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BrendaS54 · 11-28-2013, 06:25 PM

I don't know what to do, any suggestions is appreciated.
When my Step-granddaughter comes over with her two boys to visit I dread it.. I am sorry to say but, My furbabies are stressed an get dirrahea an shake after she leaves.. She does not control her boys at all.. She does not reprimand them at all.. These boys are ALL Boys! They throw anything they can get their hands on.. scream.. they grab the dogs and drag them.. hits them.. smacks them.. kicks them.. you name it.. I have gently take their hands an get in front of them and get down to their size and explain to them that they are hurting them and not to do this. They are bigger an they are little an they don't know how to play like they want to play. These boys are 6 years old an 4 years old. My husband has even tried to talk to them without being a grouch old man, as his granddaughter calls him.. lol... I love her dearly.. I mean it.. she loves me too.. says I am more a grandma than any other grandma.. lol.. I love to see the grandkids but I don't want my furbabies sick after they leave.. She finally today screamed at me and said "Brenda (which she usually calls me Grandma) that hurt my feelings already, well she said.. If you want us to come and see you then you put the dogs up in the other room or we just won't come here anymore.. Well big mouth me.. said I shouldn't have to put them somewhere else.. This is Bobo, Libby, & Pearls' home and they shouldn't have to leave it.. My husband backed me up and this made her madder! she left before we even ate Thanksgiving dinner.. she just got their coats on and left.. without saying goodbye or anything.. I feel so bad now.. I trully do.. She still hasn't called or anything. Her mother said don't worry about it cause she does the same to her when she comes over.. but she has cats.. 4 of them. But I do worry about it. We but the dogs in our bedroom one time when she came over but the boys still went up and let them out.. she wouldn't even tell the boys not to go up to the bedroom. She just lets them run all over and destroy everything. Her house is always a mess. I just am torn now what to do.. am I a mean Grandma now? I love my Furbabies too much to let them go thru this again.

Sorry this is so long..

I forgot to add.. YEs Bobo and Libby both has Snapped at The 4 year old.. They had never done t his before.. she was livid.. That was the time I put them up in the bedroom.. but the boys still would let them out.. the furbabies cried when they were up there alone.. they are used to sleeping with us .. the didnt understand..

sandy simpson · 11-28-2013, 06:34 PM

These boys have no discipline and that is not right to come over to your home and not follow your rules. No, your Yorkies should not have to be taken out, these boys need to learn to leave them alone. If they cannot follow rules, I would politely say I am sorry but I cannot have you over until your boys are settled down and not bothering my dogs. I feel sorry for her later on, these boys will be totally out of control and she will not be able to do anything about it. Kids with no guidelines eventually become unruly and disrespectful. Do not feel bad about protecting your family dogs. Bless you for doing that. They need a loving environment.

yorkiemini · 11-28-2013, 06:38 PM

Tough situation, for sure.
Since, as you said, it is the furbabies home and the children cannot follow the house rules regarding the pups, maybe you need to meet her somewhere else with the children, or you go to her house.

Clearly, she has no control over the kids and that could be very dangerous for your dogs. Until the children can mind then maybe you need to tKe the visits elsewhere so it is not a problem for your pups or house.

Of course, I admit to taking a hard line where my dog is concerned and my granddaughter was very good with my pup so the situation has to be what you can live with. Sounds to me like you granddaughter is taking the my way if the highway stance at your house and with your dogs.

kjc · 11-28-2013, 06:54 PM

Same situation here. I had to stop inviting them over. Just can't afford to keep repairing the house. Ex: dad carries the middle child through a room, he grabs the ceiling fan blades and breaks them off. I've been repairing the gates outside all summer long. No respect for boundaries at all. So, no, not welcome in my house. Sorry. If I say, 'Oh don't touch that', you'd have thought I told the kid to go play in the traffic! (the mom's reaction) And the one parent was raised to respect rules, but out the window for her kids. So don't come over. End of story. I'm too old for this kind of nonsense.

BrendaS54 · 11-28-2013, 06:59 PM

Thank you so much for the post.. I am so scared to hurt her cause she is my Step granddaughter.. I have been in this family for almost 20 years now.. Between my husband and I we have 21 grandchildren... 3 great.. The other grandchildren do fine with the furbabies. The parents make them mind.. its just her. She says they are all boy and they should act like boys. Really we have tried to go to her house an there isn't no place to sit because of toys an "stuff" all over the house.. I mean it.. its bad.. Her 42 inch tv got broke because the 6 year old threw a big Tonka truck at it.. pretending it was four wheeling he said.. well they have no Tv now.. We were there last week and I got hit in the head with a foot ball.. IN THE HOUSE. It broke my glasses an they cut my nose and my eye.. the boys thought it was funny.. well The Mother said they were just playing.. Sheeesh she said.. they were just playing.. why was I all upset.. so I just sat there .. My husband finally said .. the football should be thrown out side.. not inside.. of course this made her mad again. I don't want to make her mad and cause trouble in the family even though we have been married almost 20 years. My husbands kids are close to His xwife and I see her at family gathering sometimes.. the kids ignore me and all over her.. I let it be..there is jealousy among the kids ..I thank God for my husband every day.. he has been so good to me and my son..I just dont want to cause trouble among the STEP Kids and such.So far its been a great family. But Like I said.. My Furkids are like my kids to me..I want them to be happy and love them with what time they have here on earth.. I have had all of them since they were 12 weeks old.. Libby is 10, Bobo is almost 9, Pearl is 4. So I want them to have a good life while they live on this early.. do you blame me?

jp4m2 · 11-28-2013, 07:02 PM

I have to say after reading your post my concern wasn't about the GD it was with your pups. My word, it sounds like when they visit those poor pups are abused and are deathly afraid of those kids.

If she got mad and left, so be it. She is so far out of line in allowing the kids to behave like that in someone's home. You have every right to expect people coming into your home to show some common decency and respect for your home, for your rules and to your pets. If I had someone behaving like that in my home I would not be upset seeing them leave.

I hope you can stand firm but polite in relaying to her that this cannot happen anymore. Good luck to you.

sandy simpson · 11-28-2013, 07:04 PM

I agree. You must draw the line and if those kids cross it, they are not invited over. I am a retired school teacher and I have seen kids raised to rule the roost at home. They are king of their castle. They expect to come to school and do what they please but there are definite rules and I made sure they did not cross them. Consequences were clearly defined. kids need to have boundaries and if they do not have them-trouble! Raise your children with love and respect and responsibility and manners and discipline and when they get older they will thank you for that!

yorkiemini · 11-28-2013, 07:08 PM

Don't blame you at all!
However, you are not responsible for someone else's poor behavior. And....certainly not at the expense of your pups or your glasses!

Sounds like this person is always angry, and again, you are not responsible for her anger either.

You can always attend family gag atheling sand such, but consider what you want to do that may be at your expense. Sounds like your wonderful DH is supportive of you and your pups. And, hahaha, he might like his TV also

BrendaS54 · 11-28-2013, 07:22 PM

[QUOTE=yorkiemini;4354594]Don't blame you at all!
However, you are not responsible for someone else's poor behavior. And....certainly not at the expense of your pups or your glasses!

Sounds like this person is always angry, and again, you are not responsible for her anger either.

You can always attend family gag atheling sand such, but consider what you want to do that may be at your expense. Sounds like your wonderful DH is supportive of you and your pups.
YOU GOT THAT RIGHT! The oldest Grandson had the fireplace poker one day and was swinging it like a baseball bat and my husband just happen to walk into the room and seen it.. (right before he almost hit the 60in $ 3500. TV an that is when sh*t hit the fan.. He grabbed the poker and yelled at the grandson and told him to go sit on the couch and stay there till he said to get up..Grandson of couse said No.. then Granddaughter walked in an asked what was going on.. And DH told her and she just shrugged her shoulders and said for him to go back to the family room and play..( which he shouldn't have been in the living room anyway) My DH told her she was going to have to discpline him more for talking back to her an plus they way he was .. she said well Papa he has a doctors appt next week to get checked for ADHD, we think he might be that. Well found out he had trouble at school too. Pretty bad when he gets thrown out of 1st grade for hitting a child and not minding , restlessness, etc.. He was taken to a doctor and tested.. he does Have ADHD.. they said.. but I still think The parents have some of the control of it.. They never tried any disipline with these boys. NONE.. Both of these boys go to therapy now and the oldest is on Ritalin now.. I feel so bad for them also.. I sit in the back and can't say anything because I am the Step grandma.. Thank God My husband Agrees with me with everything and he does says things to the granddaughter, but she doesn't listen..This girl is very educated lady.. she is going to college to be a lawyer.. she is top on the deans list.. I don't get it.. I think she doesnt spend enough time with them.. or the father doesn't .. They both work .. so I don't know.. its a sad case indeed

Maximo · 11-28-2013, 07:28 PM

I am sorry you are in this situation. Having been there myself, I know it is difficult. I had only 1 pup at the time when my 4 little nephews came to visit.

The situation is dangerous for your dogs and the children. Your dogs could be injured, or they could end up harming the children in self defense.

I use an xpen to keep the dogs safe and still let them be with everyone. This still requires supervision. I also have a key lock on my bedroom door for occasions when I put the dogs in my bedroom and I don't want to risk anyone opening the door.

Talk to your step granddaughter and tell her how important it is that children learn how to behave properly around animals. It is an essential life lesson for many reasons, including their own safety. I hope she will be open to this and maybe together you can work with the kids individually with one pup at time. Teach them how to sit on the floor, tell them that dogs like Yorkies are more fragile. Show them that they should always let the dog approach them first and sniff their hand, and so on.

Best wishes for a peaceful resolution so that you can enjoy visits together.

McheleM · 11-28-2013, 07:49 PM

My House, MY RULES.

My rules are: you make your kids behave, or you and your children are not welcome here. If your children do not behave and you won't/don't discipline them, I will.

Sorry- I don't care if she's family or not. Kids learn their behavior from their parents, and she needs to be a parent. You shouldn't have to adjust your home (and your dogs home) to have her visit.

capt_noonie · 11-28-2013, 08:50 PM

I agree w everyone, and if this isn't taken care of now, the boys will get worse once they get older. They will be bigger and hurt the dogs more. Maybe even give them something they aren't supposed to eat.

CouversMom · 11-28-2013, 09:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by McheleM

My House, MY RULES.

My rules are: you make your kids behave, or you and your children are not welcome here. If your children do not behave and you won't/don't discipline them, I will.

Sorry- I don't care if she's family or not. Kids learn their behavior from their parents, and she needs to be a parent. You shouldn't have to adjust your home (and your dogs home) to have her visit.

Exactly

It's your home, if she can't discipline them... then they don't visit.

My lil friend · 11-28-2013, 09:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by McheleM

My House, MY RULES.

My rules are: you make your kids behave, or you and your children are not welcome here. If your children do not behave and you won't/don't discipline them, I will.

Sorry- I don't care if she's family or not. Kids learn their behavior from their parents, and she needs to be a parent. You shouldn't have to adjust your home (and your dogs home) to have her visit.

What MicheleM said,My house my rule and if you hurt my pups it can get REAL ugly. I had to tell my brother to get a grip on his son or they would not be coming back.

Sammy Mommy · 11-29-2013, 05:13 AM

I feel so bad that you are in this situation. Your first priority is your and your furbabies safety! That is #1. Anyone at all who comes to your home should obey your rules!! Period. No exceptions. If your granddaughter is mad, that is too bad. She will stay mad or get over it. Her children have to learn to respect other people's homes and the family members (skin or fur) in it. Otherwise they will have a hard time in the future. There are rules in the world for good reason and we have to obey them. It's easy for me to say because I am not there, but don't beat yourself up over this. Give your sweet pups extra hugs!! Be well.

11-28-2013, 06:34 PM	#2
sandy simpson YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: santee, california Posts: 2,123 Blog Entries: 1	dog These boys have no discipline and that is not right to come over to your home and not follow your rules. No, your Yorkies should not have to be taken out, these boys need to learn to leave them alone. If they cannot follow rules, I would politely say I am sorry but I cannot have you over until your boys are settled down and not bothering my dogs. I feel sorry for her later on, these boys will be totally out of control and she will not be able to do anything about it. Kids with no guidelines eventually become unruly and disrespectful. Do not feel bad about protecting your family dogs. Bless you for doing that. They need a loving environment.

11-28-2013, 06:38 PM	#3
yorkiemini Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: USA Posts: 4,285	Tough situation, for sure. Since, as you said, it is the furbabies home and the children cannot follow the house rules regarding the pups, maybe you need to meet her somewhere else with the children, or you go to her house. Clearly, she has no control over the kids and that could be very dangerous for your dogs. Until the children can mind then maybe you need to tKe the visits elsewhere so it is not a problem for your pups or house. Of course, I admit to taking a hard line where my dog is concerned and my granddaughter was very good with my pup so the situation has to be what you can live with. Sounds to me like you granddaughter is taking the my way if the highway stance at your house and with your dogs. __________________ . Cali , and Cali's keeper and staff, Jay No, not a "mini" Yorkie - She loves to motor in her Mini Cooper car

11-28-2013, 06:54 PM	#4
kjc I♥PeekTinkySaph&Finny Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Baltimore, Maryland Posts: 18,866	Same situation here. I had to stop inviting them over. Just can't afford to keep repairing the house. Ex: dad carries the middle child through a room, he grabs the ceiling fan blades and breaks them off. I've been repairing the gates outside all summer long. No respect for boundaries at all. So, no, not welcome in my house. Sorry. If I say, 'Oh don't touch that', you'd have thought I told the kid to go play in the traffic! (the mom's reaction) And the one parent was raised to respect rules, but out the window for her kids. So don't come over. End of story. I'm too old for this kind of nonsense. __________________ Kat Chloe Lizzy PeekABooTinkerbell SapphireInfinity

11-28-2013, 06:59 PM	#5
BrendaS54 Brenda's Brat Bunch Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 3,244	Thank you so much for the post.. I am so scared to hurt her cause she is my Step granddaughter.. I have been in this family for almost 20 years now.. Between my husband and I we have 21 grandchildren... 3 great.. The other grandchildren do fine with the furbabies. The parents make them mind.. its just her. She says they are all boy and they should act like boys. Really we have tried to go to her house an there isn't no place to sit because of toys an "stuff" all over the house.. I mean it.. its bad.. Her 42 inch tv got broke because the 6 year old threw a big Tonka truck at it.. pretending it was four wheeling he said.. well they have no Tv now.. We were there last week and I got hit in the head with a foot ball.. IN THE HOUSE. It broke my glasses an they cut my nose and my eye.. the boys thought it was funny.. well The Mother said they were just playing.. Sheeesh she said.. they were just playing.. why was I all upset.. so I just sat there .. My husband finally said .. the football should be thrown out side.. not inside.. of course this made her mad again. I don't want to make her mad and cause trouble in the family even though we have been married almost 20 years. My husbands kids are close to His xwife and I see her at family gathering sometimes.. the kids ignore me and all over her.. I let it be..there is jealousy among the kids ..I thank God for my husband every day.. he has been so good to me and my son..I just dont want to cause trouble among the STEP Kids and such.So far its been a great family. But Like I said.. My Furkids are like my kids to me..I want them to be happy and love them with what time they have here on earth.. I have had all of them since they were 12 weeks old.. Libby is 10, Bobo is almost 9, Pearl is 4. So I want them to have a good life while they live on this early.. do you blame me? __________________ " IF you tell the truth,you don't have to remember anything."

11-28-2013, 07:02 PM	#6
jp4m2 Love my Boys Donating Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: w/ my boys Posts: 5,056	I have to say after reading your post my concern wasn't about the GD it was with your pups. My word, it sounds like when they visit those poor pups are abused and are deathly afraid of those kids. If she got mad and left, so be it. She is so far out of line in allowing the kids to behave like that in someone's home. You have every right to expect people coming into your home to show some common decency and respect for your home, for your rules and to your pets. If I had someone behaving like that in my home I would not be upset seeing them leave. I hope you can stand firm but polite in relaying to her that this cannot happen anymore. Good luck to you. __________________ B.J.mom to : Jake J.J. Jack & Joey, momma misses you..... The joy found in the companionship of a pet is a blessing not given to everyone. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too..

11-28-2013, 06:25 PM	#1
BrendaS54 Brenda's Brat Bunch Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 3,244	I have my granddaughter mad at me *I don't know what to do, any suggestions is appreciated.* When my Step-granddaughter comes over with her two boys to visit I dread it.. I am sorry to say but, My furbabies are stressed an get dirrahea an shake after she leaves.. She does not control her boys at all.. She does not reprimand them at all.. These boys are ALL Boys! They throw anything they can get their hands on.. scream.. they grab the dogs and drag them.. hits them.. smacks them.. kicks them.. you name it.. I have gently take their hands an get in front of them and get down to their size and explain to them that they are hurting them and not to do this. They are bigger an they are little an they don't know how to play like they want to play. These boys are 6 years old an 4 years old. My husband has even tried to talk to them without being a grouch old man, as his granddaughter calls him.. lol... I love her dearly.. I mean it.. she loves me too.. says I am more a grandma than any other grandma.. lol.. I love to see the grandkids but I don't want my furbabies sick after they leave.. She finally today screamed at me and said "Brenda (which she usually calls me Grandma) that hurt my feelings already, well she said.. If you want us to come and see you then you put the dogs up in the other room or we just won't come here anymore.. Well big mouth me.. said I shouldn't have to put them somewhere else.. This is Bobo, Libby, & Pearls' home and they shouldn't have to leave it.. My husband backed me up and this made her madder! she left before we even ate Thanksgiving dinner.. she just got their coats on and left.. without saying goodbye or anything.. I feel so bad now.. I trully do.. She still hasn't called or anything. Her mother said don't worry about it cause she does the same to her when she comes over.. but she has cats.. 4 of them. But I do worry about it. We but the dogs in our bedroom one time when she came over but the boys still went up and let them out.. she wouldn't even tell the boys not to go up to the bedroom. She just lets them run all over and destroy everything. Her house is always a mess. I just am torn now what to do.. am I a mean Grandma now? I love my Furbabies too much to let them go thru this again. *Sorry this is so long..* I forgot to add.. YEs Bobo and Libby both has Snapped at The 4 year old.. They had never done t his before.. she was livid.. That was the time I put them up in the bedroom.. but the boys still would let them out.. the furbabies cried when they were up there alone.. they are used to sleeping with us .. the didnt understand.. __________________ " IF you tell the truth,you don't have to remember anything." Last edited by BrendaS54; 11-28-2013 at 06:29 PM. Reason: forgot something

11-28-2013, 07:04 PM	#7
sandy simpson YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: santee, california Posts: 2,123 Blog Entries: 1	dog I agree. You must draw the line and if those kids cross it, they are not invited over. I am a retired school teacher and I have seen kids raised to rule the roost at home. They are king of their castle. They expect to come to school and do what they please but there are definite rules and I made sure they did not cross them. Consequences were clearly defined. kids need to have boundaries and if they do not have them-trouble! Raise your children with love and respect and responsibility and manners and discipline and when they get older they will thank you for that!

11-28-2013, 07:08 PM	#8
yorkiemini Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: USA Posts: 4,285	Don't blame you at all! However, you are not responsible for someone else's poor behavior. And....certainly not at the expense of your pups or your glasses! Sounds like this person is always angry, and again, you are not responsible for her anger either. You can always attend family gag atheling sand such, but consider what you want to do that may be at your expense. Sounds like your wonderful DH is supportive of you and your pups. And, hahaha, he might like his TV also __________________ . Cali , and Cali's keeper and staff, Jay No, not a "mini" Yorkie - She loves to motor in her Mini Cooper car

11-28-2013, 07:22 PM	#9
BrendaS54 Brenda's Brat Bunch Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Michigan Posts: 3,244	[QUOTE=yorkiemini;4354594]Don't blame you at all! However, you are not responsible for someone else's poor behavior. And....certainly not at the expense of your pups or your glasses! Sounds like this person is always angry, and again, you are not responsible for her anger either. You can always attend family gag atheling sand such, but consider what you want to do that may be at your expense. Sounds like your wonderful DH is supportive of you and your pups. YOU GOT THAT RIGHT! The oldest Grandson had the fireplace poker one day and was swinging it like a baseball bat and my husband just happen to walk into the room and seen it.. (right before he almost hit the 60in $ 3500. TV an that is when sht hit the fan.. He grabbed the poker and yelled at the grandson and told him to go sit on the couch and stay there till he said to get up..Grandson of couse said No.. then Granddaughter walked in an asked what was going on.. And DH told her and she just shrugged her shoulders and said for him to go back to the family room and play..( which he shouldn't have been in the living room anyway) My DH told her she was going to have to discpline him more for talking back to her an plus they way he was .. she said well Papa he has a doctors appt next week to get checked for ADHD, we think he might be that. Well found out he had trouble at school too. Pretty bad when he gets thrown out of 1st grade for hitting a child and not minding , restlessness, etc.. He was taken to a doctor and tested.. he does Have ADHD.. they said.. but I still think The parents have some of the control of it.. They never tried any disipline with these boys. NONE.. Both of these boys go to therapy now and the oldest is on Ritalin now.. I feel so bad for them also.. I sit in the back and can't say anything because I am the Step grandma.. Thank God My husband Agrees with me with everything and he does says things to the granddaughter, but she doesn't listen..This girl is very educated lady.. she is going to college to be a lawyer.. she is top on the deans list.. I don't get it.. I think she doesnt spend enough time with them.. or the father doesn't .. They both work .. so I don't know.. its a sad case indeed __________________ " IF you tell the truth,you don't have to remember anything." Last edited by BrendaS54; 11-28-2013 at 07:23 PM.*

11-28-2013, 07:28 PM	#10
Maximo ♥ Maximo and Teddy Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Northern Virginia Posts: 25,041	I am sorry you are in this situation. Having been there myself, I know it is difficult. I had only 1 pup at the time when my 4 little nephews came to visit. The situation is dangerous for your dogs and the children. Your dogs could be injured, or they could end up harming the children in self defense. I use an xpen to keep the dogs safe and still let them be with everyone. This still requires supervision. I also have a key lock on my bedroom door for occasions when I put the dogs in my bedroom and I don't want to risk anyone opening the door. Talk to your step granddaughter and tell her how important it is that children learn how to behave properly around animals. It is an essential life lesson for many reasons, including their own safety. I hope she will be open to this and maybe together you can work with the kids individually with one pup at time. Teach them how to sit on the floor, tell them that dogs like Yorkies are more fragile. Show them that they should always let the dog approach them first and sniff their hand, and so on. Best wishes for a peaceful resolution so that you can enjoy visits together. __________________ Kristin, Max and Teddy

11-28-2013, 07:49 PM	#11
McheleM Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Mesquite, TX Posts: 2,659	My House, MY RULES. My rules are: you make your kids behave, or you and your children are not welcome here. If your children do not behave and you won't/don't discipline them, I will. Sorry- I don't care if she's family or not. Kids learn their behavior from their parents, and she needs to be a parent. You shouldn't have to adjust your home (and your dogs home) to have her visit. __________________ "You've never learned to live until you've done something for someone for which they can never repay you."~Ralph Hall.

11-28-2013, 08:50 PM	#12
capt_noonie www.yorkierescue.com Donating Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: Las Vegas & Orange County Posts: 17,408	I agree w everyone, and if this isn't taken care of now, the boys will get worse once they get older. They will be bigger and hurt the dogs more. Maybe even give them something they aren't supposed to eat. __________________ The T.U.B. Pack! Toto, Uni, & Bindi RIP Lord Scrappington Montgomery McLimpybottom aka El Lenguo the Handicapped Ninja 10-12-12

11-29-2013, 05:13 AM	#15
Sammy Mommy Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York Posts: 3,896	I feel so bad that you are in this situation. Your first priority is your and your furbabies safety! That is #1. Anyone at all who comes to your home should obey your rules!! Period. No exceptions. If your granddaughter is mad, that is too bad. She will stay mad or get over it. Her children have to learn to respect other people's homes and the family members (skin or fur) in it. Otherwise they will have a hard time in the future. There are rules in the world for good reason and we have to obey them. It's easy for me to say because I am not there, but don't beat yourself up over this. Give your sweet pups extra hugs!! Be well.