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Yorkiekids · 01-05-2009, 01:15 PM

Our house is being foreclosed on, and the time for us to get out is running out. A friend of ours told us he had a really nice house we could rent. Well he drove by the yard was a total mess, but that didn't bother me, because I love gardening, and I new it would be a fun challenge for me. Well he finally let us in, and the inside is a total mess. I mean it would take about 7000 to make it livable. I didn't expect a perfect house for 800 a month, but this was just horrible. How do we tell him nicely that we don't want to rent the place. We can't even fit all our furniture in it. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I just can't see myself living there. The house I have now is very nice, and I just can't bring myself to living there. We met all the neighbors, and they are all so nice, and some even offered to help us fix up the house. I know my friend well enough to know he's not going to come off a penny to help us. Can someone tell me how to get out of this mess.

MyLadies · 01-05-2009, 01:29 PM

Dilemma:
You need a place to live soon.
This one is a mess.
A friend owns it.

either a: You tell the friend flat-out that this is not the place for you. If he is a friend, he will be ok with that.

or B: You take the place and fix it up how you like & sell some furniture to make it fit.

Simple.

I know that sounds hard to do, but in hard times.... one must be straight up. Either a: it won't work for you. or B: It will work for you if you make it so.

Time to get tough. A: Friends will understand, or B: you will make it work.

bchgirl · 01-05-2009, 01:30 PM

Simply tell him you changed your mind. If you feel a need to give a reason...you could tell him it's too small for your stuff.

Yorkieforme · 01-05-2009, 01:33 PM

Sorry to hear you are losing your house...that must be very hard and stressful! So many of us live one paycheck away from the same circumstance.
Thank your friend for the offer..and just tell him you have found something else. What more can you do? If he was worried about YOUR friendship..he would have made sure the inside of that house was liveable BEFORE offering it to you.
Good luck!

MeganS · 01-05-2009, 01:37 PM

I'm so sorry you're losing your home...we went through the same thing. It's not fun!

I'm glad that you have such a good friend who would offer you a house - but if it's not the place for you then it's not the place for you! You will be the one living there, and if you don't think you will be happy in that house, then I would suggest looking around until you find something you are happy with. If he is a true friend (as I'm sure he is!) then I'm sure that he would understand you explaining to him that it's just not right for you.

Best of luck! Sorry you're having to go through this!

chloesMama · 01-05-2009, 01:48 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your situation

Do you have any other options or are you down to the wire? If there are no other options and since you like the neighbors maybe you could ask him for a trade off..... He could buy the supplies to fix it up and you could provide the free labor. That way his house gets fixed up for the next renter when you move on , but you get to fix it nice for yourself in the meantime. You said you didn't think he would put out money for it , but it wouldn't hurt to ask. You would both benefit from it , and if he thinks of it from a business standpoint he may see that.

If you have other options and don't want the house then my advice is just thank him for the offer and tell him it would take more than you have right now to get the house in order, and you don't want to put all that money and effort into a house you don't own.

Hope you work it all out.

janelles · 01-05-2009, 02:03 PM

I'm so sorry you are going through this. It must be heartbreaking for you. I know from experience what a little paint, and cleaning can do.Once you put your own touches on it, it may not be so bad. Also, keep reminding yourself it is only a temporary move.
If you really don't think it would work there, I would just tell your friend that you have found something else in the meantime.
Good Luck
Janice

cariblonde · 01-05-2009, 06:55 PM

sorry for your situation

As for your question, I would not put in 7000 in a house I was just renting. I understand you don't want to hurt your friends feelings so maybe just telling him its not big enough and you dont want to pay storage on top of rent would be sufficient? good luck to you either way!

cheryl19 · 01-06-2009, 03:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Yorkiekids

Our house is being foreclosed on, and the time for us to get out is running out. A friend of ours told us he had a really nice house we could rent. Well he drove by the yard was a total mess, but that didn't bother me, because I love gardening, and I new it would be a fun challenge for me. Well he finally let us in, and the inside is a total mess. I mean it would take about 7000 to make it livable. I didn't expect a perfect house for 800 a month, but this was just horrible. How do we tell him nicely that we don't want to rent the place. We can't even fit all our furniture in it. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I just can't see myself living there. The house I have now is very nice, and I just can't bring myself to living there. We met all the neighbors, and they are all so nice, and some even offered to help us fix up the house. I know my friend well enough to know he's not going to come off a penny to help us. Can someone tell me how to get out of this mess.

I'm sorry about the loss of your home

But is $800.00 a good price?? I don't know, if it is you may want to rethink this. Also it's VERY good that the neighbors are nice, and they will Help??!!! Only you know how the house is, if you want to get out nicely just tell your friend your furniture won't fit.

luvfla · 01-06-2009, 08:16 AM

Tell him you appreciate the offer but you don't have the money to fix it up. Maybe he'll offer to do it.
I imagine the with everything you have gone thru emotionally with the foreclosure, you need a place that is movein ready.

Jenn218 · 01-06-2009, 09:32 AM

I am sorry to hear about your situation!

I think if he were a real friend...he would understand if you tell him that it would be just too much work for you all to make it into livable...maybe he coulder lower the payment if he realizes all the damage that needed to be fixed?! He is a friend...and most friends listen!

On the flip side...you are needing a place to live....and if it is one of the only options...my guess, you will have to take it....but, really...how rushed are you to just settle for a place that will end up costing a lot of money in the long run to fix up?

Yorkiekids · 01-07-2009, 01:32 PM

Thank you all so much for your suggestions.

01-05-2009, 01:15 PM	#1
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	What would you do? Our house is being foreclosed on, and the time for us to get out is running out. A friend of ours told us he had a really nice house we could rent. Well he drove by the yard was a total mess, but that didn't bother me, because I love gardening, and I new it would be a fun challenge for me. Well he finally let us in, and the inside is a total mess. I mean it would take about 7000 to make it livable. I didn't expect a perfect house for 800 a month, but this was just horrible. How do we tell him nicely that we don't want to rent the place. We can't even fit all our furniture in it. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but I just can't see myself living there. The house I have now is very nice, and I just can't bring myself to living there. We met all the neighbors, and they are all so nice, and some even offered to help us fix up the house. I know my friend well enough to know he's not going to come off a penny to help us. Can someone tell me how to get out of this mess. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki

01-05-2009, 01:30 PM	#3
bchgirl Donating YT 10K Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: at da beach Posts: 15,444 Blog Entries: 2	Simply tell him you changed your mind. If you feel a need to give a reason...you could tell him it's too small for your stuff. __________________ Deb, Reese, Reggie, Frazier, Libby, Sidney, & Bodie Trace & Ramsey who watch over us www.biewersbythebay.com

01-05-2009, 01:33 PM	#4
Yorkieforme YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Windsor, Ontario Canada Posts: 1,138 Blog Entries: 1	Sorry to hear you are losing your house...that must be very hard and stressful! So many of us live one paycheck away from the same circumstance. Thank your friend for the offer..and just tell him you have found something else. What more can you do? If he was worried about YOUR friendship..he would have made sure the inside of that house was liveable BEFORE offering it to you. Good luck! __________________ Natalie & KiKi

01-05-2009, 01:37 PM	#5
MeganS Donating YT 7000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: New Jersey Posts: 12,016 Blog Entries: 1	I'm so sorry you're losing your home...we went through the same thing. It's not fun! I'm glad that you have such a good friend who would offer you a house - but if it's not the place for you then it's not the place for you! You will be the one living there, and if you don't think you will be happy in that house, then I would suggest looking around until you find something you are happy with. If he is a true friend (as I'm sure he is!) then I'm sure that he would understand you explaining to him that it's just not right for you. Best of luck! Sorry you're having to go through this! __________________ Megan "I have my dreams, I have made plans." - The Pirate Queen All Gave Some; Some Gave All

01-05-2009, 01:48 PM	#6
chloesMama YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: here :) Posts: 1,182	I'm sorry to hear about your situation Do you have any other options or are you down to the wire? If there are no other options and since you like the neighbors maybe you could ask him for a trade off..... He could buy the supplies to fix it up and you could provide the free labor. That way his house gets fixed up for the next renter when you move on , but you get to fix it nice for yourself in the meantime. You said you didn't think he would put out money for it , but it wouldn't hurt to ask. You would both benefit from it , and if he thinks of it from a business standpoint he may see that. If you have other options and don't want the house then my advice is just thank him for the offer and tell him it would take more than you have right now to get the house in order, and you don't want to put all that money and effort into a house you don't own. Hope you work it all out. __________________ *Chloe & Sydney*

01-05-2009, 01:29 PM	#2
MyLadies No Longer a Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Washington State Posts: 1,218	Dilemma: You need a place to live soon. This one is a mess. A friend owns it. either a: You tell the friend flat-out that this is not the place for you. If he is a friend, he will be ok with that. or B: You take the place and fix it up how you like & sell some furniture to make it fit. Simple. I know that sounds hard to do, but in hard times.... one must be straight up. Either a: it won't work for you. or B: It will work for you if you make it so. Time to get tough. A: Friends will understand, or B: you will make it work.

01-05-2009, 02:03 PM	#7
janelles YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 324	I'm so sorry you are going through this. It must be heartbreaking for you. I know from experience what a little paint, and cleaning can do.Once you put your own touches on it, it may not be so bad. Also, keep reminding yourself it is only a temporary move. If you really don't think it would work there, I would just tell your friend that you have found something else in the meantime. Good Luck Janice

01-05-2009, 06:55 PM	#8
cariblonde Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: wilmington nc Posts: 1,585	sorry for your situation As for your question, I would not put in 7000 in a house I was just renting. I understand you don't want to hurt your friends feelings so maybe just telling him its not big enough and you dont want to pay storage on top of rent would be sufficient? good luck to you either way! __________________ Proud Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club and in the end, its not the years in your life that count but the life in your years.... Abraham Lincoln

01-06-2009, 08:16 AM	#10
luvfla YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Satellite Beach, FL Posts: 3,691	Tell him you appreciate the offer but you don't have the money to fix it up. Maybe he'll offer to do it. I imagine the with everything you have gone thru emotionally with the foreclosure, you need a place that is movein ready.

01-06-2009, 09:32 AM	#11
Jenn218 Mojo, LilyGrace & Me Donating Member Moderator Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: cuddling with my babies<3 Posts: 17,329	I am sorry to hear about your situation! I think if he were a real friend...he would understand if you tell him that it would be just too much work for you all to make it into livable...maybe he coulder lower the payment if he realizes all the damage that needed to be fixed?! He is a friend...and most friends listen! On the flip side...you are needing a place to live....and if it is one of the only options...my guess, you will have to take it....but, really...how rushed are you to just settle for a place that will end up costing a lot of money in the long run to fix up? __________________ Hi I'm Jenn Mom to..... Mojo,LilyGrace & DD Kate RIP Mojo FOREVER in our hearts!

01-07-2009, 01:32 PM	#12
Yorkiekids Piper & Sebastian Donating Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: florida Posts: 14,495	Thank you all so much for your suggestions. __________________ Susan, Piper ,Harley & Suiki