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Jody Renfroe · 03-12-2008, 01:09 PM

Hope things are better for you today! I've thought about you all day.

cariblonde · 03-13-2008, 03:55 AM

First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe.......

Yorkie Luv of 3 · 03-13-2008, 04:00 AM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe.......

God Love Ya!! I'm so sorry,,,, Bless Your Heart!! i Really feel for ya,,,
but, This Too Shall Pass,,, Breath in , ,Breath out,,
Karma is a good thing,, he'll get his!

Suzy · 03-13-2008, 04:02 AM

Oh no. My heart goes out to you-I wish I could give you a great big hug and lend you a shoulder for awhile. I am so sorry to hear this news, and my heart breaks for you. Could the two of you try counseling to get things out in the open and try and work things out? Sometimes time apart helps us sort things through in our heads-it's all so new, scary, and upsetting right now, and understandably so. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you anytime.

abbie's mom · 03-13-2008, 04:04 AM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, <snip I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!!

I thought this might be what you found, and probably so did everyone else, who read your first post. I can't believe he left them on the pc, either! Let me say I am so sorry for the pain and emptiness you feel. Though I have not had this particular experience, I do know life can throw us some pretty hard curves, sometimes.

A big hug, and prayers for peace...

ellie81 · 03-13-2008, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe.......

I'm so sorry you had to find those things. I just hope he didn't do that on purpose... I'll pray for you, I know this must be sooo hard! just hang in there, ok? We're here for you...

saphire · 03-13-2008, 04:19 AM

I hope that whatever you do it turns out for the best. I am so sorry you are going through this. We are all here for you. I hope your heart heals.

Hugs,
Sheilagh

Mybabyboymax · 03-13-2008, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe.......

I am so sorry you have been betrayed and hurt by him. I know nothing I say can take the pain your feeling away but please remember that everything happens for a reason, 99% of the time we dont know why right away but trust that god put this is your way for a reason. Now you can ask him for the help you need to get through this hard time. if you ever need to talk I am (as well as many other YT members) are only a PM away :]

tjdmom · 03-13-2008, 04:23 AM

oh I'm so sorry. It makes me really angry with your husband, but I'm sure not half as angry as you must feel. I can only say that we are all here for you, take a deep breathe and do whatever it is you need to do. Again, so sorry....

Patti · 03-13-2008, 04:28 AM

My heart goes out to you. Maybe after the shock wears off you can see if the marriage is worth trying to save. It will be very difficult to get past the betrayal but sometimes it works out. Praying for you

lilfoot · 03-13-2008, 04:34 AM

I think we Yter's need to go on a road trip and rally to kick someones A##!!!!

So sorry you are going through this..this is probably the worst kind of hurt to go through....I will keep you in my prayers

celstu1 · 03-13-2008, 04:35 AM

Did you find the pics before or after the divorce proceedings have started? I mean did they spur the divorce or was it already underway?

Im so sorry you had to see that ... he is very selfish to be so careless. Its already hard enough to go through a divorce, never mind having to see that also

My heart goes out to you! Hang in there girl! Remember your new awesome car and how GREAT you are doing! (((HUGS)))

kyancer · 03-13-2008, 04:42 AM

I'm so sorry you are having to go through this! I will keep you in my prayers.

ARCHIE · 03-13-2008, 05:08 AM

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Originally Posted by cariblonde

First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe.......

Oh honey, I'm so sorry. You have to get yourself together and be strong
and think this thing threw with a clear head. There are many things to
consider. Have there been problems, is this a one time thing, the two of
you have a history together do you really want to throw that away?
It depends on all these circumstances. What he did was the worst that
can happen in a marriage it broke the trust but only you can deceide
if your marriage is worth saving but you need time to think things threw
clearly after the anger leaves you and you do have a reason to be angered
and dissapointed and violated. Women are the stronger of the two.
Men think with a thing called (you know what) most of the time and their
brains just leave them! I am sure you will make the right decision for you
but don't be too hasty in it. Think things threw with a clear head.
I wish you good luck in your decision and a happier life in the future.
You only get one time around in this life so make sure you pick what's
best for YOU.

chachi · 03-13-2008, 05:19 AM

I am so sorry you are going through this. I had been concerned thats what it was about since first read this. I would just give it some time and not rush into anything. Time may heal your heart

03-13-2008, 03:55 AM	#47
cariblonde Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: wilmington nc Posts: 1,585	~update~ First of all let me say how touched I am that everyone is so kind I really feel like I have an extra support system out there it really means a lot but My husband and I are getting Divorced, the pics I found were of him and someone else and i just cant get that out of my head, I cant forgive him just yet, I just cant believe he could do something like that and then put them on the computer!! I guess maybe he was emailing them then forgot to erase the folder it is a struggle just to get out of bed and go to work I feel like I cant even breathe....... __________________ Proud Member of the Spoiled Rotten Club and in the end, its not the years in your life that count but the life in your years.... Abraham Lincoln

03-13-2008, 04:02 AM	#49
Suzy 2 Pups=Double Trouble! Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Iowa Posts: 6,581	Oh no. My heart goes out to you-I wish I could give you a great big hug and lend you a shoulder for awhile. I am so sorry to hear this news, and my heart breaks for you. Could the two of you try counseling to get things out in the open and try and work things out? Sometimes time apart helps us sort things through in our heads-it's all so new, scary, and upsetting right now, and understandably so. Please let me know if there's anything I can do for you anytime. __________________ Suzy Emma & Milli What's better than loving a yorkie? Loving two yorkies! Milli 's Remi!

03-13-2008, 04:19 AM	#52
saphire Lil' CoCo, Lotta Coffee. Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Africa Posts: 3,115	I hope that whatever you do it turns out for the best. I am so sorry you are going through this. We are all here for you. I hope your heart heals. Hugs, Sheilagh __________________ Sheilagh CoffeeAbigail-Ceana. CoCoMurfee & Winston

03-13-2008, 04:28 AM	#55
Patti Donating YT 30K Club Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Illinois Posts: 35,509 Blog Entries: 6	My heart goes out to you. Maybe after the shock wears off you can see if the marriage is worth trying to save. It will be very difficult to get past the betrayal but sometimes it works out. Praying for you __________________ Cali Pixie Roxie : RIP Nikki; RIP Maya;RIP my sweet Dixie girl 1/17/08 http://callipuppyscastle.bravehost.com/index.html

03-13-2008, 04:35 AM	#57
celstu1 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: New Hampshire Posts: 10,534	Did you find the pics before or after the divorce proceedings have started? I mean did they spur the divorce or was it already underway? Im so sorry you had to see that ... he is very selfish to be so careless. Its already hard enough to go through a divorce, never mind having to see that also My heart goes out to you! Hang in there girl! Remember your new awesome car and how GREAT you are doing! (((HUGS))) __________________ “Petting, scratching, and cuddling a dog could be as soothing to the mind and heart as deep meditation and almost as good for the soul as prayer.” ― Dean Koontz

03-12-2008, 01:09 PM	#46
Jody Renfroe No Longer a Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Florida Posts: 1,375	Hope things are better for you today! I've thought about you all day.

03-13-2008, 04:23 AM	#54
tjdmom Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: upstate ny Posts: 5,847	oh I'm so sorry. It makes me really angry with your husband, but I'm sure not half as angry as you must feel. I can only say that we are all here for you, take a deep breathe and do whatever it is you need to do. Again, so sorry....

03-13-2008, 04:34 AM	#56
lilfoot YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2005 Location: wisconsin Posts: 769	I think we Yter's need to go on a road trip and rally to kick someones A##!!!! So sorry you are going through this..this is probably the worst kind of hurt to go through....I will keep you in my prayers

03-13-2008, 04:42 AM	#58
kyancer Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Maryland Posts: 237	I'm so sorry you are having to go through this! I will keep you in my prayers. __________________ Kristina Mommy to Sebastian

03-13-2008, 05:19 AM	#60
chachi I Love My Yorkies Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Indianapolis, Indiana Posts: 37,147	I am so sorry you are going through this. I had been concerned thats what it was about since first read this. I would just give it some time and not rush into anything. Time may heal your heart __________________ Chachi's & Jewels Mom Jewels http://www.dogster.com/?132431 Chachi http://www.dogster.com/?132427