How long did it take to know that was THE ONE?

[Lou]

Today is my 27th wedding anniversary and dh and I both knew it within twenty-four hours.

[amandawash]

Originally Posted by Gracie2006

I loved that movie! Your story sounds so much like mine. Did you think you had lost your mind at first? My guy found me at a singles dating site 12 days after I signed up, there was no hesitating to make contact. He is 7000 miles away right now, the time difference is about 12 hours so I am getting up as he is going to bed. It is wonderful to get up in the morning and find a poem from him in my email in-box. I hope that soon I will be able to post an answer in my own thread. All I can say is that he removed his profile from the singles dating site!

How exciting for you!!!!! If you didn't start spilling some details I was going to start prying

Congrats!! I want to know more!!

[Gracie2006]

Originally Posted by DaisyMaesMama

Oh... I was scared to death! I even had a background check done on him Hey, I had to be sure. I thought the whole time, this is never going to work because he is going to turn out to be a jerk like my first husband or will have a huge secret that will crush me forever. He is sooo far from that. All my gf's tell me they want a husband like my honey. I am the luckiest woman ever. Good luck to you. Take it slow and I hope that you wil be as happy as my hubby and I are.

This is too funny. Driving home from grocery shopping I was seriously considering running a background check on my guy. You read online how "love" is something you don't have for someone until you really know them, and be cautious of guys online as they might not be what the seem....blah blah, blah.

Then I look at his face and think he must be heaven sent. I have decided to go with my heart, and let my head give a bit of input, and of course take it slow. Will post more details in another post.

[Gracie2006]

Originally Posted by amandawash

How exciting for you!!!!! If you didn't start spilling some details I was going to start prying

Congrats!! I want to know more!!

This is the same gentleman I posted about in another thread, asking for a polite way to dump him. One person said "why?, give it some time and see what happens"? Well, I took that advise and my heart has only grown fonder, as has his.

Here's the story. On Christmas Day I signed up for one of those online dating sites. I was feeling lonely, was snowed in and had nothing better to do than drink wine and sulk. 12 days later he sends a "flirt" my way. I look at his picture, sees he drives a Hummer and immediately got turned off thinking he was one of those men with too much money to spend on foolish toys (dated those types, not interested). The next day while looking through my messages, I see his picture again and notice how good looking he is. I read his profile and big flags went up because there was not much info there. He gives a brief history and says he is tired of games and is looking for someone and something "real". I blow him off again. Then comes an email message telling me a bit more about him and that he is interested. Well, it has gone on from there to be something special.

He is a Major General in the Army, deployed 7000 miles away in Kandahar Afghanistan. He is career military, having served for 22 years. He plans to retire in another two years. He is stationed about 50 miles or so from me, which is home base when he is in the States. He is 6'2, gorgeous with huge muscular arms. He has a degree in mechanical engineering. He is a widower. His wife died of lung cancer about 5 years ago. His late wife was Malaysian, they had a daughter who is now 15 living with his mother in Malaysia. His father was American and served in the Army, he married a Malaysian woman. His father died not too long ago. He is very sensitive, caring and creative. He writes beautiful poetry.

He canceled his profile at the online dating site shortly after we started corresponding. He tells me he no longer needs it because he found me. It is very early in the relationship but something just feels very different about this one. It has calmed my head considerably, not to mention filled my heart, to read all of the "love at first sight" posts here. It is extremely hard not being able to see him in person, and knowing that he is in harms way. And if it does not work out, it sure has been fun.

So, that is my story.

[amandawash]

I thought that was what was going on! I had to ask and am glad I did because I was one of those who thought you should give it more time! I sincerely hope it works out for you and the hunk!

[duckie215]

Oh my! I love this thread! Its so sweet reading everyone's stories. Here is mine just to join in the fun. Its not quite so romantic since he was a butthead before I married him

My now husband and I worked together. He was a cook/manager. I was a server. He had red flags coming out the wazoo. He is a really good liar and had all the other girls at work wrapped around his little finger. It was ridiculous. His then girlfriend was super jealous and would come into our job and rant at her server (whenever it was a girl) that she'd better not be sleeping with her man and blah blah blah. It was pitiful really. I with my all understanding and non sarcastic manner was lucky enough to draw his girlfriends table one night. I had no interest in him at the time, he was way too sketchy She proceeded to inform me that she would meet me in the parking lot when I got off shift and beat the tar out of me. I told her that anyone that needs to fight that hard for a man doesn't really have him anyways and that If he was that great then why was she wasting her time and mine trying to clean up after him? She was stunned. Left. I made him pay her bill She broke up with him a week later (my fault? we'll never know)

Fast forward 6 months he cleaned up his act and I told him if he ever lied to me I'd walk faster than he could follow. I knew the first time that he told me the truth instead of lying to me, which would have been WAY easier since he was an idiot, that he was the one. He still hasn't lied to me and hopefully never will. He's my baby and I'll keep him. He's now a really good man and husband and hopefully a father in the future.

[MyLadies]

Originally Posted by DaisyMaesMama

[I][FONT=Georgia][SIZE=3][COLOR=darkorchid]Well, how to begin? Does anyone remember the movie in 1999 with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, "You've got mail?" ......
~Kathy

WOW! Your story sounds almost just like mine with a few minor differences!!! Even the same year. We will celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary this year!! I'll write more about it later.... I gotta run. Just wanted to say "wow!...deja vu!"

[mstrooperwife]

I think my husband & I knew when we had only been dating a few weeks. things were going to good. at the time i was 20 yrs old and living at home. My dad was crazy and he told me i couldn't see him for no good reason of course. well i drove and left the house to meet my husband. we got married 1 1/2 yrs after dating. Been married 21 years. My husband was sent from God above. He's the best blessing besides my children that I've ever had in my life

He truly is the love of my life and i couldn't see myself without him.
We have a wonderful relationship.

Made me feel good one day when my son told me they didn't make women like me anymore. he wants the kind of relationship his dad and I have. That was a great compliment.

[Gracie2006]

Originally Posted by amandawash

How exciting for you!!!!! If you didn't start spilling some details I was going to start prying

Congrats!! I want to know more!!

Sorry to spoil such a sweet thread, but I trusted my head over my heart. I chatted with him via instant message today and he completely avoided or made up excuses for every bit of personal information I inquired about. He can't give me an APO address because he can't receive mail secondary to a mail bomb. When I asked him what his job position in the military was (I expected commander or mechanic or something) there was a very long pause followed by "can we talk tomorrow? I have to go.") I kept thinking I had seen a couple of his pictures somewhere. I found a website where you can upload an image and it searches the internet for like images. Two of the 5 he sent me matched stock military photos. I found a program that traced this guy's computer to ONTARIO CANADA! Fortunately I was smart enough to give him my cell phone number which was changed today. Be careful out there and do your homework before things go very far. Don't correspond with anyone who uses a free email address, they are very hard to trace. And if you meet someone at an online dating site, only use that site's email service to make contact.

I'm going to keep playing with him and see if I can get more info for the authorities. I have already reported him to his ISP. When I'm ready to let him know that I know what he is up to, I plan to play it up even more and tell him I am with the Internet Crime Bureau or something.

[IluvLucy]

I was a divorced, single parent of 2 when my best friend told me she had given my tel# to a guy her husband knew. He'd seen me go in their house and asked about me.

He called me the next week and we set up our first date. When I opened my front door and saw him I thought "BINGO! This is the one".

We discovered that we'd gone to high school together - he remembered me from study hall and thought I was hot

We actually dated 7 (yes, SEVEN) years before we got married, but during that entire time, neither of us dated anyone else. We just weren't in a hurry We were married 13 years when he died in 2005 and those were the BEST years of my life!

I do believe that sometimes you just "know".

[C101Yorkie]

Originally Posted by Gracie2006

Sorry to spoil such a sweet thread, but I trusted my head over my heart. I chatted with him via instant message today and he completely avoided or made up excuses for every bit of personal information I inquired about. He can't give me an APO address because he can't receive mail secondary to a mail bomb. When I asked him what his job position in the military was (I expected commander or mechanic or something) there was a very long pause followed by "can we talk tomorrow? I have to go.") I kept thinking I had seen a couple of his pictures somewhere. I found a website where you can upload an image and it searches the internet for like images. Two of the 5 he sent me matched stock military photos. I found a program that traced this guy's computer to ONTARIO CANADA! Fortunately I was smart enough to give him my cell phone number which was changed today. Be careful out there and do your homework before things go very far. Don't correspond with anyone who uses a free email address, they are very hard to trace. And if you meet someone at an online dating site, only use that site's email service to make contact.

I'm going to keep playing with him and see if I can get more info for the authorities. I have already reported him to his ISP. When I'm ready to let him know that I know what he is up to, I plan to play it up even more and tell him I am with the Internet Crime Bureau or something.

I'm sorry that you had to find out about him like that.

Originally Posted by IluvLucy

I was a divorced, single parent of 2 when my best friend told me she had given my tel# to a guy her husband knew. He'd seen me go in their house and asked about me.

He called me the next week and we set up our first date. When I opened my front door and saw him I thought "BINGO! This is the one".

We discovered that we'd gone to high school together - he remembered me from study hall and thought I was hot

We actually dated 7 (yes, SEVEN) years before we got married, but during that entire time, neither of us dated anyone else. We just weren't in a hurry We were married 13 years when he died in 2005 and those were the BEST years of my life!

I do believe that sometimes you just "know".

Sorry for your loss...

[Ashley V]

My hubby and I met at my friend's 16th birthday party. He was dating a girl at the time that I went to school with and he went to a private Christian school. This girl was always kind of a... not so good girl... and I had just broken up with my boyfriend and I remember thinking to myself that he was hot and "how can she get such a good guy?" cause he was being so gentle and loving with her. Flash forward a year - he went on and joined the national guard and she cheated on him with both genders while he was in basic. They broke up because of this and we ran into each other at a local band concert and hung out for awhile. I ended up dating this guy within a couple weeks after our run in and we lost contact again. Flash forward another year - Boyfriend and I broke up and I was DEVASTATED. Adam had been reading some of my blogs on myspace and knew that I was hurting so he decided just to send me a friendly IM. We talked for awhile and I dated this other guy for about a month, but broke up with him when I found out he was doing drugs. Adam then asks me if I would like to go out with him, as friends and friends only. I said okay and out we went. He took me to a "high society" outside mall in a near by county and we ate at Uno's, then went to the movies to see Hills Have Eyes or some stupid thing like that, and then went to a coffee shop where they gave you a mini fire pit and you could make s'mores (mmm). While we were at the movies though, something happened. I always have a tendency to lean towards my right when I'm sitting around and he was sitting on my right, so he took that as me trying to get close to him and put his arm around me. It felt so right that I leaned in some more and laid my head on his chest. It was so perfect. Seven months later, we were married :-) This coming November we will have been married 3 years and I wouldn't change a thing. People thought I was crazy for getting married at 19, but I love my life and all the problems that come with it!

[DukesMommy]

Originally Posted by Gracie2006

Sorry to spoil such a sweet thread, but I trusted my head over my heart. I chatted with him via instant message today and he completely avoided or made up excuses for every bit of personal information I inquired about. He can't give me an APO address because he can't receive mail secondary to a mail bomb. When I asked him what his job position in the military was (I expected commander or mechanic or something) there was a very long pause followed by "can we talk tomorrow? I have to go.") I kept thinking I had seen a couple of his pictures somewhere. I found a website where you can upload an image and it searches the internet for like images. Two of the 5 he sent me matched stock military photos. I found a program that traced this guy's computer to ONTARIO CANADA! Fortunately I was smart enough to give him my cell phone number which was changed today. Be careful out there and do your homework before things go very far. Don't correspond with anyone who uses a free email address, they are very hard to trace. And if you meet someone at an online dating site, only use that site's email service to make contact.

I'm going to keep playing with him and see if I can get more info for the authorities. I have already reported him to his ISP. When I'm ready to let him know that I know what he is up to, I plan to play it up even more and tell him I am with the Internet Crime Bureau or something.

I'm happy you found out before things got too far (I think?!?)
Unfortunately you have to be really careful these days, so many people out there trying to pose as military members. Good thing you figured it out though, it's always good to know some questions to ask to be able to catch them in their lies!
Men can be such pigs...
Have you tried a profile on like myspace or something? In my single days I met a lot of pigs that way, but I also met some really nice guys whom I have stayed friends with for years now. Just an idea

[DukesMommy]

Originally Posted by duckie215

Oh my! I love this thread! Its so sweet reading everyone's stories. Here is mine just to join in the fun. Its not quite so romantic since he was a butthead before I married him

My now husband and I worked together. He was a cook/manager. I was a server. He had red flags coming out the wazoo. He is a really good liar and had all the other girls at work wrapped around his little finger. It was ridiculous. His then girlfriend was super jealous and would come into our job and rant at her server (whenever it was a girl) that she'd better not be sleeping with her man and blah blah blah. It was pitiful really. I with my all understanding and non sarcastic manner was lucky enough to draw his girlfriends table one night. I had no interest in him at the time, he was way too sketchy She proceeded to inform me that she would meet me in the parking lot when I got off shift and beat the tar out of me. I told her that anyone that needs to fight that hard for a man doesn't really have him anyways and that If he was that great then why was she wasting her time and mine trying to clean up after him? She was stunned. Left. I made him pay her bill She broke up with him a week later (my fault? we'll never know)

Fast forward 6 months he cleaned up his act and I told him if he ever lied to me I'd walk faster than he could follow. I knew the first time that he told me the truth instead of lying to me, which would have been WAY easier since he was an idiot, that he was the one. He still hasn't lied to me and hopefully never will. He's my baby and I'll keep him. He's now a really good man and husband and hopefully a father in the future.

Yours was an ass like mine in the begining!
I love what you said to his former girlfriend though, so true!

How did you break yours of his anal ways?? I told mine I wouldn't put up with any of his crap, and 2 years later I have discovered I have a 30 year old son. All the women I have talked to tell me they deal with the same thing. I wish I would have gotten that memo 2 years ago. I'm 24, didn't think I would be a mom for at least a few more years!!

[Gracie2006]

Originally Posted by DukesMommy

I'm happy you found out before things got too far (I think?!?)
Unfortunately you have to be really careful these days, so many people out there trying to pose as military members. Good thing you figured it out though, it's always good to know some questions to ask to be able to catch them in their lies!
Men can be such pigs...
Have you tried a profile on like myspace or something? In my single days I met a lot of pigs that way, but I also met some really nice guys whom I have stayed friends with for years now. Just an idea

I'm happy I found it before things got too far as well. I think I will stick with paid only dating sites. I doubt perverts would be too willing to pay to play. Will probably higher a PI to do a background check on anyone I think I might get serious about. A strange thing happened. A soldier's photo ended up on my laptop's desktop, with his name. I don't know who he is or where he came from, it looks like it was downloaded about the time I got a bunch of viruses and malware from somewhere. He's really creepy looking. I'm going to do some research on his name.

But one good thing came of this. We have a wonderful thread full of love stories for Valentine's Day!