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Lisa and Pic · 11-28-2009, 02:55 AM

I am so sorry about your break-up. I know the sadness is so tough for you right now. Sending hugs....

It has been a long time, but I can still remember my broken heart, when my fiance broke our engagement a couple months before we were suppose to get married.

All I can say is you will get through this and I really believe that when one door closes another one opens.

luvfla · 11-28-2009, 04:48 AM

Aw honey, almost all of us know just what you are going thru...from experience! Allow yourself time to grieve. He was a huge part of your life for 4 years.

In my early 20s, I dated a for 2.5 years. He broke up with me a couple of times, but I always took him back. After our last breakup he came back wanting to get back together & that was the hardest "No" I ever had to say. That was the point where I had to push aside just the good in our relationship & take a hard look at the rough times....I just couldn't do it anymore.

Gennies · 11-28-2009, 08:27 AM

Sweetie, he's an idiot! You are so beautiful and compassionate, please don't think that your life is over. This part of your life is over, but you are such a sweet and caring person that you will find your sole mate someday.

For now, know that we are all here for you and that your baby needs you. Maybe a Mommy and me day with your pup is what you need to help you focus back on the ones that love you and wish only the best for you.

I so wish us girls lived closer so we could go out for a night of fun to help you realize that you are a beautiful and loving spirit and this guy just wasn't the right guy for you.

Be proud of the person you are, as so many of us here see how wonderful and caring you are. You deserve better than him and we need to get you in that mind set! Once you do, you'll realize that he wasn't treating you with the respect you deserved. And that's not the life you want. You should be treated so much better than that.

I am sorry that you've lost your best friend, but look down at your baby and realize that she is your best friend and she'll be with you no matter what! That's a true best friend!

Great big ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) to you. I'm here for you if you'd like to talk. Gen.

mizzwanned · 11-28-2009, 10:19 AM

Aww thanks guys...really it means so much! It is so hard, especially this morning. I just wanted to pick up my phone and call him cause i was used to doing that but i had to stop myself. I feel nauseous most of the time..no appetite..nothing excites me anymore. The dogs do help though..i love having them around. I'm sure he misses them too cause he was very attached to them

Bianca · 11-28-2009, 10:44 AM

Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I am 39 now and married almost 19 years, but I remember back to when I was 17 and my first love. He just ended it and I was devastated . I remember I would drive past his house late at night just to see if he was home

One day I just said to myself leave him alone and see what happens, this is what I did. I fought everyday the temptation to see if he was around or talk or ask about him (We had the same circle of friends) after about 2 weeks I just was normal again, I mean I didn't even realize I wasn't looking for him. About 2 months later he started going out with a girl I knew for years and she lived right up the block

but by then I was fine and I don't know how , but I just accepted it. Turns out he broke her heart and he now is a fat looser with no job

How lucky I am that I met the man of my dreams and had 3 beautiful babies

believe me in the end it will all work out and you will end up EXACTLY where you are supposed to be..

4doggiemama · 11-28-2009, 06:18 PM

So sorry for the pain you are going through. Have watched our daughter go through her breakups. Not a fun time.

extazzz · 11-28-2009, 06:39 PM

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Originally Posted by mizzwanned

Me and my bf of almost 4 years broke up last night-on Thanksgiving. We've been having problems for a couple months but I never thought this would actually happen. I feel like my whole world has crumbled. He was my best friend, he was the only one that kept me going. I don't know what i will do with myself. This has been the absolute worst year for me..with Sophie passing away and now this. And it's around the holidays. He is my first love..how am I going to live with myself. I want to eventually move on but i feel unmotivated now..like I don't want to do anything. This hurts..really bad.

I just broke up with my boyfriend/fiance Wednesday night. I lost my little Hootie 10 days ago and he made comments about me getting over "it" and other things. I have a Memorial to Hootie site I just made today. Perhaps it can help you too....
Ms. Charlie
"Hooties Mom"

RIP My Angel
1/9/09 - 11/18/09

https://sites.google.com/site/littlelostyorkies/home

mizzwanned · 11-28-2009, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by extazzz

I just broke up with my boyfriend/fiance Wednesday night. I lost my little Hootie 10 days ago and he made comments about me getting over "it" and other things. I have a Memorial to Hootie site I just made today. Perhaps it can help you too....
Ms. Charlie
"Hooties Mom"

RIP My Angel
1/9/09 - 11/18/09

https://sites.google.com/site/littlelostyorkies/home

I'm so sorry about Hootie

red98vett · 11-29-2009, 01:41 PM

I'm sorry to read this - I wish you all the best and maybe you guys will work it out once you have a little time apart - you never know !!! All the best - I'm sorry it had to happen and during the holidays at that.....

spiritwings1202 · 11-29-2009, 02:39 PM

I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. Just know this, when God closes a door he opens a window, and believe me God has got something better for you. He has a plan for your life to do you good and not harm. So lean on him in your time of need! big hug to you~Joyce

LuvMySissy · 11-29-2009, 03:39 PM

I'm so sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to grieve and in the meantime keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm so glad you have Teddy and London to help you along. Been dealing with this with my daughter - she and her BF of 3 years broke up Memorial Weekend and she moved back in with us. There are days she is still devastated, but she is slowly moving on. The holidays will be especially rough, so try to schedule time with friends and family to help keep your mind off from wanting to call/see him. Truly his loss as you are such a special person. The right one for you will come along. Hugs....

yorkie_mama22 · 11-29-2009, 06:14 PM

Sorry to hear about your breakup. Could it maybe just be a "break". I haven't had a break up in almost 6 years now but I remember how much it sucked back then. Have some girlfriends over and try to keep your mind off him don't listen to sad love songs either !

MsFamousHepburn · 11-30-2009, 01:57 AM

I am sooo sorry, sweetheart! Upon reading your post, I can still feel the sting of losing that first love. We were best friends for years, who had our entire future together planned out, and one day...he just decided I wasn't good enough for him. He moved away within a week of our breakup. I was devasted. It was also right before Christmas. I lost 35 lbs in a month, and spent thousands trying to cover up my emotions. The only thing that helped me was the support of a wonderful friend and knowing that the Lord had better things for me.

I'm now happily married to a man who is 10x the man than he has turned out to be.

You are strong enough to get through this... And you never know what the future holds. Just know you are cherished and priceless. Lots of hugs going your way!

celstu1 · 11-30-2009, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by mizzwanned

Me and my bf of almost 4 years broke up last night-on Thanksgiving. We've been having problems for a couple months but I never thought this would actually happen. I feel like my whole world has crumbled. He was my best friend, he was the only one that kept me going. I don't know what i will do with myself. This has been the absolute worst year for me..with Sophie passing away and now this. And it's around the holidays. He is my first love..how am I going to live with myself. I want to eventually move on but i feel unmotivated now..like I don't want to do anything. This hurts..really bad.

Sweetie. I know how you feel a bit. My first love and bf of 10 years and I broke up 4 years ago. We owned a house together and were engaged to be married. (I still have my stupid wedding gown that NOWHERE will take off my hands). I am soooooo sorry you are hurting so bad. Its going to hurt, and you WILL get through it. It will take time. Keep yourself busy. Busy is KEY. Even when you don't feel like it. Take up friend's offers to go out. Take up a hobby, I tried to learn how to crochet, I was super bad at it, but it kept me busy for hours! You will get through it. I am a moderator on a breakup website... PM me if you want the info. I think you could benefit from the breakup workbook on the site (order it) and the forum. (((HUGS)))

Lexi Rae · 11-30-2009, 01:14 PM

IM so sorry your going through this, especially now.. sending you hugs and kisses.. Keep your self occupied as much as you can. Its gonna hurt for a little while, but you will get over it.. your too cute and too pretty. Keep your head up.. Stand tall. You deserve better.. Im here for you if you need to talk.
I will surely make you laugh..

11-28-2009, 02:55 AM	#16
Lisa and Pic ♥ Piccolo & Vivi ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Kentucky Posts: 14,311	I am so sorry about your break-up. I know the sadness is so tough for you right now. Sending hugs.... It has been a long time, but I can still remember my broken heart, when my fiance broke our engagement a couple months before we were suppose to get married. All I can say is you will get through this and I really believe that when one door closes another one opens. __________________ Lisa, Dixie, and Jazzy (RIP Piccolo and Vivi)

11-28-2009, 04:48 AM	#17
luvfla YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL Posts: 3,691	Aw honey, almost all of us know just what you are going thru...from experience! Allow yourself time to grieve. He was a huge part of your life for 4 years. In my early 20s, I dated a for 2.5 years. He broke up with me a couple of times, but I always took him back. After our last breakup he came back wanting to get back together & that was the hardest "No" I ever had to say. That was the point where I had to push aside just the good in our relationship & take a hard look at the rough times....I just couldn't do it anymore. __________________ Elizabeth - mommy to...Keegan & Sweet Sophie RIP Duncan (the cat who wanted to be a dog) & Clarence

11-28-2009, 08:27 AM	#18
Gennies Donating YT Addict Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Virginia Posts: 2,865	Sweetie, he's an idiot! You are so beautiful and compassionate, please don't think that your life is over. This part of your life is over, but you are such a sweet and caring person that you will find your sole mate someday. For now, know that we are all here for you and that your baby needs you. Maybe a Mommy and me day with your pup is what you need to help you focus back on the ones that love you and wish only the best for you. I so wish us girls lived closer so we could go out for a night of fun to help you realize that you are a beautiful and loving spirit and this guy just wasn't the right guy for you. Be proud of the person you are, as so many of us here see how wonderful and caring you are. You deserve better than him and we need to get you in that mind set! Once you do, you'll realize that he wasn't treating you with the respect you deserved. And that's not the life you want. You should be treated so much better than that. I am sorry that you've lost your best friend, but look down at your baby and realize that she is your best friend and she'll be with you no matter what! That's a true best friend! Great big ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) to you. I'm here for you if you'd like to talk. Gen. __________________ Gennie, mommy to my two loves: Bambi & Bijou

11-28-2009, 10:19 AM	#19
mizzwanned Donating YT 11K Club Member Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: new york Posts: 14,007 Blog Entries: 2	Aww thanks guys...really it means so much! It is so hard, especially this morning. I just wanted to pick up my phone and call him cause i was used to doing that but i had to stop myself. I feel nauseous most of the time..no appetite..nothing excites me anymore. The dogs do help though..i love having them around. I'm sure he misses them too cause he was very attached to them __________________ Primrose, Teddy..RIP, Livie..RIP, And can never forget my duo Sophie and London, Run in Peace <3

11-28-2009, 10:44 AM	#20
Bianca No Longer a Member Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: New York Posts: 761	Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I am 39 now and married almost 19 years, but I remember back to when I was 17 and my first love. He just ended it and I was devastated . I remember I would drive past his house late at night just to see if he was home One day I just said to myself leave him alone and see what happens, this is what I did. I fought everyday the temptation to see if he was around or talk or ask about him (We had the same circle of friends) after about 2 weeks I just was normal again, I mean I didn't even realize I wasn't looking for him. About 2 months later he started going out with a girl I knew for years and she lived right up the block but by then I was fine and I don't know how , but I just accepted it. Turns out he broke her heart and he now is a fat looser with no job How lucky I am that I met the man of my dreams and had 3 beautiful babies believe me in the end it will all work out and you will end up EXACTLY where you are supposed to be.. Last edited by Bianca; 11-28-2009 at 10:45 AM.

11-28-2009, 06:18 PM	#21
4doggiemama Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: KS Posts: 3,290	So sorry for the pain you are going through. Have watched our daughter go through her breakups. Not a fun time. __________________ Joanne Eli ChipperEva Snowboy Rosie(R.I.P. 1996-July 29, 2013) Cocoa(R.I.P 1998-April 26, 2012):

11-29-2009, 01:41 PM	#24
red98vett Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: Houston TX Posts: 33,590 Blog Entries: 1	I'm sorry to read this - I wish you all the best and maybe you guys will work it out once you have a little time apart - you never know !!! All the best - I'm sorry it had to happen and during the holidays at that..... __________________ Villette, Chanel & Cheri www.DesignsByVillette.net Custom Address Labels and Note Cards using YOUR Photos! Just Click HERE!

11-29-2009, 02:39 PM	#25
spiritwings1202 Pixie and Daisy Donating Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: CT USA Posts: 2,680	I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. Just know this, when God closes a door he opens a window, and believe me God has got something better for you. He has a plan for your life to do you good and not harm. So lean on him in your time of need! big hug to you~Joyce __________________ Proud Mom of Daisy and Pixie

11-29-2009, 03:39 PM	#26
LuvMySissy Luv my Angel, too! Donating Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: USA Posts: 9,333	I'm so sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to grieve and in the meantime keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm so glad you have Teddy and London to help you along. Been dealing with this with my daughter - she and her BF of 3 years broke up Memorial Weekend and she moved back in with us. There are days she is still devastated, but she is slowly moving on. The holidays will be especially rough, so try to schedule time with friends and family to help keep your mind off from wanting to call/see him. Truly his loss as you are such a special person. The right one for you will come along. Hugs.... __________________ Sissy & Angel

11-29-2009, 06:14 PM	#27
yorkie_mama22 Currently Suspended! Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 2,275	Sorry to hear about your breakup. Could it maybe just be a "break". I haven't had a break up in almost 6 years now but I remember how much it sucked back then. Have some girlfriends over and try to keep your mind off him don't listen to sad love songs either !

11-30-2009, 01:57 AM	#28
MsFamousHepburn YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: WA Posts: 536	I am sooo sorry, sweetheart! Upon reading your post, I can still feel the sting of losing that first love. We were best friends for years, who had our entire future together planned out, and one day...he just decided I wasn't good enough for him. He moved away within a week of our breakup. I was devasted. It was also right before Christmas. I lost 35 lbs in a month, and spent thousands trying to cover up my emotions. The only thing that helped me was the support of a wonderful friend and knowing that the Lord had better things for me. I'm now happily married to a man who is 10x the man than he has turned out to be. You are strong enough to get through this... And you never know what the future holds. Just know you are cherished and priceless. Lots of hugs going your way! __________________ I love my life, as a Yorkie Momma and an Army wife!

11-30-2009, 01:14 PM	#30
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	IM so sorry your going through this, especially now.. sending you hugs and kisses.. Keep your self occupied as much as you can. Its gonna hurt for a little while, but you will get over it.. your too cute and too pretty. Keep your head up.. Stand tall. You deserve better.. Im here for you if you need to talk. I will surely make you laugh.. __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...