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Buster Brown · 05-09-2011, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by chachi

Im sorry you had a bad mothers day. My Husband and I decided we are separating for awhile so I had a bad one too. I know children can be very unappreciative acting sometimes when they dont really mean it. How is your relationship with them at other times?

I am sorry to hear that this is happening to you. My best wishes and warmest thoughts to you during this difficult time.

Micah my love · 05-09-2011, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by manolos mom

Dont know why, maybe I just dont know how to Love. I thought I gave them everything they ever needed and put my every need last because I brought these 2 ladies into this world and knew this was my job and first priority.

Not even a Mothers day card and found out they spent the day with their father who was never around growing up.

Dont know why I am bringing this up but I guess I am just feeling sad. It was hard being a single parent but they always had my love, food, shelter, clothes. Made sure they grew up with a religious background. Dont know what I have done but maybe I just suck at being a mother.

Lissette i wonder sometimes if we do to much for them..i truly understand your hurt i have 4 and 2 of them only bother to come or call when they need me financialy neither of them even called yesterday, so i guess they didn't need anything.

we tried to give our children a much better life than either of us had (raised poor) but sometimes i think now that maybe its better if they don't have to much.

I am sure that you were a wonderful mom so don't sell yourself short

jadabug · 05-09-2011, 08:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Micah my love

Lissette i wonder sometimes if we do to much for them..i truly understand your hurt i have 4 and 2 of them only bother to come or call when they need me financialy neither of them even called yesterday, so i guess they didn't need anything.

we tried to give our children a much better life than either of us had (raised poor) but sometimes i think now that maybe its better if they don't have to much.

I am sure that you were a wonderful mom so don't sell yourself short

I agree with Betty. I know you were a great mom to your girls and someday they will probably come to realize all the sacrifices you made for them.
I have boys and they are grown now. My oldest is married and they always spend the holidays with my Daughter in laws family. My youngest is single and he at least called. I didn't hear anything from my oldest yesterday.
We spoiled our boys and gave them everything and I think that is the problem, they don't seem to appreciate what they had. I have always chaulked it up to them being men, but I think the younger generation in general just has had it too easy.

itsbaddangel · 05-09-2011, 08:56 AM

I'm so sorry you went through this, but I'm glad you were strong enough to share your hurt with us, as I think quite a few of us can relate strongly to your feelings. My daughter, who lives with me, always forgets (and my birthday too). Kids can be selfish until they need you. Someday they will 'get it'.

Until they do, ALWAYS rely on your canines, they NEVER forget that EVERY day is Mother's day.

YorkieRose · 05-09-2011, 08:57 AM

Even the scripture says there is nothing worse then an ungrateful child...but it is what it is..and next Mothers Day you should plan ahead on visiting a nursing home and ask if there is a mother who is alone and YOU make her day the best ever...do it in the name of your mother if she is in Heaven....

I have had my moments and go to pity parties once in awhile..but when I look beyond ME to others, I always bounce back fast and feel like a million...

Your children will regret their actions at some point....but do not sit around waiting for them to wake up and realize a loving Mother is the best gift God ever gave a person.

QuickSilver · 05-09-2011, 09:42 AM

I'm very sorry you didn't get any kind of acknowledgement.

How old are your kids? Do they generally observe traditions? Do you have a good relationship with them?

This might not be a good idea, but I'm going to throw it out there. Maybe wait a week or two, and then ask them why they didn't send anything. Maybe you need to tell them you'd appreciate a card & a phone call.

If there is another problem, perhaps you can work it out with them. Hugs!

Sunnie · 05-09-2011, 10:42 AM

Lissette.. HUGS... remember.. they WILL one day be parents themselves and a bell will go off in thier heads. Wish I was there to give you that hug

RONLYNN · 05-09-2011, 10:49 AM

I'm so sorry!! the only thing I was thinking was that you said their dad was not around alot so maybe he asked to get together and they "jumped" at the chance to get together with him figuring that they can see you anytime because you are always there? I know my brother-in-law had a really flaky dad and he always jumped at the chance to see him thinking that his dad was really trying and wanted to see him but usually his dad would cancel at the last minute and disappoint him (yet my brother in law kept doing this over and over). Big hugs to you!!! It was so nice to meet you in Texas!!

TxVicki · 05-09-2011, 12:01 PM

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Originally Posted by manolos mom

Dont know why, maybe I just dont know how to Love. I thought I gave them everything they ever needed and put my every need last because I brought these 2 ladies into this world and knew this was my job and first priority.

Not even a Mothers day card and found out they spent the day with their father who was never around growing up.

Dont know why I am bringing this up but I guess I am just feeling sad. It was hard being a single parent but they always had my love, food, shelter, clothes. Made sure they grew up with a religious background. Dont know what I have done but maybe I just suck at being a mother.

Oh No, I'm so sorry your day wasn't a happy one. I'm sorry your daughter's did this to you. You have every right to be hurt and sad.
You sound like a WONDERFUL Mom. They will realize this one day.
Sending BIG HUG'S to you.

Sammy Mommy · 05-09-2011, 12:07 PM

I feel so sad that your kids weren't there for you yesterday. A few years ago my older son was involved with a girl that I didn't like and he spent Mother's Day and all holidays with her family. It was so hurtful. Now he's back to his old self again (he's not with her anymore). Maybe someone is influencing your daughters. They will come around. Sending you hugs and belated Mother's Day wishes from me and Sammy

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celstu1 · 05-09-2011, 12:33 PM

How old are your daughters? I know when I was 17 my mom decided to divorce my Dad. It tore our whole lives apart (in my eyes) and I HATED my mom for it. My Dad was AWWEESSOOMMMEEEE! LOL (again - in my eyes) As a 17 year old child, I was so mad at my mom for tearing my family apart. As a 34 year old WOMAN, I understand exactly why my mom did what she had to do and why she did it. Now my mom lives far away but I make sure to always remember her on mother's day and her birthday and send gifts in the mail, but there were many years I was a young, angry girl who never realized how much my mom sacrificed for me. (and I didn't even need to have kids of my own to realize this) (((HUGS))) they will come around!

manolos mom · 05-09-2011, 12:35 PM

Thanks so much for all your encouraging words. My 2 older daughers are 26 and 27. We struggled for a while but I always made sure they had everything they needed in life. The girls where 7 and 8 when I divorced their father. I remarried and my husband has always been their and treated all the girls equal, as a matter of fact on their FB page they both listed him as their father.

My baby is 17 and she is such a joy in my life. She saved her money and bought me some nice gifts and a card and gave me lot's of hugs.

I spent the afternoon with my mentor and took her and her husband out for dinner. They are 83 and 92. It just hurts so much when the other 2 only call me when they need something or to talk. I know I tried to raise strong independent women that could take care of themselves but I think somewhere I left out a step.

Thanks for being here, I feel so much better and Chachi we are all here for you....Love Always, Lissette

celstu1 · 05-09-2011, 12:41 PM

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Originally Posted by chachi

Im sorry you had a bad mothers day. My Husband and I decided we are separating for awhile so I had a bad one too. I know children can be very unappreciative acting sometimes when they dont really mean it. How is your relationship with them at other times?

Oh my gosh, I'm sooo sorry!

I hope everything works out for the best. Sometimes the best is not always what we might want in the moment. (((HUGS)))

manolos mom · 05-09-2011, 12:44 PM

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Originally Posted by celstu1

How old are your daughters? I know when I was 17 my mom decided to divorce my Dad. It tore our whole lives apart (in my eyes) and I HATED my mom for it. My Dad was AWWEESSOOMMMEEEE! LOL (again - in my eyes) As a 17 year old child, I was so mad at my mom for tearing my family apart. As a 34 year old WOMAN, I understand exactly why my mom did what she had to do and why she did it. Now my mom lives far away but I make sure to always remember her on mother's day and her birthday and send gifts in the mail, but there were many years I was a young, angry girl who never realized how much my mom sacrificed for me. (and I didn't even need to have kids of my own to realize this) (((HUGS))) they will come around!

I think this is what's happening. I think they truely hate my guts. I divorced for them, because my ex was very mean and abusive. I once had fractured ribs and black eyes and had to go to work, so my coworkers have always encourage me and helped me with my self esteem. Maybe they still hold anger inside, I dont know.

KazzyK810 · 05-09-2011, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by manolos mom

I divorced for them, because my ex was very mean and abusive.

Good for you! I'm guessing that your daughters don't have kids themselves? Cos, it seems like we don't appreciate all that was done for us until we have kids ourselves.

I figured the ex was an idiot, when you said the girls spent time with him on Mother's day. What kinda guy doesn't say, "Hey, it's Mother's day! Go see your mom!" ???

Sorry to hear that your oldest weren't considerate and hurt your feelings. It sounds like your youngest was very sweet & thoughtful

Sometimes the age of each child doesn't correlate with their maturity.

05-09-2011, 08:56 AM	#19
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05-09-2011, 09:42 AM	#21
QuickSilver Thor's Human Donating Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: San Francisco, CA Posts: 5,929 Blog Entries: 31	I'm very sorry you didn't get any kind of acknowledgement. How old are your kids? Do they generally observe traditions? Do you have a good relationship with them? This might not be a good idea, but I'm going to throw it out there. Maybe wait a week or two, and then ask them why they didn't send anything. Maybe you need to tell them you'd appreciate a card & a phone call. If there is another problem, perhaps you can work it out with them. Hugs! __________________ If you love something, set it free. Unless it's an angry tiger.

05-09-2011, 10:42 AM	#22
Sunnie Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: So. California Posts: 4,057	Lissette.. HUGS... remember.. they WILL one day be parents themselves and a bell will go off in thier heads. Wish I was there to give you that hug __________________ Sonya, Owned by Ladybug, Tilly, Sunshine, Beamer, Rainbow, Sonny and Righteous RIP Sunnie (11/12/2003-7/31/2009)

05-09-2011, 10:49 AM	#23
RONLYNN Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Manhattan Beach, CA Posts: 1,635	I'm so sorry!! the only thing I was thinking was that you said their dad was not around alot so maybe he asked to get together and they "jumped" at the chance to get together with him figuring that they can see you anytime because you are always there? I know my brother-in-law had a really flaky dad and he always jumped at the chance to see him thinking that his dad was really trying and wanted to see him but usually his dad would cancel at the last minute and disappoint him (yet my brother in law kept doing this over and over). Big hugs to you!!! It was so nice to meet you in Texas!! __________________ Ronda & Teddi PPU - Petite Pups United Member The PINK Club Member **

05-09-2011, 12:07 PM	#25
Sammy Mommy Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: New York Posts: 3,896	I feel so sad that your kids weren't there for you yesterday. A few years ago my older son was involved with a girl that I didn't like and he spent Mother's Day and all holidays with her family. It was so hurtful. Now he's back to his old self again (he's not with her anymore). Maybe someone is influencing your daughters. They will come around. Sending you hugs and belated Mother's Day wishes from me and Sammy.

05-09-2011, 08:57 AM	#20
YorkieRose No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: South Florida Posts: 8,577	Even the scripture says there is nothing worse then an ungrateful child...but it is what it is..and next Mothers Day you should plan ahead on visiting a nursing home and ask if there is a mother who is alone and YOU make her day the best ever...do it in the name of your mother if she is in Heaven.... I have had my moments and go to pity parties once in awhile..but when I look beyond ME to others, I always bounce back fast and feel like a million... Your children will regret their actions at some point....but do not sit around waiting for them to wake up and realize a loving Mother is the best gift God ever gave a person.

05-09-2011, 12:33 PM	#26
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	How old are your daughters? I know when I was 17 my mom decided to divorce my Dad. It tore our whole lives apart (in my eyes) and I HATED my mom for it. My Dad was AWWEESSOOMMMEEEE! LOL (again - in my eyes) As a 17 year old child, I was so mad at my mom for tearing my family apart. As a 34 year old WOMAN, I understand exactly why my mom did what she had to do and why she did it. Now my mom lives far away but I make sure to always remember her on mother's day and her birthday and send gifts in the mail, but there were many years I was a young, angry girl who never realized how much my mom sacrificed for me. (and I didn't even need to have kids of my own to realize this) (((HUGS))) they will come around! __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

05-09-2011, 12:35 PM	#27
manolos mom Donating YT 4000 Club Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 7,982	Thanks so much for all your encouraging words. My 2 older daughers are 26 and 27. We struggled for a while but I always made sure they had everything they needed in life. The girls where 7 and 8 when I divorced their father. I remarried and my husband has always been their and treated all the girls equal, as a matter of fact on their FB page they both listed him as their father. My baby is 17 and she is such a joy in my life. She saved her money and bought me some nice gifts and a card and gave me lot's of hugs. I spent the afternoon with my mentor and took her and her husband out for dinner. They are 83 and 92. It just hurts so much when the other 2 only call me when they need something or to talk. I know I tried to raise strong independent women that could take care of themselves but I think somewhere I left out a step. Thanks for being here, I feel so much better and Chachi we are all here for you....Love Always, Lissette Last edited by manolos mom; 05-09-2011 at 12:38 PM.