAVE FUN...

simonandhallie · 01-05-2006, 08:25 AM

I agree! All relationships are scary especially if you have experienced bad ones in the past (and we all have). You are the only who can decide if the time is right but don't pass it up out of fear. If he makes you happy and treats you well, it sounds like a nice thing. Does he make you smile? I think the older I get the smaller things are so much more important

Lexi Rae · 01-05-2006, 08:33 AM

yes ,he does make me smile and i havent for a long time...he would just do anything for me and i dont even really know him that well..i was raised very old fashioned and was wondering how long should i wait for( it).....
i personally would say, if i go out with him about 2 or 3 more times i should be comfortable..i just have to get wasted to do so... i know myself, im so shy...
at 43 im acting like a child.. sorry

rrosenberry · 01-05-2006, 08:37 AM

I agree with Minniemn.. Take it slow, be friends for awhile, then be best friends.. dont worry about tomorrow,, just live in the day,, and if it happens.. it happens,, Dont worry,, and Yes you deserve the best,,and don't settle for the rest. The worst that could happen,,, maybe ya end up with a great friend.. or maybe you end up with your BEST friend.

simonandhallie · 01-05-2006, 08:38 AM

I don't know why I'm giving you advice (I've been single for 3 years) but I would say when the time is right and you feel comfortable you will know. I don't think you can plan it or put a timeline on it.

P.S. I'm jealous! hehe

rrosenberry · 01-05-2006, 08:42 AM

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Originally Posted by simonandhallie

I don't know why I'm giving you advice (I've been single for 3 years) but I would say when the time is right and you feel comfortable you will know. I don't think you can plan it or put a timeline on it.

P.S. I'm jealous! hehe

Also agree, not with that you shouldn't give advise! ha
But, with the when its time you 'll know and be comfortable with it. but, I'm still cracking up at the Have to be wasted statement,, ( wont elaborate on it though! ha)

minniemn · 01-05-2006, 09:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Lexi Rae

yes ,he does make me smile and i havent for a long time...he would just do anything for me and i dont even really know him that well..i was raised very old fashioned and was wondering how long should i wait for( it).....
i personally would say, if i go out with him about 2 or 3 more times i should be comfortable..i just have to get wasted to do so... i know myself, im so shy...
at 43 im acting like a child.. sorry

This is my opinion only, but if you have to be wasted to do it- then don't... wait until you can be sober to do it.

The time is right when it feels right sober... all your inhabitions go out the window when you are drinking, and you don't want to have any regrets about it.

For me when I drink, I do things I wouldn't do sober, and I would wake up with regret... this just could be me though.

If you worry about doing it, you won't be able to enjoy the present time together... let that worry go, when it happens it happens.

vainchick5 · 01-05-2006, 09:55 AM

I would say to not think about (it) just yet, because it's just adding to the stress. That will happen naturally when the time is right. Now you don't want to rush that sort of thing, because it should be something special shared between two people who LOVE each other. That is why I don't look at it like, it's ok after the 3 or 4th date,ect, ect. I can't be with someone that I don't love and if I'm not sure whether there's a future. Something to think about. Also, just have fun with the good feelings. You deserve to be treated like a queen, so don't be afraid of it, welcome it. CONGRATS by the way.

sylvan · 01-05-2006, 10:01 AM

I'm of the 'ride it 'til it bucks you off ' philosophy....life is short, enjoy each moment.
It's nice getting the romance treatment, isn't it?

Lexi Rae · 01-05-2006, 10:11 AM

i was kidding when i said wasted, i meant feel nice, relaxed... i had to do that
with my former boyfriend too..it just calms me down....1 glass of wine and i feel at ease... nobella, your are right, i will do that.. i know you have a new bo.... tooo...

01-05-2006, 07:50 AM	#1
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	i think i like him i met this really nice guy around a month ago. i already had 1 date and already made him dinner last week, why, dont know, im a jerk, anyway i think im really starting to like him.. at first i really didnt, and then just went with the flow... he is so kind and generous and cares for me and im scared to death..im so afraid when the time comes when (you know ) that i will be an emotional crazy person....to me , when that day comes, im hooked. please just give me some advise. i need to be calmed down,im a bunch of nerves. he keeps text msging me as im typing this how much he missed me already. help! __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

01-05-2006, 08:19 AM	#3
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	thanks, its been rough on me, i was married for 10 years, got divorced and i was so depressed, went down to 94 lbs....from 115 lbs.. then met someone else and he moved in for 4 years and didnt do the right thing by me and he was gone. that devestated me... and now after 1year and a half im finally ready and im scared of falling for someone...im not used to being treated like a lady... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

01-05-2006, 08:21 AM	#4
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	Just be yourself and you will be fine. If it's meant to be it will. Just enjoy his company! __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

01-05-2006, 08:33 AM	#8
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	yes ,he does make me smile and i havent for a long time...he would just do anything for me and i dont even really know him that well..i was raised very old fashioned and was wondering how long should i wait for( it)..... i personally would say, if i go out with him about 2 or 3 more times i should be comfortable..i just have to get wasted to do so... i know myself, im so shy... at 43 im acting like a child.. sorry __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...

01-05-2006, 08:37 AM	#9
rrosenberry & Bailey & Bella Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Ohio Posts: 8,164	I agree with Minniemn.. Take it slow, be friends for awhile, then be best friends.. dont worry about tomorrow,, just live in the day,, and if it happens.. it happens,, Dont worry,, and Yes you deserve the best,,and don't settle for the rest. The worst that could happen,,, maybe ya end up with a great friend.. or maybe you end up with your BEST friend. __________________ Rhonda, Bailey, Josie and my angel Bella Rue' "Until one has loved an animal, a part of one's soul remains unawakened." ~Anatole France~

01-05-2006, 08:12 AM	#2
simonandhallie *I Love My Monkeys!* Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Falling Waters, WV Posts: 11,166	awww what's wrong with liking him? He seems nice and he seems to really like you! Take a deep breath and see what happens. Good luck you lucky girl!

01-05-2006, 08:25 AM	#6
minniemn YT Addict Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 364	Just take things a day at a time, don't worry about the future, and "that day, that may come" enjoy his friendship and company... if you feel he is going to fast, ask him to slow down. Don't go to the next level until you are ready, things don't have to go from 1st base to a home run within a week or month.... take your time and enjoy eachothers companionship. most of all HAVE FUN...

01-05-2006, 08:38 AM	#10
simonandhallie *I Love My Monkeys!* Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Falling Waters, WV Posts: 11,166	I don't know why I'm giving you advice (I've been single for 3 years) but I would say when the time is right and you feel comfortable you will know. I don't think you can plan it or put a timeline on it. P.S. I'm jealous! hehe

01-05-2006, 09:55 AM	#13
vainchick5 YT 6000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: CA Posts: 6,588	I would say to not think about (it) just yet, because it's just adding to the stress. That will happen naturally when the time is right. Now you don't want to rush that sort of thing, because it should be something special shared between two people who LOVE each other. That is why I don't look at it like, it's ok after the 3 or 4th date,ect, ect. I can't be with someone that I don't love and if I'm not sure whether there's a future. Something to think about. Also, just have fun with the good feelings. You deserve to be treated like a queen, so don't be afraid of it, welcome it. CONGRATS by the way. __________________ Mommy to Coco and Rocco

01-05-2006, 10:01 AM	#14
sylvan YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Eastern PA Posts: 2,484	I'm of the 'ride it 'til it bucks you off ' philosophy....life is short, enjoy each moment. It's nice getting the romance treatment, isn't it?

01-05-2006, 10:11 AM	#15
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	i was kidding when i said wasted, i meant feel nice, relaxed... i had to do that with my former boyfriend too..it just calms me down....1 glass of wine and i feel at ease... nobella, your are right, i will do that.. i know you have a new bo.... tooo... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...